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In Capable Arms: Living a Life Embraced by Grace
Sarah Kovac was born with AMC, a rare congenital birth defect that left her with arms that she could barely use. Growing up, she was the only one in her class with a disability, setting her apart as “different” and unpopular. Realizing he
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July 27, 2016
The title of Sarah Kovac's inspirational memoir, In Capable Arms: Living a Life Embraced by Grace, is a reflection true of its wavering theme. In the candid ebb and flow of the author's personal and honest account of her life living with Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita, Kovac reveals her cyclical feelings of fear of inadequacy & incapability alternating with personal triumphs as she gains confidence in her ability to be self-capable.
Kovac's transparent honesty in sharing her self-doubt when faced with daily struggles that range from buttoning her pants to cradling her newborn baby in her limp arms to experiencing dreams that her "real" arms are fully functional firmly set the foundation for her lifelong transformative processing through of the stages of grief. It is by gaining understanding of God's perfect love for her that she discovers where her perfection truly lies; and where she finds grace.
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Kovac's transparent honesty in sharing her self-doubt when faced with daily struggles that range from buttoning her pants to cradling her newborn baby in her limp arms to experiencing dreams that her "real" arms are fully functional firmly set the foundation for her lifelong transformative processing through of the stages of grief. It is by gaining understanding of God's perfect love for her that she discovers where her perfection truly lies; and where she finds grace.
A physical copy of this book was provided by the publisher or author for purposes of review.
August 5, 2016
“Grief is often a lifelong companion in some form. No matter how much acceptance I find, there will always be days when I am not OK with what I’ve lost. I will never be done grieving. There will be times when the sting of my loss is greater than others. Times when I feel angry and want to scream. Times that I feel thankful for all of the good God has brought out of my pain….That’s OK – it’s part of the process. As I heal, acceptance will come easier and the painful moments will be fewer. There has been loss, and I respect myself enough to allow space for my grief. I will allow myself space to heal.”
I imagine that Sarah Kovac never dreamed her words would bring healing to a woman’s heart – a woman some 20 years her senior who was reeling from the loss of her 23 year marriage. But I have shared these words with others walking my very unexpected journey. Healing came through those words. Truth came through those words. God is ever present with His children no matter the trial that we face.
Sarah Kovac has overcome much in her lifetime. By now, she is mothering her second child and learning even more about her abilities and God’s faithfulness. I can’t wait to see what her second child inspires from her pen! I know that I have come away from this book feeling like I have a new friend. A new sister in Christ. I am encouraged…challenged and so very blessed to belong to my Heavenly Father and able to rest in His capable arms!!
I HIGHLY encourage everyone to read this book!! It is fabulous!! And you will find comfort, encouragement and healing in Sarah’s words!! Bless you Sarah for being obedient to write what God has given you!
I imagine that Sarah Kovac never dreamed her words would bring healing to a woman’s heart – a woman some 20 years her senior who was reeling from the loss of her 23 year marriage. But I have shared these words with others walking my very unexpected journey. Healing came through those words. Truth came through those words. God is ever present with His children no matter the trial that we face.
Sarah Kovac has overcome much in her lifetime. By now, she is mothering her second child and learning even more about her abilities and God’s faithfulness. I can’t wait to see what her second child inspires from her pen! I know that I have come away from this book feeling like I have a new friend. A new sister in Christ. I am encouraged…challenged and so very blessed to belong to my Heavenly Father and able to rest in His capable arms!!
I HIGHLY encourage everyone to read this book!! It is fabulous!! And you will find comfort, encouragement and healing in Sarah’s words!! Bless you Sarah for being obedient to write what God has given you!
October 12, 2013
One day, Sarah Kovac posted a video on CNN showing the ways she has adapted to living with Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita, a congenital defect that left her shoulders, arms and fingers shortened, weak and unable to bend. She was amazed at the response. In her book In Capable Arms: Living a Life Embraced by Grace, she wrote “What I shared that day was struggle. My struggle may look different than yours, but struggle is universal. It’s something we all have in common. Sharing a struggle has the power to unify, to strengthen relationships that would otherwise be hollow.”
And I think that’s what touched me so much about Sarah’s book. I haven’t faced the same challenges she has, but I’ve faced challenges. I haven’t struggled with the same self-confidence, self-worth issues she has, but I have certainly struggled with those issues. What Sarah shows, as she reveals her heart in this book, is how she has seen God in all of it. How He’s taught her, led her, held her. And although it’s her story, it resonates in me because it’s also my story. And yours. Because of relationship, because of the power that happens when one person shares something and we adopt, adding it to the fabric of our own story.
Sarah wrote, “When I was a little girl, I remember overhearing my parents and some of their friends having a conversation about grace. They were joking that you never want to pray for God to make you a gracious person because he might just do what’s necessary to make that happen. I thought and thought about what they were saying. I understood that God had to let you go through some difficult things, painful things, if you were going to learn grace, but I wanted it. So I prayed, so sincerely, that God would turn me into a woman of grace, who would respond to others with grace even when they weren’t being gracious.”
