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The Problem is YOU: How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior
Este libro no le ayudará con el comportamiento derrotista. Es más sencillo pasarse la vida postergando las cosas, saboteando las relaciones, sin terminar las tareas, temiendo al fracaso y manteniendo otros malos hábitos, de lo que es cambiar. Simplemente siga siendo de la forma que es. Esta es la manera en que la voz del comportamiento derrotista trabaja en usted. Trabaja en contra de sus metas e intereses de forma que usted nunca obtiene lo que quiere. Se pierden oportunidades, sus hábitos continúan, sus relaciones no florecen y su vida se llena de arrepentimiento. Dentro de El Problema es Cómo Dejar de Estorbar Su Propio Camino y Conquistar el Comportamiento Derrotista revelamos exactamente cuáles son estos comportamientos y los pasos para conquistar todos y cada uno de ellos. ¿El resultado? Una actitud positiva, logrando lo que quiere y obteniendo más de la vida. Lea este libro hoy y libérese de todos los hábitos que le están impidiendo vivir la vida que realmente se merece.
74 pages, Unknown Binding
First published June 1, 2012
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February 24, 2013
This book...probably turned my life around, in a good way. I was being told by my husband that i was such a negative person. And i would deny it, and say its just been a bad week, and continue to try and explain myself but always getting stuck and breaking down because i honestly didn't know what was my problem. I just happen to run over this title...its pretty blunt, and i like blunt. And it tollllld me. Fact is, that i was pretty damn nagtive, it kinda slapped me in the face when this whole book described everything i ever done or ever thought of about myself. It didnt just shoot me down, it really actually helped me by telling me WHY, i'm this way, How i can fix it, What makes me do it, And What other people see it as. It was almost like seeing myself from another persons eyes for the first time like i always kinda wanted to be able to do. Well there's a wish come true right here. Read this, if you feel like crap all the time.
February 11, 2023
The Problem is YOU: How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior by John Burke
1h 14m narrated by Jason McCoy, 74 pages
Genre: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Productivity
Featuring: Self-Sabotage, Fear, Negative Thinking, 7 Steps to Self-Defeat, Failure, Behaviors and Characteristics, Expectations, Solutions, Undisciplined Enthusiasm, Taking on the Success and Failures of Others
Rating as a movie: PG
Quotes: "Expectations are meant to be a guideline. When things don't happen as we thought they would, we're supposed to take note of that and move on to a different way of reaching the goal. In a healthy world, we make adjustments because things did not happen. We simply have to change our strategy. If you drank one glass of water and it failed to quench your thirst, you might realize you were too thirsty for one glass, and logically, you would end up taking an extra glass. While the best attitude should be, "Let's try and see," self-sabotage stagnates by saying, "It should have been like I expected," and then you become stuck. A person who is self-sabotaging stops focusing on what they intended to achieve and ends up feeling bitter or angry because things did happen as they expected."
My rating: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
My thoughts: I was expecting to get some good information from this book, I was not expecting an entire section on why I don't finish projects and worry about the success of others. This book is very good and to the point. I love that it names the behavior, gives examples, and then provides solutions at every step to change the behavior. I wonder if Tyrese Gibson read this book since he was How to Get Out of Your Own Way, but they were published the same year. I will be rereading this book next week.
Recommend to others?: Yes. I highly recommend this book. I'm going to send a copy to my kids, - I'm working on it.
1h 14m narrated by Jason McCoy, 74 pages
Genre: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, Productivity
Featuring: Self-Sabotage, Fear, Negative Thinking, 7 Steps to Self-Defeat, Failure, Behaviors and Characteristics, Expectations, Solutions, Undisciplined Enthusiasm, Taking on the Success and Failures of Others
Rating as a movie: PG
Quotes: "Expectations are meant to be a guideline. When things don't happen as we thought they would, we're supposed to take note of that and move on to a different way of reaching the goal. In a healthy world, we make adjustments because things did not happen. We simply have to change our strategy. If you drank one glass of water and it failed to quench your thirst, you might realize you were too thirsty for one glass, and logically, you would end up taking an extra glass. While the best attitude should be, "Let's try and see," self-sabotage stagnates by saying, "It should have been like I expected," and then you become stuck. A person who is self-sabotaging stops focusing on what they intended to achieve and ends up feeling bitter or angry because things did happen as they expected."
My rating: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
My thoughts: I was expecting to get some good information from this book, I was not expecting an entire section on why I don't finish projects and worry about the success of others. This book is very good and to the point. I love that it names the behavior, gives examples, and then provides solutions at every step to change the behavior. I wonder if Tyrese Gibson read this book since he was How to Get Out of Your Own Way, but they were published the same year. I will be rereading this book next week.
