Straight Talk, No Chaser, How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man Compact Disc on December 07, 2010

by Steve Harvey

In the instant number one "New York Times" bestseller "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man," Steve Harvey gave millions of women around the globe insight into what men really think about love, intimacy, and commitment. In his new book he zeros in on what motivates men and provides tips on how women can use that knowledge to get more of what "they" need out of their relationships, whether it's more help around the house, more of the right kind of attention in the bedroom, more money in the joint bank account, or more truth when it comes to the hard questions, such as: Are you committed to building a future together? Does my success intimidate you? Have you cheated on me?

In "Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man," Steve Harvey shares information on:

How to Get the Truth Out of Your Man
Tired of answers that are deceptive? Harvey lays out a three-tier, CIA-style of questioning that will leave your man no choice but to cut to the chase and deliver the truth.

Dating Tips, Decade by Decade
Whether you're in your twenties and just starting to date seriously, in your thirties and feeling the tick of the biological clock, or in your forties and beyond, Steve provides insight into what a man, in each decade of his life, is looking for in a mate.

How to Minimize Nagging and Maximize Harmony at Home
He said he'd cut the lawn on Saturday, and you may have been within reason to think that that meant Saturday before ten in the evening, but exploding at him is only going to ruin the mood for everyone, which means no romance. Steve shows you how to talk to your man in a way that moves him to action and keeps the peace.

And there's much more, including Steve's candid answers to questions you've always wanted to ask men.

Drawing on a lifetime of experience and the feedback women have shared with him in reaction to "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man," Harvey offers wisdom on a wealth of topics relevant to both sexes today. He also gets more personal, sharing anecdotes from his own family history. Always direct, often funny, and incredibly perceptive, media personality, comedian, philanthropist, and (finally) happily married husband, Steve Harvey proves once again that he is the king of relationships.

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Relationships, Psychology, Personal Development, Inspirational, African American

Unknown Binding

First published March 2, 2010

About the author

Librarian Note:
There is more than one author in the Goodreads database with this name.

Broderick Steven "Steve" Harvey is an American comedian, actor, entertainer, and radio personality.

He is probably best known as the star of the WB sitcom The Steve Harvey Show, and as one of the four comedians featured in the Spike Lee film The Original Kings of Comedy.

Currently, he is the host of The Steve Harvey Morning Show, a nationally syndicated radio program.

He is also the author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment which was released in March, 2009.

Reviews

[Chim Cụt · Rating 2 out of 5]

ĐƠN GIẢN QUÁ HÓA PHỨC TẠP

Xưa, tôi có xem một chương trình hình như Giọng hát Việt hay gì đấy kiểu thi thố về ca hát. Tôi nhớ một buổi thi giám khảo Thanh Lam đã phê bình cô ca sĩ nọ vì chọn bài hát không đúng tuổi. Tôi không nhớ chính xác từ Diva dùng là gì nhưng tôi hiểu ý là bài hát quá dừ với người thi, dù cô thể hiện nó không tệ. Thế là cô thí sinh này đốp chát lại, tôi cũng không nhớ nguyên văn, đại ý là ca khúc được sáng tác không giới hạn độ tuổi người hát.

Lúc ấy tôi nghĩ giám khảo không sai mà thí sinh cũng chẳng đúng.

Âm nhạc thế mà văn chương cũng vậy.

Chỉ cần biết chữ và muốn, ai cũng có thể đọc Nói luôn cho nó vuông. Thế nhưng tôi nghĩ nó dành cho đối tượng độc giả nữ phải có ít nhiều trải nghiệm với người khác phái. Tất nhiên bạn dễ dàng có được suy luận này của tôi bằng cách đọc lời giới thiệu nhưng tin tôi đi, vì tôi là phụ nữ đã kết hôn vừa tiếp xúc Steve Harvey.

