El hábito de la incredulidad

by Yong Kang Chan

«Creerte a ti mismo es una de las peores cosas que puedes hacer, porque llevas mintiéndote toda la vida.»Don Miguel Ruiz, El quinto acuerdo
Todos estamos familiarizados con esa vocecilla interna que, de una manera u otra, nos nunca llegarás a nada, nadie te quiere, no eres una buena madre, no mereces ser amado… Es posible que reprimir esos pensamientos ayude temporalmente y tal vez reduzca la frecuencia del dolor, pero no resuelve las emociones subyacentes, que se encuentran enraizadas en lo más profundo de nuestras mentes. Por más que intentemos pensar en positivo, esa voz crítica vuelve a emerger una y otra vez. La realidad es que no podemos cambiar la mayoría de nuestros pensamientos. En cambio, podemos relacionarnos de manera distinta con ellos. ¿Y si no hiciera falta acallar al crítico interior?¿Por qué no desconfiar de nuestros propios pensamientos? Desde la sencillez y la verdad de la propia experiencia, Yong Kang Chan comparte técnicas de mindfulness para practicar el hábito de la incredulidad. Poniendo en duda la veracidad de lo que dice la mente, toda la experiencia vital se transformará. 

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology

133 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 8, 2022

About the author

"Being Peaceful when the Mind is Noisy"

Doing more and achieving more don’t always make you happy. When you have low self-esteem and a critical voice in your head, it’s tough to enjoy your life in peace. Reaching your goals is important, but you have to enjoy the process too.

In his books, Yong Kang provides insights on self-compassion and mindfulness to help you be kinder to yourself and transcend your suffering. Unlike other psychology and spiritual books, his content is easy to understand. He uses simple, modern examples in life to explain complex concepts and ideas. You can learn the teachings in his books without any technical or scientific knowledge.

Best known as “Nerdy Creator” online, Yong Kang is both analytical and creative. If someone like him can overcome depression and his noisy mind, you can do it too.

Learn how you can live a peaceful life by checking out his books below.

Connect with him via these social media platforms:

Website: http://www.nerdycreator.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NerdyCreator
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nerdycreator/

Reviews

[Jasmin Mohd-zain · Rating 3 out of 5]

I have quite a harsh inner critic, I tell you ! Many times it has me spiralling down some abyss!

Chan says criticism focuses on the past, but you can't change the past. So instead of criticism, tell yr inner critic to tell you what & how you can improve instead. This is am empowering way to learn from yr mistakes.

Stop the phrase "I should have......" in yr introspection and use "Next time I could..." instead. Practice what he calls "IMPLEMENTATION INTENTION". Pre plan yr response when you can by using this :


If ( this situation happens) then I'll (respond/perform/behave)...this better way.

Teach yrself a better response before yr negative criticism arise....tools included in this book may be helpful to you.

[Jess · Rating 5 out of 5]

Definitely worth a read if, like me, you live in torture from your ‘inner critic’ living with depression & anxiety is tough, but there’s something about reading about others experiences that helps you feel less lonely. It makes you see things from a different perspective. Will probably end up reading this more than once!

[Anastasia Sot · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would recommend this book if the topic is new for you, otherwise may be a bit basic.

[J Crossley · Rating 3 out of 5]

In The Disbelief Habit, Chan explains how the inner critic is able to hurt you, and then proceeds with steps to help you mitigate those painful feelings. By becoming aware of the inner critic and what it is saying, you can be clued in to what it is trying to tell you. You can also question the messages that you receive. Just because you are saying these things does not necessarily make them true.

I liked the part about finding out that the inner critic is there to help you. It is trying to protect you, and by finding out how it is trying to be protective, you can better interpret its message.

[Ashley Kvasnicka · Rating 2 out of 5]

The thing with “self help” books is they’re completely opinionated. My rating reflects my take on it and not necessarily the book itself. I’m glad this method worked for the author, but for me, I couldn’t relate to the feelings he was putting out nor his method for controlling an overactive mind. It’s too much. I was stoked to get to the summary of the method, but that was still-too-much. Also the Eckhart Tolle reference made me cringe. Not a fan of that dude.

