This book by Michael Olpin, a top-notch stress expert, and Sam Bracken, a no longer stressed-out writer, stands out from other books on stress management in one significant its “whole-person” approach. Unwind! is about optimizing your body, heart, mind, and soul, recognizing that any and all of these dimensions of your life affect your anxiety level. It helps you get clear about who you are as well as your priorities and goals. The authors show you how to take charge of your life and how to make better choices that will prevent stress in the first place. The authors explore seven key paradigm shifts, from reactive to proactive; unmotivated to inspired; pressured to prioritized; hassled to harmonious; anxious to empathic; defensive to diverse; and tense to tranquil. Delving deep into each of these paradigm shifts, readers learn how to prevent most of the daily stresses people typically experience, by getting at the roots of stressors.
This book compiles lots of good habits to establish in our lives. Top ways this book has challenged me. 1. Focused breathing. 2. Step back from situations to avoid fight or flight responses. 3. Fight or flight response is for life and death situations not to be sustained for more than a few seconds. 4. It takes 66 days to establish a new habit.
“Unwind: 7 Principles for a Stress Free Life” is a great, uncomplicated book that provides straightforward strategies for coping with and managing life stressors.
The Japanese have a word: Karōshi (過労死) It translates to "work death" This book asks you to evaluate how stressed out you are in every area of your life. I'm basically off the charts in all. A good wake up call; a reminder that saying no or putting your needs first, simply because of stress you are feeling, is reason enough. I loved and have long been a practitioner of the win-win way of thinking, but never had a word for it, never knew it was a principle I had until I read it on the page.
Drawing copiously from Steven Covey's seminal book , "Seven Habits of Highly Successful Men", Olpin provides for a do-able prescription on how to avoid stress, arguably the biggest killer in the world. He quotes from Covey's book to drive home a pertinent point :'The moment you think that the problem is outside of you, that thought is the problem". He quotes Leo Tolstoy on the same issue: "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." A book worth reading and following.
A simple straightforward listing of approaches to thoughts and actions to destress your life. Not just to calm down but to avoid stress by examining its causes.
Nothing mindbendingly new, so if you read this type of thing often this is a repeat. But if this is new to you, you will find it very useful, especially the 'workouts' that help you put thought into action.
كتاب مفيد جدا 👌🏼 اعجبني يحتوي على طرق مختلفة للتخلص من التوتر و اعجبني ان في نهاية الكتاب هناك عقد يتطلب فيه كتابة أهدافك و توقيع ✍🏼 ان تعد نفسك بالالتزام و الابتعاد عن التوتر
"Cocooning is the practice of retreating into your private space and avoiding personal contact with other people. We feel safer in our cocoons. We resent having to leave them." (p. 111).
2020 just said, "Hold my beer."
I'm working on making friends with the stress in my life and I work with this professor (he teaches at WSU). Overall this was an interesting take on addressing stress and finding ways to reduce it.
Some of the suggestions are enormous, gigantic undertakings and not something you can just work on during any given day. For example, figure out your mission in life. Right now it's, "Avoid COVID-19 at all costs so you can vote." Hoping that counts.
Will definitely use some of the ideas from this book.
Finding Balance Between Stress and Choice: A Review of Unwind!: 7 Principles for a Stress-Free Life
Stress, an inescapable aspect of modern life, often creeps into our existence in myriad ways—disguised as overwhelming workloads, tangled relationships, or even the quiet unease of internal fears and insecurities. Unwind!: 7 Principles for a Stress-Free Life, co-written by stress management expert Michael Olpin and writer Sam Bracken, who has emerged from the depths of personal stress, seeks to deconstruct this ubiquitous challenge from a "whole-person" perspective. The authors present a comprehensive strategy for dealing with stress by addressing the body, mind, heart, and soul, aiming to enhance the overall quality of life. Their intent is to teach us how to find "serenity" in the midst of chaos. However, as a book on managing stress, its effectiveness varies greatly depending on the individual reader, as its impact and depth are deeply intertwined with personal circumstances.
The Whole-Person Approach: Tackling Stress at Its Roots
What sets Unwind! apart from other stress management books is its emphasis on the "whole-person" concept. Rather than treating stress as a standalone issue, the book focuses on how it simultaneously affects the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of our lives, underscoring the interconnectivity of these domains. Through this lens, the authors argue that stress is not merely an external stimulus but the result of a complex interplay between internal and external forces. Our values, goals, lifestyle, and choices are all intimately tied to the stress we experience.
At the heart of the book lies the premise that by identifying and prioritizing what truly matters, readers can make decisions that reduce stress—or even prevent it altogether. The seven paradigm shifts the authors introduce—moving from reactive to proactive, unmotivated to inspired, pressured to prioritized, hassled to harmonious, anxious to empathic, defensive to diverse, and tense to tranquil—are designed to guide readers toward a clearer, more balanced way of living.