Những quyển sách khác, nếu không hợp với độ tuổi, kiến thức hay trải nghiệm... thì ít nhiều bạn cũng sẽ thu lượm được gì đó, không cái này thì cũng cái kia. Còn Nói luôn cho nó vuông với những hiểu biết về bản chất đàn ông sẽ dễ là sáo rỗng, nếu bạn chưa nếm qua họ.

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Một, ít khi nào tôi thấy sự ngắn gọn mà súc tích lại phát huy hiệu quả cao như trong câu trả lời của Steve Harvey với khán giả:

Điều gì khiến đàn ông hạnh phúc?

Steve Harvey trả lời: Bánh quy.

Đơn giản. Hiển nhiên. Luôn luôn. Hài hước. Nghiêm túc. Mọi sắc thái này đều được gợi lên bởi tên gọi nghe vào rất ngọt tai kia.

Bánh quy là gì? Là một thuật ngữ của tác giả. Tôi không định giải thích nghĩa của nó vì có thể các bạn đã biết, còn nếu chưa, hãy để đầu óc của bạn bay lượn. Tôi định nói là tôi khá sốc. Anh bạn của tôi bảo rằng, khi đàn ông đối diện phụ nữ, điều họ nghĩ đến đầu tiên là hình ảnh cô ấy xoay quanh cái giường. Hai quan điểm này là một đi. Nhưng với anh bạn, tôi cho rằng đó là quan điểm của cá nhân anh ấy. Còn với Harvey, tôi có cảm giác quan điểm này bị đánh đồng cho hầu hết đàn ông, thậm chí với tác giả thì tuyệt đối là tất cả họ.

Lại nói về giọng điệu của tác giả khi nâng quan điểm từ cá nhân ông lên số đông. Thường, tôi không thích cái gì tuyệt đối cả, và tôi tin là không có gì tuyệt đối hết. Nhưng Harvey hết lần này đến lần khác làm tôi không có thiện cảm. Ông thường xuyên khẳng định bản chất nọ kia của đàn ông không dừng ở số đông mà là tất cả. Tôi không nghi ngờ gì lời của một người đàn ông nói về suy nghĩ, quan điểm, bản chất... của chính đàn ông. Đó như thể họ phơi nội tâm mình trên bàn giải phẫu mà pháp y không ai khác ngoài họ. Còn gì chân thật hơn thế?

Nhưng tôi vẫn cứ không tin ở giá trị tuyệt đối mà tác giả thường nhấn mạnh.

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Hai, tôi nghĩ mình đến với Steve Harvey hơi trễ, tuy rằng nếu có sớm hơn thì cũng chưa chắc đúng thời điểm nữa.

Không có đứa trẻ nào phải lớn lên mà không có một người cha trong gia đình, và một phần thiên tính trong bản năng người mẹ của bạn là muốn con cái mình được sống trong một gia đình nguyên vẹn nếu đây là sự lựa chọn sau cùng. Điều này thật đáng giá. Nhưng có đáng chăng khi đứa con của bạn thấy mẹ nó lúc nào cũng sống trong khổ sở? Ai sẽ được lợi nếu bạn tất bật với công việc nấu nướng, dọn dẹp, nuôi dạy con, và chỉ nhận lại những đau khổ và thất vọng, chứ không phải những gì bạn muốn và cần? Liệu có tốt cho tất cả nếu con bạn không biết đến yêu thương và lòng kính trọng là gì? Tôi thậm chí còn nghe phụ nữ nói rằng vì lợi ích của con cái, họ đơn giản sẽ chỉ chịu đựng cuộc sống chung được thu xếp ấy cho đến khi bọn trẻ tốt nghiệp, sau đó thì họ sẽ ra đi. Hạnh phúc mà phải chờ đợi như thế thì lâu quá.

Nhiệt thành tán đồng quan điểm trên của ông!