I read her story and thought of my own. After my mom was diagnosed with small-cell lung cancer, I claimed to have faith, but I dried up inside. When it came time to pray, I couldn’t do it. My words were gone, replaced with bitterness and sorrow and pain. When Mom died and I didn’t much care for the way God had chosen to answer our prayers, I built the walls even higher — fortified them, adding a moat filled with alligators, for good measure — to protect myself from being hurt again. I rolled my eyes when someone at church would stand up and testify that they had been healed. Or even that they believed in healing.
And then one Sunday morning at church we sang a song that broke through my defenses. “Through it all… I learned to trust in Jesus, I learned to trust in God.” I felt the walls crumbling as I thought-prayed, “I failed miserably through all that. Lord, I’m so sorry.”
Immediately I felt His response. “But I got to show you grace!”
Notice, He didn’t say that He had to. Nor that He did it grudgingly. Instead, it was like our magnificent, holy God was a little child himself, hopping from one foot to the other, giddy with excitement at the gift he got to give me.
Finally, I understood what grace is all about.
**
I feel very fortunate to share the same agent with Sarah, and I’ve enjoyed watching her publishing journey. She’s kind, generous, and open, and I love the way she sees the world. Because here’s the thing: she’s real. And she’s trying to live this same life that we are. She’s seeking the same God, longing for the same things. I hope you will read Sarah’s book, and I assure you, you will be touched by her story. I’ll leave you with one last beautiful quote:
“In art and in life, we have the choice to look for either those things that divide us or those that bring us together. We can argue the finer points of theology and politics, pick apart each other’s ways of living, and criticize the unfamiliar, but there are common threads that bind us all together. We all long for love, acceptance, respect, beauty, peace. We all want to feel part of something larger than ourselves— that foot-of-the-mountain, edge-of-the-ocean knowledge that we could never see it all, experience it all, learn it all is the adventure every human knows well. We want a home, a place to belong. A place of quiet spirit. A place our souls can be healed. A place where self is enough and love is not something to be worked for, only to be accepted. To be immersed in, to be given without any thought of repayment. We want unconditional love. Peace. Beauty. Family.”
And I think that’s what touched me so much about Sarah’s book. I haven’t faced the same challenges she has, but I’ve faced challenges. I haven’t struggled with the same self-confidence, self-worth issues she has, but I have certainly struggled with those issues. What Sarah shows, as she reveals her heart in this book, is how she has seen God in all of it. How He’s taught her, led her, held her. And although it’s her story, it resonates in me because it’s also my story. And yours. Because of relationship, because of the power that happens when one person shares something and we adopt, adding it to the fabric of our own story.
Sarah wrote, “When I was a little girl, I remember overhearing my parents and some of their friends having a conversation about grace. They were joking that you never want to pray for God to make you a gracious person because he might just do what’s necessary to make that happen. I thought and thought about what they were saying. I understood that God had to let you go through some difficult things, painful things, if you were going to learn grace, but I wanted it. So I prayed, so sincerely, that God would turn me into a woman of grace, who would respond to others with grace even when they weren’t being gracious.”
I read her story and thought of my own. After my mom was diagnosed with small-cell lung cancer, I claimed to have faith, but I dried up inside. When it came time to pray, I couldn’t do it. My words were gone, replaced with bitterness and sorrow and pain. When Mom died and I didn’t much care for the way God had chosen to answer our prayers, I built the walls even higher — fortified them, adding a moat filled with alligators, for good measure — to protect myself from being hurt again. I rolled my eyes when someone at church would stand up and testify that they had been healed. Or even that they believed in healing.
And then one Sunday morning at church we sang a song that broke through my defenses. “Through it all… I learned to trust in Jesus, I learned to trust in God.” I felt the walls crumbling as I thought-prayed, “I failed miserably through all that. Lord, I’m so sorry.”
Immediately I felt His response. “But I got to show you grace!”
Notice, He didn’t say that He had to. Nor that He did it grudgingly. Instead, it was like our magnificent, holy God was a little child himself, hopping from one foot to the other, giddy with excitement at the gift he got to give me.
Finally, I understood what grace is all about.
**
I feel very fortunate to share the same agent with Sarah, and I’ve enjoyed watching her publishing journey. She’s kind, generous, and open, and I love the way she sees the world. Because here’s the thing: she’s real. And she’s trying to live this same life that we are. She’s seeking the same God, longing for the same things. I hope you will read Sarah’s book, and I assure you, you will be touched by her story. I’ll leave you with one last beautiful quote:
“In art and in life, we have the choice to look for either those things that divide us or those that bring us together. We can argue the finer points of theology and politics, pick apart each other’s ways of living, and criticize the unfamiliar, but there are common threads that bind us all together. We all long for love, acceptance, respect, beauty, peace. We all want to feel part of something larger than ourselves— that foot-of-the-mountain, edge-of-the-ocean knowledge that we could never see it all, experience it all, learn it all is the adventure every human knows well. We want a home, a place to belong. A place of quiet spirit. A place our souls can be healed. A place where self is enough and love is not something to be worked for, only to be accepted. To be immersed in, to be given without any thought of repayment. We want unconditional love. Peace. Beauty. Family.”
