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Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness
On the way to finding and creating vibrant, successful relationships, too many of us end up tangled in the same old patterns, tripped up by relationship habits that get in our way whether we “know better” or not.
In Rewire Your Brain for Love, neuropsychologist and psychotherapist Marsha Lucas, PhD, helps you untangle those relationship snarls, bringing together the latest neuroscience with a practice consistently heralded by top academic institutions for its effectiveness in changing the the practice of mindfulness meditation.
Dr. Lucas’s clear, unintimidating, often laugh-out-loud style invites you to explore how the brain functions in relationships, helping you understand how your current relationship wiring developed and showing you how you can rewire your relationship brain through mindfulness meditation.
A down-to-earth therapist and self-described neuroscience geek, Dr. Lucas has written a chapter-by-chapter guide with compassion, wisdom, and humor. In Rewire Your Brain for Love , she takes you on a journey through seven high-voltage relationship benefits—everything from keeping your fear from running the show to cultivating healthy, balanced empathy—and offers specific mindfulness practices to help bring those benefits into your life.
With a few minutes of practice a day, you can change the way you interact with everyone around you . . . especially those closest to you. You can transform your brain from an enemy to an ally in all matters of the heart, creating more loving communication, building emotional resilience, and reducing overreactivity—not to mention enjoying better sex.
You don’t have to become a monk, or a vegetarian, or spend hours contemplating your navel—you just need to update the relationship wiring of your brain. The simple practice of mindfulness can help get you there, with Dr. Lucas showing you how.
In Rewire Your Brain for Love, neuropsychologist and psychotherapist Marsha Lucas, PhD, helps you untangle those relationship snarls, bringing together the latest neuroscience with a practice consistently heralded by top academic institutions for its effectiveness in changing the the practice of mindfulness meditation.
Dr. Lucas’s clear, unintimidating, often laugh-out-loud style invites you to explore how the brain functions in relationships, helping you understand how your current relationship wiring developed and showing you how you can rewire your relationship brain through mindfulness meditation.
A down-to-earth therapist and self-described neuroscience geek, Dr. Lucas has written a chapter-by-chapter guide with compassion, wisdom, and humor. In Rewire Your Brain for Love , she takes you on a journey through seven high-voltage relationship benefits—everything from keeping your fear from running the show to cultivating healthy, balanced empathy—and offers specific mindfulness practices to help bring those benefits into your life.
With a few minutes of practice a day, you can change the way you interact with everyone around you . . . especially those closest to you. You can transform your brain from an enemy to an ally in all matters of the heart, creating more loving communication, building emotional resilience, and reducing overreactivity—not to mention enjoying better sex.
You don’t have to become a monk, or a vegetarian, or spend hours contemplating your navel—you just need to update the relationship wiring of your brain. The simple practice of mindfulness can help get you there, with Dr. Lucas showing you how.
230 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2012
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About the author
Marsha Lucas
3 books73 followersMarsha Lucas, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and neuropsychologist, and has been practicing psychotherapy and studying the brain-behavior relationship for more than twenty years. Prior to entering private practice, she was a neuropsychologist on the faculty at the Emory University School of Medicine.
She has a special interest in the practice of mindfulness, especially in how it stimulates the brain to grow new, more integrated circuits ~ which may be at the heart of well-being, including emotional balance and resilience, enhanced relationships and friendships, and greater empathy and connectedness.
Dr. Lucas currently practices in Washington, DC. She is the author of “Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness”.
To learn more about Dr. Lucas and her work, please visit her website at https://MarshaLucasPhD.com.
She has a special interest in the practice of mindfulness, especially in how it stimulates the brain to grow new, more integrated circuits ~ which may be at the heart of well-being, including emotional balance and resilience, enhanced relationships and friendships, and greater empathy and connectedness.
Dr. Lucas currently practices in Washington, DC. She is the author of “Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness”.
To learn more about Dr. Lucas and her work, please visit her website at https://MarshaLucasPhD.com.
