Make Every Man Want You 1st (first) edition Text Only

by Marie Forleo

Cuốn sách này không giống với bất kỳ cuốn sách về hẹn hò nào bạn từng đọc. Không quy tắc, không danh sách dài những điều bạn cần làm để kiếm được một anh chồng trong vẻn vẹn 30 ngày, và cũng chẳng có lý do gì để bạn tự dằn vặt mình chỉ vì “gã ta không để ý gì tới bạn.”

Thay vào đó, hãy đặt trọng tâm vào chính bạn – và cách bạn làm cho bản thân mình ngày càng hấp dẫn hơn trong bất kỳ hoàn cảnh nào – dù bạn gặp gỡ bất kỳ ai. Bạn hãy nghĩ về nó như một cách cư xử khôn ngoan, một bài học làm thay đổi cuộc đời khi bạn biết yêu chính vẻ bề ngoài lẫn nội tâm bên trong của bạn. Một khi bạn sống đúng với những cá tính độc nhất của riêng mình và dẹp bỏ những mối quan hệ tồi tệ, bạn sẽ ngạc nhiên khi nhận ra rằng bạn thật cuốn hút người khác biết bao! Cuốn sách này sẽ như một người bạn, chỉ cho bạn thấy:

- 5 sự thật mà bất kỳ cô gái quyến rũ nào cũng cần phải biết.

- 7 thói quen của kiểu phụ nữ kém hấp dẫn nhất.

- 8 bí mật để thu hút Mr.Right của bạn.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology, Love, Adult

Unknown Binding

First published June 21, 2006

About the author

A born-and-raised Jersey girl with nothing more than passion, a laptop and a dream, Marie Forleo has created a socially conscious digital empire that inspires millions across the globe.

Named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation, she’s the star of the award-winning show MarieTV, with over 47 million views, and host of The Marie Forleo Podcast, with more than eight million downloads.

Marie has taught entrepreneurs, artists, and multipassionate go-getters from all walks of life how to dream big and back it up with daily action to create results. She runs the acclaimed business training program, B-School. Learn more at www.MarieForleo.com.

Reviews

[Chrissy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Cute and applicable guide to putting your best foot forward in all relationships.

I must say, after reading this book, all men want me and it's too time consuming to date them all...

[Merary · Rating 1 out of 5]

At first, I wasn't going to write a review, but I decided that not leaving one would be a disservice. I'm not necessarily a fan of Marie Forleo, but I appreciate her content and she seems like a well-spoken and wise individual. Why am I reading a book about attracting men? Because I thought I could improve in that area. And besides, Forleo promised over and over that this dating book is different from the rest and that I should forget about the rules. Did she deliver what she preached?

Yes . . . and also no.

The Good:

I appreciated Forleo's easygoing forwardness, it was an easy read and I had a good time going through the whole book. One of the things that stood up to me is the importance of prioritizing yourself and understanding that a relationship will not save you. If you go into the mindset that you need a man to be complete and treat relationships as guarantees, you are setting yourself up for failure. This idea about "like attracting like" isn't new in the slightest, but it is a good reminder on how you should approach relationships. If you spend your life being negative about others and yourself, no one is going to see how attractive you can be. This book isn't so much about making every man want you, but it is about fixing yourself. Not groundbreaking, but it is a nice message.

The Bad, and the Ugly:

Did I mention how unoriginal this advice was? I'll say it again: Nothing that Forleo said was groundbreaking. Men find cattiness, neediness, and desperation unattractive? No fucking shit, anyone could have told me that. Oh, but it gets better! If you are boring in bed, say goodbye to your irresistibility! Granted, this is just my opinion, but encouraging women to just sleep around under the guise of just living in the moment is probably the least uplifting thing I had the misfortune to read. I approve of sexual liberation and doing whatever you want with your body, but it just came up so muddled and embarrassing coming from her. If I recall correctly, she also encourages the reader to just date whoever, you know, under the guise of "just going with the flow." That is just not something I can't vibe with; there's nothing wrong with setting standards for yourself, not every man deserves a chance. If that's somehow against my "irresistibility", I don't care. There's a time and place for going with the flow and this just isn't it.