Not for me, maybe for you. But isn’t that always the case? ;}

[Jeffrey · Rating 3 out of 5]

Pretty basic stuff. Basically, if you find yourself failing against yourself, don't believe you. However, if you start making compassionate statements about yourself then you DON'T want to make doubting yourself a habit. Not a bad self-help book if your goal is to make a peace treaty with the critic. If however you want to permanently silence the critic I would suggest the Two of Fully Feeling.

[T.H. Rivers · Rating 5 out of 5]

I do recommend this wholeheartedly!

It's written simply and succinctly and really sums up many of the self-help books out there for those of us who suffer from a lack of self-belief. "We can't perceive ourselves accurately based on our past experiences because we are biased."

A great book for readers who want a launching point for self-examination and self-healing.

[Alina · Rating 3 out of 5]

“Addiction begins with pain and ends with pain.” When you are escaping your problems, you will continue to feel pain after the activity ends. You can run away from your inner critic for a while, but you can’t run away from it forever. You will still have to face your issues someday.”

[lety ✩°｡⋆ · Rating 4 out of 5]

i didnt have high hopes on this book, scared of it being your sterotypical self help book, but i found it really eye opening and helped me see things through other lenses. i appreciate the practical side of it, i will be applying some of it in my daily life

[Stephanie Freitas · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed reading this book. It talked to me in a personal level. I felt embraced and understood, like someone was watching how I live life and how I think. I can only thank the author for writing this.

[Limi · Rating 5 out of 5]

A solid book for those too harsh on themselves. It's not too heavy, written clearly and very helpful.

[Jena Hale · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great advice!

This book really breaks down your inner critic & how to handle it in tough critical situations when it’s needed the most! Thank you!

[Maryam · Rating 2 out of 5]

ترجمه فارسی اینو خوندم .با عنوان :به گفتگوهای ذهنت شک کن .

[rena · Rating 4 out of 5]

Even though I’m not a big fan of self help books,this author has such an amazing way with words. While analysing the subject of every book he still makes sure to remind you that you’re only human,your flaws are normal and all the bad habits you have such as self criticism and doubt (the topics of this book)are not impossible to work with and fix.


He also gives simple and clear directions on how you can work with your mind and change anything that causes you trouble in your everyday life,in a kind and realistic way.

After reading this book I have found myself trying to change my mindset on the nature of my thoughts,the neutrality that is needed when dealing with them if I want to receive just information and not comments coming from my inside voice of criticism. It makes you think that controlling the way your thoughts appear to you and affect you is really something you have power over and through inner work you can gradually get better at it. Totally recommend it!

[Chinis · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.5 ⭐

Me gustó bastante la pluma del autor y cómo explicó todo, aunque hubo mucha información que se repitió mucho

Después de leer la sinopsis y saber de qué trata el libro, me llamó mucho la atención e hizo que me dieran ganas de leerlo.

Disfruté mucho del libro, que me enganchó desde la primera página, me gustó bastante la pluma del autor y el tono que usa para explicarnos todo. A medida que fui leyendo, sentí que fue un libro adecuado para mí, debido a que soy una persona que sobrepiensa y analiza constantemente todo. Además, a diferencia de los libros del mismo género que he leído, –que igual no son muchos 😅– el autor prefiere usar un tono más informal y no nombrar tantos estudios, algo que logra que yo como lectora, pueda adentrarme más en la historia. También hay que destacar que nos enseña técnicas para controlar nuestra voz interna y que se calme un poco.

Si eres como yo, que tiene muchas voces internas que nunca se callan, este libro es el adecuado para ti.

[Guillermina Roldan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Me gusto mucho, las técnicas que te da son muy buenas y da ejemplos desde la experiencia del autor que te hacen sentir mas conectado. Para ser un libro corto profundiza lo justo y necesario. Recomiendo

[Manu Rivera · Rating 3 out of 5]

Un libro corto pero que me costó mucho leer, estoy aprendiendo de lo que aprendí y me saco de un bloqueo lector

[eullegotarde · Rating 4 out of 5]

simple y útil, fácil de entender