Tôi không chê trách gì quyết định của những ông bố bà mẹ ở vào hoàn cảnh này. Đó là cuộc sống của họ và tôi hay bất cứ ai cũng đều không có quyền phán xét. Nhưng nếu là họ, tôi không nghĩ mình đủ kiên trì với một gia đình như thế, và ngược lại, một gia đình như thế không đáng để tôi hy sinh.

Tình thương mà chúng ta thường cho rằng sẽ bị thiếu hụt nếu vắng bóng người cha trong gia đình có thể được bù đắp bằng nhiều cách thức lạc quan và hiện đại, cho dù vợ chồng có không còn đầu gối tay ấp. Nhưng chẳng gì có thể hâm nóng tình cảm hai trái tim đã nguội lạnh, kể cả những nụ cười tràn ra khóe mắt của con cái. Mà tôi thì cho rằng, hạnh phúc gia đình chỉ được xem là chân thật khi vợ chồng cảm thấy hạnh phúc vì có người kia ở bên (không phải lấy hạnh phúc của con cái thay vào, đó là lấp liếm).

Vì vợ chồng là khởi nguyên của gia đình.

Thử nghĩ mà xem, nếu vợ chồng tôi vui vẻ với nhau nhưng con cái lại không ngoan ngoãn thì có dễ sống hơn là con cái vui vẻ (?) nhưng vợ chồng tôi lại hục hặc lẫn nhau? Thật thì cũng khó đưa ra đánh giá đấy nhưng may thay chúng tôi dễ buồn vu vơ mà cũng chóng vui với những điều vụn vặt.

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Ba, có ngược đời không khi tôi chưa đọc Cư xử như đàn bà, suy nghĩ như đàn ông nhưng đã đến với Nói luôn cho nó vuông? Cũng chẳng ai bắt tôi phải đọc quyển thứ nhất của ông trước mà, phải không? Nhờ thế tôi đã không chán ngấy mỗi khi Harvey nhắc đến tựa sách Cư xử như đàn bà, suy nghĩ như đàn ông suốt cuốn Nói luôn cho nó vuông. Chỉ là tôi biết ông đã lặp ý ít nhiều so với cuốn trước.

Tự nhiên tôi nhớ đến Vô cùng tàn nhẫn, vô cùng yêu thương. Trong quyển này, Sara Imas đã lặp ý rất rất nhiều giữa các phần. Đành rằng nhắc đi nhắc lại thế cũng có tác dụng giúp độc giả ghi nhớ ít nhiều nhưng cũng đồng thời khiến quyển sách dày hơn mức cần thiết. Và Nói luôn cho nó vuông như chính tên của nó, hẳn chỉ là bổ khuyết của Cư xử như đàn bà, suy nghĩ như đàn ông?

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Tóm lại, quyển sách giúp bé gái, cô gái, người đàn bà(1) hiểu hơn về nửa kia (chưa tìm được hoặc tìm được rồi hoặc đã mất). Còn tôi, đọc xong chẳng hiểu thêm được mấy tí ngoài kinh nghiệm đã có: Đàn bà phức tạp nên khó hiểu thì cũng chịu đi. Đàn ông đơn giản thế mà cũng chả dễ hiểu đâu mấy mẹ ạ, bằng không, người ta xuất bản sách viết về họ làm quái gì.

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(1) Bé gái, cô gái, người đàn bà: Tên một tác phẩm của T. M. Koxtưgova, R. I. Rakitina với nội dung về sự phát triển tâm sinh lý và thể chất từ khi bé gái mới sinh đến lúc là cô gái, là người đàn bà.

[Kimberly · Rating 3 out of 5]

Well, this was an extremely quick read. Personally, I don't think the book is all that bad. I actually like it more than "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man."