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March 19, 2018
I just finished Marsha Lucas' "Rewire Your Brain for Love" and already it is a hit as far as I am concerned. For humans, the 'final frontier' - assuming there is such a thing - must be our consciousness. Some of the most exciting science being done today is in the field of consciousness research. In "Rewire Your Brain" Marsha Lucas brings together the findings of leading edge research into the relationship between mind and brain and how 'mindfulness' practices can literally re-wire neuro-circuits in our brains, establishing new connections that have a direct and often dramatic effect on people's mental, emotional and physical lives.
Beginning with Candice Pert's work on psychoneuroimmunology in the late '70s and early '80s, the impetus to unravel the mystery of consciousness has steadily increased. Science is primarily pragmatic; it is based on physical observation, logical extrapolation from the data and testing under various conditions. Consequently, much of 'brain science' is necessarily based on neurochemistry, brain anatomy and physiology, and observable phenomena tracked with fMRI and PET scans as well as the more basic EEG.
Previous generations of theorists assumed that the human brain was fully formed by the time physical growth was complete and thereafter a sort of entropy took over causing more and more brain cells to 'die' as we age. A certain amount of cell loss does happen but it is not the whole story. Perhaps the most shocking and significant advance in 'brain science' is evidence that new thoughts create new neural pathways and connections, awakening cells that had been in a semi-dormant state. This evidence of continuing cell adaptation in the brain points to the necessity to better understand the neuro-chemistry of thought.
The practical application of this research comes from the ancient Eastern practice of 'mindfulness', a way of focusing attention for optimal co-ordination of mental and physical activity. Mindfulness is both an attitude and a practice that causes the human brain to synchronise its activity in a way that is unique, observable, and repeatable. At last, science can document what lifelong meditators have known for millennia: the mind can be tamed, aimed and reclaimed from the chaos of mental 'noise' that constitutes much of human mental life. Dr. Lucas' book is well worth reading both for its practical applications in our lives and for the ongoing process of understanding human consciousness. This one's a keeper.
Beginning with Candice Pert's work on psychoneuroimmunology in the late '70s and early '80s, the impetus to unravel the mystery of consciousness has steadily increased. Science is primarily pragmatic; it is based on physical observation, logical extrapolation from the data and testing under various conditions. Consequently, much of 'brain science' is necessarily based on neurochemistry, brain anatomy and physiology, and observable phenomena tracked with fMRI and PET scans as well as the more basic EEG.
Previous generations of theorists assumed that the human brain was fully formed by the time physical growth was complete and thereafter a sort of entropy took over causing more and more brain cells to 'die' as we age. A certain amount of cell loss does happen but it is not the whole story. Perhaps the most shocking and significant advance in 'brain science' is evidence that new thoughts create new neural pathways and connections, awakening cells that had been in a semi-dormant state. This evidence of continuing cell adaptation in the brain points to the necessity to better understand the neuro-chemistry of thought.
The practical application of this research comes from the ancient Eastern practice of 'mindfulness', a way of focusing attention for optimal co-ordination of mental and physical activity. Mindfulness is both an attitude and a practice that causes the human brain to synchronise its activity in a way that is unique, observable, and repeatable. At last, science can document what lifelong meditators have known for millennia: the mind can be tamed, aimed and reclaimed from the chaos of mental 'noise' that constitutes much of human mental life. Dr. Lucas' book is well worth reading both for its practical applications in our lives and for the ongoing process of understanding human consciousness. This one's a keeper.
May 2, 2015
Update:
I've been meditating daily for 6 months as a direct result of this book. Meditation is by far the most important daily constant in my life.
At the end of September I went on a 10-day silent meditation retreat to strengthen my meditation -- it's "free" (donation based) and you can sign up for a course on http://www.dhamma.org .. or if you Google around you might find some groups sits in your area who practice meditation.
update 2:
it's been nearly 2 years and meditation has continued to be a part of my life. perhaps it'll change your life just as much as it has changed mine.