Forleo also tells you to throw away your list and rules because they don't matter. She tells a story about how she used to have a list of what her ideal man looks like, but once she met her current husband (who was described as not being near what she had on her list), she felt it was time to be more open-minded and allow herself to just love him. I understand what is she trying to say with this one; sometimes the people who are best suited for you tend to be the most unexpected people, trust me, I get it, but this is the book's main problem. Her results are situational, it does not mean they should be the standard. I'm going to say this one more time: There's nothing wrong with setting standards for yourself. Sure, if your list about your ideal man is shallow, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment, but if you want a man who has great qualities, you shouldn't throw that list out the window. Lists and rules exist because they work, forget the idea that it is not attractive. We are humans, we have our own standards, it is not manipulative.

Speaking of that . . .

Forleo likes to say her book is more legitimate than others because other dating books want women to manipulate men and that is why relationships fail! It's rare I see self-help books bashing their competition, so this came as a surprise. If what you say is valid, you show it, don't put yourself that high on the pedestal. The reason why I feel like calling out that small detail is that most of what she preaches can be classified as manipulative. Forleo asks her readers to make everything your "is-ness". What does she mean by that? Treat everything that happens to you as if you wanted it to happen in the first place. You are stuck in traffic? This is what you want! Your printer breaks? This is what you want! You've been on hold for 45 minutes? This is what you want! According to Forleo, when you pretend that bad things happening to you is what you want, "you become aware of all the ways you resist your is-ness and unwittingly create misery, frustration, and upset in your life." Yes, really.

This may seem more of a rant than anything else, but I really dislike this mentality that if something bad happens to you, you made that happen, it is your fault! It wouldn't surprise me if most of Forleo's ideology comes from Rhonda Byrne's doctrine because that's exactly how it feels. Hey, sometimes bad stuff happens because people are assholes! Sometimes you can be in the wrong place and the wrong time. Stop blaming individuals for their misfortune, for the love of God! Oh, by the way, once I finish reading The Secret, you'll get more insight about how I truly feel about this mindset.

Why do I feel that this is manipulative? It is very much grounded in victim-blaming and no amount of "living in the moment" is going to remediate how I should feel about any misfortune. If I get fired from a job, am I really going to say "this is what I wanted"? No, I'm allowed to be upset! People are allowed to have negative feelings, no one truly is going to hold it against them. Sure, I understand if you are a negative person and treat others like trash, you are not going to be likable, but I get the sense that if you a person with trauma, Forleo is not going to have much sympathy for you. Change your mindset, it's NOT that hard!

Which brings me to my next point. There is a section dedicated to family abuse and how that is stopping you from being irresistible. The premise is, you need to let go of your past because no man wants to hear negativity, it is so unattractive. Yes, really. Don't worry, it gets better! Have you considered that maybe, just maybe, your childhood wasn't that bad at all? Hm? Have you? Don't you realize how hard it is to raise children? It is a complete possibility that you were an ungrateful child and your perception made you think that you were mistreated. I mean, that's exactly how Forleo's childhood was, it MUST be true that your childhood wasn't that bad either! But, wait! Childhood abuse is a genuine reality, what does she have to say about it? Okay, let's say your childhood did suck and it was a traumatizing event, now what? Well, Oprah had a difficult upbringing and she's doing well for herself, why can't you let go of your past just like she did? If you want to be irresistible, don't be such a Negative Nancy, never complain about yourself, get over your "traumatic" past (was it really traumatic? Think about it), and just "live in the moment"! It's not that hard, just do it! That's how you get men to like you! By not being your true self (even though being yourself is the main message of this book!) and go with what men find attractive. YES, REALLY.

Mrs. Forleo, I saw your credentials. You do not have a degree in psychology or social work, who are you to tell your female readers to get over their trauma? Also, you say that women should accept men "as is", but how come women have to change themselves to suit their needs? This isn't a book about bettering yourself, this is a sham about fitting a pretty box to be attractive. A box that says that you should be a sexually liberated woman with no rules about dating, but isn't allowed to be human, have any negative thought in your mind ever, think only about what men want, never ask for more because it makes you look clingy and needy, don't ever have baggage, just be pretty for men. But hey, this is for you to be irresistible! Be yourself, but not too much because men only want one type of woman and that is the woman that Forleo asks you to be! Hahaha!!
Does anyone remember that Cynthia Nixon's video about the standards women should fulfill? It definitely feels like this, but without the irony!