While these shifts appear simple on the surface, they require a fundamental rethinking of how we perceive and respond to stress. One of the book’s central ideas, the "gap between stimulus and response," emphasizes that we possess the agency to choose how we react to stressors. This notion of "freedom of choice" becomes the book’s philosophical foundation, encouraging readers to reassess the relationship between stress and control in their lives.
Inspiration or Challenge? The Diverging Impact on Readers However, the book's utility is not universal. For some readers, its core message—that stress is a choice—can feel empowering and liberating, while for others, it may come across as overly simplistic or even burdensome.
One reader suffering from Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) and Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) shared that the book exacerbated her feelings of guilt and inadequacy. The framing of stress as a "choice" made her feel as though her struggles were solely the result of her inability to make better decisions, deepening her self-doubt. The "success stories" included in the book—intended to serve as inspiration—only heightened her sense of failure, prompting her to ask herself, "If they can do it, why can’t I?" For individuals grappling with clinical mental health challenges, the book’s rational, self-responsibility-oriented approach may feel detached from the level of support they truly need, overlooking the complexities of psychological conditions that cannot be resolved through willpower alone.
By contrast, another reader found its practical techniques to be highly effective. For someone frequently overwhelmed by the gaze of strangers or the weight of solitude, the idea of focusing on the "gap between stimulus and response" proved to be a game-changer. It offered a framework for staying present and avoiding the trap of ruminating on past regrets or future anxieties. While the concepts are not groundbreaking, they provided this reader with actionable tools to live more mindfully and approach life’s uncertainties with greater composure.
Between Inspiration and Imitation: The Book’s Strengths and Shortcomings Many readers have noted the book’s resemblance to Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. From the structure of its seven principles to the underlying paradigm shifts, Unwind! seems to heavily borrow from Covey’s framework, repackaging it to fit the theme of stress management. For those unfamiliar with Covey’s work, this is not necessarily a drawback; the principles may still feel fresh and insightful. However, for readers already familiar with The 7 Habits, this overlap may make Unwind! appear redundant, lacking originality.
Despite this, the book offers valuable insights into the nature of stress and practical methods for addressing it. For instance, the authors highlight the physiological underpinnings of stress—adrenaline surges, increased heart rate—explaining that these responses were originally designed to help humans survive life-threatening situations. In today’s world, however, these "fight-or-flight" responses are often triggered by non-life-threatening stressors, leading to chronic physical and emotional exhaustion. The book encourages readers to adopt proactive measures such as meditation, exercise, and prioritization to counteract these effects and regain a sense of equilibrium. These suggestions may be simple, but they effectively address the root causes of the stress many people face in their daily lives.
Conclusion: Navigating the Space Between Stress and Freedom Unwind!: 7 Principles for a Stress-Free Life is a work that manages to be both inclusive and limited in its scope. Its inclusivity lies in its holistic approach, which attempts to address stress from the interconnected dimensions of body, mind, heart, and soul. Its limitations, however, stem from its rational, almost prescriptive methodology, which may not resonate with readers whose struggles extend beyond what choice and mindset alone can resolve.
The book’s exploration of the relationship between stress and choice is undoubtedly its defining strength. By emphasizing the "gap between stimulus and response," it offers readers a powerful reminder: while we cannot eliminate stress entirely, we can choose how to respond to it. This fleeting moment of choice becomes the key to reclaiming a sense of freedom and control in an otherwise chaotic world.
That said, as the varied reactions of readers illustrate, this concept of "freedom of choice" can be both a beacon of hope and a source of self-doubt. For some, it offers clarity and motivation; for others, it risks oversimplifying the complex realities of mental health and emotional well-being.
Ultimately, Unwind! is not a groundbreaking book, but it serves as a practical guide for those willing to reflect on their lifestyle and choices. While stress may never be fully eradicated, this book reminds us that we can learn to coexist with it—and, in those brief moments of stillness, make choices that lead to greater peace and tranquility.
Great book and interesting perspectives on the various stressers we have and ways to cope and eliminate stress. Personal testimonies allow readers a way tonrekate to the information presented. Exercises throughout seem practical and easy enough to try to incorporate into daily routines. Spring 2018 -- goal to achieve reduced stress and make it stick!
أفضلُ وصفٍ للكتابِ هو ذلكَ الذي وصفهُ لهُ كاتبهُ حين قال : "هذا الكتابُ يَهتمُ بالوقايةِ من التوترفي المَقامِ الاول أكثرَ من أهتمامه بالتكيفُ مع التوتر " ويتلخص الكتاب بقولِ ويليام جيمز :" اعظم سلاح ضد التوتر هو قدرتنا على اختيار فكرة على حساب أخرى " وقولِ ناتالي غولدبرغ :" التوتر هو حالة من الجهل يفترض أنَّ كلَّ شيءٍ أمر طارئ ".
