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The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of Intolerance
In our deeply divided, binary world, honest discussion is stressful for all sides. International thought leader Africa Brooke says there is another the Third Perspective.
In this manifesto, Africa teaches us how to return to critical thinking and reduce societal divides by opening our minds and being more self-questioning in difficult discussions. This book will help you figure out what you truly believe—as opposed to parroting or having knee-jerk reactions in conversation. You’ll learn to share your views, hear theirs, make a point you feel must be made, and try to find common ground without self-censorship or self-sabotage.
This personal guide helps readers move away from rigid thinking, allowing them to enter any potentially difficult discussion about politics, work, personal responsibility, race, sex, gender, religion — whatever the subject — while maintaining integrity, authenticity, and openness, and successfully expressing opinions while listening to contrary points of view.
Africa has built a successful business coaching an exclusive roster of high-profile clients seeking to handle themselves in the public eye. The tools offered in The Third Perspective have been honed over years of that hers is a proven system that works. She offers readers a new path for communication, and because communication is everything, critical to building trust and fruitful relationships, a life transforming experience.
Africa Brooke’s framework has three pillars—Awareness, Responsibility, and Expression—that what is stopping you from speaking your mind, what do you stand for, what are you willing to risk?
In this manifesto, Africa teaches us how to return to critical thinking and reduce societal divides by opening our minds and being more self-questioning in difficult discussions. This book will help you figure out what you truly believe—as opposed to parroting or having knee-jerk reactions in conversation. You’ll learn to share your views, hear theirs, make a point you feel must be made, and try to find common ground without self-censorship or self-sabotage.
This personal guide helps readers move away from rigid thinking, allowing them to enter any potentially difficult discussion about politics, work, personal responsibility, race, sex, gender, religion — whatever the subject — while maintaining integrity, authenticity, and openness, and successfully expressing opinions while listening to contrary points of view.
Africa has built a successful business coaching an exclusive roster of high-profile clients seeking to handle themselves in the public eye. The tools offered in The Third Perspective have been honed over years of that hers is a proven system that works. She offers readers a new path for communication, and because communication is everything, critical to building trust and fruitful relationships, a life transforming experience.
Africa Brooke’s framework has three pillars—Awareness, Responsibility, and Expression—that what is stopping you from speaking your mind, what do you stand for, what are you willing to risk?
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Published May 14, 2024
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May 20, 2024
If you, like me, are a people pleaser who often softens your own opinions to keep the peace, you should probably read this book. This crash course on authentic communication is full of practical, hands on exercises for cultivating your honest voice. It will teach you why it’s important to speak truths that align with your core values, as well as how to do so effectively.
What I appreciated most about this book is that it’s not about shouting your opinions from the rooftops indiscriminately. The author teaches readers to effectively discern when to speak out, and how to do so in a way that is respectful. She also emphasizes that it’s OK not to have an opinion on every societal issue, and that there is value in seeing the grey areas. And a sizeable portion of this book is focused on listening well when others speak.
I would recommend this to anyone who wants to have more productive conversations about the issues that matter to them.
What I appreciated most about this book is that it’s not about shouting your opinions from the rooftops indiscriminately. The author teaches readers to effectively discern when to speak out, and how to do so in a way that is respectful. She also emphasizes that it’s OK not to have an opinion on every societal issue, and that there is value in seeing the grey areas. And a sizeable portion of this book is focused on listening well when others speak.
I would recommend this to anyone who wants to have more productive conversations about the issues that matter to them.
May 20, 2024
It’s extremely rare that I think a book is bad. Even when I read books that I completely disagree with or books that have misinformation, I call them out on it, but they’re at least written well. With this book, it almost feels like the editors completely failed this author. And before anyone thinks I just didn’t like it for the subject matter, I’m someone who was canceled years ago and am very much against cancel culture.
This book is just a confused mess. The first question I always ask is, “Who is this book for?”, and I honestly couldn’t tell you with this one. The intro of this book makes it seem like it’ll be an anti-cancel culture or anti-woke book, but then it turns into a sort of self-help book? Is it for people who have been canceled, people who are worried about being canceled, or people who join in online mobs? Well, it’s kind of targeting all of them…I think?
That’s why this book is just poorly written, but now, let’s jump into some of the subject matter.
Aside from the book being bad, this book is potentially harmful in my opinion. When the book is targeting people afraid of getting canceled, it gives terrible advice. She uses anecdotes about people who spoke their mind and managed to come out ahead when the internet came after them. I’m one of the countless people that did not happen to, and that’s the problem, right? Unless really big names come out and have your back or unless you somehow manage to turn your canceling into a grift, you’re pretty screwed. So, just hyping people up like it’ll all work out as long as you’re brave enough (or as she calls it, a “being a maverick” to harness her inner Logan Paul) is absolutely awful advice.
