So what does one of my favorite authors have to say about this book, well John Green basically says that the universe won't bend to your wishes, no matter how real your love, you can't avoid fate and you can't alter time. The way I see it, even though they knew nothing of each other I think they loved one another, because we always love the idea we have of a certain person, rather than the actual person, so they didn't need 10 years of marriage to truly love one another. John Green really helped me understand it better and I love this explanation of his: We can see the play then, as a tragedy about time - how little there is of it - and also about youth - how we assign passionate importance to things and people when we are young because we don't have the breadth of experience to behave more moderately. Which is maybe the tragedy of adulthood. ..." Long story short Romeo and Juliet's story ended up in tragedy because they had to please the self, their family, the state, the church etc. They had to reject the authority. "And this is still a challenge for teenagers, who are often dismissed as idealistic or melodramatic, and who must balance the intensity of their feelings against the expectations of the world around them. Don't drop of highschool to follow your dream of becoming a trapeze artist, honor thy father and mother, register for the draft, don't pass up a full ride to Harvard to follow your girlfriend into the Marines, etc. As Harley Granville-Barker puts it, Romeo and Juliet is a tragedy of youth as youth sees it. If you're young, or you have ever been young, you know what's like to be pulled in many directions while trying to discern whether feelings that are brand new to you are more like flashes of lighting or an eternal ocean. And you know what it's like to want to live fully and fearlessly, and maybe even a little foolishly . And the occasionally tragic thing is that you are just grown-up enough for that kind of thinking to get you killed." I love this final conclusion of his: "It's tempting to dismiss the plot of Romeo and Juliet as sappy, emo romance, but in truth, each of us will live out our lives having answered, consciously or not, the questions at the heart of the play. Do you believe that fate is inescapable or that people forage their own lives? Is the fault in the stars or in ourselves? And will you prioritize your personal wishes over the wishes of your family, or of your religion, or your country? If you think about it Romeo and Juliet aren't offered an easy choice".
Ok, so now as an old hag that I am, a responsible adult I think he is completely right. That's what makes this story one of the greatest of all times. Indeed we need to love moderately...That's what I would say to my young self: "Don't spend all your time watching silly animes and korean dramas, don't go to school wearing a a bow and behaving like you are 12 years old, don't lose your mind over a guy who doesn't even like you back, and don't get depressed that you aren't a model in Korea and please eat cause you will never be a model, Jeez!." Ok, that's all, I've been young and guess what? I am glad I am not a teen anymore, or a young student. It was a catastrophe. Goodbye cuteness, goodbye innocence, goodbye naivety, goodbye heart in love which could actually love, goodbye and good riddance!