I wrote so many notes from the book and it was very easy to read. I'd recommend it to anyone looking to unwind from stressed of life. Very well written and I could not put it down until I finished it! Now I must go back through and finish the contract.
Listening to this book made extremely anxious. I don't know if it was the tone of the narrator or the voice of the author, but honestly it made me feel that my anxiety and my depression were just the result of my poor ability to make better decisions about my life. It didn't help at all. Just made me feel worst. It gave me anxiety that I could not control my anxiety. Like we can actually have total control over those. The examples were the worst. I would frequently question myself: "if those people went throughout all that and made everything look just fine, why can't I?" It made me feel like something was deeply wrong with me. I couldn't even finish. It was too much to take.
Perhaps for someone that doesn't have GAD or MDD, this book can be great help. But for those of us that have an actual clinical problem, it is not much help.
I like concise and well organised summaries. This book is one of them.
I especially liked the chapter on Hastle to Harmony. Humans want to win. And seeing that need for myself, can see how I put myself in front of others sometimes.
Here's an awesome paraphrase with relationships in particular. “Who’s winning in your relationship ? It’s a ridiculous question. If both people aren’t winning both are losing.” If relationships (family, friends, couples -especially couples is about teamwork. If you're always putting your needs above others to 'get ahead' or 'win', in your relationship, then the other is loosing, and in doing so, the collective relationship looses as a whole. But teamwork and building each other up nullifies this problem.
For someone who'd often find myself pulpitating in situations facing a stranger or just by sitting myself alone.
The techniques shared in the book are really helpful. The stressbusters are reliable
One key take away and something I'll probably always keep in mind is that there is a little gap between the stimuli and your response to it. And it is in that moment that you chose whether to freak out or focus on present and do things to that are important instead of stressing over what would have Happened or what might happen.
I have always been a victim of not living in the present. Constantly churning my head about the past but mostly dwelling in the Future.
Although nothing new. But i learnt to be more mindful.
This book has been incredibly helpful and grounding. Unwind! offers practical, easy-to-follow principles that truly support a stress-free life. The exercises and techniques shared throughout the book are not only effective, but also enjoyable and repeatable. I especially appreciated the workouts—they’re great tools to get centered and calm your mind.
What makes this book so valuable is that it’s not just for those feeling overwhelmed. It’s a powerful guide for anyone who wants to live with more peace, clarity, and intention. I keep it close by and revisit the exercises whenever I feel tension creeping in.
Highly recommended for everyone—whether you’re currently feeling stressed or simply want to live a more balanced and mindful life.
I listened to this on a plane hoping to have a relaxing ride while listening to something profound and useful. Unfortunately, this dry, cookie-cutter regurgitation of every self help book out there that heavily references the famous 7 Habits of…blah blah blah. It had no heart. I eventually ended up using this audiobook as a white noise machine and just randomly doodled for five hours. I thought the lack of nuance and detail in the experiences he recounted only affirmed to me that this man wouldn’t know stress-inducing adversity if it slapped him in the face.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles with managing stress on their day to day life in particular. While providing a solid conceptual framework for 'the stress response' it gives you tools to manage your own. This book reminds you that, in a largely uncontrollable world and environment, we are in control of our own behaviour and situational responses.
This is just a great read for anyone wanting to help grow in their capabilities for managing the modern world full of critique and "fake news".
The first chapter is a little bit too much of the impact on your life and not the tools, but then it kicks into gear as one of the clearest and most satisfying books to read on unwinding in the modern world.
My first so-called "self-help" book and it was ok. Not necessarily life changing or a stellar read but had some tips that I found helpful at this time, and therefore I wouldn't call it a waste of time. Most annoying part was the beginning that seemed to drag on forever about what the book would be about and what I would learn instead of just jumping into it.
This book is educational and challenging. It helped me be introspective about my relationship with stress. It seemed very “self help” and impersonal in that sense but did direct my thinking to a broader view of the effects stress can have on us if we don’t acknowledge it or deal with it healthily.
This book provides concrete strategies to minimize stress and enhance your life. It provides new ways to look at and manage stress. If you are stressed or function in a stressful environment this could be the book for you.
This books gives you some really good tips and strategies to reduce stress and undwind. It goes into the "science" of unwinding sligjhty without going overly studious with it.
I’m new to this genre of reading, but I don’t think that books are supposed to be THIS repetitive. There is some really useful/helpful info in here, but I kid you not, 3 consecutive chapters said the EXACT same thing.
With constant stressors of my daily life, this book was a welcomed breathe of fresh air. I will make adjustments to continue improving my attitude towards stress in the hopes of one day eliminating stress entirely.