It’s like the books that tell you to not go to college or quit your job and just pursue your passions because it worked out for a few of the rare billionaires.
I think the most frustrating and disappointing part of this book is how much potential it has. When I was canceled, there were no resources for me. My therapist didn’t even know how to help, and I’ve heard the same from many others. This book could have focused on those people and potentially provided some solid advice, but it did none of that.
Usually, at the end of my reviews I can say, “If you like ____ then you may like this book,” but I don’t even think I can say that for this one. This was a huge miss by the author, the editors, and the publisher.
This book is just a confused mess. The first question I always ask is, “Who is this book for?”, and I honestly couldn’t tell you with this one. The intro of this book makes it seem like it’ll be an anti-cancel culture or anti-woke book, but then it turns into a sort of self-help book? Is it for people who have been canceled, people who are worried about being canceled, or people who join in online mobs? Well, it’s kind of targeting all of them…I think?
That’s why this book is just poorly written, but now, let’s jump into some of the subject matter.
Aside from the book being bad, this book is potentially harmful in my opinion. When the book is targeting people afraid of getting canceled, it gives terrible advice. She uses anecdotes about people who spoke their mind and managed to come out ahead when the internet came after them. I’m one of the countless people that did not happen to, and that’s the problem, right? Unless really big names come out and have your back or unless you somehow manage to turn your canceling into a grift, you’re pretty screwed. So, just hyping people up like it’ll all work out as long as you’re brave enough (or as she calls it, a “being a maverick” to harness her inner Logan Paul) is absolutely awful advice.
It’s like the books that tell you to not go to college or quit your job and just pursue your passions because it worked out for a few of the rare billionaires.
I think the most frustrating and disappointing part of this book is how much potential it has. When I was canceled, there were no resources for me. My therapist didn’t even know how to help, and I’ve heard the same from many others. This book could have focused on those people and potentially provided some solid advice, but it did none of that.
Usually, at the end of my reviews I can say, “If you like ____ then you may like this book,” but I don’t even think I can say that for this one. This was a huge miss by the author, the editors, and the publisher.
June 29, 2024
Better than some other books written by popular Instagram accounts, but still feels generic at times with its bland writing style, and pop psychology insights that you’d be better going right to the source for (yoga, mindfulness, and breath techniques).
Chapters 3-6 were probably the most interesting, while the other chapters were not new ground tread, and others have said it in a way that I found personally more impactful. Was not able to take away anything else.
The chapters of most interest to me expanded upon the digital self and the online landscape: “No One Left to Cancel”, “You Owe the Internet Nothing”, “Break Free from ‘Either-Or’ Thinking”, and “Principles Worth Defending.”
Chapters 3-6 were probably the most interesting, while the other chapters were not new ground tread, and others have said it in a way that I found personally more impactful. Was not able to take away anything else.
The chapters of most interest to me expanded upon the digital self and the online landscape: “No One Left to Cancel”, “You Owe the Internet Nothing”, “Break Free from ‘Either-Or’ Thinking”, and “Principles Worth Defending.”
July 14, 2024
I love Africa Brooke. I love her honesty and her openness and her ability to approach difficult discussions with grace.
…Which is why this book fell flat for me.
I struggled to find Africa’s fire in this book. Everything was surface-level, the prose was bland, repetitive, and cliched. What happened?
I hope Africa continues to write - I just don’t think her writing is particularly suited this form.
…Which is why this book fell flat for me.
I struggled to find Africa’s fire in this book. Everything was surface-level, the prose was bland, repetitive, and cliched. What happened?
I hope Africa continues to write - I just don’t think her writing is particularly suited this form.
October 29, 2024
This book has provided a whole world of psychological events and how society can be weird if you say. Africa gives personal opinions as well as her perspective of how her life has been a roller coaster and make controversial statements regarding real world problems. I was for sure adapting to the way she talks to the reader and trying to compare her with us. Also there were many practice questions given to the reader about metal challenges and how can we use this to help understand reality. Needless to say, Africa gave 'a third perspective' of how ideas and opinions from people can stop us from improving, thinking and censoring our words/ideologies from having a dialogue. How can we be silenced by the masses when the power is within us to bring our latent potential out? Do we need to stop being linear and accept the change in order to progress our state of mind? Could be controversial to accept the idea she tries to lay out on the table but remember it's all about perspective. The pace of the book is fluid and very blunt. I have a great friend that lended me this book and would highly recommend this to other readers.