I think I needed to read this book at this time as a reminder. Men aren't evil, overly stupid or lesser than equal. I do not have to use them before getting used or let my excess baggage come between me and the next best thing. In fact, I don't need to go to such extremes to protect myself and project hurts from men no longer into my life for the next guy to deal with. This book reminded met hat the change comes from me. Similar to the "Mama Gena's" series by Regina Thomashauser, Harvey yet again states that women have the power in the relationship. As "home executives" or not, we are a valued and beautiful half of the balanced yin / yang of the whole.

There's a true sense of power and self cultivated love and security in that.

The way that Harvey's text intertwined with examples is illuminating. But, the subjective level of "manilness" that he teaches women to look for, i believe, is a bit too regional specific (Southern style) and age range specific (apart from his children, I don't know any other fellow late 20s men who have everything together like he expects women to expect). I, for one, growing up in Southern California, am not at all used to the man that he paints a picture of as the male standard. But, I know what to expect when I meet one.

Now, do I believe that this book is regional specific or age range specific as his first book? No. But, I do believe that some of his suggestions to women as to how they should act in regards to a man is indicative of the expectation that the man is question actually is a Man and not a little boy in big boy clothes.

I understand his statement of appreciation regarding women who are always aware of how they look and show that they take care of themselves - and also feel that men should do the same. The "looking pretty" part of a relationship shouldn't be only on the female.

Harvey's vision, as I interpret it, is for women to drop the inflated sense of self worth of demands and rules for a man to even say hello; realize that everyone has flaws; and understand the difference between a guy that is sport fishing vs. a man that wants to be in a relationship. In this, I feel that he succeeded.

After reading this book, also I understand my parent's relationship now in more ways than I ever thought possible. That, alone, made it worth the quick read.

[Joy Richard · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was "OK." The problem with this book is that it teaches women how to be good partners for their husbands or boyfriends. How to make him happy, how to get along with him, how to fulfill his needs, so he can then, hopefully, give you what you want.

Okay, if you want to know "how to please your man" and be the perfect Stepford wife, I imagine this is the book to read. But it's not really going to help you keep or understand a man. Men leave and betray good women all the time. You can do everything this book suggests, and the man will betray/leave you, and you won't understand why. That's just reality. So then what? These books need to do a better job of teaching women to find their happiness and have their needs met FIRST, then teach them what a man might need in a relationship. Because their needs might be different from our own as women. But if, as a woman, you don't know what you want or need, and make sure any man you're with is giving it to you, you're likely to attract men who will take what they can get and move on. On to the next victim.

Steve Harvey is a man, so I don't fault him for having a one-sided view of the topic. Of course, he's going to tell you the man's idea of how a relationship should go and how to take care of a man's needs. That's all he cares about, ultimately. Still, the book had its charm, and how to please and take care of a man is something women need to learn about and consider. But I'd love to read a book directed at men on how to try to understand women and fulfill our needs. But yeh, that seems like a pipe dream.

[Camille · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book straightend me right up when it comes to men. I know now how to chose my next man and exactly what I need to do to keep him. Kudos to Steve Harvey. If women read this and don't understand that these words are coming out of a man who has been married three times and has finally learned how to be a good man.... then they just don't want to hear the truth. It is what it is. Be smart, keep yourself updated.. looks wise and intelligence wise. Keep it real. That's basically what Steve says. Keep it real!!! Stop dreaming and waiting for a man to be your saviour. It takes two whole people to have a successful relationship!

[WillowBe · Rating 2 out of 5]

Hmmmm. One or two interesting points, but the Male as unsophisticated knuckle-dragger, and Female as all things civilized, good and gentle tactic gets very wearing. He simultaneously stereotypes men and makes them look really dumb, barely capable of learning how to be part of a household thereby justifying their behavior. Yes men should have their cake and get to eat it too! My father cooked, cleaned, diapered babies and went to PTA meetings throughout our lives and was still a real Black Man- and this was in the 70's, no less. He just did what needed to be done since my mom worked too.

I think his real point is we should be glad we even have a man. So don't push him too much, and always be nice,sweet, dangle the sex thing in front of him as incentive, but be logical too- smother those angry feelings; don't raise your voice or nag.