Maybe I'm being too harsh on this book, who knows, but maybe if this book was more clear about what the message it wanted to convey without tricking you into reading it with a clickbaity title (which is something Forleo admits; so much for other books making women act manipulative) and maybe if Forleo stopped pretending that her advice is the last one you should have, I could have respected it a little better. I was holding on the hope it could get redeem itself, but it got ruined with the childhood trauma chapter. You know your life is too good and privileged when you can't give one ounce of empathy towards child abuse survivors. Hooray for victim-blaming!

"But, Merary," you may ask, "Does she ever tell you how to look irresistible?" Of course, she does! Get a personal image consultant (or just buy books from the What Not To Wear series,) get your hair done, put on makeup, drink water, eat well, exercise, just get it together, woman! Never mind that this is common sense, but I said it so it's valid! I'm not going to spend too much time on it because you should know this already (DUH!), just do it!

An additional favorite part about this book is that Forleo asks you to stop resenting men and forget the gender war because men can sense that and it is SO unattractive. Fine, I get it, it comes back to the point about not being a bitter woman because men hate that, whatever. It just makes me laugh because I feel that this book is more detrimental to men than a bitter "harpy" will ever be because it doesn't give men enough credit. It pretends it can, but it seriously doesn't. I briefly touched on the "accepting men as is but change yourself for them" part, but I feel that this book loves to play on gender stereotypes more than anything else, and yes, it does not paint men in good lighting either. Men, apparently, are too easy to influence (which, by the way, Forleo bashes other books about this subject because of it), and all it takes to win them over is to look good and think good. I don't know, I want to believe that there are good men out there who are encouraging, supportive, and wouldn't hold your past against you. I want to believe that men have the same complexities that women do and the whole formation of relationships come naturally, not because I'm supposedly the hottest thing since sliced bread. Nope, I'm wrong, men like to HUNT! Don't play hard to get, but make sure you give men the chance to have a little chase, "don't rob him of the pleasure he gets from acting on his primal, MALE instincts." Yes, that's a real quote. Yes, really. Ah, Forleo, here we go again with the double-sided contradictions that only make sense to you.

Oh, and on a different note, I found it cringy that Forleo attributed quotes from Maya Angelou and other civil rights activists to suit her irresistibility "philosophy." How does that look like? "You know, my dear reader, I used to do mistakes in dating, but like the great Maya Angelou said, 'when you know better, do better.' Also, I'm going to make myself look even better by introducing some chapters with quotes by activists to inspire your inner irresistibility because I see them as props." That is such a white feminist liberal thing to do and I applaud her for fulfilling expectations. Bravo!

I initially had this book at 2 stars because there's so minimal value and it was a fast read. However, after thinking deeply about it, I was left so dissatisfied, and honestly, I'm angry. Yikes, my irresistibility just dropped! I'm complaining! GASP! I can't believe The Bitch Switch by Omarosa felt more fun and valuable compared to this disappointment, even though I said there were better books out there. Well, the same thing stands. There are better books about dating in the market, this will not be the last book I will read about this, sorry to say, Mrs. Forleo. I feel that I could go on, but that's enough. What if a man is reading this? Shoot, I missed my chance to be irresistible, I'm so negative and mean, wow.

[Jami · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book is 99% crap. All this "is-ness" and other junk won't help. It'll just keep you in the same old rut because you'll be accepting the bad places you're stuck in.

Get rid of my list? ABSOLUTELY NOT! My grandma Pavlick always said you can NEVER be too picky when it comes to a man. It's better to end up alone then settling for someone who makes you miserable. And I know if a man doesn't meet my requirements he'll make me miserable.

I can see the point of throwing out those stupid "Rules" - but I'm keeping my own personal rules. For instance, I would never consider going out with a man who's too much of a coward to make the first move. (That, and frankly I'm so dense I wouldn't know if a man was interested even if he was dancing naked in front of me screaming "SLEEP WITH ME!")