July 25, 2024
It’s about banishing self doubt, aligning your voice with your purpose and your true self and an uncensored ability to have courage in the quiet moments. An excerpt paraphrased - “The main takeaway of this blink-to-the-third perspective by Africa Brooke is that self-censorship is not merely about silencing your voice. It's a complex interaction of societal pressures, personal insecurities, and the fear of judgment. This has probably led you to hold back your true thoughts to avoid conflict or backlash, influenced heavily by the pervasive scrutiny of modern social platforms and cultural expectations.
However, by acknowledging these fears and stepping out of your comfort zone, you can start to develop a more authentic way of expressing yourself.”
However, by acknowledging these fears and stepping out of your comfort zone, you can start to develop a more authentic way of expressing yourself.”
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
July 29, 2024
I wanted to love this book, especially after watching the author speak at a convention. Africa has a great way with words. She’s extremely well spoke, presenting her deep story and social concepts with a soft tone.
In person Africa was not afraid to push conversations and tell us more about her work around ‘cancel culture’. That’s why I was so excited about this. I hoped it will present the problematic issues around ‘cancelling’ people and give me a new perspective on how to approach difficult situation.
Unfortunately, it only gave me a self-help guide on speaking, with a few nuggets of discussion on social issues.
The book is clearly emulating the recent cash-grab self-books which fix us not only personally but also professionally.
I hope to read more from Africa. I just hope she brings a braver perspective.
In person Africa was not afraid to push conversations and tell us more about her work around ‘cancel culture’. That’s why I was so excited about this. I hoped it will present the problematic issues around ‘cancelling’ people and give me a new perspective on how to approach difficult situation.
Unfortunately, it only gave me a self-help guide on speaking, with a few nuggets of discussion on social issues.
The book is clearly emulating the recent cash-grab self-books which fix us not only personally but also professionally.
I hope to read more from Africa. I just hope she brings a braver perspective.
February 5, 2025
Found the writing style to be tiresome and quite bland. I enjoyed the pep talk, however
August 19, 2025
Extremely relevant in today’s cultural climate.
July 1, 2024
2.5 stars.
I love Africa and what she stands for but in all honesty I didn't come away from this having gained much more than what I started with. It was a daunting subject to tackle and I was interested in how that grey space conversation might be taken on in a concise and interesting manner. This did not achieve that. In trying to talk to too many audiences and to bring this all together the book ended up feeling sprawling and vague all at once. There are valuable exercises and very quotable one-liners. I see this book being beneficial to those feeling particularly disempowered, it was just not for me
I love Africa and what she stands for but in all honesty I didn't come away from this having gained much more than what I started with. It was a daunting subject to tackle and I was interested in how that grey space conversation might be taken on in a concise and interesting manner. This did not achieve that. In trying to talk to too many audiences and to bring this all together the book ended up feeling sprawling and vague all at once. There are valuable exercises and very quotable one-liners. I see this book being beneficial to those feeling particularly disempowered, it was just not for me
February 9, 2025
I really love Africa Brooke and her work but didn’t enjoy her book at all. It was not what I expected: more of a coaching/workbook and not as deep as I’d hoped. I also didn’t enjoy the writing of the book itself.
July 10, 2024
"The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of Intolerance" by Africa Brooke delves into the pervasive issue of self-censorship in modern society. The book explores how societal pressures and personal insecurities shape our ability to express ourselves authentically and offers strategies to overcome these barriers. By understanding and challenging these dynamics, readers can master the art of balanced and influential self-expression.
Key Concepts
Self-Censorship and its Roots: Brooke begins by discussing the phenomenon of self-censorship, where individuals edit their expressions due to fear of judgment or backlash. This behavior is influenced by societal pressures and early life experiences. The anticipation of negative feedback, amplified by social media scrutiny and cancel culture, often leads to self-doubt and silence.
The Impact of Social Media: Modern challenges like social media scrutiny intensify self-censorship. Every post and tweet is scrutinized, increasing the stakes of expressing genuine thoughts. The fear of making a misstep in this judgmental environment can deter individuals from sharing their true opinions.
Early Life Experiences: Early social dynamics, such as those experienced in school, play a significant role in shaping how we express ourselves in adulthood. The need to fit in during childhood evolves into professional and social interactions, often leading to self-censorship.
Practical Applications
Overcoming Self-Doubt: Brooke emphasizes the importance of overcoming the internal noise of self-doubt. Self-censorship involves societal pressures, personal insecurities, and fear of negative feedback. To break free from this cycle, individuals must identify their fears and gradually step out of their comfort zones.
Developing a Nuanced Social Filter: A nuanced social filter allows for the thoughtful conveyance of thoughts and feelings. This involves choosing words wisely to ensure they align with true intentions and the context of the conversation. It’s about balancing authenticity with consideration of the potential impact of words on others.
