I am AspienWoman: The Unique Characteristics, Traits, and Gifts of Adult Females on the Autism Spectrum

by Tania Marshall

Have you ever wondered about a friend, a partner, a mother, sister or daughter? Wondered why she says she feels 'different'? Out of step with her peers, she may struggle keeping friends and a job, yet she has multiple degrees. Bright from early on, she may have singleminded focus, sprinkles of anxiety, sensory and social issues, be gifted in art, writing, science, research or singing. Maybe Autism or Asperger Syndrome was mentioned but she did not resonate with the male profile or the stereotypical female profile. Maybe she is a woman on the Autism spectrum, with a unique constellation of super-abilities, strengths and challenges?

This book takes a unique approach by combining stunning imagery along with the feelings, thoughts and words of Autistic women (and those that love and support them). This book also explores common strengths and challenges, the stages leading up to a diagnosis, important needs, reasons for a diagnosis, disclosure and an appendix of helpful tools. You will be inspired by a special group of 24 Autistic women led by Dr Temple Grandin, who showcase their unique strengths and provide helpful advice and tips. Watch for AspienPowers: The Unique constellation of Gifts, Strengths and Abilities of Females on the Autism Spectrum, coming soon.

Genres: Autistic Spectrum Disorder, Nonfiction, Psychology, Aspergers, Self Help, Mental Health, Health

304 pages, Hardcover

First published July 1, 2015

About the author

Tania Marshall is a 2017-2015 ASPECT Autism Australia recognition awards nominee, a twice Gold medal best-selling author, presenter, free-lance writer and psychologist. Her first book, I Am AspienGirl was released on June 20th, 2014 as an eBook. It went to the #1 Amazon Australia best seller ranking in 3 categories on July 4th, 2014. It also reached the #2 ranking on Amazon USA and was recently awarded a 2015 IPPY eLIT Gold Medal Award. Tania's second book entitled I Am AspienWoman was released August 28th and reached #1 best seller status in its' first week of release in the Parenting Children with Disabilities and Autism categories. It also received and IPPY eLIT Gold Medal in Women's Issues.

Tania has worked in the area of child psychology, Autism, Asperger Syndrome, the gifted and talented, highly sensitive persons (HSP), twice-exceptionality (2e)l and developmental conditions for 20 years, in a variety of roles. She has worked in private school, hospital and private practice settings. Tania holds a Master of Science in Applied Psychology and a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology.

Currently, Tania works in private practice with individuals who have/are Asperger syndrome, autism, highly sensitive, gifted, twice-exceptional (2e), anxiety, OCD, depression and/or learning differences.

Tania has worked with hundreds of females who have been misdiagnosed, are 'self-diagnosed' or had some of the defining characteristics of Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning Autism, Giftedness, Empaths and highly sensitive individuals, who have flown under the radar. Many of these individuals have a stunning array of gifts and talents, in addition to challenges. This particular group of individuals tend to have some the characteristic traits of Asperger Syndrome or High Functioning Autism or Neurodiversity, but often present differently, confusing professionals. The field of female Autism/Neurodiversity is a very new area of research, and as such, very little is known.

In private practice, Tania was seeing more and more females being referred to her, who presented with a number of diagnoses, who had not been diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Condition, yet had some features of Autism. This peaked her interest as she found it a fascinating area of research. This interest combined with the lack of knowledge, resources and awareness of females was the reason Tania decided to create the AspienGirl® Project, consisting of education, awareness, advocacy and philanthropy.

Tania wrote her first book, in a series, on female Autism, entitled, "I Am AspienGirl®: The Unique Characteristics, Traits and Gifts of Females on the Autism Spectrum". The Foreward was written by world expert Dr. Judith Gould, Consultant Clinical Psychologist and Director of the NAS Lorna Wing Centre for Autism, UK. Testimonials have been provided also by world experts Dr. Temple Grandin and Dr. Shana Nichols. This amazing group of females are trailblazers in their own right and Tania is most grateful to have their support.

Reviews

[Carmilla Voiez · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book felt like the CliffsNotes to understanding myself. I read it easily in one sitting. The images, while sometimes a little too generic (stock photos) were sometimes really useful as a visual representation for the accompanying text. It concentrated on the positive aspects of being Aspergers and left me with a very happy mood and the feeling I could achieve anything. It has also convinced me to pursue a medical diagnosis and support. There is even a check list at the back to help my partner better understand the way I behave and think. Worth every penny. I'd recommend it to any adult female wondering whether they might be on the autism spectrum or looking for ways to manage their lives and appreciate their strengths.

[Cathy Peterson · Rating 5 out of 5]

The number of articles written on Asperger’s syndrome and people living on the autism spectrum has mushroomed over the last few years. Most articles and research studies focused on the typical characteristics of males, that is, until now. New evidence shows that women diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome are quite different than their male counterparts. Females for instance are more likely able to imitate social skills and are better at masking certain traits and characteristics. As a result, many been misdiagnosed thus leading to years of depression, anxiety and psychiatric visits.