October 27, 2013
My book arrived the day before the review was due and unfortunately I didn't have time to read it that night. I am so glad I was able to find the time over the weekend. In Capable Arms is an incredible story about an incredible woman; although Sarah tells about her life, it's not a biography but an inspirational work. Throughout the chapters are interspersed "journal questions" which would be great for a book discussion group. In Capable Arms is a book one can't put down that will make you think about the obstacles in your life even if they aren't as obvious as hers.
More about this book can be found at my blog: http://reneesuz.blogspot.com/2013/10/...
More about this book can be found at my blog: http://reneesuz.blogspot.com/2013/10/...
August 20, 2013
Inspiring and Uplifting!
A well written book that at first talks about the challenges faced by Ms. Kovac but the book changes and becomes inspiring about the ways of working through our challenges – with God’s help and His plan. I found myself reading and forgetting about the physical problems facing Sarah and instead admiring her grit, courage and attitude! This is a book you will enjoy and not forget! Enjoy! NetGalley provided an advanced review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
A well written book that at first talks about the challenges faced by Ms. Kovac but the book changes and becomes inspiring about the ways of working through our challenges – with God’s help and His plan. I found myself reading and forgetting about the physical problems facing Sarah and instead admiring her grit, courage and attitude! This is a book you will enjoy and not forget! Enjoy! NetGalley provided an advanced review copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
August 30, 2016
I heard the author interviewed on Focus on the Family and liked what she had to say. Unfortunately, the book was too preachy.
December 12, 2013
This was a very good book. I won it here in a goodreads contest and the day I got it, I held it and said "This book has a story to tell me. And not just the regular kind of story". And I was correct.
It is about Sara Kovac, who was born with Arthogyrposis Multiplex Congenita which means "crooked joints". It affects 1 in 3,000 babies. It is a congenital defect that leaves the babies shoulders, arms, and fingers shortened and lacking muscle. It occurs in varying degrees in all cases.
Sara's arms, which are unable to bend, are too weak to do much, and they have a shriveled appearance.
Sara takes this book and tells basically three different stories. The first is about her being born and her parents, in 1983, with no real support, deciding to keep and raise Sara. Their faith in God is a big factor. There is a lot of talk about God, mostly by Sara, but it fits well into whatever the situation is. Her parents went to church every week and learned to do what they could to help their daughter but give her her independence. There was no book to help them at the time so they learned as they went. Sara's legs worked fine so she did things like roller skating which her parents were terrified to let her do because if she fell and broke her already weak arms, which she did a few times, the last being the worst, it just meant more pain for their daughter who was already trying so hard to adapt to so much.
For example, Sara did not have the fingers to button buttons and she did not want to use the adaptive button closure so she learned a way to button her shirt herself. And her jeans, well that was another story. She says things were not too bad when she was little. Children are generally more accepting. But the older she got, toward middle school, she was made fun of for her pull on jeans.
She learned to do many, many things with her feet which is amazing but, not allowed say at a pizza parlor. So Sara had to deal with so many issues of people not understanding just how important her feet are and that they are not dirty or inappropriate to use.
She went on to describe her lonely High School years which, after reflecting back, she realized she pushed people away. But that is not how she saw it. We ALL know High School is tough enough without having a disability.
She then tells of her college years. Only eight minutes from home but on her own for the first time. And she decided to let people in. She decided to be a totally different person than she was in High School. And she had fun for the first time. She felt accepted. But this did not last very long. She was making the wrong kinds of connection and looking at people superficially which is exactly how she does not want to be looked at. She did make friends though.
And that is all in the first half of the book. There are many places where she quotes God and explains how she felt about the way she was born, the things that happened to her, life in general, and His plan for her. Which she was still figuring out. And there are "Journal" sections, small ones where she asks the reader question like "When have you experienced someone else's ignorance?" and some follow-up questions.
The next section of the book tells about Sara meeting her husband Adam. She met him in 2006 after he sent her a message on MySpace asking for a date. This was before the real online dating craze started. A friend of her happened to know him and vouched for him. I do not want to ruin the story of them meeting because it is just so special and sweet.
She tells about their dating, and his eventual proposal which, in one of the funniest parts of the book, Sara knowing he was going to purpose, suggested he have a talk with her father. They were all very close, both families. Sara and Adam and Sara's parents went on a vacation together. But the vacation they went on where Adam tried every which way to corner Sara's father to talk to him did not work out. Let me make that clearer. The vacation was fine; Dad was nowhere to be found. Dad knew he was going to have to let his little girl go soon and he was not ready. I just have this funny picture in my head of them all up in the mountains and Dad disappearing every time Adam came around. Ducking and dodging.
But Adam got to dad after they came back. So the wedding came and went. And now it was time for Adam to see how Sara really lived and survived everyday for real. She mentions him wanting to do so many things for her that she already figured out how to do, like open a pasta jar. On the floor with her feet and a hand. But as any loving husband, Adam saw her struggling with a particularly hard jar and, Sara knew she could do it and would not turn the jar over to Adam, and it turned into an argument. One of many they would have. So, as many newlyweds, Adam and Sara had to learn how to get along, live with each other, get used to each other but there was the added tension of Sara and her need for complete independence. Which brings us to the last part of the book.
