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For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men
What’s going on in a man’s mind? From their early days, every woman has struggled to understand why males behave the way they do. Even long-married women who think they understand men have only scratched the surface. Beneath a man’s rugged exterior is an even more rugged, unmapped terrain. What bestselling author Shaunti Feldhahn’s research reveals about the inner lives of...more
Hardcover, 192 pages
Published
August 19th 2008
by Multnomah
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I'm finally reading a book and getting to post! Jessica lent this to me to read after I got married. So far I really like this book. The author validates her survey findings by using multiple regression analysis, which I use for work sometimes. But don't worry about the statistics, that just struck my fancy. The book is not full of statistics, it is really more of a narrative of her findings. It has been a pretty easy read so far and has already helped me relate to and understand my husband...more
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In a way, I suppose this really is a good book, but not for me. It was given to me at my wedding shower by a person who probably should have known better (my own sister!). This book is just an extremely dumbed-down version of His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley. Having read that book, reading For Women Only was a waste of thirty minutes. Feldhahn's book is somewhat helped by a collection of survey results, which tell us exactly the same things that Harley's book does. Feldhahn's advice, ho...more
If I could give this 0 stars or 0.5 stars, I would.
I regret buying this on an impressive level. I honestly feel lied to since I didn't know this book was so heavily endorsed by Jesus. Every excerpt I read from this book and even the product description gave no hint as to the very Christian nature of this book. Normally, I can deal with that but it constantly asked me to seek guidance from a God I don't pray to. This book needs to do a better job of advertising its real nature.
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I regret buying this on an impressive level. I honestly feel lied to since I didn't know this book was so heavily endorsed by Jesus. Every excerpt I read from this book and even the product description gave no hint as to the very Christian nature of this book. Normally, I can deal with that but it constantly asked me to seek guidance from a God I don't pray to. This book needs to do a better job of advertising its real nature.
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It's about the things that men wish we new about them, and how they really feel about us (as women), but more specifically their wives. Now as most of you out there may know, I am not a wife, yet (I still hold out hope), however, when I read books like this it's always with that expectation in mind, and more specifically, because I am an observer of people, I usually draw on past experiences and behavior that I have witnessed in order to understand why I do the things that I do, and feel the way...more
I read "For Women Only" very carefully several times. It takes things we've all heard before (like men need respect, sex, etc.) and really gets at the heart of what that means...more so than any other book I've read on the subject so far. I was a bit surprised by some of the things I read, but I carefully started applying what I learned in my relationship with my boyfriend.
I read "For Men Only" and marked how I would have answered the survey questions and underlin...more
I read "For Men Only" and marked how I would have answered the survey questions and underlin...more
Think of this book (and its companion) as a marriage enrichment-type book. I read both "For Women Only" and "For Men Only" as part of a book club that included both men and women partipants. The premise was for the women to read the "For Women Only" book first and the men to read the "For Men Only" book first, then go back and read the other book to see if you thought it accurately portrayed your sex.
So dutifully, I read the "For Women O...more
So dutifully, I read the "For Women O...more
I liked this book. It's not that the information was necessarily new for me, since I have been studying men for decades, now. But, I am in a transitional point in my life. And, as I read this book, I finally understood that my mother raised me to be a man.
I think this happens a lot. We live in a society that downplays the contributions of women and allows women to be abused (including a judicial system that actually condones the abuse of women and protects the abusive men who har...more
I think this happens a lot. We live in a society that downplays the contributions of women and allows women to be abused (including a judicial system that actually condones the abuse of women and protects the abusive men who har...more
I just randomly picked this book up at the library and didn't expect anything too spectacular. I actually thought it was a pretty good little book, though. It's all about men and what they think but won't tell you.
For example, "I do love my wife and think she's great, but I would be so much happier if she lost 60 lbs and wore makeup again. I know we don't have enough money to buy gas or shoes, but I will happily spend $2000 on a personal trainer to get her in shape and I get de...more
For example, "I do love my wife and think she's great, but I would be so much happier if she lost 60 lbs and wore makeup again. I know we don't have enough money to buy gas or shoes, but I will happily spend $2000 on a personal trainer to get her in shape and I get de...more
I got this book for my wedding almost two years ago (and Adam the "male" counterpart), and I'm only just now reading it. I feel like since we've been out of college and in the "real" world, our stresses and experiences and situations have a been a bit more "real" and "typical" marriage ones. So I thought I would pull this book down and see how the "experts" handle men.
