“A frank, funny, and fiercely insightful memoir” (Susan Shapiro, author of Lighting Up) for anyone who ever wondered…what happens next?
Kimmi Auerbach tried everything in her search for enlightenment: therapy, a Reiki Master, even hypnosis. Finally she made an appointment with a tarot card reader. Instead of predicting the future, each card sparked a memory. In a Wizard of Oz-like twist of fate, Kimberlee realized she had the answers all along…and that it’s not about looking into the future, but about trusting yourself along the way.
Kimberlee Auerbach Berlin is an author, storyteller, writing coach and new mom.
Her personal essays have appeared in The New York Times, The Guardian, Salon, Good Housekeeping, The Frisky and Seleni. Her memoir, The Devil, The Lovers & Me: My Life in Tarot, was first published in hardcover (Dutton 2007), then in paperback (NAL 2008), and is now available on Kindle.
Kimberlee’s one-woman show, which inspired her memoir, played to sold-out houses at The New York International Fringe Festival in 2005. She is a three-time Moth StorySlam winner, and has performed personal stories throughout New York City at venues such as The Original Improv, The Kraine Theater, Cornelia Street Café and The Bitter End. She was recently in the cast of Listen To Your Mother North Jersey at SOPAC (May 2015).
For the past decade, Kimberlee has focused her attention on teaching writing. She ran in-person and online writing workshops for continuing education programs--Mediabistro, Gotham Writers' Workshop, UCLA Extension Writers' Program, The Open Center, New York Writers Workshop. She has a private practice, working with people on personal essays, manuscripts and book proposals. She recently started working for College Prep 360, helping teenagers with their college essays. She also offers executive functioning coaching for teenagers in need of organization, time management and study strategy through Adolescent Mentoring.
Kimberlee lives in South Orange, NJ with her husband, two boys and standard poodle named Gracie.
I picked this book up on a whim. I happened to be perusing the tarot section of my local library when I saw this book. I don't know why it wasn't with the memoirs, but the concept intrigued me. I was disappointed.
The concept itself of relating each of the events in the author's life back to cards in a tarot spread was actually really clever to me. I've never seen it done before, and I thought it was done well. The author really seemed to get the cards, but that makes sense considering how she mentions in the acknowledgements how she's been seeing readers for years as well as dabbling herself for some time. However, it is annoying to learn she knows so much from experience with the cards but portrayed herself as someone completely new to the concept in the fictionalized portions that comprised the reading session. This book is meant to be as true as possible, but she painted herself as someone totally new to Tarot who was disrespectful on purpose. I don't understand why.
The writing itself was simple, easy to read. It was a fast read, too. Some word choices were jarring and not great.
A little bit of this book was relatable, but some things were bad enough that I know I'd never want to meet this author or know her in real life.
Aurbach comes across as someone with severe internalized misogyny issues to the point where I was surprised she had female friends at all. She kind of addresses it as a jealousy issue and as part of her insecurities, but she doesn't really ever address it in a way that shows she's truly healing and moving on from it. I guess the scene where she meets her boyfriend's ex is supposed to represent that, but it felt like a very individualistic thing that only related to her jealousy and not her internalized hatred for her own sex.
Second thing I didn't like... There's so much casual racism in this book that it actually becomes quite overt. Anyone who doesn't speak English is shown speaking in ways that white people use to mock those languages. She goes to various countries and never even tries to communicate with the people who actually live there, just the tourists visiting from other countries who speak English, even when her goal is to learn about the culture of the country's citizens. She never examines why everything about other countries seems to disgust her so much. She just paints foreigners and foreign cultures as bad compared to what she's used to. It wouldn't have been so bad that she'd done and felt these things at the time that they had happened if the narration didn't support her feelings back then as still holding true at the time she wrote it.
I pushed through because I have a reading goal, but I'd never recommend this book to anyone. I probably should have DNFed.
I didn't totally hate this book, but when it was due at the library and I hadn't finished it, I had no problem returning it without reading to the end. I was intrigued by the premise, but I wasn't riveted. I guess I just don't find stories about how scarring and difficult it was to grow up as an upper-middle-class white girl in the 80s as touching as I used to. I stopped reading after the episode where as a teen the heroine is picked to be "the Le Clic girl" and has to endure modeling jobs, a mild form of fame, and travel to China, poor thing. Some of us would love to travel to China. Maybe the sections about her adult life are more engaging.