Really the nagging thing got me. What planet is he on where a man, asked nicely will do household chores after only being asked once? I mean, that is rare, esp if it's a chore he doesn't want to do, though he agreed to do it " He doesn't mean to forget; it's just not important to him. He can't remember all the things you want him to do. Give him the benefit of the doubt. It's not in his nature to think of these things". What about the fifth time I ask and it's not done???
I should laugh indulgently and wag my finger at that naughty old XY chromosome? After all, I do have a man.

I think he was laughing his ass off when he wrote the don't nag chapter, wondering if we'd fall for it. I'd have to say "NOPE!".

So, this book is of limited value to me, esp since my husband isn't a Black man and the cultural stuff doesn't apply (though the behavioral stuff does). But I will finish it, and ask my brothers to read it to see if they agree with his take as a sociological experiement. Next book he needs to write is how brothers can find a good black woman!!!

Update: I decided not to finish the book. It may help a lot of people, but it's not for me.

[Zero vi Britannia · Rating 1 out of 5]

Hell to the No
To the tune of "Hell to the No" from Glee.

Mama said I should read this book
I said "Hell to the no."
My daddy said to give it a look
I said "Hell to the no."
Wanna make me read this shit?
Prepare to get your head split!
This book's a whole lotta
Oh oh oh oh oh
Hell to the no no n-no n-no n-no
Think I should give this book a chance?
You know what?
Hell to the no! (hell to the no!)
It'll help me with love and romance?
Hell to the no! (hell to the no!)
Try to get me to read this?
You better watch out for my fist!
It's a whole lotta
Oh oh oh oh oh
Hell to the no no n-no n-no
I said
Oh oh oh oh oh
Hell to the no no n-no n-no.

[Lisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

I always thought Steve Harvey was just a comedian/actor, so when until I checked this out, I had no idea he gives advice to mostly single women on his own radio show.

Many of the reviewers thought this book should be subtitled, "How To Please a Man," but I think it should be subtitled, "How Not to Get Used by a Man".

I am more conservative than Steve, but thought he gave great advice! If you are single and want to avoid a broken heart and/or wasting time on some guy that is not for you, read this. Steve does go on to give advice on how to keep Mr. Right interested. So much of it is common sense: don't let yourself go and keep your relationship special by putting effort into it. If Mr. Right isn't putting any energy into the relationship, he must not be Mr. Right! Talk to him about your expectations, and if need be, move on! I'm not sure Steve said that last part, but he got close enough.

Why did an old married lady like me keep listening? Steve is very entertaining--and he is right for the most part!

[Carmen de la Rosa · Rating 3 out of 5]

Este libro no es una de las historias habituales en las que alguien intenta explicar cómo piensan los hombres. Aquí es un hombre el que nos habla de sus semejantes y nos explica, mientras ven el mundo y a nosotras las mujeres.

Steve nos cuenta sobre él y sus amigos, explica cómo los hombres ven el mundo y ven como se enfrentarán en la vida, a las mujeres.

No es el primero en hacerlo y no será el último, pero estas páginas me han dado la oportunidad de pensar y hacerme preguntas que nunca hubiera pensado. Por supuesto, todos tenemos amigos que intentan explicar cómo van las cosas, pero lo que dicen no siempre es cierto.

[Emilia P · Rating 3 out of 5]

Aw Steve.
My boo gave this for me the day before he asked me to marry him. How prescient! This is the logical follow-up to Act Like A Lady, in that this assumes you've got the dude. And now you gotta deal with him and vice versa. Every few chapters Errol would say "what's he telling you now" and I would read him the handily provided bullet points, and he would say oh I already know that stuff and/or it's wrong. :)
But the basic premise of this is --keep your man happy, and tell him how to keep you happy. Obviously, overly reductive and gender-biased. Men aren't detail oriented, woman think they can change things, blah blah blah. But a fun, quick read like the last one, with a few nice stories about Steve's family and his pretty awesome sounding parents. A dose of practicality in an all too muddled world of Sex Laws, I will always listen to you, if not follow you to the letter, Steve old pal.