Recommend to others?: Yes. I highly recommend this book. I'm going to send a copy to my kids, - I'm working on it.
September 25, 2019
This is a short but good quick reference guide for many of the things we do to make our lives unhappy. It touches on fixed mindset, victim mentality, co-dependency, self-sabatoge, addiction and more. It would be helpful for anyone unfamiliar with many of these concepts. It would probably be helpful to an individual to help you identify some areas where you falter that you could then explore more. The main premise--that the problem and the power lies within each individual is essential and I like the focus the book puts on that idea.
December 27, 2012
The Problem is YOU: How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Conquer Self-Defeating Behavior
This is a very handy and practical book. And surely I have learnt a lot. You know there are some things you know in your subconscious and which you find difficult to give a voice to because you think it is UNIQUELY YOU – when somebody else speaks about it – it sort of ‘jolts’ you out and if you really want, creates a way out or PIN YOU DOWN AND POINT OUT THE WAY! This is what I encountered in reading the book. The author also has endeavored to give clear examples to buttress the points so that the reader is not at a loss of what he is trying to communicate. That is definitely good.
But the writing style is like one giving a speech. And I had to ask myself if it was a transliteration of a spoken lecture. There is the manner of writing a book and also making of speech – it therefore lend the style a redundant nature, but the amount of redundancy built into the text is done, I think, so that valuable information will not be missed. I think the author should note this, incorporate and look into this factor in a further edition, to chap off and avoid unnecessary repetition that almost gives one the idea as if you are writing a term paper work.
Nonetheless, the objective of the book is clear and as I earlier said is practical and I recommend it to anyone who wants to search DEEP into situations you may be facing. Personally, I have learnt a thing or two.
The author elaborates on a number of issues but importantly as one reads along, he is made to confront some people in society who think they are to suffer for their inability to help their loved ones – or who ‘think’ that the onus of a deliverer falls on them and so punishes themselves as being failures and are gutted with feelings of guilt when they finds out their inadequacy to solve the ‘many’ said problems of others, will clearly see from another perspective and learn to appraise situations without taking the blame for it upon himself.
And one big lesson for me here is when it tells the reader that he must remember that disappointment and setbacks are part of life, and when you have dealt with them and not push them off as not existing, you will come out stronger and feeling better. In such a way, one will deal with fear of the unknown which even helps to keep you from living life in an adventurous frame of life instead of just living life as it comes to you.
This is a very handy and practical book. And surely I have learnt a lot. You know there are some things you know in your subconscious and which you find difficult to give a voice to because you think it is UNIQUELY YOU – when somebody else speaks about it – it sort of ‘jolts’ you out and if you really want, creates a way out or PIN YOU DOWN AND POINT OUT THE WAY! This is what I encountered in reading the book. The author also has endeavored to give clear examples to buttress the points so that the reader is not at a loss of what he is trying to communicate. That is definitely good.
But the writing style is like one giving a speech. And I had to ask myself if it was a transliteration of a spoken lecture. There is the manner of writing a book and also making of speech – it therefore lend the style a redundant nature, but the amount of redundancy built into the text is done, I think, so that valuable information will not be missed. I think the author should note this, incorporate and look into this factor in a further edition, to chap off and avoid unnecessary repetition that almost gives one the idea as if you are writing a term paper work.
Nonetheless, the objective of the book is clear and as I earlier said is practical and I recommend it to anyone who wants to search DEEP into situations you may be facing. Personally, I have learnt a thing or two.
The author elaborates on a number of issues but importantly as one reads along, he is made to confront some people in society who think they are to suffer for their inability to help their loved ones – or who ‘think’ that the onus of a deliverer falls on them and so punishes themselves as being failures and are gutted with feelings of guilt when they finds out their inadequacy to solve the ‘many’ said problems of others, will clearly see from another perspective and learn to appraise situations without taking the blame for it upon himself.
And one big lesson for me here is when it tells the reader that he must remember that disappointment and setbacks are part of life, and when you have dealt with them and not push them off as not existing, you will come out stronger and feeling better. In such a way, one will deal with fear of the unknown which even helps to keep you from living life in an adventurous frame of life instead of just living life as it comes to you.
November 9, 2012
Let’s just face it, the truth hurts sometimes. Sometimes we fail and like to blame it on others, when we truly know it is our own fault. This book helps us overcome our self-defeating behavior. Have you ever felt that no matter what you did, nothing ever happens the way it was supposed to? How about every time you try to make a bad situation better, only to make it worse? Maybe you are not, but are you like me, where you try to make sure that everyone is happy? You do everything you can to make sure you please them because you don’t like to say no. This is also self-defeating behavior. There are so many obstacles this book will help you overcome. If you are fighting with self-defeating behavior, I encourage you to please pick this book up and give it a try. You will find something in this book to help you. You deserve a happier, healthier life and relationship.