One author hoping to shed more light on the subject is Tania Marshall, a psychologist and author with extensive training and experience in neuro-developmental conditions including Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD and sensory processing disorder. Based on her professional practice experience, anecdotal evidence, and current research, Ms Marshall weaves a story of validation, self-discovery and self-awareness through a visually stunning book.


The book is full of personal stories and quotes directly from Aspien Women with added commentary from parents, former teachers and therapist. The book is divided into 3 sections. Part one describes the various characteristics and traits. Part two introduces the reader to “real-life Aspien women superhero mentors” including Dr. Temple Gradin. Each mentor describes their strengths and top tips.


The author successfully accomplishes her goal in introducing through this book, the characteristics, traits and gifts of adult females on the spectrum. Ms. Marshall’s book is an excellent book for anyone wanting to learn more about Asperger’s from the perspective of women on the spectrum. While the book on the surface seems to be intended as a form of self-discovery, I equally recommend this book to parents, educators and employers. I do believe this book is only the start of a conversation that is long over-due.

[Julia · Rating 3 out of 5]

The stories were comforting but I wish they hadn't taken up the vast majority of the book I guess. I'm a slow reader but I finished this in two days just because there didn't seem to be 300+ pages worth of substance. Also the illustrations everyone was raving about just looked like stock photos. :v

[Georgiana · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not so keen on this one, and I can't put my finger on why... other than the author's trademarking of the word 'Aspiengirl'!

[Sara CW · Rating 3 out of 5]

Because of sensory issues related to my autism, I found this book very difficult to read. The pages are chaotic with text spilled around a ton of huge (what look like stock) photos dropped all over the place. In order to read this book, I had to cover the page I wasn't reading with a sheet of paper and then cover the photos on the page I was reading with my hand. It became too much effort, so I asked my neurotypical spouse to read it to me. That helped a bit, and I did find the stories relatable, but the information was in such small snippets that I found it hard to drop into.

[Linden · Rating 3 out of 5]

More of a flick through, and not a fan of the formatting style, but valuable ❤

[Danielle Morrill · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting to see how Aspergers may present differently in woman and girls, due to how we are socialized to cultivate “masks” much earlier in life. Females are diagnosed far less frequently than males.

[September · Rating 3 out of 5]

3* because it was somewhat helpful. 2.5* because it's essentially a book full of quotes, when I was expecting more. So, take this rating with a grain of salt. lol

Someone suggested that I read this, a few years ago. I briefly entertained the idea that it MIGHT apply, then dismissed it as "ridiculous." Fast forward to 2021, and I see why she suggested it. Not such a crazy idea after all. lol

I suddenly felt seen, felt understood. Past traumas suddenly have explanations. It was initially overwhelming but ultimately helpful.

After reading the book, the "commonly observed characteristics, traits, & strengths of adult females" list had more substance to it, I guess you could say. What was meant was clearer, with less room for confusion.

Now I FINALLY understand why I was/am so frustrated by multiple choice or T/F questions. I see all this nuance and ambiguity, & my teachers (etc.) just thought I was being difficult.

I thought I was being gaslit about certain traits in the past, but turns out... I was REALLY clueless.

So, although the content was a bit disappointing and the formatting and stock images (and the question of whether this or that photo was an exception of not) were obnoxious, the book WAS helpful.

[Amy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Outstanding!

I love Tania A. Marshall's book very much! It is informative, offers insight into other women on the Autism spectrum which helps others of us to feel a part of this family. It addresses the challenges we may face and also very much offers guidance and inspires hope as well as addressing how truly awesome we are in being on this wide spectrum.

[Layla · Rating 5 out of 5]

Validation

This brought validation and affirmation. I got my adult diagnosis at 29 and have fallen down a rabbit hole of information and research and this book helped validate my thoughts and feelings surrounding my diagnosis.

[Jennifer Lavoie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book. It's bright, colorful, and very positive about the characteristics of women with Aspergers. As someone who was recently diagnosed, it was uplifting to read this book. The size makes it perfect to leave out on a table for guests or family to pick up and read. Actually, it would make a good book to leave pretty much anywhere for people to learn and understand more about women with Aspergers and the special traits we have to offer.

[Terran · Rating 3 out of 5]

The beginning seemed like a chaotic mess of pretty pictures and quotes. They were sorted into categories, at least. They felt like they weren't speaking to me, but to people who have to deal with me.
The strength of this book is in the mentor section. They featured various women with autism and gave their strengths and tips. This felt like more of a conversation with me as the target.
Some of the appendices were also helpful.

[Lauren Chase · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a good resource for someone new to the topic, and maybe looking to see some of themselves (or someone they know) reflected in these pages. I deducted one star because I found the graphic design and generic looking stock type photos insufferable, but the content is good.

I appreciate that each page has a personal reflection from someone with Aspergers/Autism and then a personal reflection from someone that knows them. It was a really neat way to show how the person with Autism feels, and how they are perceived by others. Sections in this format include: Who am I?, Cognitive/Personality type, Subtypes, Social, Education/Work, Sensory Sensitivities, Emotional, Communication/Language, Common interests, Gender Family and Relationships, Strengths, Challenges, Stages leading up to an adult diagnosis, Important AspienWoman needs. Then there are personal profiles of women with Autism/Aspergers.