Anyway, I've seen women who are everything that she says is unattractive - they're mean, needy, jealous - they have faces like horses, hygiene like hippos, and the personality of a rabid wild boar, and they still have men flocking to them. Simply because they're thin. They're society's standard of beauty, therefore they have men all over them like fleas on a stray dog. So obviously that section is utter crap.

Read this book for the laughs. But don't expect it to help you. It won't anymore then "The Rules" will.

[Rossy]

DNF at 40%
I JUST CAN'T

[Cara · Rating 5 out of 5]

Don't be fooled by the title--this is an example of the marketing truth that people will buy what they want, not what they need. If the book had been called "How to Be Your Best Self--i.e., Your YOUest You!" I would have passed it by. But that's what it's really about. Becoming irresistible to men is a likely side-effect of doing that, but more importantly, you'll love yourself and your life. Hell yeah, that's what I'm talking about!

I think this book has pried me out of the last dregs of my depression. At least, I hope so. This could just be a brief bubble of happiness--can't tell from here. But either way, it felt really good to read, and surprisingly, it reminded me of a bunch of helpful spiritual stuff. And it offered the idea that everything can be easy. That is, if you notice something about yourself that you don't like, you don't have to pick at it and write a thousand journal entries about it and try to figure it out and try to retrain yourself to stop doing it. You can just notice it without judgment and let it go. So enticing! I hope that's really true.

The only part of this book that I found myself really resisting is the chapter on appearance. Obviously, if you go around all smelly and grubby and dressed like a slob, that's plenty resistible. She's clearly right about that. But still, I don't like the advice to dress better and wear makeup. Blech!

I think I'll just let that part sit and see if it starts appealing to me later. The thing is, pretty much every guy I've ever been involved with has liked me in my natural state, and I really like that. No way I want to start wearing makeup to catch some guy, and then have to keep wearing makeup because he expects it. Fuck that! But I have been noticing that most other people look nicer than me, as far as what they're wearing and how dressy they are. I've also noticed that I feel a whole lot better about myself when I wear jeans that fit and shoes that I like, and when I have a good haircut and use the good shampoo. Maybe if I got some boots, I could look prettier without my feet being cold, and then everyone would be happy.

Notes:

p. xxi
"In my experience, when you become aware of a behavior that's been getting in your way and simply notice it--without judging yourself for what you discover--that behavior melts away on its own. ..."
p. xxii
"Adopt a gentle, inquisitive approach to self-discovery . Be innocently curious. When you see something about yourself say, 'Oh… interesting' or 'Huh, look at that.' Simply observe what exists without trying to change it."

p. 10
"Everything is as it should be" -- "In short, here's what making is-ness your business means: engage in your life with enthusiasm exactly as it is, regardless of your likes and dislikes, your preferences, ideas, beliefs, and opinions about how things should be or could be. Unconditionally allow things to be as they are. When you deal with what is, or your is-ness, you can then choose who you'd like to be in relationship to that." (p. 12) "For the next 24 hours, make is-ness your total business. No matter what happens…pretend that you wanted it to happen. You can even say 'And this is what I want!' after any circumstance that your mind wants to resist."

p. 25
"Build your irresistible lifestyle muscles by following these three steps:
"1. Practice neutrally observing what you feel. Acknowledge your emotions. Tell the truth. Report your inner reality without adding a layer of drama or victimhood over it.
"2. Allow yourself to really feel it without trying to make the feeling different than it is or attempting to get over it. Experience the physical sensation. Watch what's happening on an emotional level without getting lost in the mechanical thoughts triggered by your mind.
"3. Keep bringing yourself back to this moment and respond (not react) from there."

p. 39
"This is it."--now is all there is. This one (whatever it is) counts.

p. 72
"Who you are being makes all the difference in the world when it comes to authentic irresistibility." (emphasis the author's) Be real! Be yourself, as fully as you can.

p. 112
"Get a life and keep it"--"Try including your romance into your already existing life. Expand your world. Don't shrink to fit his." By continuing to do what makes you awesome, even though you want to be with him 24/7, you stay awesome and the magic stays alive in the long term.