Strategies for Brave Expression
Self-Reflection and Goal Setting: Regular self-reflection and goal setting are crucial for developing authentic self-expression. Reflecting on past instances of self-censorship can help individuals understand their fears and set goals for more genuine communication.
Safe Environments for Practice: Practicing brave expression in safe environments, such as personal journals or supportive groups, can help build confidence. Gradually sharing unpopular opinions in these settings can prepare individuals for more challenging conversations.
The Challenges of Polarized Opinions
Navigating Modern Discourse: Brooke explores the difficulties of expressing opinions in a polarized environment. The pressure to conform to popular opinions or respond instantly to societal issues can be overwhelming. This section emphasizes the importance of taking time to form thoughtful, well-informed opinions.
Embracing Imperfection: Acknowledging the fear of making mistakes and embracing imperfection is crucial for growth. Constructive dialogue requires a willingness to learn and adapt, rather than striving for perfection.
Standing Firm in Core Values
Integrity and Authenticity: Standing firm in core values is essential for authentic self-expression. Integrity involves maintaining truthfulness even in unfavorable situations. Everyday choices, such as speaking out against injustice or refusing to spread misinformation, help align actions with values.
Reflective Exercises: Engaging in reflective exercises can help articulate and commit to core values. This introspection fosters personal growth and ensures that actions align with declared values.
The Maverick Mindset
Cultivating Courage: Courage is not limited to heroic feats; it includes everyday decisions to speak up or admit mistakes. Developing a maverick mindset involves making conscious choices to live authentically and boldly.
Traits of a Maverick: Mavericks are resilient, authentic, and strategic. They view setbacks as learning opportunities and align actions with deeper values and long-term visions. Cultivating these traits involves recognizing existing strengths and areas for development.
Practical Exercises for Growth
Stepping Out of Comfort Zones: Practical exercises, such as sharing thoughts in a safe environment or reflecting on past instances of self-censorship, can help individuals gradually step out of their comfort zones.
Creating Collaborative Dialogue: Fostering a culture of open and forgiving dialogue can transform discussions from divisive to enriching. Approaching conversations as collaborative spaces for exploration encourages more constructive exchanges.
Conclusion
"The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of Intolerance" offers a comprehensive guide to overcoming self-censorship and expressing oneself authentically. By understanding the roots of self-censorship and practicing balanced expression, individuals can cultivate a voice that is both brave and effective. This transformation enhances personal interactions and broader social engagements, fostering a sense of integrity and fulfillment.
Key Concepts
Self-Censorship and its Roots: Brooke begins by discussing the phenomenon of self-censorship, where individuals edit their expressions due to fear of judgment or backlash. This behavior is influenced by societal pressures and early life experiences. The anticipation of negative feedback, amplified by social media scrutiny and cancel culture, often leads to self-doubt and silence.
The Impact of Social Media: Modern challenges like social media scrutiny intensify self-censorship. Every post and tweet is scrutinized, increasing the stakes of expressing genuine thoughts. The fear of making a misstep in this judgmental environment can deter individuals from sharing their true opinions.
Early Life Experiences: Early social dynamics, such as those experienced in school, play a significant role in shaping how we express ourselves in adulthood. The need to fit in during childhood evolves into professional and social interactions, often leading to self-censorship.
Practical Applications
Overcoming Self-Doubt: Brooke emphasizes the importance of overcoming the internal noise of self-doubt. Self-censorship involves societal pressures, personal insecurities, and fear of negative feedback. To break free from this cycle, individuals must identify their fears and gradually step out of their comfort zones.
Developing a Nuanced Social Filter: A nuanced social filter allows for the thoughtful conveyance of thoughts and feelings. This involves choosing words wisely to ensure they align with true intentions and the context of the conversation. It’s about balancing authenticity with consideration of the potential impact of words on others.
Strategies for Brave Expression
Self-Reflection and Goal Setting: Regular self-reflection and goal setting are crucial for developing authentic self-expression. Reflecting on past instances of self-censorship can help individuals understand their fears and set goals for more genuine communication.
Safe Environments for Practice: Practicing brave expression in safe environments, such as personal journals or supportive groups, can help build confidence. Gradually sharing unpopular opinions in these settings can prepare individuals for more challenging conversations.
The Challenges of Polarized Opinions
Navigating Modern Discourse: Brooke explores the difficulties of expressing opinions in a polarized environment. The pressure to conform to popular opinions or respond instantly to societal issues can be overwhelming. This section emphasizes the importance of taking time to form thoughtful, well-informed opinions.
Embracing Imperfection: Acknowledging the fear of making mistakes and embracing imperfection is crucial for growth. Constructive dialogue requires a willingness to learn and adapt, rather than striving for perfection.