Now back to my review...
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I haven't finished reading it yet but I'm ready to give it 5 stars anyway. (update: Oh and I have finished it now!)
Here's how I see the basic goals and structure of the book:
1. You will benefit from meditating for 20 minutes a day...but, wait, hold on, did I just scare you away by saying that!... Let me tell you why it's so important.
2. Meditation increases your oxytocin, something something insular brain getting more brain activity in that tiny part of your brain something something is really important to managing your stress levels and all kinds of things something something.
3. Let's talk even more about the brain and overload you with information
4. Convinced? You better be because now you're going to learn to meditate. No spiritual mumbo jumbo too.
5. If you can't meditate for 20 mins, start small then work up to it. 20 mins is your goal. Don't freak out. Take it easy man (or woman)!
6. Okay, finally, let's meditate. Hey that wasn't so bad. Let's do it again. and again.. and again :-)
Once you get to learn how and why to do the meditation, it provides simple exercises to follow/do while you're meditating. Hey did you feel that? You're an enlightened being and all you had to do was read this book ;-), blamo 5 stars!
There was a period of time in my life where I did yoga every day for 6 weeks. Was it amazing? Yes! But.. my shoulder didn't like it so I stopped. The craving and feeling my brain, body and soul felt afterward was a similar calm that meditation gives me. This book has reawakened my ability and awareness to return to the mindful state that yoga provided but with less rigor and time. The manageable exercises (really really important) in the books are given in thoughtful doses to inch you along in deflating your brain's chaos and wrapping it in a trusty warm blanket.
Thank you dear author! This book is what I've been looking for.
Here's a recommendation for a book to read after reading this one that gives you some food for thought on journeying through meditation:
Insight Meditation: A Psychology of Freedom by Joseph Goldstein.
While you don't need to be a Buddhist to read that book it's going to provide at least some clarity on the ideas/challenges you may encounter along the way. Rewire Your Brain For Love has been a great and supportive platform to *do* meditation with some crazy awesome exercises. Going above and beyond what meditation is will necessitate further exploration (she does have some suggestions in the back of her that I haven't explored yet).
I've been meditating daily for 6 months as a direct result of this book. Meditation is by far the most important daily constant in my life.
At the end of September I went on a 10-day silent meditation retreat to strengthen my meditation -- it's "free" (donation based) and you can sign up for a course on http://www.dhamma.org .. or if you Google around you might find some groups sits in your area who practice meditation.
update 2:
it's been nearly 2 years and meditation has continued to be a part of my life. perhaps it'll change your life just as much as it has changed mine.
Now back to my review...
------------
I haven't finished reading it yet but I'm ready to give it 5 stars anyway. (update: Oh and I have finished it now!)
Here's how I see the basic goals and structure of the book:
1. You will benefit from meditating for 20 minutes a day...but, wait, hold on, did I just scare you away by saying that!... Let me tell you why it's so important.
2. Meditation increases your oxytocin, something something insular brain getting more brain activity in that tiny part of your brain something something is really important to managing your stress levels and all kinds of things something something.
3. Let's talk even more about the brain and overload you with information
4. Convinced? You better be because now you're going to learn to meditate. No spiritual mumbo jumbo too.
5. If you can't meditate for 20 mins, start small then work up to it. 20 mins is your goal. Don't freak out. Take it easy man (or woman)!
6. Okay, finally, let's meditate. Hey that wasn't so bad. Let's do it again. and again.. and again :-)
Once you get to learn how and why to do the meditation, it provides simple exercises to follow/do while you're meditating. Hey did you feel that? You're an enlightened being and all you had to do was read this book ;-), blamo 5 stars!
There was a period of time in my life where I did yoga every day for 6 weeks. Was it amazing? Yes! But.. my shoulder didn't like it so I stopped. The craving and feeling my brain, body and soul felt afterward was a similar calm that meditation gives me. This book has reawakened my ability and awareness to return to the mindful state that yoga provided but with less rigor and time. The manageable exercises (really really important) in the books are given in thoughtful doses to inch you along in deflating your brain's chaos and wrapping it in a trusty warm blanket.