[ياسمين Thabet · Rating 1 out of 5]

طبعا الكتاب تجاري هذا امر لا نختلف عليه

وهو واضح من العنوان والمحتوى ولولا اني احاول ان اقرأ كتب بالانجليزية لما كنت قد اقدمت على قراءة مثل هذا الكتاب


لكن مع الاسف مقارنة بالكتب الاخرى التي قرأتها في نفس المجال فإن هذا الكتاب ضعيف جدا
على مستوى الافكار مكررة بشكل يثير الغيظ

وعلى مستوى الاسلوب الكتاب فعلا غير منظم وغير مترابط وشعرت للحظة ان كاتبته لغتها الانجليزية ليست لغتها الام


كما ان العنوان بعيد عن المحتوى, فالمحتوى باختصار هو النصف الاول تقول للمرأة ان تكون نفسها ولا تحاول ان تزيف اي شئ او تستمع لنصائح الكتب في العلاقات!!
والنصف الاخر تنصحها باشياء لا تفعلها؟! وبنصائح اقل مصداقية وواقعية من جميع الكتب التي قرأتها في مجال العلاقات


كتاب مخيب للآمال

[Leah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was recommended to me by my cousin and I thought the title was so funny that I had to buy it. The book was actually excellent. It's not the type of book that give you cheesy pointers on how to find a man, but it's more about being fabulous and learning to love everything about yourself and your life. She talks about not putting things off in life because you're waiting for the point when you eventually find someone, and it's very inspiring, a get up and go type of missive fir single women. I loved it and it's short enough to re-read when the moment calls for it.

[Nicole C. · Rating 2 out of 5]

I don't want every man to want me, but I have to give her props for a catchy hook. The preface reads like a bad infomercial (are there good infomercials? Probably not). "What if I told you that I could make magic happen in an hour's time? What if I taught you how to harness the magnet that resides inside every woman to pull men out of thin air and towards you RIGHT NOW? I'm going to share the secret of being so irresistible that you will change your life no matter what!" I'm only being slightly over-the-top here, by the way. In case you were wondering, the author has been a Jill-of-all-trades - life coach, fitness personality, relationship expert, stock car driver . . .

So, how do we become irresistible? Ms Forleo says that the first and most important step is being in the present moment. "Make ISness your business." What does this mean? No matter what happens, roll with it as if you wanted it to happen. She gives the reader an "action challenge" (these are sprinkled throughout the book to put the ideas in the chapters into practice in your life) - for 24 hours, no matter what happens, observe the shit going wrong and say, "And this is what I want!" Your printer breaks - that's okay, it's what you want. You're stuck in traffic which makes you late for work - breathe easy, for it's what you want. Okay. What if the traffic that makes you late gets you fired? In this economy especially, that is NOT what you want. If you go to the doctor and you are told you have a tumor, is that okay, too? Don't worry - cancer is what you want! I'm being glib, but it's quite easy to go down that road.

Being in the present moment is not a new concept - Buddhists speak of "is-ness" as well. And I understand that this is not supposed to be a very deep book, but the flippant way the author goes about it bothers me.

Moving on. There are five truths every irresistible woman needs to know.

1. A relationship will not save you. I agree with this. The Hollywood ideal of someone else "completing" you is always shoved in our faces, however, and we grow with this idea. Classic Disney movies - someday, my prince will come and rescue me. And don't we all have this fantasy, anyway, no matter how intellectually unsound we KNOW it is? It's not acting on it that is the lesson to be learned here. You do not need someone else to be complete; you are complete all by yourself.

2. Relationships are spiritual opportunities, not a needs exchange. A relationship with another person is the path to spiritual growth. However, isn't this also a need? Abraham Maslow, an early proponent of humanistic psychology, drafted a Hierarchy of Needs, of which "self-actualization," loosely defined as spiritual growth and change in order to recognize one's full potential, was at the top.

Maslow posited that once the basic, physiological needs have been met, one can advance to the next level. So, in brief, spiritual growth between two people, according to this view, would be a "needs exchange." Therefore, this point contradicts itself.

3. Life is now - this is it.

See earlier, about living in the present.

4. Men are "as-is" merchandise - love 'em or leave 'em, baby!

Fairly self-explanatory; don't try to change men. If this is a fundamental truth, though, why does society always shove exceptions in our faces? It's easy to blame society, I know, but it can have a very big impact on how such things are perceived. Add that many of the general population are easily swayed by such things and voila, preconceived notions! Men are guilty of this, too.