Sara's son. Yes, Sara had no OB/GYN problems so she was able to conceive. Her only issue was she did so many things with her feet, as her stomach got larger, she started loosing her independence. And this was a real struggle for her. Then when the baby came, you can imagine she had to re-evaluate her priorities and learn to ask for help.
But as you read her story, it is amazing how she adapted, and how her son, Ehtan, somehow knew that things were not done the same with Mommy as with Daddy. Such as bath time, especially as he got bigger and it was harder for Sara to wrap her small arms around his growing body.
And the book tells of the wonderful love that came into Adam and Sara's life. Then how, one day while her and Ethan were having breakfast at the computer desk, Sara read that CNN.com was asking for readers to upload stories of how their families coped with having a disability in the family. Sara explained how this kept calling to her and she could not shake it.
So although they were not specifically asking for stories like hers, from the disabled person's perspective, Sara could not help but think someone would be encouraged by seeing how she has adapted.
A few days after she saw the call for stories, she set up a tripod and taped about an hour and a half of a typical morning for her and Ethan. No second takes. A little editing. And things moved quickly from there.
She uploaded the video and within a few hours had a couple hundred views. Then she got a call from an editor at CNN. They wanted to interview her. As Sara braced herself for seeing a quote from herself on CNN, she instead saw SHE was on CNN as the top article, with the video, shaved down a bit, featuring her and Ethan. The original one that she uploaded. And it was all over. Her husband saw the story at the airport!
Now her story and her disability was out there for the world to see. She has learned that struggle is universal and that we all have something to teach someone else. And if somebody seems perfect, they are probably struggling too just better at hiding it. And maybe are not asking for help, especially God's help.
She ends the book by talking about speaking engagements, and again doing things for interviews that she has not done before.
But she talks of Ethan. And how he is. For example he will hold his hand up to his mother's hand and say "Battery?". Sara just of course knows this is his way of trying to make sense of things. She hopes his life will be easier than hers but reminds us no life is without challenge. She prays that he will not be made fun of or have a hard time because his mother is different. She takes the last pages of the book to reflect on Ethan's future.
Then the final 10 pages of the book are of Sara asking her parents questions, to which they are to give honest answers about when Sara was born. Its was beautiful.
My only complaint with this book is it was very simple. I know it was not meant to be The Great American Novel and I believe Sara got her point across but I saw more than a few places that she could have expanded her ideas. But given the fact she typed this with her feet, I guess I have to cut her a break. Or would she want that? Probably not.
Plus she repeated herself quite a few times. It was just noticeable.
On a personal note, with the many health issues I have, including Multiple Sclerosis, I connected on so many levels with this book. And I am so very happy to Abingdon Press for providing me with an Advance Reader Copy.
This book is due out on December 17, 2013. I would definitely recommend it.
It is about Sara Kovac, who was born with Arthogyrposis Multiplex Congenita which means "crooked joints". It affects 1 in 3,000 babies. It is a congenital defect that leaves the babies shoulders, arms, and fingers shortened and lacking muscle. It occurs in varying degrees in all cases.
Sara's arms, which are unable to bend, are too weak to do much, and they have a shriveled appearance.
Sara takes this book and tells basically three different stories. The first is about her being born and her parents, in 1983, with no real support, deciding to keep and raise Sara. Their faith in God is a big factor. There is a lot of talk about God, mostly by Sara, but it fits well into whatever the situation is. Her parents went to church every week and learned to do what they could to help their daughter but give her her independence. There was no book to help them at the time so they learned as they went. Sara's legs worked fine so she did things like roller skating which her parents were terrified to let her do because if she fell and broke her already weak arms, which she did a few times, the last being the worst, it just meant more pain for their daughter who was already trying so hard to adapt to so much.
For example, Sara did not have the fingers to button buttons and she did not want to use the adaptive button closure so she learned a way to button her shirt herself. And her jeans, well that was another story. She says things were not too bad when she was little. Children are generally more accepting. But the older she got, toward middle school, she was made fun of for her pull on jeans.
She learned to do many, many things with her feet which is amazing but, not allowed say at a pizza parlor. So Sara had to deal with so many issues of people not understanding just how important her feet are and that they are not dirty or inappropriate to use.
She went on to describe her lonely High School years which, after reflecting back, she realized she pushed people away. But that is not how she saw it. We ALL know High School is tough enough without having a disability.
She then tells of her college years. Only eight minutes from home but on her own for the first time. And she decided to let people in. She decided to be a totally different person than she was in High School. And she had fun for the first time. She felt accepted. But this did not last very long. She was making the wrong kinds of connection and looking at people superficially which is exactly how she does not want to be looked at. She did make friends though.
And that is all in the first half of the book. There are many places where she quotes God and explains how she felt about the way she was born, the things that happened to her, life in general, and His plan for her. Which she was still figuring out. And there are "Journal" sections, small ones where she asks the reader question like "When have you experienced someone else's ignorance?" and some follow-up questions.
The next section of the book tells about Sara meeting her husband Adam. She met him in 2006 after he sent her a message on MySpace asking for a date. This was before the real online dating craze started. A friend of her happened to know him and vouched for him. I do not want to ruin the story of them meeting because it is just so special and sweet.