Standing Firm in Core Values
Integrity and Authenticity: Standing firm in core values is essential for authentic self-expression. Integrity involves maintaining truthfulness even in unfavorable situations. Everyday choices, such as speaking out against injustice or refusing to spread misinformation, help align actions with values.
Reflective Exercises: Engaging in reflective exercises can help articulate and commit to core values. This introspection fosters personal growth and ensures that actions align with declared values.
The Maverick Mindset
Cultivating Courage: Courage is not limited to heroic feats; it includes everyday decisions to speak up or admit mistakes. Developing a maverick mindset involves making conscious choices to live authentically and boldly.
Traits of a Maverick: Mavericks are resilient, authentic, and strategic. They view setbacks as learning opportunities and align actions with deeper values and long-term visions. Cultivating these traits involves recognizing existing strengths and areas for development.
Practical Exercises for Growth
Stepping Out of Comfort Zones: Practical exercises, such as sharing thoughts in a safe environment or reflecting on past instances of self-censorship, can help individuals gradually step out of their comfort zones.
Creating Collaborative Dialogue: Fostering a culture of open and forgiving dialogue can transform discussions from divisive to enriching. Approaching conversations as collaborative spaces for exploration encourages more constructive exchanges.
Conclusion
"The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of Intolerance" offers a comprehensive guide to overcoming self-censorship and expressing oneself authentically. By understanding the roots of self-censorship and practicing balanced expression, individuals can cultivate a voice that is both brave and effective. This transformation enhances personal interactions and broader social engagements, fostering a sense of integrity and fulfillment.
August 5, 2024
As someone who shares a similar background with the author—born in Africa and raised in London—I was eagerly anticipating Africa Brooke's book after being impressed by her interview on The Psychology Podcast. Her viewpoints resonated with me, particularly her stance on navigating the polarized landscape between "woke" and "anti-woke" cultures.
The book's opening chapters were promising, capturing the essence of Brooke's compelling perspective that had initially drawn me in. However, as I progressed through the pages, my initial enthusiasm waned significantly.
Strengths:
- Strong start that aligns with the author's engaging podcast appearance
- Relatable background and experiences for readers with similar multicultural upbringings
- Initial insights into balancing between extreme cultural viewpoints
Weaknesses:
- Gradual descent into vague self-help territory
- Repetitive content that fails to build upon its initial promise
- Lack of depth in exploring the complex issues introduced early on
The narrative unfortunately loses its way, drifting into bland generalizations and repetitive self-help tropes. This shift is particularly disappointing given the book's strong beginning and the author's unique perspective, which seemed poised to offer fresh insights on navigating cultural complexities.
While I typically refrain from reviewing books I don't enjoy, the shared background and initial connection I felt with the author's viewpoint compelled me to share my experience. It's a shame that a book with such potential for nuanced cultural commentary and personal growth advice failed to maintain its momentum.
While this book may resonate with some readers seeking general self-help guidance, those expecting a deeper exploration of cultural identity and balanced perspectives in today's polarized society may find themselves disappointed. The book's trajectory from a promising start to a generic self-help narrative represents a missed opportunity to fully leverage the author's unique voice and experiences.
The book's opening chapters were promising, capturing the essence of Brooke's compelling perspective that had initially drawn me in. However, as I progressed through the pages, my initial enthusiasm waned significantly.
Strengths:
- Strong start that aligns with the author's engaging podcast appearance
- Relatable background and experiences for readers with similar multicultural upbringings
- Initial insights into balancing between extreme cultural viewpoints
Weaknesses:
- Gradual descent into vague self-help territory
- Repetitive content that fails to build upon its initial promise
- Lack of depth in exploring the complex issues introduced early on
The narrative unfortunately loses its way, drifting into bland generalizations and repetitive self-help tropes. This shift is particularly disappointing given the book's strong beginning and the author's unique perspective, which seemed poised to offer fresh insights on navigating cultural complexities.
While I typically refrain from reviewing books I don't enjoy, the shared background and initial connection I felt with the author's viewpoint compelled me to share my experience. It's a shame that a book with such potential for nuanced cultural commentary and personal growth advice failed to maintain its momentum.
While this book may resonate with some readers seeking general self-help guidance, those expecting a deeper exploration of cultural identity and balanced perspectives in today's polarized society may find themselves disappointed. The book's trajectory from a promising start to a generic self-help narrative represents a missed opportunity to fully leverage the author's unique voice and experiences.
May 24, 2024
This is a thought-provoking read about the benefits to the individual and the group as a whole of deciding to venture outside the box, step away from the 'main narrative', and to courageously and mindfully make your thoughts heard. Rather than shout, cancel, threaten, belittle or shame someone who dares to suggest a new/different point of view on a topic, she suggests an open mind, emphasizing on listening skills and shows various ways you can engage with another person's opinions.
