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The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever
Praise for The Secrets of Happily Married Men "Manly men rest You can hope to become a better husband without having to get in touch with your feminine side. . . . Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman's insights illuminated by anecdotes from his online discussion forum for married men."
― Psychology Today "Haltzman . . . launches his eight strategies with remarkable vigor. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed out and convincingly supported with useful 'to do' lists and a multitude of examples. They will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage."
― Publisher's Weekly "Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and Brown University professor, has been studying marriages good and bad for a long time. . . . View marriage as your most important task, Haltzman urges men, and pursue success as you would anything else that matters."
― Washington Post "Men are good at fixing problems, not talking about them, so Haltzman advises playing to your strength. The genius of this book is that it . . . asks politically incorrect questions about men and women at home―the neglected front in the gender wars."
― New York Times "The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way for men and women to understand and appreciate each other. It shows what it really takes to create a loving and lasting relationship."
―John Gray, author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The breakup and divorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couples therapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace, many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creeps who'd better change fast or else. But this new book is totally different, a whole different way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view, men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. Dr. Scott Haltzman, Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University, and founder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com , has devised a proven method for improving relationships, based on a man's special and unique skills, strengths, powers―as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem-solver, partner, husband, and father. Men are different, Dr. Haltzman says. They don't approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do―and viva la difference. Dr.Haltzman therefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which men have revealed in confidential correspondence to his highly successful website, including The First Make Your Marriage Your Job, The Second Know Your Wife, The Third Be Home Now, The Fourth Expect Conflict and Deal With It, The Fifth Learn to Listen, The Sixth Aim to Please, The Seventh Understand the Truth About Sex, The Eighth Introduce Yourself, and finally, Celebrate Your Love . Within each of these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines and techniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences, unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustrate these ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives. For a lasting commitment, a continuing guide to solving inevitable problems and bumps in the road, for more fun, better sex, genuine intimacy, and a life-long partnership―this dynamic new author shows the way in a manner that finally includes an authentic male perspective.
― Psychology Today "Haltzman . . . launches his eight strategies with remarkable vigor. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed out and convincingly supported with useful 'to do' lists and a multitude of examples. They will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage."
― Publisher's Weekly "Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and Brown University professor, has been studying marriages good and bad for a long time. . . . View marriage as your most important task, Haltzman urges men, and pursue success as you would anything else that matters."
― Washington Post "Men are good at fixing problems, not talking about them, so Haltzman advises playing to your strength. The genius of this book is that it . . . asks politically incorrect questions about men and women at home―the neglected front in the gender wars."
― New York Times "The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way for men and women to understand and appreciate each other. It shows what it really takes to create a loving and lasting relationship."
―John Gray, author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The breakup and divorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couples therapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace, many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creeps who'd better change fast or else. But this new book is totally different, a whole different way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view, men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. Dr. Scott Haltzman, Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University, and founder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com , has devised a proven method for improving relationships, based on a man's special and unique skills, strengths, powers―as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem-solver, partner, husband, and father. Men are different, Dr. Haltzman says. They don't approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do―and viva la difference. Dr.Haltzman therefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which men have revealed in confidential correspondence to his highly successful website, including The First Make Your Marriage Your Job, The Second Know Your Wife, The Third Be Home Now, The Fourth Expect Conflict and Deal With It, The Fifth Learn to Listen, The Sixth Aim to Please, The Seventh Understand the Truth About Sex, The Eighth Introduce Yourself, and finally, Celebrate Your Love . Within each of these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines and techniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences, unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustrate these ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives. For a lasting commitment, a continuing guide to solving inevitable problems and bumps in the road, for more fun, better sex, genuine intimacy, and a life-long partnership―this dynamic new author shows the way in a manner that finally includes an authentic male perspective.
288 pages, Paperback
First published December 16, 2005
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June 8, 2009
This is a great book for men looking to make their marriage stronger. If you love your wife, you will read this book over and over. I read this book about once every year since I've gotten married.
October 1, 2014
"...No one thing has the potential to shape your life--your identity as a man--more than your marriage." So says Scott Haltzman, author of this cut-and-dried, practical book on how a man can make his marriage better. I enjoyed the read, and learned plenty of simple (though sometimes common-sensical) tips for keeping my wife happy. It's no surprise that most of Haltzman's advice is about putting the needs of your wife and family above your own.