Thank you dear author! This book is what I've been looking for.
Here's a recommendation for a book to read after reading this one that gives you some food for thought on journeying through meditation:
Insight Meditation: A Psychology of Freedom by Joseph Goldstein.
While you don't need to be a Buddhist to read that book it's going to provide at least some clarity on the ideas/challenges you may encounter along the way. Rewire Your Brain For Love has been a great and supportive platform to *do* meditation with some crazy awesome exercises. Going above and beyond what meditation is will necessitate further exploration (she does have some suggestions in the back of her that I haven't explored yet).
February 26, 2012
Esteemed and experienced psychotherapist and neuroscientist, Dr. Marcia Lucas, has written a beautiful, funny, evidence-based and down-to-Earth book for individuals and relationships that has the potential to change your life (it certainly has changed mine already in so many wonderful ways) and those of your families. Starting slowly and building, from the outside inward, Dr. Lucas explains complicated terms and structures and gives you understanding about your primary attachments and how to manage them, so they do not manage you.
Going to a new level in understanding thoughts and feelings, initial chapters gently explain and develop core ideas about primary brain “wiring.” Dr. Lucas also goes on to develop understanding of the small, internal structures of the limbic brain that connect many primitive, survival pathways with slower and more human emotional and cognitive pathways. Yes, this marvelous work is also gender balanced and does not demonize or pathogolize feelings or relationships in any way (Ground-breaking!)
But she does not stop at anatomy and physiology. Middle chapters then weave and shape information into a way to achieve a new level of mind integration (right with left, back to front and top with bottom) that could potentially lead to lasting health and happiness. If you long to understand your way of being in relationships, marvel or work with families, or just want to learn about different ways to achieve some semblance of balance in life - this book is for you. Many chapters are closed by a simple meditation exercise (generally less than two minutes) that intensifies the message.
Final chapters move outward from the individual level, to explain ways to be connected but differentiated in even the closest of relationships. Core concepts are then solidified with excellent and touching real-life patient, couple and family examples. I am still enjoying the transformation this work has caused in my life. I predict that this book will be a best seller. Happy rewiring.
Going to a new level in understanding thoughts and feelings, initial chapters gently explain and develop core ideas about primary brain “wiring.” Dr. Lucas also goes on to develop understanding of the small, internal structures of the limbic brain that connect many primitive, survival pathways with slower and more human emotional and cognitive pathways. Yes, this marvelous work is also gender balanced and does not demonize or pathogolize feelings or relationships in any way (Ground-breaking!)
But she does not stop at anatomy and physiology. Middle chapters then weave and shape information into a way to achieve a new level of mind integration (right with left, back to front and top with bottom) that could potentially lead to lasting health and happiness. If you long to understand your way of being in relationships, marvel or work with families, or just want to learn about different ways to achieve some semblance of balance in life - this book is for you. Many chapters are closed by a simple meditation exercise (generally less than two minutes) that intensifies the message.
Final chapters move outward from the individual level, to explain ways to be connected but differentiated in even the closest of relationships. Core concepts are then solidified with excellent and touching real-life patient, couple and family examples. I am still enjoying the transformation this work has caused in my life. I predict that this book will be a best seller. Happy rewiring.
February 6, 2013
Understanding the foundations of how we develop our understanding of love is one book.
Understanding brain wiring is another book.
Using both to create change along with exercises to actually begin to change the "hard wiring" of perception, understanding and ultimately experience is THIS book.
Marsha Lucas, PhD takes us by the arm and says "Look what the research, and brain science says about love and the brain. Let's use it, tweak this, focus on that and make some changes" using language that is even funnier, kinder and more impressive.
I will be spending some time not rushing through this one.... :-)
Understanding brain wiring is another book.