[Buggz79 · Rating 3 out of 5]

There are a number of basic truths covered in this book:

1. Men are more often than not, fairly simple. Don't be fooled by that though, simple organisms are capable of fairly complex behaviour..

2. A central tenet of manliness is "Doing what you said you'd do". Which in my world translates into Integrity. And this i completely concur with.

The rest of it is told from Steve's viewpoint of the world. Some resonated deeply with me (Antinag tips) and some of it was meh (wear makeup and blazers around each other all the time).

In the end though, it got me thinking about what I'm committed to in my relationship with my wife and girls. For that alone, it was worth the read.

[Tatyana Naumova · Rating 4 out of 5]

Я так думаю, что регулярный секс и похвалы со всеми работают (а не только с мужчинами)

[KyaP_Stacey · Rating 2 out of 5]

Steve Harvey's first book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man was a hit! It was being quoted, celebrated, recited, dictated, and read aloud like holy scripture to women near and far. Single woman, married women, dating women: it didn't matter. The ladies wanted to hear what Steve Harvey had to say about love and relationships...and were thirsty for his keeping-it-real male perspective that their girlfriends couldn't [accurately] give them.

After all, it came from a man we know and love: Broderik Steven Harvey of West Virginia. A well-dressed and well-respected man with a crazy sense of humour, class, success, and at the age of 53--years of experience with matters of the heart and interpersonal relationships. The book made us laugh out loud, and nod our heads in recognition. An instant best-seller that spent months on the top of the Essence booklist, it was a must-have in the female library.

So women were now craving this perspective. This truth. The instruction. They called the man down, followed him to conferences, linked his radio show, wrote him letters and emails because they wanted to know more. And what did our friend Steve do? He gave us more.

His second book, Straight Talk, No Chaser, will sell simply based on the reputation and word-of-mouth of the first book. It includes interesting chapters such as:


•Dating by the Decades: A guide to How Men Feel About Relationships in Their Twenties, Thirties, Forties, Fifties, and Beyond
•Are Women Intimidating? Myths Versus Facts
•Every Sugar Daddy Ain't Sweet
•Let's Stop the Games: Asking Men the Right Questions to Get the Real Answers
Despite the hot topics...Straight Talk, No Chaser is not nearly as informative--or necessary--as the first was. To compare the two isn't fair. Perhaps if I read THIS book first, I would love it, and the Act Like a Lady...would seem redundant. But the truth of the matter is...they're pretty much the exact same book, and there is a lot of repetition in theory and advice.

My opinion: I think I got the point the first time around. Loud and clear.

Steve--now on his 3rd marriage to Marjorie Bridges--is the father of 7, and sounds like he has a solid hold on his family, his kids, and his spirituality. He's lived an interesting life, and shared the highs and lows throughout his texts. He is definitely a man of good substance.

Here's what he had to share, this time around...in case you didn't get it the first time. And if you didn't get it after the first book (which was pretty straightforward!)...maybe you need more than a book to address your concerns with the opposite sex.

I'm just saying.

In a nutshell (AGAIN!):

Do your standards and requirements reflect who you are and what you're capable of giving back? - Steve believes that while it's great to tell your girlfriends about the Ph.D., 6'4", supermodel, 35-year -old with no children, and limitless riches that you "deserve" to have...that you have to make sure you're working just as hard and are just as competent yourself to expect that type of partner. If you want your man to be a scholarly businessman...you can't be laying up on the couch and collecting unemployment, hoping he'll come and save you.