This is definitely a quick read and I thought the concept was pretty unique. She uses Tarot cards to reflect one moments in her life. There's some laugh out loud moments -- such as her campaign in grade school where she wrote "She bops" on her campaign posters and a classmate asked her if she knew that meant masturbation. (She didn't, she just liked the Cyndi Lauper song). At times, I found some of the language a little too new agey/ self helpish. Overall a good hearted book about an interesting and funny woman.
Kimberlee and I read together at KGB in New York this week. I basically picked up the book so I'd have an idea of who I was reading with. I was so pleasantly surprised when I started reading.
I really liked this book. I think it gets unfairly characterized as chic lit. I can easily see why it happens, but it is just good storytelling. Super fun and very clever.
I'm not one for memoirs, but as a tarot-lover, this book (and its title) stood out to me. Overall, this book was just fine. The structure of the story (a chapter for each card in the tarot spread) is a unique one that played with past and present in an interesting way.
It's not poorly written, but there are several aspects of this book that just haven't aged well. Specifically, many fatphobic comments and some racist depictions of dialect. Then again, you'd be hard-pressed to find a book from 2007 without at least one now-cringe take. One plus is that it was a quick read.
I found the author to be a pretty unlikeable person, sadly. Would have rather this just been a novel about Iris, the tarot card reader, as she was much more compelling and affable than our protagonist. Maybe I ought to stick to fiction.
4.5 ⭐️ This book merges two things that I love: a memoir & tarot cards. Kimberlee uses a tarot card reading to tell the story of her life; It was so unique and done so well in my opinion! There were definitely some weirder parts of the book lol & some things she said that felt dated to me (granted, the book was written 13 years ago), but overall I really loved it! I ended this book feeling emotional and inspired. I loved the chapter about The Sun card, that’s when I felt the biggest positive shift & turning point in Kimberlee I think. I also loved how we as the reader got to see Kimberlee’s growth throughout her life, but also the growth & self-realizations she came to throughout the tarot card reading alone. I need more books like this!!
This wasn't the best book I read and it wasn't the worst. Kimberlee Auerbach life is in a downward spiral. She has been to therapists, acunpuncture and on a recommendation from her friend visits a tarot card reader named Iris. Now this was the concept I liked . Auerbach uses tarot cards to relive moments in her life. I really didn't care about Auerbach as a person, Her "white privelege" and her vapid shallowness like the females on Sex in the City set me on edge.
As a teenager in the late 80's, Kimberlee Auerbach was the Le Clic Girl, a model for an instant camera designed by her father. This memoir touches on that and focuses on her troubled love life and how she finds understanding and insight through guided consideration of scenes from the Major Arcana trump cards of a tarot pack. The writing is lively and the teased out wisdom is real.
This one is hard to rate because of its unique concept.. the memoir part of it is somewhat interesting but also rather boring. The best part was random wisdom and quotes that hit me deep; It’s rare that I pull out a pen and sticky notes to underline and mark pages with juicy/impactful quotes though and those were what kept me reading this until the end.
“We make the same mistakes over and over until we learn forgiveness and compassion” - this is the truest sentence I’ve ever read
I didn't expect much from this book, but I was awed by the storytelling. Her writing is genuine, honest, and funny - without ever trying too hard for a laugh.
As others have said, it is a quick read, but I think that is mostly due to an engaging style of storytelling rather than due to a lack of substance.
The concept is great. Use a major arcana card from the tarot to introduce a story from your memoir. Unfortunately, the memoir is terrible. An attractive, self-absorbed young woman looking for love. Boring and tedious.
The premise is interesting but the book is fluff. She's so privileged there is little depth in her relations to the tarot. Also includes a lot of casual racism.
This year I've been wanting to read many of the books that have been sitting far too long in my 'to be read' pile. The Devil, The Lovers, & Me: My Life in Tarot by Kimberlee Auerbach is a memoir I've had in my 'to be read' pile since December 2010!!
I actually purchased this memoir on a whim from the bargain book section on Amazon. I'd never heard of The Devil, The Lovers, & Me: My Life in Tarot by Kimberlee Auerbach before. I liked the quirky title and am always up for a good memoir, so decided to purchase it.