Brooke brings into focus the need to find a way to stop censoring others as well as yourself, to be aware of the reasons you may do so and how to stay focused on staying true to your values and freedom of expression. The discomfort is worth it in the long run.
'The minds that we most admire in human history embraced 'rebellious thoughts', questioned the status quo, and didn't cower in fear of being seen as 'problematic'.'
What resonates most with me after reading this book is that we seem to have lost the art of seeing and acknowledging the shades of grey in most public discussions - the third perspective. Talking face to face is also very different to posting a comment on social media. Much gets lost when unable to fully flesh out your thoughts and be heard/understood the way you want to.
I'm sure I'll be going back to the book again and again for reassurance as well as inspiration and many of the suggested exercises will take more time and thought to fully sink in.
Highly recommended!
Brooke brings into focus the need to find a way to stop censoring others as well as yourself, to be aware of the reasons you may do so and how to stay focused on staying true to your values and freedom of expression. The discomfort is worth it in the long run.
'The minds that we most admire in human history embraced 'rebellious thoughts', questioned the status quo, and didn't cower in fear of being seen as 'problematic'.'
What resonates most with me after reading this book is that we seem to have lost the art of seeing and acknowledging the shades of grey in most public discussions - the third perspective. Talking face to face is also very different to posting a comment on social media. Much gets lost when unable to fully flesh out your thoughts and be heard/understood the way you want to.
I'm sure I'll be going back to the book again and again for reassurance as well as inspiration and many of the suggested exercises will take more time and thought to fully sink in.
Highly recommended!
September 23, 2024
Not my usual read as this book was recommended to me by a friend to read and it surpasses my expectations that’s for sure. It’s the kind of book that really makes you pause and reflect not just on the world but on yourself too. The author tackles some heavy topics about personal expression and how we’re all navigating this culture of division and intolerance, but it’s done in a way that feels thought provoking and not at all preachy.
What I really loved about this book is how it encourages you to look at things from a new angle the "third perspective." If your like myself Its so easy to get caught up in your own beliefs and surround yourself with people who think the same way, but this book pushes you to step outside that bubble.
Honestly, there were so many moments while reading that made me stop and think, “Damn, I never considered it that way.” It doesn’t try to tell you what to think, but rather gives you the tools to navigate these tough conversations we’re all having right now whether online, with friends, or to ourselves. It’s about being brave enough to express your truth, but also patient enough to listen to others.
This book made me reconsider how I want to show up in the world—not just to speak up for what I believe in, but to create space for others to do the same. I really would recommend this book to everyone as It’s not just an intellectual read it’s something that stays with you, changes the way you think, and hopefully, changes how you connect with others.
What I really loved about this book is how it encourages you to look at things from a new angle the "third perspective." If your like myself Its so easy to get caught up in your own beliefs and surround yourself with people who think the same way, but this book pushes you to step outside that bubble.
Honestly, there were so many moments while reading that made me stop and think, “Damn, I never considered it that way.” It doesn’t try to tell you what to think, but rather gives you the tools to navigate these tough conversations we’re all having right now whether online, with friends, or to ourselves. It’s about being brave enough to express your truth, but also patient enough to listen to others.
This book made me reconsider how I want to show up in the world—not just to speak up for what I believe in, but to create space for others to do the same. I really would recommend this book to everyone as It’s not just an intellectual read it’s something that stays with you, changes the way you think, and hopefully, changes how you connect with others.
July 27, 2024
Maybe I'm not the demographic of this book. It seems like it is for those who is involved with "cancel culture?" Or anyone who has been cancelled? Or anyone is worried about cancel culture? Maybe my expectations for this book laid elsewhere (was expecting an analysis on intolerance).
Taking out the confusing target audience and my expectations. This book itself is a good starting point for those who need a little push to speak their mind. There is a lot entry level exercises scattered throughout the book for introspection. I wouldn't recommend this to someone who already has an idea on how to speak their mind (respectfully). This is a nitpick, but some of the big text quotes scattered throughout the book cuts off sentences and breaks the flow of my reading. It would be nice to have them either end the sentence earlier or to push it off to the next upcoming page to keep the flow.
I do enjoy that the author points out a lot of grey areas in different opinions/ideals that is out there in the world. Not everything is black and white and in the end its about respect, even if you do not agree on a moral/value standpoint.
Taking out the confusing target audience and my expectations. This book itself is a good starting point for those who need a little push to speak their mind. There is a lot entry level exercises scattered throughout the book for introspection. I wouldn't recommend this to someone who already has an idea on how to speak their mind (respectfully). This is a nitpick, but some of the big text quotes scattered throughout the book cuts off sentences and breaks the flow of my reading. It would be nice to have them either end the sentence earlier or to push it off to the next upcoming page to keep the flow.
