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For My Daughters

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A mother's legacy of heartbreak, scandal and enduring love… When seventy-year-old Ginny invites her three daughters to join her for two weeks at Star's End, her new estate on the Maine coast, each accepts reluctantly, since Ginny was always more dutiful than loving. All three have found ways to rebel against their emotionally impoverished childhoods. Caroline, forty, is a successful lawyer driven to put a demanding career ahead of her personal life. Annette, thirty-seven, lavishes more attention on her husband and five children than they need or want. And twice-married, twice-divorced Leah, thirty-four, now fills her life with empty socializing. Together at Star's End, as they await Ginny's arrival, they gradually discover the scandalous secret behind her stony facade -- and begin to understand the deepest desires of their own hearts.

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First published February 1, 1995

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Barbara Delinsky

307 books4,356 followers
I was born and raised in suburban Boston. My mother’s death, when I was eight, was the defining event of a childhood that was otherwise ordinary. I took piano lessons and flute lessons. I took ballroom dancing lessons. I went to summer camp through my fifteenth year (in Maine, which explains the setting of so many of my stories), then spent my sixteenth summer learning to type and to drive (two skills that have served me better than all of my other high school courses combined). I earned a B.A. in Psychology at Tufts University and an M.A. in Sociology at Boston College. The motivation behind the M.A. was sheer greed. My husband was just starting law school. We needed the money.

Following graduate school, I worked as a researcher with the Massachusetts Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children, and as a photographer and reporter for the Belmont Herald. I did the newspaper work after my first son was born. Since I was heavily into taking pictures of him, I worked for the paper to support that habit. Initially, I wrote only in a secondary capacity, to provide copy for the pictures I took. In time, I realized that I was better at writing than photography. I used both skills doing volunteer work for hospital groups, and have served on the Board of Directors of the Friends of the Massachusetts General Hospital Cancer Center and on the MGH’s Women’s Cancer Advisory Board.

I became an actual writer by fluke. My twins were four when, by chance, I happened on a newspaper article profiling three female writers. Intrigued, I spent three months researching, plotting, and writing my own book - and it sold.

My niche? I write about the emotional crises that we face in our lives. Readers identify with my characters. They know them. They are them. I'm an everyday woman writing about everyday people facing not-so-everyday challenges.

My novels are character-driven studies of marriage, parenthood, sibling rivalry, and friendship, and I’ve been blessed in having readers who buy them eagerly enough to put them on the major bestseller lists. One of my latest, Sweet Salt Air, came out in 2013.  Blueprints, my second novel with St. Martin’s Press, became my 22nd New York Times bestselling novel soon after its release in June 2015.  Making Up, my work in progress, will be published in 2018.

2018? Yikes. I didn’t think I’d live that long. I thought I’d die of breast cancer back in the 1900's, like my mom. But I didn’t. I was diagnosed nearly twenty years ago, had surgery and treatment, and here I am, stronger than ever and loving having authored yet another book, this one the non-fiction Uplift: Secrets From the Sisterhood of Breast Cancer Survivors. First published in 2001, Uplift is a handbook of practical tips and upbeat anecdotes that I compiled with the help of 350 breast cancer survivors, their families and friends. These survivors just ... blew me away! They gave me the book that I wish I’d had way back when I was diagnosed. There is no medical information here, nothing frightening, simply practical advice from friends who’ve had breast cancer. The 10th Anniversary Volume of Uplift is now in print. And the money I’ve made on the book? Every cent has gone to my charitable foundation, which funds an ongoing research fellowship at Massachusetts General Hospital.

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Profile Image for Leigh Kramer.
Author 1 book1,421 followers
October 9, 2019
Romancelandia Twitter solved the mystery of the first romance I read! At least partially—I conflated a few details that must belong to the other romance I read around the same time. But this is definitely the one I remembered the most about. You never forget the first time you read about truck sex during a storm.

Very dated but lots of nostalgia in this re-read.
Profile Image for Rebecca.
Author 12 books28 followers
August 27, 2011
Absolutely the worst Barbara Delinsky novel I've ever read. Three sisters, Annette, Caroline and Leah St. Claire are invited to spend 2 weeks at a palatial Maine estate their 70 year old mother has just refurbished. Despite the fact that none of the three girls likes their mother (Ginny was a cold and distant parent) all three of them show up and spend most of the time dealing with their sisterly issues because Ginny is late to her own reunion.

