Finished reading "No Turning Back": A Hopi Indian Woman's Struggle to Live in Two Worlds by Polingaysi Qoyawayma. We gave her another name, which she often used in her life outside of the Hopi people; but I won't use it. It's foreign to us, but not hard to pronounce: Coy-away-ma, with the emphasis on Coy.
Probably born in 1892, she didn't remember when we first came. Her father worked with the Mennonite missionary who was trying to start a school near her village on the mesa.
They meant well. Our own self-images are rarely villainous when our intentions are good.
Polingaysi was always curious and never afraid. She became a bridge for the two worlds that were colliding, and she took our best intentions, and became one of the most successful teachers at the native boarding schools. She was able to develop a curriculum that taught our ways of thinking and knowledge with their culture and stories. How hard would it be to learn to count in a foreign language if you were also required to count things you didn't recognize, didn't understand, and would never need to count?
How many are oranges do I have?
What's an orange?
A fruit like an apple.
oh. Enough that we won't go hungry today.
But how many do I have?
What do you mean? We'd like to eat them please.
What do I have if I take one away?
Hunger for today, perhaps for tomorrow too.
This example is juvenile, and maybe (accidentally) a little racist. But it illustrates the point. There was such cultural differences that the basic foundation that we don't even understand how to explain was a stumbling to the way we were trying to teach them. Mostly because we weren't trying to teach them. We were trying to Christianize them to make them acceptable to us and so that our God wouldn't send them to Hell.
But this book isn't really about that. It's about Polingaysi's life and her experiences in learning in our schools, and then teaching in them. It's about her struggle to get us to change so that we could teach them, so that they could teach themselves in ways that they could understand. She demanded that we not whip them into knowledge because they couldn't speak English and she demanded that we not think them too stupid to understand difficult subjects because their pride caused us to think they were unteachable.
She was a woman of two worlds, and she asked us to understand that there is much good in both of them. "Too much time has been spent in trying to teach them to cast aside the Indian in them, which is equivalent to asking them to cease being. An Indian can no more be a white man than a white man can be an Indian. And why try? There is infinite good in the Indian cultural pattern. Let's look at this thing objectively, understanding each other with charity; not disparaging the differences between us, but being gratefully aware of the good qualities we may adopt, one from another."
Nearly four generations later, we may acknowledge the wisdom of this advice, but we still struggle to give it more than acknowledgement. And yet we continue to demand that groups different from ourselves become very much like us. While the ideals of acceptance are broadly accepted on racial and ethnic gourds, we are generally loathe to accept them on sexual, religious, or political grounds.
If we can learn that demanding cultural conformity is harmfully destructive and learn to accept others as themselves, without pressing our desired changes upon them, our lives will become much brighter and much better.