Women truly interested in finding the right guy have to get over the fear of losing one - its' OK to a let a man go if he's not the right one for you. It's OK to be single for a while. You have to be willing to move on if someone isn't giving you what you want, and just trust that someone else will eventually come around.

Stop compromising your requirements to justify having a relationship with a man who won't give you what you ultimatly want - settling is compromising. It's not okay to forget about your wants and needs, and settle for security. You can never find true fulfillment this way.

Mediocre, yet common-sensical advice at best. I'm not knocking him, he's done a great thing with these books. He's kept it real (albeit a "little" bit oooold-school at times), and he's trying his best to prevent women all over the globe from delusion and despair.

I love Steve Harvey. I loved him in The Steve Harvey Show. I loved him on The Original Kings of Comedy. I even log into his nationally syndicated morning radio show The Steve Harvey Morning Show online at work to catch two jokes. I can't say I've watched him on Family Feud yet, but I'm sure he's pretty funny there too.

BUT, I think I've learned all I need to know from him about the ins and outs of the male mind. Going forward, perhaps I'd prefer to only see him selling his suits, or on a stage somewhere...making me laugh, telling crazy, irrelevant stories and punchlines, and leaving the female heart and self-esteem out if it!

"The bottom line is that the world is full of men who are willing and able to commit. Get your house in order, put your standards and requirements to use, exercise your power in your relationships, and be willing to walk away. I'm not saying this journey will be easy or quick. But it'll be well worth it." ~Steve Harvey

[Bjärkê · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very insightful, and good continuation from his first book (Act like a lady think like a man).

I particularly like how Steve writes as if he's talking to you, so when you read it's as if he's sitting on the couch opposite to you giving you his advice on how to keep and get your mate. It really has that one-on-one personal feel to it when you read.

The content of the book basically revolves around the way men think. He states, throughout the book, a theme of "men are simple" (In the sense that they aren't over-thinkers, or complex when it comes to particular decisions) and he gives a lot of examples and personal scenario to make it clearer for you to picture the idea. It is sexist in the sense that it's male's perspective on particular matters BUT he does shed light on the way women think and gives them advice on how to control the situation.

Personally, It's a good book.

What can you take away from reading it? Basically you don't have to comply to every word he says because persons lead different lifestyles but you can use the insight to help other female friends, and it also answers some of the questions that women have been wondering about how men feel on particular matters.
So it's a good read, I'd recommend it for older teens (15/16 plus). I think that's the age when we want answers and were experimenting with romance and relationships and honestly if your parents hadn't given you "the talk" then you'd be like a fish out of water. So this can definitely give you an idea of what guys are thinking and help you avoid some of those weird relationships. Especially the ones that leave you scarred.

[Shannon · Rating 4 out of 5]

You don't have to agree 100% with everything Steve says to get some good insights into the mind of man with this book. Quick read, some good tips that just make sense. After all, a relationship is just as much a business partnership as it is an emotional one. I especially appreciated the negotiating scenarios as some good examples of how to approach a subject. I actually used them the weekend I read the book and it worked!

[Equal Opportunity Reader · Rating 1 out of 5]

I actually kinda like Steve Harvey. He's something of a cultural relic--like everybody's tone deaf, old-fashioned cookout uncle by proxy.

That said, I don't know why so many people turn to him for relationship advice and help, and I was expecting this book to be full of obvious appeals to developing self-esteem and gross generalizations about how men and women think.

What I wasn't expecting is for it to be BORING--and it really, really is.

[Noor Abu Hassan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good Book. Very useful information .Recommended even for married couples.

[Nada | ندى · Rating 5 out of 5]

very useful book ,love it

[Karen Peyton · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Every Women should read this at age 15"

If you could sum up Straight Talk, No Chaser in three words, what would they be?
That way we can avoid so many bad decisions. This should be a prerequisite to dating.

What other book might you compare Straight Talk, No Chaser to and why?
I have none in my library to compare it with. This is like a bible for dating men.