It's very hard to relate to the characters in this book. They're all super-rich and, in their own way, successful. Caroline is a high-powered attorney, Annette is married to a neurosurgeon and the mother of five, Leah has an active social life in Washington where she does charity work. These three women wander around eating gourmet food, shopping for expensive art and return to the estate in the evening to complain about how mommy was lacking. Oh, and they hear a story about the house; 45 years ago a rich woman had an affair with the gardener.

That's it. Seriously, that's the story. Instead of finding it sleazy, all three girls go dewy eyed over this sordid tale in spite of the fact that the rich woman abandoned her 'true love' in favor of her so-so husband and his money. Ginny shows up after they realize she was the rich woman in the story and all is instantly forgiven, even her admission that her parental detachment was due to the 'emotional maiming' she suffered when she broke it off with the gardener.

Please.

This book was an embarrassment. I don't know who should be more ashamed: Delinsky for writing it or me for reading it.
Profile Image for Marie desJardins.
437 reviews
January 21, 2011
I enjoyed this book enough to finish it -- but only just.

The story is just fine, and the kind of book I often enjoy to read -- family dynamics, inner secrets not revealed, long-lost loves. But everything is just so loudly telegraphed, and so painfully spelled out -- as though the author doesn't think we'll be able to read the words that well at all, much less between the lines.

(It doesn't help that so much of the prose is incredibly overwritten. The very first sentence tells you where this is headed: "My last glimpse of him was as forbidden as all that had gone before, but no less precious... I smelled [the coastal air] with an acuity that was to become an indelible splash on my memory's canvas." Couldn't we be eased into the melodrama just a tad more gently?)

The characters have a little bit of interest, but basically they are very one-dimensional "types" who each has a specific and predetermined role to play. Caroline is the slightly bitter, childless career woman who can't commit herself to love because she never thought her mother loved her enough. Annette is the overshadowed younger sister who thinks her mother didn't love her enough, and becomes a smothering helicopter mom to compensate. Leah is the flighty social butterfly who can't settle anywhere because her mother didn't love her enough. They are all jealous of each other -- so jealous that they haven't spoken to each other in years. Of course the mother, Ginny, is equally one-dimensional as seen through her daughters' eyes -- cold, withdrawn, and she doesn't even show up for the grand family reunion that she's organized.

Pretty much every actual event and interaction in the book is so deeply foreshadowed and hinted at that you know exactly what's going to happen next.

Of course, there is more to the mother than meets the eye, and in the end, her staged reunion and her story, gradually revealed, change everything in her daughters' lives. (I have to admit that the story that's revealed is almost what I was expecting, but not quite, and there is actually a bit of depth in her character during that part of the story. Too bad there wasn't depth in all of the characters throughout the story...)

It's all very neat, tidy, and Harlequin romance-y. I guess if you really like Harlequin romances and want your realistic fiction in a nice, tidy, not very realistic package, you would really enjoy it. Like I said, I enjoyed it enough to finish it. I should probably have read it on the beach -- I might have given it three stars if it was sunny and I was reading it in a hammock with a couple of mai tais lined up.


Profile Image for Meg Gould Kauzlaric.
73 reviews1 follower
July 8, 2013
Loved this book! The setting in Maine sounds gorgeous and makes me wish I could live at Star's End. This book came at the perfect time in my life, and was great to read to help my mind escape from reality.
Profile Image for Alli Lubin.
165 reviews
January 21, 2013
Sweet yet predictable romance. Family story of mom and 3 sisters. Comfort food but fun.
Profile Image for DonnaJo Pallini.
506 reviews
May 22, 2021
Three daughters always felt distant from their mother. This is a sweet story of love, loss, and love again. The author did a good job of looking at how the decisions we make in life affect our relationships with others for years.
18 reviews
January 22, 2025
This was a slow book for me to get into. It started getting really good about 1/2 way through it. It was an ok read!
Profile Image for Judy Churchill.
2,567 reviews31 followers
July 22, 2018
I liked this book. There was nothing new or startling about the mending of relationships, but the story was nice and ended happily.
Profile Image for Sarah.
10 reviews
December 22, 2009
This was the first book i have read by Barbara Delinsky and I really enjoyed it, so I don't want to include anything that is a spoiler!!Honestly it drew my attention because I am the mother of daughters, but I will definately read more by her.