5. If you want guarantees in love, you don't want love.

Yes, I know, nothing lasts forever. People fall out of love all the time. However, without hope or faith that people will keep long-term promises, why even bother? Why get into relationships? Why fall in love and get married? Live in the moment - will that be the new excuse when partners cheat? "Sorry, honey, you know I love you, but I live in the moment, and at that moment, he was there, naked and ready!"

Next up, the seven habits of highly unattractive women. I'll make this brief.

1. Don't be needy.

2. Don't be insecure. (Isn't that kind of the same? Usually needy people are already insecure, so now you have TWO strikes, ladies)!

3. Don't be a "clueless communicator." Be an active listener - no judgement, no filling in the other person's sentences whilst they talk. Really hear what they are saying as if it is the most interesting thing they will ever say.

4. Don't be sloppy or unkempt-looking.

5. Don't be hard and bitter.

6. Don't be catty and critical, especially of other women.

7. Don't be boring in bed.

Yawn. Haven't we heard all of this before? And yet, I can think of several people I know who fit one or more of this "seven unattractive habits" and guess what? GUYS FLOCK TO THEM. Usually because they fit society's image of attractiveness - stick thin and gorgeous. So, whatever, lady.

The next section is broken up into eight chapters, each with the different secret on how to magnetize men. The first one is to ditch your rules. I agree that those Rules books are destructive, and only reinforce charades and games that trick men. However, she also says to get rid of your "perfect man" list.

To this I say, nay.

I suppose it depends on what is on your perfect man list. If it reads, "6'5", blonde hair, green eyes, et cetera," and mainly focuses on physical characteristics, I agree that it should be tossed. However, if you're like me, you have certain personality traits you look for, such as a sense of humor that matches your own; and you have dealbreakers, such as "must be able to live with a cat." She thinks we should get rid of those, too, because you are boxing yourself in, and limiting interesting people you can meet. Have fun! Date all kinds of people! That is good advice . . . if you're still partying it up and in your mid twenties.

I'm single in my early thirties; I have no patience for random dates. If I need a list to help me pare down idiots who are still living the bachelor lifestyle, so be it.

I agree that you should have your own life and interests, and make sure you keep those interests and hobbies active whilst you are in a relationship. Sadly, I have to admit I have not always followed this advice in my own life and it's something that I need to change.

However, she has another glib chapter about parents not screwing you up, because it's probably your own perception. Of course, she backpedals and says that some people really DO have major abuse and such in their lives, but hey, so did Oprah, and she overcame it; why can't you?

I finished the book, but it just gets more ridiculous from there. I think it's because the book cannot decide what it wants to be. It has a light, humorous tone, but you're not going to find anything earth-shattering here, although she certainly paints it that way.


[Also posted at my blog, Books Without Pity.]

[Fabi · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a really small book. I finished in two days, it had a really entertaining writing and some concepts I agree with such as a higher force(god, the universe, or whatever you decide to call it), while at the same time giving YOU the control to manage your life and not letting you take the victim position which I always find so enfuriating.

It has good advices, still however, I think it has a very simplistic aproach to life and more general problems that can need professional help, like if you had any child trauma or are coming of a difficult situation. Thats just my opinion tho. Had a nice time with the book and I like that it doesn't invite any game playing with guys, cause who has any time for that, and frankly I find that concept infuriatingly antifeministic.

[Nats · Rating 2 out of 5]

Since I couldn't think of anything worse than having every man want me, I'm not entirely sure why I read this book. There were some interesting nuggets in there (hence two-stars rather than one), but for the time and effort, I'd rather read anything recommended by the Entheos guys.

[Sultan · Rating 1 out of 5]

I read it because I liked some of youtube videos by her. I thought she will share her ideas about business, working, achivement and being emotionally not dependent on men, but instead she advised not to do such and such things to be likable by men. 1 star is because this book made me evaluate one more time that I can choose to be myself and not to be likable by men or others. Not recommended.