September 12, 2020
Straight to the point advice on how to be better.
November 17, 2019
Short, blunt, and to the point insight about what is holding us back from reaching our full potential and how to break free from those self-constructed chains.
This book doesn't belabor each point. So, if you're the type who wants an elaborate, touchy-feely story for everything, there are self-help books aplenty for you out there.
This book is for someone who needs but also wants a swift kick and push out the door to reclaim themselves.
In other words, its reader is ready to hear advice like, "X are your bad habits, accept responsibility, take action to break them, and continuously reevaluate yourself." (paraphrase)
Because it is so short, The Problem Is You is great for a continual refresher/reminder that we can and should take control of our lives.
This book doesn't belabor each point. So, if you're the type who wants an elaborate, touchy-feely story for everything, there are self-help books aplenty for you out there.
This book is for someone who needs but also wants a swift kick and push out the door to reclaim themselves.
In other words, its reader is ready to hear advice like, "X are your bad habits, accept responsibility, take action to break them, and continuously reevaluate yourself." (paraphrase)
Because it is so short, The Problem Is You is great for a continual refresher/reminder that we can and should take control of our lives.
April 28, 2020
Nothing stood out to me as anything I hadn't already heard and I didn't feel motivated to actually change anything during/after reading. But it's always good to read a self-help book to do some introspective thinking and life-evaluating.
October 26, 2019
Pro: incredibly short
Con: said nothing that wasn’t cliche and provided no fresh perspectives
Con: said nothing that wasn’t cliche and provided no fresh perspectives
August 26, 2019
Short/Quick read mostly about the need to be able to accurate self assessment (you may be getting in your own way), knowing what you can control vs. can't, knowing when/what portion is your fault -> focus on doing something toward goal instead of 'beating yourself up'.
You would be as well served by most good leadership books which will cover this aspect from a different angle plus more topics.
You would be as well served by most good leadership books which will cover this aspect from a different angle plus more topics.
April 1, 2023
I have a long list of books I am trying to churn through this year. This was one someone recommended probably on a youtube channel. The book is okay it is not great but it is not terrible. The advice is solid. The book is worth reading or listening too to keep you motivated forward, but it does not get the machine going.
October 2, 2019
A solid pep talk that lasted about an hour on audiobook. I didn't discover anything earth-shattering but the author made some interesting points that made me think. I wish there had been more actionable items, but I did appreciate the "real life examples" scattered throughout.
October 31, 2019
So basic in self-defeating behavior that it’s almost not worth listening to. If you don’t know anything about the subject this is a great place to start. Otherwise look for more in depth explanations for more growth.
January 2, 2020
Never before have I read a self-help book so devoid of empathy, so lacking in depth and relatability. Boils down to hey, you are doing this wrong. It isn’t benefiting you, so decide to stop and stop. The end. I so don’t understand the positive reviews.
July 1, 2020
An excellent book, for anyone who is going through self- defeating behavior . I will definitely try the tips, John suggests. I've been wanting to improve my life for awhile.
If you've read "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life" by Daniel G. Amen, I highly recommend reading this book !
If you've read "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life" by Daniel G. Amen, I highly recommend reading this book !
August 6, 2019
A quick but good read, it helped me recognize some self defeating believes I have and it was surprising to learn how ingrained those believes are.
October 15, 2019
I like a book that validates things for me while still throwing n an aha moment. This book did just that and in a quick read!
November 18, 2019
Good advice
January 2, 2020
Very good if your willing to be honest with yourself
February 11, 2020
Short but good
March 14, 2020
This was a great little pep talk. Only runs an hour and has a lot of positive messages.
April 13, 2020
A quick reminder for me to stop being a victim and I am the one with the power for my happiness.
April 29, 2020
This quick little read stood up and slapped me in the face.
May 3, 2020
It was a good read.
May 12, 2020
Awesome book! Self sabotage is real and this book helps avoiding it in every way. Short but wise!
May 14, 2020
A very short and to the point book. It reads as if conversing with a trusted friend. The psychology of the procrastinators mind is insightful.
May 28, 2020
Good ideas but it seems that topics are not really covered in depth
November 9, 2021
Dreadful. Men care about careers in the same way women care about breakups? Is this the 50’s?
January 22, 2022
no me gusto, quizás la forma de decir las cosas, el ser tan repetitivo. y la poca cantidad de información que aporta.
April 28, 2023
A good message
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