I do enjoy that the author points out a lot of grey areas in different opinions/ideals that is out there in the world. Not everything is black and white and in the end its about respect, even if you do not agree on a moral/value standpoint.
June 15, 2024
I enjoyed this book — 3.5 stars. I’ve loved Africa Brooke’s work for some time now, so many of her ideas were familiar to me; and honestly, basic common sense that has fallen by the wayside due to social media and therapeutic concept creep. She’s got great takes on the inhumanity of cancel culture and the importance of speaking up for what you believe in. A lot of the book is a sort of self-help guide which I didn’t really follow, but she’s got good probing questions! Her work in general is worth paying attention to, in order to become a more confident, effective communicator. Especially if you find yourself either being—
A: reactionary, abrasive, and intolerant of others’ experiences or beliefs (yes even the good ol’ Left fall here often) OR
B: silent out of fear, people pleasing, unwilling to share your thoughts because you don’t want to be ‘wrong’ or disrupt feelings
Africa really grounds us in how to level up our communication game and be who we are in the face of conformity. Good read!!
A: reactionary, abrasive, and intolerant of others’ experiences or beliefs (yes even the good ol’ Left fall here often) OR
B: silent out of fear, people pleasing, unwilling to share your thoughts because you don’t want to be ‘wrong’ or disrupt feelings
Africa really grounds us in how to level up our communication game and be who we are in the face of conformity. Good read!!
July 10, 2024
Summary:
Self-censorship is not merely about silencing your voice. It's a complex interaction of societal pressures, personal insecurities, and the fear of judgment. This has probably led you to hold back your true thoughts to avoid conflict or backlash, influenced heavily by the pervasive scrutiny of modern social platforms and cultural expectations. However, by acknowledging these fears and stepping out of your comfort zone, you can start to develop a more authentic way of expressing yourself. This involves crafting a nuanced approach to communication, balancing honesty with wisdom, and considering the impact of your words carefully. As you cultivate a brave and effective voice, you move from silencing yourself to engaging in more genuine and meaningful interactions. This transformation allows you to live more authentically, ensuring that your expressions align with who you truly are and what you believe, fostering a sense of integrity and fulfillment that resonates through every aspect of your life.
Self-censorship is not merely about silencing your voice. It's a complex interaction of societal pressures, personal insecurities, and the fear of judgment. This has probably led you to hold back your true thoughts to avoid conflict or backlash, influenced heavily by the pervasive scrutiny of modern social platforms and cultural expectations. However, by acknowledging these fears and stepping out of your comfort zone, you can start to develop a more authentic way of expressing yourself. This involves crafting a nuanced approach to communication, balancing honesty with wisdom, and considering the impact of your words carefully. As you cultivate a brave and effective voice, you move from silencing yourself to engaging in more genuine and meaningful interactions. This transformation allows you to live more authentically, ensuring that your expressions align with who you truly are and what you believe, fostering a sense of integrity and fulfillment that resonates through every aspect of your life.
July 10, 2024
Idk this was pretty simple and basic - not worth taking really any notes for
Notes:
- Self-censorship isn't just about biting your tongue in a conversation – it's a complex psychological phenomenon in which societal pressures, personal insecurities, and the anticipation of negative feedback intertwine, compelling you to silence your voice. It’s like having an internal censor constantly editing your thoughts, sculpting your speech to fit a mold that might not truly represent who you are or what you believe.
- hyper-awareness can skew the balance between expressing genuine thoughts and maintaining social decorum
- To truly live by your values, engaging in reflective exercises can be immensely beneficial.
- by acknowledging fears and stepping out of your comfort zone, you can start to develop a more authentic way of expressing yourself.
Notes:
- Self-censorship isn't just about biting your tongue in a conversation – it's a complex psychological phenomenon in which societal pressures, personal insecurities, and the anticipation of negative feedback intertwine, compelling you to silence your voice. It’s like having an internal censor constantly editing your thoughts, sculpting your speech to fit a mold that might not truly represent who you are or what you believe.
- hyper-awareness can skew the balance between expressing genuine thoughts and maintaining social decorum
- To truly live by your values, engaging in reflective exercises can be immensely beneficial.
- by acknowledging fears and stepping out of your comfort zone, you can start to develop a more authentic way of expressing yourself.
January 31, 2025
2.75 stars
I love Africa’s podcast so had really high hopes for this book, but it missed the mark for me. It’s quite a heavy topic to take on, but the advice (unfortunately) was lukewarm and generic. Coupled with the fact that it seemed to address too many different audiences (those who censor themselves, those who censor others, and those who sit on the fence), I sadly didn’t find all that much value. Many chapters detailed unnecessary and borderline patronising advice (did you know that when someone crosses their arms when speaking to you, this suggests they’re being closed off?). It had some great one-liners, and the overall message is important, but a lot of this book was just paragraphs for the sake of paragraphs.