The most interesting part of the book was when he breaks down the science of the differences between men's and women's brains, and therefore how they interpret the world. It definitely cleared a few things up for me and helped me to be more patient with beliefs and actions of my wife that simply didn't make sense to me before.
The most interesting part of the book was when he breaks down the science of the differences between men's and women's brains, and therefore how they interpret the world. It definitely cleared a few things up for me and helped me to be more patient with beliefs and actions of my wife that simply didn't make sense to me before.
September 23, 2009
A very accessible book. As a woman, it provides invaluable insight into male/husbands actions and how men think. Being told the possible flaws of marriage therapy was both surprising and honest. Dr. Haltzman guides the reader with straight-forward writing and examples that every married person can relate to. Readers must look elsewhere for deep psychology (i.e. the impact of traumatic childhood experiences upon a marriage etc.) But for anyone entering a marriage or wanting to enhance the quality of their marriage...don't hesitate to read this book.
May 1, 2008
Some great advice for cultivating a sustainable marriage. Bottom line is wise-up and show her some appreciation.
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February 14, 2010There is two times when a man don't understand women, before the marriage and after the marriage jajajaj
August 17, 2012
You would have to ask my hubby whether the advice is good in practice. To me it seems sound and the book is an entertaining and informative read.
March 8, 2013
Good how-to book, the techniques of which I have apparently not yet mastered...
May 10, 2022
When it comes to marriages, no one has the template for a happy and lasting marriage. However, it takes each stakeholder's effort to make it work. It is neither the husband's responsibility nor the wife's to keep it together. Books like
The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever
by Scott Haltzman provide practical advice on how to have a happy marriage. No pontificating. Just the truth. MEN - You need to get your act together. Stop tomfoolery and other cheeky games. Live with your wives (that is, if you work far from your family or you work late/don't have time for family because being away drives you apart). That's the main message I got from this book. And oh, marriage counselling doesn't work.
While men need to take control of their marriages and love, respect, and cherish their wives, it takes two to tango. There are tips for women too. This book is the only one I have read so far that is neutral and impartial, that is practical. It is a perfect manual for learning how to have a happy marriage.
While men need to take control of their marriages and love, respect, and cherish their wives, it takes two to tango. There are tips for women too. This book is the only one I have read so far that is neutral and impartial, that is practical. It is a perfect manual for learning how to have a happy marriage.
May 8, 2012
“The Secrets of Happily Married Men” has been authored by real men, and is meant for real men who set out for the Grand Prize, which is none other than having a happy and well-contented wife. It discloses the secrets of sex, health and well being, and acts as a roadmap leading both men and women to the land of bliss.
The book narrates the stories of several happily married men from real life, who have felt it their duty to inspire love in the hearts of their partners. Though written with a captivating sense of humor, the book is not lacking in deep analysis, and instructions based on biological differences and male neurology. It spells out gender brain differences, and the sexual developments from adolescence to full manhood. In addition, there are intimate confessions made by real men to the women they love. Thus, it is an indispensable reference to husbands or would-be husbands.
The book is collaboratively written by Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and behaviorist at Browning University, and Theresa Foy Digeronimo, an associate professor of English at William Patterson.
The book narrates the stories of several happily married men from real life, who have felt it their duty to inspire love in the hearts of their partners. Though written with a captivating sense of humor, the book is not lacking in deep analysis, and instructions based on biological differences and male neurology. It spells out gender brain differences, and the sexual developments from adolescence to full manhood. In addition, there are intimate confessions made by real men to the women they love. Thus, it is an indispensable reference to husbands or would-be husbands.
The book is collaboratively written by Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and behaviorist at Browning University, and Theresa Foy Digeronimo, an associate professor of English at William Patterson.
August 29, 2010
Most of my friends have been married for over twenty years. We all have marital issues. This book speaks the language of man - "make your marriage your job" and spells out 8 steps to practice the adage "a happy wife is a happy life". Even though the targeted audience are men, women will find the book informative too, particularly from the male perspective of the relationship. I would recommend this book to all my friends, especially my male friends.
December 17, 2008
Every woman should read this book for two reasons: 1) it's such a kick to hear how men really operate and what strategies work for them, rather than to read some New Age garble about how they should be, and 2) author Scott Haltzman is so clearly on the side of men and in a way that supports women. He's a coach with a rallying cry of "come on, fellas, we can make our women happy."
January 19, 2010
Making the wife happy results in a happy man and a happy marriage.
November 9, 2023
This is the best book I have ever read about relationships.
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