[Amy · Rating 2 out of 5]

I read a little over half this book and then gave up. It really was more of the same old same old (Don't argue with men, don't have too much of an opinion, lose weight...). I am not even sure why I picked this up except that maybe I thought it would be a fun read. It really isn't worth the effort I put into reading it.

[My Dear Self · Rating 1 out of 5]

Judgmental, uniformative, offensive, sexist.
Very useful and practical advice like "just deal with it", "don't think about it", "forget about your past", "don't be anxious","just don't think about your trauma, you whiny weak annoying woman".

[Jennifer · Rating 1 out of 5]

The author spent more time praising the reader for taking the time to purchase the book than to offer any real advice. The best part of this book is the title.

[Jaime · Rating 5 out of 5]

Despite the name of this book, I really liked it! Insightful information about making yourself happy, being in the moment and relaxing without expectations of how life should be.

[nananatte · Rating 4 out of 5]

เห็นชื่อเรื่องน่ากลัวมาก แต่ซื้อมาอ่านเพราะคุณ Marie Forleo แนะนำว่ามันเป็น spiritual guide for relationship ซึ่งเราก็งงว่ามันเป็นไงหว่า... แต่เราเป็นแฟนคลับคุณมารีอยู่แล้ว ก็เลยลองซื้อมาอ่านดูก่อนหนังสือเล่มใหม่เธอจะออกค่ะ สนุกดีล่ะ ไม่เคยมองความสัมพันธ์ในแง่นี้มาก่อน

และก็จริงอย่างคุณมารีบอก ชื่อเรื่องมันฟังดูเว่อร์ไปงั้นเอง หนังสือเล่มนี้ไม่ได้สอนเทคนิคจีบผู้ชาย แต่สอนวิธีรักตัวเองมากๆ จนออร่าเปล่งประกายออกมาจากตัวจนผู้ชายอดไม่ได้ต้องมาสนใจค่ะ สนุกดีนะ น่ารักแบบตลกๆ แต่ได้น้ำได้เนื้อดีค่ะ :-)

405/5.0

[Kat Robey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Attention grabbing title to focus on authenticity

I’ve had this book for a while and never made it a priority to read. I’m glad I finally did! The core of being present and tending to your own stories and self worth are so valuable and totally accessible in Marie’s concise and direct book. I know many people who are in the way of their own irresistible life-I’ll be recommending this book as another way to wake up that irresistibility and live more fully and with more intentional engagement.

[Mai · Rating 4 out of 5]

Make Every Man Want You ,the title attracted me at first and i expected this book to be all about relationships' rules and techniques that you have to follow to make every man want you, in other words a game of manipulation ,but this book encourages you to break all the rules and just to be yourself ,to hell with the rules .it seems interesting that it's all about you ,not him that you have to take care of yourself and get a life and be independent first to make yourself irresistible to any man you meet,it's not about focusing on the other person but on yourself instead. in a nutshell ,the book gives you a guideline of how first to make yourself irresistible and thus attract anyone you like and second knowing what doesn't work and what repels men like desperation ,neediness and insecurity.nonetheless,every relationship is a game that has rules with dos and don'ts but the most important rule that i liked that a relationship isn't gonna save you or complete you .you are complete already.
I recommend every girl to read this book it's one of the best relationship books I've ever read.

[Amr]

The book is a very simplified version for "the power of now" , the title was chosen just to attract readers. I liked some of the "5 truths" like: relationship will NOT save you; there is no grantee in love or life; and men are as-is merchandise.

While for the 7 habits of highly unattractive women I agree with: hardened and bitter attitude; and chatty and critical. These two habits are full of destructive negative vibes.

I also liked some of the 8 secrets for "magnetizing" men, e.g. when it is Men vs. Women everybody loses, also, your parents didn't screw you up.

More over, I liked these quotes:
"When in doubt, wait it out ! "
" For the peace of mind, resign as the general manager of the universe"
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
"The grass is always greener where you water it!"

That said, it is not that good read!