I love Africa’s podcast so had really high hopes for this book, but it missed the mark for me. It’s quite a heavy topic to take on, but the advice (unfortunately) was lukewarm and generic. Coupled with the fact that it seemed to address too many different audiences (those who censor themselves, those who censor others, and those who sit on the fence), I sadly didn’t find all that much value. Many chapters detailed unnecessary and borderline patronising advice (did you know that when someone crosses their arms when speaking to you, this suggests they’re being closed off?). It had some great one-liners, and the overall message is important, but a lot of this book was just paragraphs for the sake of paragraphs.
July 18, 2024
I've felt for some time that the way people communicate these days is too binary. The whole trans/safe spaces issue is a case in point. There are many other examples in our world where you are asked to pick a side.
And that, if you don't, somehow you are part of the problem. I've never been comfortable with silence being complicit but how do you navigate this? Brooke gives a steer and plenty of encouragement for you to find your own path and to articulate it with integrity (a key word for me) while offering examples from her own experience.
And that, if you don't, somehow you are part of the problem. I've never been comfortable with silence being complicit but how do you navigate this? Brooke gives a steer and plenty of encouragement for you to find your own path and to articulate it with integrity (a key word for me) while offering examples from her own experience.
December 4, 2024
A bit of a generic overview, and although she talks about thoughtful editing of how we show up in the world it was tough to locate the target audience. Some chapters read like we should all be using socials to soap box our thoughts and opinions to the world while others seemed to be written more for those without a widespread platform or statement to make.
Worked through some of the exercises in a women’s circle and there was definitely merit to that but had I read this book in isolation I think it would have been even less impactful to me
Worked through some of the exercises in a women’s circle and there was definitely merit to that but had I read this book in isolation I think it would have been even less impactful to me
July 2, 2024
This book is a very easy read book I enjoyed reading it. The best part that I read was the cancel culture about the book. It comes in an easy format that can be quite enjoyable but if you’re someone looking for deeper meaning and deeper understanding then this book is not quite there yet I love Africa Brooke and what she stands for what she represents and the book itself. I needed a bit more depth which I didn’t get but it is an overall good book..
January 26, 2025
Takeaways:
- understanding that not every opinion is black-and-white, and learning how to form your own perspective, even if it falls into a “grey” area.
- knowing when and how to speak up about social topics while staying true to your values.
- living a life that closely aligns with your core values, and how to identify them.
Cons:
- 75% of the book felt filled with text that didn’t contribute to the main point, making it overly repetitive.
- There were too many exercises.
- understanding that not every opinion is black-and-white, and learning how to form your own perspective, even if it falls into a “grey” area.
- knowing when and how to speak up about social topics while staying true to your values.
- living a life that closely aligns with your core values, and how to identify them.
Cons:
- 75% of the book felt filled with text that didn’t contribute to the main point, making it overly repetitive.
- There were too many exercises.
March 14, 2025
This is the first time I've finished a non-fiction book and felt sad because it was over. I adore Africa Brooke and will continue to revisit this wonderful book and carry her words with me. I recommend listening to the audiobook, as her voice is as soothing as it is unwavering. I could listen to her for hours, as I have done with this audiobook, and will continue to listen to her podcast in the future.
May 29, 2024
2,5 stars; the Third Perspective seems to be a fancy term for simply reflecting on your own life and the actions you took; nothing new or groundbreaking happening here, just some well known principles of psychological counseling repackaged as self help material specifically geared towards catering to the sensibilities of the Millenial-GenZ cohort.
January 18, 2025
This book was more self-help oriented than I expected. That said, in a world dominated by social media, fake news, extreme opinions, and declining critical thinking, it’s a must-read. Whether as a lesson, a refreshing reminder, or a valuable third perspective, it offers helpful insights for navigating difficult conversations, speaking your truth, or handling conflicting opinions.
February 21, 2025
I would feel comfortable recommending this book to young people who are not sure how to accurately & honestly represent their feelings with friends, colleagues, & possibly in the public sphere. I find a lot of younger folks are not sure how to engage without attacking or feeling attacked, when really conversation is just meant to be an exchange of ideas.
June 22, 2024
I’ve been following Africa Brooke’s work for years. I think I prefer her speaking! Highly recommend her podcast and any interviews with her you can find. This book felt redundant at times but of course lots of good stuff here as well.
June 29, 2024
In a world that is so black and white, this book is a refreshing reminder that there is a third option. It’s a great primer in looking deeper into yourself and working on your communication skills to share your true thoughts and feelings
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