She tells about their dating, and his eventual proposal which, in one of the funniest parts of the book, Sara knowing he was going to purpose, suggested he have a talk with her father. They were all very close, both families. Sara and Adam and Sara's parents went on a vacation together. But the vacation they went on where Adam tried every which way to corner Sara's father to talk to him did not work out. Let me make that clearer. The vacation was fine; Dad was nowhere to be found. Dad knew he was going to have to let his little girl go soon and he was not ready. I just have this funny picture in my head of them all up in the mountains and Dad disappearing every time Adam came around. Ducking and dodging.
But Adam got to dad after they came back. So the wedding came and went. And now it was time for Adam to see how Sara really lived and survived everyday for real. She mentions him wanting to do so many things for her that she already figured out how to do, like open a pasta jar. On the floor with her feet and a hand. But as any loving husband, Adam saw her struggling with a particularly hard jar and, Sara knew she could do it and would not turn the jar over to Adam, and it turned into an argument. One of many they would have. So, as many newlyweds, Adam and Sara had to learn how to get along, live with each other, get used to each other but there was the added tension of Sara and her need for complete independence. Which brings us to the last part of the book.
Sara's son. Yes, Sara had no OB/GYN problems so she was able to conceive. Her only issue was she did so many things with her feet, as her stomach got larger, she started loosing her independence. And this was a real struggle for her. Then when the baby came, you can imagine she had to re-evaluate her priorities and learn to ask for help.
But as you read her story, it is amazing how she adapted, and how her son, Ehtan, somehow knew that things were not done the same with Mommy as with Daddy. Such as bath time, especially as he got bigger and it was harder for Sara to wrap her small arms around his growing body.
And the book tells of the wonderful love that came into Adam and Sara's life. Then how, one day while her and Ethan were having breakfast at the computer desk, Sara read that CNN.com was asking for readers to upload stories of how their families coped with having a disability in the family. Sara explained how this kept calling to her and she could not shake it.
So although they were not specifically asking for stories like hers, from the disabled person's perspective, Sara could not help but think someone would be encouraged by seeing how she has adapted.
A few days after she saw the call for stories, she set up a tripod and taped about an hour and a half of a typical morning for her and Ethan. No second takes. A little editing. And things moved quickly from there.
She uploaded the video and within a few hours had a couple hundred views. Then she got a call from an editor at CNN. They wanted to interview her. As Sara braced herself for seeing a quote from herself on CNN, she instead saw SHE was on CNN as the top article, with the video, shaved down a bit, featuring her and Ethan. The original one that she uploaded. And it was all over. Her husband saw the story at the airport!
Now her story and her disability was out there for the world to see. She has learned that struggle is universal and that we all have something to teach someone else. And if somebody seems perfect, they are probably struggling too just better at hiding it. And maybe are not asking for help, especially God's help.
She ends the book by talking about speaking engagements, and again doing things for interviews that she has not done before.
But she talks of Ethan. And how he is. For example he will hold his hand up to his mother's hand and say "Battery?". Sara just of course knows this is his way of trying to make sense of things. She hopes his life will be easier than hers but reminds us no life is without challenge. She prays that he will not be made fun of or have a hard time because his mother is different. She takes the last pages of the book to reflect on Ethan's future.
Then the final 10 pages of the book are of Sara asking her parents questions, to which they are to give honest answers about when Sara was born. Its was beautiful.
My only complaint with this book is it was very simple. I know it was not meant to be The Great American Novel and I believe Sara got her point across but I saw more than a few places that she could have expanded her ideas. But given the fact she typed this with her feet, I guess I have to cut her a break. Or would she want that? Probably not.
Plus she repeated herself quite a few times. It was just noticeable.
On a personal note, with the many health issues I have, including Multiple Sclerosis, I connected on so many levels with this book. And I am so very happy to Abingdon Press for providing me with an Advance Reader Copy.
This book is due out on December 17, 2013. I would definitely recommend it.
August 5, 2019
In Capable Arms:
“...the more struggle a person naturally faces, the easier access that person has to joy.” Sarah didn’t start her life thinking that way. She struggled to accept why God made her like He did. But God led her and grew her and didn’t give up on her. I really liked the chapter title that that quote was under - “Struggle Is Not a Four-Letter Word”. My view of struggle is often that it’s to be avoided. But God often uses struggles in our life to help other people and to strengthen our dependence on Him. I appreciated how Sarah was honest in sharing her struggles and let God use them to help other people. It was also really cool how she talked about taking one challenge at a time and tackling that and not worrying over her future and how she’s going to handle those situations.
“...the more struggle a person naturally faces, the easier access that person has to joy.” Sarah didn’t start her life thinking that way. She struggled to accept why God made her like He did. But God led her and grew her and didn’t give up on her. I really liked the chapter title that that quote was under - “Struggle Is Not a Four-Letter Word”. My view of struggle is often that it’s to be avoided. But God often uses struggles in our life to help other people and to strengthen our dependence on Him. I appreciated how Sarah was honest in sharing her struggles and let God use them to help other people. It was also really cool how she talked about taking one challenge at a time and tackling that and not worrying over her future and how she’s going to handle those situations.