[Ngoclinhdnl · Rating 2 out of 5]

Quyển sách này như một quyển truyện đọc vui để hiểu thêm về cách đối xử với những người khác. Đọc thực sự hơi thất vọng vì sách đưa ra những lời khuyên khá chung chung mà mình vẫn biết. Ví dụ như đừng nên than phiền nhiều quá vì như thế bạn sẽ chẳng có thời gian đi giao lưu với những người mới. Một điều nữa quyển sách cũng rất nhấn mạnh đó là luôn sống trong hiện tại. Mình công nhận là điều này khá quen thuộc, rất nhiều sách đã đề cập đến vấn đề này nên mình thấy quyển này không đưa ra được nhiều điều mới lạ. Tuy là thế, quyển sách vẫn như một lời nhắc nhở mình rằng, lạc quan yêu đời, sống trong hiện tại chính là biện pháp chính để mình yêu cuộc sống hơn và mọi người cũng bị thu hút vào sự tự tin của mình hơn.

[Irene Palfy · Rating 2 out of 5]

Now - this was.. an experience.. It showed me that there are several very sad women out there - and I am feeling very sorry for them.. I hope for those who need a book like this to get hold of it and read it and get help from it.. Me it showed how happy I already am.. Which is actually a nice effect..

So: no new ideas - but several funny things and antagonisms..:

There're no rules - but don't do this.. ... Be yourself - but not too much..

...

Really - I had fun.. :") and I love the cover..

But: if you need advice in that department.. maybe an sub for Cosmo or another magazine might more of help - and will have more nice pics.. ;")

[Ebony · Rating 1 out of 5]

I picked up Make Every Man Want You because I started watching Marie TV, and I really like Forleo’s engery. The book was a disappointment though. I don’t think there was a nuanced idea in it. She just advises women to be their best selves and live in the moment. All the advice about taking care of yourself and not being a desperate nag seemed pretty basic to me. Or maybe I’m just not the audience. The book also didn’t seem to have her energy on the page the way it comes across on the screen. I also wonder about the McGraw Hill contract. It just doesn’t seem like the type of book they’d want to sell. Oh well, at least she can now say she’s an author and entrepreneur.

[Wady · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good for a 16-ish young girl in search of herself.

Would've expected something a lot more challenging from Marie, though. I would have answered questions like:
- What does it mean to be a woman in today's society and do you really need to fit that shape?
- How am I going to find the woman in me and how is she different from the person in me?!
- How is my relationship going to help me define my woman-identity?
- Nonconformist relationships - how do gender roles fit into those?
- Etc.

Loved the attitude pep talk and the call to action at the end of each chapter :).

[Josie · Rating 1 out of 5]

Oh man, I love Marie Forleo so much. I've followed her videos for YEARS and adore her writing and speaking style. I'm participating in her online workshop right now, and her work has CHANGED MY LIFE.

But, this book is just not for me. I feel like maybe this was a fledgling project for her? Her writing now is so much stronger than this. Or maybe I'm just not the audience since I'm married and already have a meditation practice. What ever the case, this just wasn't for me. But. I still adore her and the work she does.

[Helena Altet · Rating 5 out of 5]

It's one of my favorite books, it's the second time I've read it and I think I will re-read again. It's so honest and clear about changing your mind in relationships with others and with yourself to become irresistible.

If you wanna know more about what I think you can go to my blog: https://helenaaltet.com/2021/02/05/ma...

[Isabel Salas · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was ok to read, I think many girls should read this book, it's not a dating guide, don't pay that much attention to the title, it's more a women empowerment book, reminding you to love yourself and reminding u as well how awesome u are, being genuine and confident is the new sexy

[Charissa Modeste · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great advice. More about cleaning up negative beliefs that sabotage relationships (not just romantic ones) and just generally improving your outlook and motivations with people. Nice, quick read.

[Heba · Rating 2 out of 5]

i have found it good and beneficial for some extents
but somehow i felt as if it is based on the authers own ideas and life experiences, that you are not confident that every idea will work with you
in brief; in my point of view: this is not the book that will shift your life if you seek that

[Heidi Vu · Rating 3 out of 5]

I just read this book after finishing Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. It's the complete opposite of this book. I feel like there were some too
general information. But, there were some great insight too such as that relationships are spiritual opportunity for personal development.

[Sara · Rating 3 out of 5]

Read at the library when i was a teen and thought it was great. As an adult just purchased it and thought it was too basic and didn't give good advice. Her youtube series gives much better info and advice.