Have you listened to any of Steve Harvey’s other performances before? How does this one compare?
No this was my first. I wish his first book was here too. I would not hesitate in reading it cover to cover.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?
The 90 day rule and why.

Any additional comments?
Please bring his first book here to audibles - Think like a man, act like a Lady

[Red Kedi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Questo libro non è uno dei soliti racconti dove qualcuno cerca di spiegarci come ragionano gli uomini. Qui si tratta di un uomo che ci parla dei suoi simili e ci spiega, come vedono loro il mondo e noi donne.
Steve ci parla di se e dei suoi amici, ci spiega come gli uomini vedono il mondo e vedono coloro che dovranno affrontare nella vita, le donne.
Non è il primo a farlo e non sarà l'ultimo ma queste pagine mi hanno dato modo di pensare e di farmi domande che mai avrei pensato. Certo, tutte noi abbiamo degli amici che cercano di spiegarci come vanno le cose ma non è sempre vero quello che dicono.

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[Ellie Revert]

He's got great ideas but honestly I don't care about how to handle a man---I've got my hero and we seem to be working things out---lo, these many 47 years! I would have been reading it for Annette's sake--she can read it herself!

[Erin E · Rating 3 out of 5]

Ummmm... What was I thinking? I need to have a second look at my dating decisions....

Thought the book was increadibly interesting I am sure that it is a book I would have not considered should it now have been suggested too me.

[Aimee Warrington · Rating 2 out of 5]

Harvey's first book was better. This one rehashes his previous stuff and splays it out in a more defensive manner (as though he's saying "no, really, this book is that other book but BETTER". It's not better though.) Pass.

[Mai · Rating 4 out of 5]

pretty much the same like "Act like a lady ,think like a man" but it gives women more secrets and insight about men,their mentality and how women can get what they want out of man eventually.enjoyed reading it ^^

[Basma · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a delicious fast read with an unmistakable sense of humour about how men think and react in various relationship-related situations, I've personally found it to be more fun, down to earth, and insightful than most of John Gray's books

[Cara · Rating 1 out of 5]

Act Like A Lady was ridiculous enough to be amusing. This book just pissed me off. They have more or less the same content, and I'm still not interested in the relationship Steve Harvey is prescribing.

[Heidi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good book for women esp single women to read and thanks steve for givin us the real truth..all women could learn a few things

[Mya · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book was not as good as the first one, but it was still helpful.

[Brena Green · Rating 5 out of 5]

WRITE MORE STEVE

[Fatima Lee · Rating 5 out of 5]

It’s been a while since I enjoyed reading a book that is remarkably informative.👏🏻♥️
Had so many laughs, screams, and realizations reading it.

Mr. Harvey,
You did a wonderful job writing this book -your way- 😩🙏🏻
Thank you.

[MelC · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this book after my first Steve Harvey book 'Act Like a Lady; Think Like a Man' and the only thing I am disappointed with is the fact that I didn't read this at least 2 years ago.

It is another reinforcement of what he said in his first book, but highly relevant.

I do feel that some things that Steve says in this book can come across as being outdated and may come across as being offensive, such as, a woman needs to look after them self because if you don't your man may go elsewhere for the cookie...I want to think that men can't be that shallow, and Steve does reinforce that anything he says is not about 'every man' but some men, but it is disheartening that 'some men' feel that way. On the other hand I do agree that we need to look after ourselves, but finding the right man that would love you for who you are and not the cosmetic vision that is placed in front of him is a long process. This book is just a helpful and sometimes humorous way to open my eyes to what men are like.

Maybe I was just brought up in the Outer Hebrides, but dedicating myself to bringing up my two children after my divorce and now in the dating pool after they have grown; this book has helped to keep my standards high and hopefully one day my Steve Harvey tactics will pay off. Only time will tell.

I recommend this book but if you have to read one or the other...read Act Like a Lady; Think Like a Man.