February 20, 2019
This book is much more than one's woman's story of learning to live with a handicap. It is a book about how every person should realize they were created by God, with the purpose to live in His grace. She realizes that though her human arms are not very capable, she can trust God's arms in caring for her baby boy, and in every other area of life as well.
I loved this book!
I loved this book!
June 10, 2019
I am a 32 year old Adult Male with AMC, I thought I would enjoy this book as a way to form a connection with someone who has the same disability as I do but I do not share the same mindset as her; I find her Christian Fanaticism repulsive.
I respect her personal struggles as they are the same as mine but I can't resonate with "Evangelical" personality types like hers'.
I respect her personal struggles as they are the same as mine but I can't resonate with "Evangelical" personality types like hers'.
January 11, 2024
I've had this on my to-read shelf for almost 10 years. It's always interesting to get glimpses into lives so different from my own.
While I enjoyed this peek into Sarah Kovac's life, I can't say this book was amazing or super helpful. It was interesting and well-written for what it was, a brief peek into the life of a differently-capabled person.
While I enjoyed this peek into Sarah Kovac's life, I can't say this book was amazing or super helpful. It was interesting and well-written for what it was, a brief peek into the life of a differently-capabled person.
November 1, 2024
This was REALLY good! Such a good reminder that whatever trials life throws at you, God always holds you fast. Sarah Kovac did a beautiful job tying together trials and joy amidst them.
February 20, 2026
She isnt looking for pity, she's helping you understand tough things dont have to harden you, defeat you or make you bitter. Amazing book.
October 25, 2013
When I first heard that Sarah Kovac – a young woman born with a rare congenital birth defect that rendered both of her arms inflexible and resulted in her learning to use her feet in incredibly adaptive ways – was writing her life story, I could hardly wait to read it. I am always inspired to learn how people like Sarah overcome difficult circumstances and learn to thrive against all odds.
And here – at the heart of it all – Sarah shares the secret to her success:
If you are looking for a book to uplift and encourage you – if you are looking for a book that shows you no matter what difficulties you face, you can overcome them – if you are looking for a book that shows you no matter what circumstances in life you find yourself in, God still loves you – you need to read In Capable Arms – Living A Life Embraced By Grace by Sarah Kovac.
In Capable Arms chronicles Sarah’s and her parent’s experiences in learning to adapt to Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita (AMC). Sarah shares how all her life, others have sought to define her, to limit her, to impose their expectations upon her – and how she has had to learn how to honestly assess what defines who she is and what she is capable of.
Sarah’s life has not been easy – but what touched me most about her story was how on the inside, much of what Sarah struggles with are the same insecurities we all struggle with – and what distinguishes her story from so many others is a deep-abiding faith that sustains her, nourishes her, and shapes her perspective.
While Sarah’s story will certainly inspire those faced with physical limitations of their own, don’t be fooled into thinking her story is written for a niche audience. In Capable Arms is one of those rare books that challenges everyone to be the best possible version of themselves.
No doubt about it:
In Capable Arms by Sarah Kovac is a 5/5 star book.
Buy it. Read it. Share it with your friends. Recommend it to your book club. Give it as a gift.
You won’t be disappointed!
This review was written by and originally published at Create With Joy.
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the publisher for review purposes. I was not compensated or required to write a positive review. The opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.
And here – at the heart of it all – Sarah shares the secret to her success:
I can rest deeply because my child, family, my life is held in God’s capable arms. The arms of love. The arms of grace.
If you are looking for a book to uplift and encourage you – if you are looking for a book that shows you no matter what difficulties you face, you can overcome them – if you are looking for a book that shows you no matter what circumstances in life you find yourself in, God still loves you – you need to read In Capable Arms – Living A Life Embraced By Grace by Sarah Kovac.
In Capable Arms chronicles Sarah’s and her parent’s experiences in learning to adapt to Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita (AMC). Sarah shares how all her life, others have sought to define her, to limit her, to impose their expectations upon her – and how she has had to learn how to honestly assess what defines who she is and what she is capable of.
Sarah’s life has not been easy – but what touched me most about her story was how on the inside, much of what Sarah struggles with are the same insecurities we all struggle with – and what distinguishes her story from so many others is a deep-abiding faith that sustains her, nourishes her, and shapes her perspective.
My story is full of pain, fear, and insecurity. I share it with you not so you’ll pity me or thank your lucky stars that your life is different. No, I share my story because I've discovered that pain doesn't have to have the last word.
There are many ways in which I feel I’m not enough, and that’s OK. I don’t have to be enough. If I were enough, I would have no need for other people and no need for God. My need keeps me connected to all the important things.
While Sarah’s story will certainly inspire those faced with physical limitations of their own, don’t be fooled into thinking her story is written for a niche audience. In Capable Arms is one of those rare books that challenges everyone to be the best possible version of themselves.
No doubt about it:
In Capable Arms by Sarah Kovac is a 5/5 star book.
Buy it. Read it. Share it with your friends. Recommend it to your book club. Give it as a gift.
You won’t be disappointed!