And then in the back a detailed list of "Some Commonly Observed Characteristics, Traits and Strengths of Adult Females." I found this section to be straightforward, highly detailed and informative. Overall this book is a great resource if you are wondering if you or a woman you know may be on the spectrum. It gave a lot of really clear descriptions in both a personal and technical way. It also emphasizes knowing and leaning into your strengths and encourages finding strategies that help with challenges. A supportive and encouraging read.

[Cassie Kelley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Female autism is still an understudied field, so it’s always nice to find a book depicting it. I Am AspienWoman takes a unique approach and focuses on personal experiences as its way of showcasing different aspects of women on the spectrum. With quotes from all kinds of women in all walks of life, each unique perspective and description of what she experiences, this book explores just how vast the differences can be in just one or two areas of life.

Using pictures, this book visually shows the feelings and experiences described by the women. Though I’m personally not a visual person, the pictures were gorgeous and evocative. If you or somebody you know is a female with autism, this book will open a whole new world. Recommended to any who want to know more about females on the spectrum.

[Linda Degise-kotowski · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am close to fifty pages finished reading this great book. As a woman who has overcome asvergr's, its so refreshing to read about other women who have the same disorder. What makes it refreshing is h the author Tania Marshall a psychologist emphasizes more of the postive aspects of women who have overcome asbergers. The women and either a mentor or a family member explaining candidly about the ups and downs of asbergers. I love how Tania Marshall's chapter's focuses on "Who Am I" in the first chapter to "Important Aspirn Women's Needs.
All the women who have contrubuted each have their own special talents. It's hard for me to put this book down.

[Justine · Rating 1 out of 5]

This woman is extremely harmful

Please don’t support non-autistic ‘experts’ particularly those that have such outdated views about autism and gender

She is infantilising and demeaning and has some terrible views around trans individuals. She is a gender critical Terf that actively bullies autistic people online.

If you want to learn about autistic women please go directly to the source and buy their books. Don’t support a woman that has made a career out of demeaning autistic people.

[Claire · Rating 1 out of 5]

I really didn't enjoy the format of this as it's not so much a book as a collection of quotes and fluff. I don't think it really helped me understand more about autism in women and if anything I think labelling things as superpowers is almost harmful. I know others have loved this but it wasn't for me.

[Sharon C. Robideaux · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent and informative

Marshall has provided an excellent resource for Aspienwomen, their families, loved ones, friends, and those who work with women on the spectrum. Highly recommended.

[Linda · Rating 4 out of 5]

Hearing other women's stories about their lives, before and after being diagnosed was eye-opening. Knowing there are other women out there who are like me was empowering.

[Lauren Leshley]

This isn't so much a book on autism as it is a slapdash stock-photo-heavy PowerPoint in book form.

I came expecting an autism resource and was not impressed by what I found.

[Ayaa · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not a fan of the formatting, mostly just testimonies

[Melanie Pienaar · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars
Both I am Aspiengirl and I am Aspienwoman are useful resources, but I'll be honest: I expected a more in depth look into autism and the different phenotypes. Instead the books are filled with quotes from autistic girls, women, their families , teachers and caregivers. Each section also has beautiful photos. Overall the books definitely demonstrate how differently autism can present in women and girls and how nuanced the spectrum is, but I was definitely itching for more info while reading this.

[Violet Raven · Rating 3 out of 5]

An interesting and visual book for women on the spectrum or their families, though there is an extensive list of traits and characteristics at the back which was very helpful, this is more of a photography book with related quotes and case studies from women in many different backgrounds and professions.

If you are looking for something positive to show that AS women can adapt to the world around them, and thrive in the right environment, then it is full of examples of people who have successfully used their talents, as well as testament to some of the struggles faced specifically by females who are often undiagnosed, or are diagnosed much later in life.

It could be a useful tool to help communicate for some people, turning to a page that has a photo that resonates or a quote that strikes a chord, for example. The written content itself was interesting to read, it covered a lot of diversity within the spectrum which had not been noted in other books I have read. It is also the first one to have addressed gender identity, sexuality, and eating disorders within the spectrum, important topics to cover and I am very glad they have been included here.

[Tara · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thank you Tanya, that's all I can say x

Thank you Tanya Marshall. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I needed 20 words to submit a review and that is all I wanted to say.x

[Bonnie Jacobs hessler · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an excellent book about Adult Women on the Autism Spectrum. It has short stories about there strength and challenges and how they coped. The book also, has beautiful pictures too.

[Val Booklover · Rating 4 out of 5]

Yep, I was not from Alpha Centauri after all...
Thanks

[Lisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

I wish the editing had been better, but otherwise this book is a nice addition to the growing conversation on females on the spectrum.

[Helen W · Rating 4 out of 5]

An inspirational anthology of other Aspien women's experiences and perspectives. This book also leads to a variety of resources including other writers' blogs, websites and sources of information.