This book sounded interesting from what I had read about it beforehand, but honestly it ended up being something of a disappointment. I think the main reason for this is that it's trying to deal with too many heavy subjects at once. Feminism, motherhood, money, the struggles of being an artist, dealing with friendships after college, etc.. However, in trying to get through so much Winter is unable to give each subject the attention it deserves. There were a lot of interesting ideas here, but we only seem to get a shallow of glimpse of the story she could have told.
Take for example the topic of motherhood. Our protagonist, Jen, is struggling to conceive while her close friends are effortlessly building their own families. She also works at a feminist charitable foundation, which claims to want to empower and inspire any and all women. This could have been a very interesting storyline, Jen learning that motherhood is not essential to femininity, and vice versa. This is even mentioned by Jen at the end: "I know we're not on board with the word 'feminism' as an institution - but the general idea is that women don't have to conform to prescribed roles. I mean, being empathetic and nurturing and emotionally open are great things, but I don't think a woman should beat herself up if those aren't her super-strongest qualities. Not every woman has to be a mother, you know?" This outburst of Jen's is great and I really loved the sentiment, but honestly it was too little too late. By this point Jen has gotten pregnant, she has what she wanted and what she's been told to want by this very attitude that she's criticising. This wouldn't be an issue if there were other women in the story that actually didn't want kids, but there aren't any of those. There are characters who haven't mentioned kids of course, but no one ever talks about not wanting any. The book may preach this progressive attitude, but it doesn't actually show it very well.
Another issue with the book is the tone. It can't quite seem to decide whether or not it wants to be a lighthearted comedy or a more serious drama. Jen's severe insecurities, the heavy themes of feminism and motherhood, the emotional scenes between Jen and her husband - all of these make for interesting drama. However, the book is overall quite light and comedic. There was a particularly funny rant about cheese that I just loved, but it was sandwiched between some very serious moments that really just ruined it for me. I'm not trying to be harsh - both the dramatic and comedic elements of the novel are, taken individually, well done. However, I feel that Winter wasn't able to mesh the two elements together as well as she could have. This could simply be due to a lack of experience however, as this is her debut novel.
One last thing that bothered me about this book is the ending. Pretty much everything about the ending bothered me. It just seemed too... easy. Jen got pregnant, she made up with her friends, she left her job, she started working as a full-time artist. Everyone was so happy and it just seemed too sickly sweet to be in any way realistic. Jen has many, many flaws that constantly popped up throughout the story. She's insecure, self conscious, and something of a pushover. At the end, instead of growing up and realising her faults, she has a fight with her husband and it's him who forces her to confront these issues. Now, don't get me wrong, I definitely agree with him. Jen was really pissing me off by the end. The problem is that I really don't like that, in a book that seems to want to explore women and women's issues, it's the man who essentially solves the conflict. It seems somewhat counterproductive.
Anyway, I know I've been a bit harsh, but it wasn't that bad of a book. There were some genuinely funny moments and some good characters. I just feel that it could have been a lot better than it was.