As far as a memoir goes, I like how this book is set up! The author takes us through a tarot reading... It's like we're sitting in on the tarot reading with her. Each chapter is titled with the name of a card from her reading and focuses on the meaning of each of the cards. Each tarot card stirs up memories of the author's past, which is shared in each chapter as it pertains to the card's meaning... This makes for an interesting concept for a memoir.
Overall, I thought The Devil, The Lovers, & Me: My Life in Tarot by Kimberlee Auerbach was a good read and funny in parts. Ms. Auerbach's memoir is definitely a journey of self discovery. Trusting your inner wisdom/voice is a must. I also enjoyed reading the author interview at the end of the memoir along with the discussion questions in the reader's guide.
As a side note, The Devil, The Lovers, & Me: My Life in Tarot by Kimberlee Auerbach is the fourth memoir I've read this year that I can recall. In fact, all four memoirs I've read so far this year have been written by women!
When Kimberlee’s life became a mess, she took therapy, saw a Reiki Master and even got hypnotized. Then she went to a tarot reader.
Iris gently prods Kimberlee through her past life and her possible futures. Insisting firmly that she can’t tell Kimberlee her future, the tarot reader guides her and the reader through a painful journey, sifting through the past to find clues for the present. The author manages to make the character of “Iris” candid without irritating spiritual mannerisms, pop psychological talk or an overly saintly air. We are intrigued by her. But it is ultimately Kimberlee’s journey that takes center stage.
Kimberlee is seeking pat solutions to her dilemmas. The cards show her, without preaching, that there is no such thing as an easy answer. We and Kimberlee are guided along so adroitly that we never feel we’re being steered.
Like the protagonist, I found myself wondering how it would all end and yet far more curious about the journey than the eventual outcome. There could be no trite “happy” ending for a story like this and I found I didn’t want one. Whether Kimberlee ever married her noncommittal boyfriend became beside the point. Seeing her grow into her own person was the far more interesting story.
A nice story, Chick Lit with a twist, since the heroine's story is told in associations that emerge in a tarot reading. It feels more like light fiction than the autobiography that it is. It won't matter if you're not a believer or even aware of the tarot. The tarot reader Iris offers a brief interpretation of each card and sits back as Kimberlee thinks about what these mean in the context of her own life.
The story weaves in and out of Kimberlee's relationships, with her lovers and her family. Her metamorphosis from lovestruck innocent into dependent depressive comes across in a realistic and powerful way. Each relationship intensifies issues from her childhood, something that she realizes only when she makes the connections during the tarot reading. Delving through her memories, she uncovers deeper feelings of abuse, manipulation, betrayal and finally acceptance.
The Devil and the Lovers are not the only two cards in her reading; not even the most important (each of them brings up a turning point in her life so all of them are important). I guess she picked the two of them because they sounded good in a title. If you are a tarot enthusiast, this book may be light entertainment.
Kimberlee Auerbach, The Devil, the Lovers, and Me: My Life in Tarot (Dutton, 2007)
Warning: the phrase "in Tarot" in the title had me thinking that I was going to be reading a memoir about the life and profession of a Tarot reader. That is emphatically not the case (and, in fact, the Tarot reading that provides Auerbach's framework here is, not surprisingly, fabricated). Thus, if that's what you're looking for, move on, folks, nothing to see here.
That said, given my antipathy towards memoirs, I did find myself grudgingly hooked pretty fast. Not that it's different than your run-of-the-mill memoir-- bad childhood memories, abuse, etc. etc. ad nauseam-- but Auerbach has a storyteller's touch and a sharp sense of humor, both of which have been notably absent from any number of memoirs I've read over the years. I hope that at one point she turns her attention to writing a novel; I'd like to see what she can do with the rest of the stuff in her head. Until then, we'll have to make do with this; a shiny presentation on trendy, though quotidian, subject matter. ***
I picked this book up after reading a glowing review by of one of feministing.com's editors, Courtney Martin. Oh well. I normally love the other books she recommends.
This book was okay. I can't say it kept my interest throughout, because for some reason it took me weeks just to get through the last 20 or so pages. The ending wasn't worth the wait.
But the book isn't a total flop. I did chuckle at one or two stories (like the one about her poster campaign for middle school student government). And my heart went out to Kimmi as she described her darkest, most self-deprecating moments. But I didn't like the self-help tarot stuff that she used as a device to tell her stories (which ended up feeling more like flashbacks). I think it got in the way of the good stuff and I found myself just skimming through it at times.