Using both to create change along with exercises to actually begin to change the "hard wiring" of perception, understanding and ultimately experience is THIS book.
Marsha Lucas, PhD takes us by the arm and says "Look what the research, and brain science says about love and the brain. Let's use it, tweak this, focus on that and make some changes" using language that is even funnier, kinder and more impressive.
I will be spending some time not rushing through this one.... :-)
April 10, 2012
My second book on mindfulness and the scientific explanations seem to strengthen the reasons as why you should meditate. Having followed the meditations at the end of chapters , I can honestly say that they have made a great impact on my life . Learning from examples of problems of her clients gives a great insight on the working of the mind and how it plays tricks on you .
February 26, 2019
Although the title of this book is something I wouldn’t want to be seen reading on a bus, I must admit this book is absolutely amazing.
No BS, based on research of psychology, neuroscience and mindfulness combined and it has some very good advice, examples, and practices. Bonus - perfect in length, written well and seasoned with a fine sense of humor in the right places. A very good book.
No BS, based on research of psychology, neuroscience and mindfulness combined and it has some very good advice, examples, and practices. Bonus - perfect in length, written well and seasoned with a fine sense of humor in the right places. A very good book.
March 2, 2014
The main audience of this book seems to be people with insecure style of attachment. For those of you who are not familiar with the theory, attachment theory basically observes and predicts that people with secure attachment (parents were loving, attentive, relatively stress-free) often grow up to have more satisfying relationships. Those with insecure style of attachment, preoccupied (often perceived as needy and temperamental) and dismissive (emotionally distant and aloof), generally face problems in this area. By implementing the meditation practices she introduces in the book, Lucas argues, insecure attachment people could form an "earned secure attachment", which basically means developing autonomy for preoccupied people and being more comfortable with intimacy for dismissive people. Meditation rewires the neural synapses in the brain so that we can respond more effectively in relationships.
Through informative but clear introduction to the relevant cognitive neuroscience involved, Dr. Marsha Lucas illustrates the concept of neuroplasticity, aka. the ability of the brain to rewire itself through experience and focused practice, as related to relationships. Even though the focus of this book is on romantic relationships, I find the information and practice provided to apply to other relationships as well.
Her writing style is fun and informative. She manages to break down difficult concepts into easily understandable chunks of information. I enjoy the meditation practices, some of which I was not familiar with before. Even though I'm already aware of the multitude of benefits meditation offers, I find it intriguing and hopeful to see that its benefits pertain to relationships as well. Along with the anecdotes provided through her own experiences with patients, Dr. Lucas shows that we can literally change the neural connections so that our brain can be rewired for love.
Through informative but clear introduction to the relevant cognitive neuroscience involved, Dr. Marsha Lucas illustrates the concept of neuroplasticity, aka. the ability of the brain to rewire itself through experience and focused practice, as related to relationships. Even though the focus of this book is on romantic relationships, I find the information and practice provided to apply to other relationships as well.
Her writing style is fun and informative. She manages to break down difficult concepts into easily understandable chunks of information. I enjoy the meditation practices, some of which I was not familiar with before. Even though I'm already aware of the multitude of benefits meditation offers, I find it intriguing and hopeful to see that its benefits pertain to relationships as well. Along with the anecdotes provided through her own experiences with patients, Dr. Lucas shows that we can literally change the neural connections so that our brain can be rewired for love.
March 24, 2013
When I first saw the title of this book I wasn't very interested. However, upon finding out a bit more about the scope of “Rewire Your Brain for Love: Creating Vibrant Relationships Using the Science of Mindfulness” by Marsha Lucas, PhD, I figured it would be something I'd enjoy, and I did. As someone who already believes in the positive power of meditation and mindfulness, I liked this different view that blended the ancient wisdom I'm more familiar with, along with cutting-edge discoveries in neurobiology and psychology.
While Lucas has a PhD, this book is written in very easy to read language. Almost conversational. It's entertaining and educational and not dry and boring like some might picture when one thinks of a PhD writing about neurobiology and psychology.