The book is about three daughters and their complicated relationship with their mother, all for slightly different reasons, all of them having grown up to be very different from one another. As the story unfolds you learn of thier childhoods and thier issues and the things their mother did for them that they never knew about. The characters and family dynamic were easy to relate to even though thier life is probably not similar to most of our own. A great weekend read.
Profile Image for Kathleen.
182 reviews15 followers
January 4, 2013
I've read this book again and again and every time I fall in love with Delinsky's characters. This is a great book to get lost in on vacation, curled up near a warm fire in the middle of winter or just lost in your room. You can't help but find something in each of the sister's you identify with or someone in your life who reminds you of them. An easy read, but a good one nonetheless.
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329 reviews8 followers
May 21, 2008
In a word I found it "boring" I just never connected to the girls in the story and found it to be so predictable.
Many of her books are nothing like real life. Everyone is rich & beautiful. It reminded me of a Danielle Steele book which can be just too sappy.
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1,760 reviews30 followers
July 15, 2019
Someone recommended this to me. I hated it. It was trite, not particularly well written, and at the halfway point I stopped, not even wanting to skim to find out what happened. I couldn’t care less. Waste of time.
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February 12, 2024
Uma mãe que não é nada próxima das 3 filhas e que, aos 70 anos, envia uma carta para cada uma delas, pedindo para que se encontrem em uma casa que ela comprou, para conversarem e mobiliarem o lar. Elas ficam em dúvida se vão ou não, pois Caroline é uma advogada renomada e não tem esse tempo disponível; Annette é mãe de 5 filhos super apegada e servil a todos eles; e Leah, serve a projetos sociais. Elas não resistem à oportunidade de se aproximarem mais da mãe, ainda que estejam com o orgulho ferido por anos de abandono e pensam que não é uma reunião de família, que a mãe chamou apenas uma filha. Engano delas. A carta foi enviada para as 3. Aos chegarem lá, o primeiro impulso é voltar, mas vão aproveitando o lugar para descansar e se aproximarem mais. Dias depois a mãe chega ao lugar e conta sua história de amor, vivida aos 27 anos com o caseiro do lugar, a quem ela renunciou para viver a vida luxuosa com o marido, mas em quem ela pensava o tempo todo, não se permitindo amar novamente assim, nem as próprias filhas. Há o momento de perdão e ela morre no dia seguinte, sendo enterrada com seu grande amor. As filhas repensam suas vidas após esse encontro. Caroline abre sua própria firma de advocacia e se casa com o namorado, Annette sabe que pode ser uma boa mãe sem sufocar os filhos e Leah se casa com o filho do amante da mãe e cuida da propriedade herdada pelas filhas. Um livro sessão da tarde!"
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1,056 reviews8 followers
June 1, 2025
Back to my "oldest books on my shelf" theme of the year. 1993. Barbara Delinsky.

This novel had a very Nicholas Sparks feel to it with a love so ideal, so rare, that it is almost too good to be true, and like a Sparks novel, there is tragedy.

Three daughters are estranged from their cold and disinterested mother. Then each receive a letter seemingly directed only to them, asking them to come to an estate home she bought in a town none of the daughters remember being of interest. As readers, we understand this is the location of a love affair that occurred prior to any of them being born but while mom was married to their father. It has a very special meaning for her, and with her husband gone, she can now return.

Each daughter is at a bit of a crossroads in their own lives and this vacation helps each make a change that is needed.

1993 references of note:
She exited the plane and went to the nearest phone bank (pay phones)

She looked but was disappointed to see the TAXI didn't have a car phone.

As the token female litigator in a highly sexist law firm, Caroline plans to get some work done while she is away so she brings a "rented fax machine"!

No voice mail - everyone called and if no answer they had to call again. And if there was an answer, it was a "secretary" who wrote it on a notepad and hand delivered it.

Instead of funeral director, it was an "undertaker"

They sat "Indian Style"

And most shocking was how they referred to the mother as being so old but she was only 70! 70 looks very different now than it did then, I suppose. My mom was extremely agile at age 70!
Profile Image for Shari.
707 reviews
January 20, 2019
It is not often that I rate a book 5 stars. I loved this book. The story is about Virginia, the mother of 3 daughters. They have a strained relationship, both with their mom and with each other. Virginia buys a home in Maine and invites the daughters, individually, to come for two weeks to help her settle. They don't know that they all have been invited.

The story of their mom's life, a story they did not know, comes to light and affects each of the daughters as well as Virginia herself as they share a special evening being together and talking.