This review was written by and originally published at Create With Joy.
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the publisher for review purposes. I was not compensated or required to write a positive review. The opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.
October 25, 2013
I haven't quite finished IN CAPABLE ARMS, but what I have read is outstanding. I am definitely giving this book a five star review. IN CAPABLE ARMS is written from the heart with a deep-felt honesty that by-passes so many people. Sarah Kovac was dealt a harsh hand by being born with Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita (AMC), a rare congengenital birth defect, but being the remarkable young woman she is, it is clear in her writing that she has discovered that God has a purpose in her life and her faith is inspiring. The author has wisdom and great maturity as you will see by the following quote:
"Today, many are concerned about political correctness. Nobody wants to use the wrong terminolgy and offend somebody. Are we disabled? Persons with disabilities? Differently abled? The term I grew up with was handicapped. Being labeled anything at all made me cringe. It was a long time before I was able to come to terms withe the fact that the world runs on labels and biases simply to keep things and people categorized, not usually out of cruelty."
This one paragraph opened my eyes. I personally never looked at the world this way, but as I read and then re-read this one paragraph, I was astounded at the truth. There are a great many eye-opening statements in IN CAPABLE ARMS that as a reader, you will want to re-read and then sit and ponder what you have just read.
The author writes poignantly about her perfectionism (which many of us suffer from) and her words left me stunned and re-thinking my own quest for perfectionism.
"Perfectionism is a pride thing. So not cute. The only way I've been able to find genuine growth in these areas has been to begin seeing that y character is simply the sum of my decisions. I've tried to think of the person I'd like to be and just acted like that person with this decision in front of me, whatever it is. If kindness is an area in which I'd like to grow, I challenge myself, not to be a 'kind person,' but to be kind at this moment...If I choose differently one day at a time, act like the person I want to be decision after decision, pretty soon I'm not acting. If I can continually ask myself, 'Can I love this person? Can I tell the truth right now? Can I make a responsible choice just for today?' in time, my choices will start adding up to someone different. The future blooms from the seeds of now. In the dysfunction of my perfectionism, I wasn't planting.
I know as I continue to read that there will be more "light-bulb" moments. It is that kind of book. IN CAPABLE ARMS by Sarah Kovac deserves nothing but five stars. It is truly a "life embraced by Grace."
I was given a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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"Today, many are concerned about political correctness. Nobody wants to use the wrong terminolgy and offend somebody. Are we disabled? Persons with disabilities? Differently abled? The term I grew up with was handicapped. Being labeled anything at all made me cringe. It was a long time before I was able to come to terms withe the fact that the world runs on labels and biases simply to keep things and people categorized, not usually out of cruelty."
This one paragraph opened my eyes. I personally never looked at the world this way, but as I read and then re-read this one paragraph, I was astounded at the truth. There are a great many eye-opening statements in IN CAPABLE ARMS that as a reader, you will want to re-read and then sit and ponder what you have just read.
The author writes poignantly about her perfectionism (which many of us suffer from) and her words left me stunned and re-thinking my own quest for perfectionism.
"Perfectionism is a pride thing. So not cute. The only way I've been able to find genuine growth in these areas has been to begin seeing that y character is simply the sum of my decisions. I've tried to think of the person I'd like to be and just acted like that person with this decision in front of me, whatever it is. If kindness is an area in which I'd like to grow, I challenge myself, not to be a 'kind person,' but to be kind at this moment...If I choose differently one day at a time, act like the person I want to be decision after decision, pretty soon I'm not acting. If I can continually ask myself, 'Can I love this person? Can I tell the truth right now? Can I make a responsible choice just for today?' in time, my choices will start adding up to someone different. The future blooms from the seeds of now. In the dysfunction of my perfectionism, I wasn't planting.
I know as I continue to read that there will be more "light-bulb" moments. It is that kind of book. IN CAPABLE ARMS by Sarah Kovac deserves nothing but five stars. It is truly a "life embraced by Grace."
I was given a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
www.mylifeonestoryatatime.com
September 11, 2013
"In Capable Arms" is THE MOST heartwarming book I have yet to read. It's a story about one's life with a disability that may be physical but does not prevent this amazing woman to learn and do things that are important to her. I had never heard of Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita. Sarah, thank you for opening your world to us. Thank you for showing us how special life is no matter what obstacles we face. Yes, each day is filled with obstacles. Each day is also filled with opportunities.
To read your story and hear how happy you are in how much you have achieved, warms my heart. I have always believed that we are all here for a purpose. It's what we do with what we have that makes the difference. It's showing each other and supporting each other because we love and believe in them.
Life is filled with capable arms of love and support. It's those arms that help us grow into who we are.
I HIGHLY recommend you picking up a copy of this book today. You will learn how to smile in a whole new way.
Remember: life is filled with moments. Take THIS moment to order yourself a copy of "In Capable Arms".
To read your story and hear how happy you are in how much you have achieved, warms my heart. I have always believed that we are all here for a purpose. It's what we do with what we have that makes the difference. It's showing each other and supporting each other because we love and believe in them.
Life is filled with capable arms of love and support. It's those arms that help us grow into who we are.