The chapters also contain meditation exercises to practice and implement the ideas into daily, or at least regular, practice.
The first part of the book discusses the brain and how it is wired. I found these chapters very interesting, and commend Lucas for explaining some difficult concepts in easy to understand language. Next, in part two, the book discusses ways that you can change your brain's wiring through mindfulness and meditation. Even if everything in these chapters doesn't pertain to your situation, the concepts blend together to allow readers to understand how meditation practice can help in various aspects of your life, especially relationships. (This book focuses on relationships, but the meditations can benefit other areas too.)
I recommend this book to anyone who wishes to learn more about meditation, mindfulness, and how the practice can help rewire your brain and improve your relationships.
While Lucas has a PhD, this book is written in very easy to read language. Almost conversational. It's entertaining and educational and not dry and boring like some might picture when one thinks of a PhD writing about neurobiology and psychology.
The chapters also contain meditation exercises to practice and implement the ideas into daily, or at least regular, practice.
The first part of the book discusses the brain and how it is wired. I found these chapters very interesting, and commend Lucas for explaining some difficult concepts in easy to understand language. Next, in part two, the book discusses ways that you can change your brain's wiring through mindfulness and meditation. Even if everything in these chapters doesn't pertain to your situation, the concepts blend together to allow readers to understand how meditation practice can help in various aspects of your life, especially relationships. (This book focuses on relationships, but the meditations can benefit other areas too.)
I recommend this book to anyone who wishes to learn more about meditation, mindfulness, and how the practice can help rewire your brain and improve your relationships.
December 9, 2011
This book mixes mindfull meditation with neuroscience and relationship. It helps to understan ours reaction towards other people that are or could be for us significative. It's clear and well written and for every problem, like anger for example, it helps you to get the right relaxation and meditation and, in the same time, it explains what is changing in your brain.
THANKS TO NETGALLEY AND HAY HOUSE FOR THE PREVIEW
THANKS TO NETGALLEY AND HAY HOUSE FOR THE PREVIEW
March 14, 2012
Very interesting read. Also entertaining in some places, which was a delightful surprise. I basically read through the book without doing any of the exercises, just to get the gist of it. I will probably go back through it again more slowly to take notes and perhaps try out some of the techniques. I suspect that if they work at all (and I admit, I'm skeptical), they will improve not just my love life, but other areas of life as well.
May 1, 2014
I am so happy this book came to me. It has enriched my goals to be healthy and live a joyous, vibrant life. As we watch what we eat, exercise and take vitamins, what about our brains ? This book centers on mindfulness and how it can benefit your life. Why do I do what I do ? Why am I so stressed ? Why do I create the same patterns in my relationships ? This book offers a pathway to a peaceful gentle solution and way of being. Thanks to goodreads for an advance copy.
March 14, 2012
This is a book that had great meditation advice. I will certainly return to it again.
Want to read
July 26, 2012Recommendation from Bill!
July 27, 2012
Lots of great insights. Have started practicing mindfulness meditation because of it.
October 14, 2012
Good, genuine, simple. Enough to be precise, sufficient of science and heartful on mindfulness - just in a right dosage for the simple reader. The everyday person seeking for a change.
October 16, 2012
New research on the power of meditation to effect brain function is just amazing!
August 21, 2013
A very nice, clear and practical introduction into midnful meditation and how it can be used to fix many relationship problems
January 10, 2014
Excellent refresher on how mindlessness can get in the way of living!
Want to read
September 14, 2014Interesting and fun read.
November 25, 2014
An easy read. Mostly about how to strengthen positive thought patterns and neural connections through mindfulness meditation.
November 10, 2015
A wonderful integration of mindfulness, neuroscience, and attachment theory. Very accessible, enormously useful.
February 13, 2018
Short, sweet book on mindfulness, and the theory that supports how it impacts your relationships.