I just can't say enough about how lovely this story is and how precious relationships between mothers and daughters and sisters are.
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816 reviews5 followers
May 19, 2019
I’m a sucker for romance and happy endings.

This 25 year-old book aged surprisingly well (though I didn’t realize until I finished that it was published in 1994, so I wondered why nobody was using cell phones). Of course, it was a tad predictable, and the Maine “dialect” that popped up a few times was annoying and condescending.

Fluffy, but with a reminder to carpe diem, as it were, and be true to your heart. Not bad things to remember.
Profile Image for Romi.
1,404 reviews
April 27, 2021
This was sweet, but it definitely dragged a bit. I thought, in the end, it did a nice job showing the transformation the three sisters went through. I did think it dragged a bit and had more in the middle than was necessary and I also thought it was weird how the mom brought the girls together but then took forever showing up! I thought that would be explained more, but it really wasn't. A nice, light read.
174 reviews
September 19, 2021
Very touching

I really liked this book. Had some romance in it, which was sweet, but the main part of the story was more centered around family relationships. Sisters who grow apart because they each grow in different directions, but the one thing they have in common is what they feel was an unemotional mother. But you never know what another person has been thru to make them into the people they become. Sad, happy, aggravating, bittersweet, emotional story!
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1,333 reviews
June 14, 2017
I would have to rate this book as just average. If you are looking for a quick read, but not something with a lot of substance, this would be a good choice. It seemed to be a bit unbelievable at times and I thought the story also seemed a bit rushed...normally I really enjoy this author, but not so much this time.
159 reviews2 followers
February 1, 2020
plot very unrealistic, mom gets three daughters together at a house she just bought,who don't get along then joins them, tells them her secret (she had an affair and left the guy she really loved to stay with her husband) repressed herself, and dies after she tells them! One daughter ends up with the son of her lover. Really?
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Profile Image for Irene Frances Olson.
302 reviews4 followers
April 21, 2021
Delightful

I used to read Barbara Delinsky all the time - why did I stop? I am so glad I discovered this title I had yet to read. Relationships - especially those among siblings - can be very engaging and this book featured them beautifully. The location where the book is set is so memorable and the author placed me there with eyes wide open. Glorious.
108 reviews1 follower
December 9, 2021
Great story!

Yes, I loved the story, Is Delinsky is a fav but I had not read much of her books of late.
I did feel it moved a bit fast half way thru.
Loved the Leah ,
Jessie story not so much the two older sister.
The really part was having Ginny gone so quickly..
The scenery was described beautifully.
Profile Image for Dkilwein.
295 reviews
April 12, 2022
Loved it

Family dynamics between a mother and her three daughters. Definitely a paradigm shift when the reader/daughters learn their mothers secret. A must read if you even have the slightest hint of unresolved mother issues! Reminds me of the phrase, don’t judge anyone until you’ve walked a mile in their moccasins.
Profile Image for Linda Hall.
211 reviews2 followers
June 9, 2022
The choices we make......

This book was a compelling look at how the choices we make not only affect us, but everyone close to us! Are we living the life we want or are we living the life that others want us to live? Do we really know what we want? Do our children really know us? Do we really know ourselves? Though provoking questions.......
Profile Image for Hope Dolan.
8 reviews
September 22, 2023
I loved this book. It is another example of how we never know what goes on in a person’s head. You may see something totally different from how someone else sees the same exact thing. How does that shape our lives? Our relationships? We think we know, but in reality we read into things and we could have them so wrong. This book was a little predictable, but I still loved it!
Profile Image for Sérgio Vaz.
52 reviews
July 25, 2018
Livro mais voltado para o público feminino. Acabei lendo pois estava aqui em casa e precisava de uma história mais leve depois de ter lido um livro sobre Aucshwitz.

Não é um livro ruim, mas tem um final bem previsível, ou seja, sem grandes reviravoltas.
Profile Image for Kathy.
646 reviews
May 7, 2021
I really enjoyed this story. Each character was relatable. It was interesting seeing their lives through their point of views and understanding their mother and why she did things the way she did. I couldn’t put this book down!
1 review
May 7, 2021
Through the eyes of your children.

I was transported to Maine and I experienced It as though I was there. Three daughters with little in common come together to know each other and a mother who was a distant figure their whole lives.
5 reviews
December 5, 2021
Sensational

One of the best books I’ve read in years, didn’t want to put it down and couldn’t wait to for Ginny to arrive. Nearly cried with her and her daughters while she told her story and then the next day as well.
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