I had started reading Kimberlee Auerbach's writing on thenervousbreakdown.com, so when I found out she wrote a book, especially through tarot (I'm a tarot reader) I was intrigued. My intrigue waited for several years.
Through the magic of kindle, I obtained this book. I read it in two days. Some parts of it are cringe-worthy (and rightly so) but I felt myself empathizing with Kimberlee and rooting for her through her many situations, such as "How long do I have to wait before he pops the question? Should I give up hope?", competing for the attention of a parent, being a parent to your parent instead of the kid, and the realizations that occur when you realize your parents are human after all.
I'm surprised to find a lot in common with the author. With my siblings going in and out of hospitals, even though I had all the love and attention of my mother, I was a very jealous and even spiteful child. With my Dad far away for as long as I remember myself, I have always felt I have to deserve love, and protect myself in love. I see now that I undermined a few relationships with digging too deep into his past and not being able to deal with my own jealousy afterwards. Self-esteem, letting go of the past, a ban on worrying about the future and the act of being alive and present in daily life, along with the realization that working through our issues never stops, are the great lessons of this very engaging book.
Not that this book is really about therapy, but when I read it, a lot of things coincided with therapy stuff. I love Kimberlee Auerbach - I've been watching her videos of Therapy Thursdays on Crucial Minutia for about a year and it was really interesting to read stories of her past to see where she is coming from on some things. After finishing this book I actually felt compelled to change certain things in my life and I guess that is a pretty good sign that this book was a big deal for me. If you are reading this Kimmi, I'm totally your biggest fan of the people you don't actually know. In a non-creepy non-stalker way.
I wish I could give this book 10 stars! I've read many books about self exploration, the good, the bad and the ugly but none of them in my opinion were raw and emotional like this one. Kimberlee Auerbach represents all of who want the answer to the questions "why are we here?" and "what's my purpose?" life she finds out is full of lessons and choices but its all very personal and its what we make it and reading Kimberlee's journey through life made me think about my own. This book was a delight to read and I would recommend anyone that has those kinds of questions to read this book, you may find you had the answer all along.
I read this book in one sitting! Ms. Auerbach takes the reader through the universal journey of awkward adolescence to the pressures and confusion of adult life. If you've ever felt stuck in a job, in a relationship or in your search for more happiness I think you'll find Auerbach's humorous and direct approach to her life entertaining and inspirational. I found myself turning page after to page to see what obstacle Kimmi would have to tackle next. I was rooting for her and I think you will too.
What a fun read! I love Kimberlee's writing style. It's not just funny (hilarious, actually), it's deep and raw. She's put into print all the things that we've been ashamed to admit, but have secretly thought about during certain times in our lives.
The story is set around a tarot reading. The spread looks very interesting and the fact that the tarot reader has chosen to use all Majors tells us that it's going to be a "Deep to the Core" reading. And that it is, with serious revelations, brought to us in Kimberlee's wry humor.
Reminded me of The Fifth Goddess - a woman in her 30's living in New York trying to understand her own insecurities and failed relationships by trying something spiritual. I liked the integration of the tarot archetypes, but the self-deprecating humor did not appeal to me. Didn't realize until the end that it was autobiographical - kudos to the author for bravely sharing quite personal details of her life. But I neither laughed nor cried - just not my style of book.
This book was better than I expected it to be, given the goofy premise (life refracted through a prism of tarot cards....). The author is engaging and has a refreshing sense of humor about herself. I ended up rooting for her in spite of the occasional dippiness of the prose. The writing didn't get in the way too much, although the weakness was definitely the dialogue (often wooden).
I was really hoping this book was going to have a little more about the art of reading tarot cards, but it was more about this women's life. And quite frankly her life really wasn't that abnormal. She dated a few jerks, weirdo's, and losers - haven't we all. This book was an extremely easy read, maybe it would be a good beach or pool book.
I was really hoping this book was going to have a little more about the art of reading tarot cards, but it was more about this women's life. And quite frankly her life really wasn't that abnormal. She dated a few jerks, weirdo's, and losers - haven't we all. This book was an extremely easy read, maybe it would be a good beach or pool book. But watch out for the language & content.
Good, not brilliant writing, about a New York woman in her early 30s trying to get a grip on her life (hmm, not unlike me). Interesting format of every chapter being a tarot card. An entertaining, easy read. I enjoyed it.