I HIGHLY recommend you picking up a copy of this book today. You will learn how to smile in a whole new way.
Remember: life is filled with moments. Take THIS moment to order yourself a copy of "In Capable Arms".
November 16, 2013
Sarah’s parents taught her that she may have a disability, but she is not “disabled.” Her father emphasized to never let your flaws define you!
Her story is one of self-acceptance and vulnerability about overcoming physical and social struggles. Her writing is mainly from when she was younger and in high school. This would be a great book to give to adolescents as they transition from childhood to adulthood. However, she also addresses her college years, as a newly married woman and as a young mother. Sarah believes it’s important for us to hear common tales from seemingly uncommon people. “I don’t have to make myself into the person I am to be – I only have to choose which bits of my being I’m going to feed and which I’m going to let die.”
My favorite quote from the book: To identify the seed God has entrusted us with is only the beginning of our work. We have a lifetime of weeding, watering, and nourishing ahead of us.
I recommend for adolescents and new mothers in helping them overcome their insecurities.
Her story is one of self-acceptance and vulnerability about overcoming physical and social struggles. Her writing is mainly from when she was younger and in high school. This would be a great book to give to adolescents as they transition from childhood to adulthood. However, she also addresses her college years, as a newly married woman and as a young mother. Sarah believes it’s important for us to hear common tales from seemingly uncommon people. “I don’t have to make myself into the person I am to be – I only have to choose which bits of my being I’m going to feed and which I’m going to let die.”
My favorite quote from the book: To identify the seed God has entrusted us with is only the beginning of our work. We have a lifetime of weeding, watering, and nourishing ahead of us.
I recommend for adolescents and new mothers in helping them overcome their insecurities.
April 28, 2016
What a great story to read!! Sarah comes across as a sweet lady who has gone through more in her lifetime than I can even imagine! Born with Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita (AMC) she has learned how to adapt and use her feet instead of her hands to perform tasks. Such a great testament of faith and trust in God. Even during her biggest struggles and worries, childbirth for one, she remains strong in her faith and writes about the Bible verses that helped with her courage during giving birth.
Anyway if you like reading insightful true honest stories about real people, I highly recommend.
"Thanks to the author for the free copy!"
Anyway if you like reading insightful true honest stories about real people, I highly recommend.
"Thanks to the author for the free copy!"
January 18, 2014
I was excited to find out that I had won this book through Goodreads First-Reads. I thank Sarah for sharing her inspirational journey with Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita. I like how she used biblical references as well as points of reflection with "journal questions" throughout the book. It is definitely through God's grace that we are able to survive life's struggles and hardships. Sometimes it is difficult to understand when we go through our trials, but then we put our trust in God's capable arms, and He is always there to help us. It is so comforting to know that through it all, God will take care of us. Highly recommend for those who want an inspirational read!
December 30, 2013
What an inspiring, wise message! Everyone could benefit from this young woman's testimony of God 's amazing plan and how He uses all things for His glory. I love her perspective and openness. I have struggled with inadequacies and felt insecure and yet don t have any diagnosed disabilities. But to embrace who God made me, with all my limitations and even talents and gifts is to trust that God knows better than I do. I love how Sarah trusted that God would show her how to drive a car, care for her baby, play a horn, etc. in the right time and way. She persevered and trusted.
September 8, 2016
I won this book in a Goodreads First Reads giveaway and I couldn't be more happier. This book is about a remarkable young woman who was born with a rare disorder that left her without the use of her arms. As a result, she learned how to use her feet as she would her hands to complete her daily tasks. This book taught me to appreciate all the blessings that I have and it taught me to be grateful! I learned so much from Ms. Sara Kovac and all I can say is THANK YOU!
November 26, 2013
I had the pleasure of receiving this book through goodreads. And what a blessing it is to get this book. Anyone and everyone can relate to this book in one way or another. I can not just pick one part of this book that is the best every chapter has something important and she has an area at the bottom for you to take the time to think and write in your journal. There is one part that she says " nobody holds the power to define me, unless I hand it to them." So true. This is a must read.
November 14, 2013
Starting this book I had no idea it was going to be God-y. That didn't bother me at all, I was just caught a little off guard. I totally shouldn't have been though. Even though I don't have any disabilities I was still able to find some common ground with Sarah and relate to her story. I laughed and teared up while reading this one. Definitely made me believe more in the power of God than I already do.
September 12, 2016
I really enjoyed reading this book, if you can call it a book. It was so short, I could have read it during three red lights. That's my only complaint! I finished it and said to myself, that's it? No more? Well of course there is no more. She's too young still. I hope she writes another book, a memoir, when her children are grown and out of the house. I'm sure I'll enjoy it.
January 18, 2014
Fantastic book. This book quickly struck all emotions (laugh, cry, excite, etc.) and spiritually motivated me. With biblical references and Sarah's comforting words of wisdom, I felt I was moved a step closer to self-awareness and responsibility. Definitely a must read book.
November 7, 2013
Inspirational!!!!
February 16, 2017
Just read this book again. Love it. I relate to different pieces of Sarah's story, especially the overall lesson of living well with Arthrogryposis and seeing God's goodness.
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