It's written in a funny, conversational tone that's very easy to follow. It does tend to apologize for explaining things to you a bit much for my personal taste, since I'm already excited and interested in the topic, but I'm guessing this makes the book more accessible to those diving into the pop-sci/self-help pool for the first time.
It's one of those books that contains plenty of material for introspection. I have found myself thinking back into how my personal history may affect the way that I perceive relationships and connection these days; and how it has come to be that I feel and connect with people the way I do.
I find that more food for introspection, to get us to know ourselves and how we function more deeply, is almost always a good thing.
Highly recommended!
It's written in a funny, conversational tone that's very easy to follow. It does tend to apologize for explaining things to you a bit much for my personal taste, since I'm already excited and interested in the topic, but I'm guessing this makes the book more accessible to those diving into the pop-sci/self-help pool for the first time.
It's one of those books that contains plenty of material for introspection. I have found myself thinking back into how my personal history may affect the way that I perceive relationships and connection these days; and how it has come to be that I feel and connect with people the way I do.
I find that more food for introspection, to get us to know ourselves and how we function more deeply, is almost always a good thing.
Highly recommended!
December 20, 2017
As someone struggling to incorporate mindfulness practice in a busy lifestyle, this book is helpful in making your intention stronger. While reading the book, I felt more inclined to practice the different ways of medition and there was some `ah ha!` moments to keep you motived. Overall a good book that reminds you of all the benefits of mindfulness.
October 7, 2012
If you haven't started practicing mindfulness meditation, this book could convince you, and the patient case studies are interesting. However, it shares with similar books the problem of trite phrases and a self-conscious voice.
September 27, 2018
I actually put this book to practice and began a serious meditation practice that I've continued ever since. The meditation practices are highly recommended! You will definitely find more equanimity and patience and a more spacious perspective on life.
May 12, 2025
The only bad thing about this book is that there isn't an audiobook version I can find.
This book is a great place to start if you're trying to improve your relationships.
I've done quite a bit of reading and trauma recovery and this is a gentle, amusing and informative book and it has direction for those who need more support on this journey than you can get from a book.
I would definitely recommend this before Body Keeps the Score, The Myth of Normal and Brene Brown & Dan Siegal's books - all incredible books, but if your goal is understanding yourself and healing or improving your brain, then Rewire Your Brain For Love is the way to go.
Attached, Hold Me Tight, Us and the Gottman books are good, but this one will give you a stronger foundation to leverage those from.
This book is a great place to start if you're trying to improve your relationships.
I've done quite a bit of reading and trauma recovery and this is a gentle, amusing and informative book and it has direction for those who need more support on this journey than you can get from a book.
I would definitely recommend this before Body Keeps the Score, The Myth of Normal and Brene Brown & Dan Siegal's books - all incredible books, but if your goal is understanding yourself and healing or improving your brain, then Rewire Your Brain For Love is the way to go.
Attached, Hold Me Tight, Us and the Gottman books are good, but this one will give you a stronger foundation to leverage those from.
June 7, 2020
If you can get past the cheesy name and cover, this book is an incredible resource for mindfulness. The author's style is very easy to read and sometimes funny. She goes into more detail about brain anatomy than I was interested in BUT it also helps solidify how much mindfulness changes the brain in amazing ways.
The best part of this book is that she introduces different mindfulness concepts slowly and they all build on each other. There are eight (!) exercises and each one develops or integrates different parts of the brain. She gives you all of the tools - all you need to do is put in a little time to use them.
The best part of this book is that she introduces different mindfulness concepts slowly and they all build on each other. There are eight (!) exercises and each one develops or integrates different parts of the brain. She gives you all of the tools - all you need to do is put in a little time to use them.
March 29, 2020
This was an amazing book that made a lot of sense. If you get a chance to take a look at it you'll find that the ideas in the book helps you be in the moment and helps you figure out what is really going on. I enjoyed it immensely. Great read.
September 16, 2019
There’s fight or flight, then there’s the smart vagus.
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