The book cautioned the WASP therapist to take culture into consideration before making a diagnosis or forming a biased opinion. For example, women of my culture are known to be dramatic and use guilt to get their children to do things ("If you don't eat this, this means you don't love me/if you do that, I'm going to die,"). Here in the US, I've actually made calls to protective services for such comments made from Anglo, non-Mediterranean parents, especially when children come to me emotionally distraught frightened. That's mental abuse.
However, I'm always surprised how children in the Mediterranean area where I grew up (I had an American-born Greek mother) weren't fazed by what their mothers said. It was almost a game. I'm even more surprised that my friends use the same tactics on their own children, and their children answer back (as their parents did) in what we would think was oppositional behavior ("No, I don't love you/I don't care if you die.")
Perhaps because my mother didn't play this "game," when I was 7 and stayed the night with my Greek Grandmother and I didn't want to eat eggs, when my grandmother started in with the, "Fine. That means you don't love me," I started to cry. That baffled my grandmother. I was crying because I thought she honestly thought I didn't love her. Her response, was to call me a "klapsaria" (crybaby) and laugh uncomfortably. Being called a crybaby made me cry more.
I was having an American reaction to a Greek way of upbringing. Was my grandmother abusing me? That's tricky. Not intentionally--she was being culturally correct. I was the one having an ABNORMAL reaction because I was bi-cultural.
So, we have to think about cultural differences before we judge. And as the world becomes more integrated, this will become more difficult. I imagine that as MH professionals we'll be doing more mediating; making bi-cultural partners, friends, and even business more aware of each other's point of view and feelings.