Turns out, the experts were men - real men surveyed and interviewed by th...more
Turns out, the experts were men - real men surveyed and interviewed by th...more
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I realized it is harder than I thought to explain why a guy would be reading this book. I had to see what Shaunti Feldhahn was telling women all over the country about the inner lives of men. Overall, she is pretty accurate. There will always be exceptions when you are forced to make generalizations the way this book does. However, the things that are discussed in this book will hit home with most men. For example, the desire to be respected in public and private...the internal drive to provide ...more
This is a relationship/marriage book so if you don't like those kind of books you won't like this. But I liked it.
First of all.. I like the Christian perspective. It begins with the assumption that your marriage is important to God and He wants us the be strong as a couple. The principles are taught with that as a foundation.
Second... I liked that the thoughts are general and applicable to many circumstances. I like the book "Surrendered Wife" as well but it was so s...more
First of all.. I like the Christian perspective. It begins with the assumption that your marriage is important to God and He wants us the be strong as a couple. The principles are taught with that as a foundation.
Second... I liked that the thoughts are general and applicable to many circumstances. I like the book "Surrendered Wife" as well but it was so s...more
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For Women Only is for women only for a reason - because everything it contains, guys already know inside and out. This is a book on the psychology of men, born from the research Shaunti set out to conduct for one of her fiction novels. Backed up by professional surveys and statistical data, this books presents How Guys Think 101 written especially for women.
First Impressions
Wow. When I walked into the bookstore, I had absolutely zero intention o...more
For Women Only is for women only for a reason - because everything it contains, guys already know inside and out. This is a book on the psychology of men, born from the research Shaunti set out to conduct for one of her fiction novels. Backed up by professional surveys and statistical data, this books presents How Guys Think 101 written especially for women.
First Impressions
Wow. When I walked into the bookstore, I had absolutely zero intention o...more
Some women complain about this book, because of the generalizations. Well, I say that any book that sets out to shed light on an entire gender is bound to generalize somewhat. Why is this surprising?!
If you are going to read this fabulously helpful book how to love your husband well, be prepared for two things:
1) Your hubby has to really be honest. Some of what it says in here about men, he may not be super stoked about owning up to. This is where the generalizations come in. I re...more
If you are going to read this fabulously helpful book how to love your husband well, be prepared for two things:
1) Your hubby has to really be honest. Some of what it says in here about men, he may not be super stoked about owning up to. This is where the generalizations come in. I re...more
Stephanie
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any woman in a serious romantic relationship
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Jen N.
This book is little, but mighty.
I'm not usually a big fan of the whole "this book will answer all your questions about the opposite sex" premise, but this particular book came highly recommended by a good friend so I put my skepticism aside and gave it a go.
I can't promise it will do the same for you, but I can tell you that Shaunti Feldhahn did a FANTASTIC job of helping me understand my fiancé better. The title promises a revealing peek into the "inner ...more
I'm not usually a big fan of the whole "this book will answer all your questions about the opposite sex" premise, but this particular book came highly recommended by a good friend so I put my skepticism aside and gave it a go.
I can't promise it will do the same for you, but I can tell you that Shaunti Feldhahn did a FANTASTIC job of helping me understand my fiancé better. The title promises a revealing peek into the "inner ...more
Shaunti Feldhahn did the research; now women everywhere can test their own assumptions and knowledge of how the male mind works, especially in the areas that matter most to us: love and respect, providing for his family, how their spouses look (and other women, too), and of course, sex. The author, with humor and compassion, shows us that what God created when he created man is unique, “and he said his creation was good.” To understand how our men’s mind work is a step toward giving them the e...more
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My wife asked me to read this book this morning and tell me if it is truth. I picked it up to get the gist of it and an hour and a half later I finished the book.
I think it is a good book for couples that have been married for a while to read and discuss. Not sure I would give it to a newly married couple. I liked the book but do not think all things in the book are normative to all men. Good book good read.
I think it is a good book for couples that have been married for a while to read and discuss. Not sure I would give it to a newly married couple. I liked the book but do not think all things in the book are normative to all men. Good book good read.
I highly recommend this book for married and engaged women out there! It may contain a few things society already knows about men, but this book makes you UNDERSTAND those things, not just be aware of them Several points were knew to me and opened my eyes, which was cool. I do have to say that my man fell under THE EXCEPTION many of the times, as the author released statistical finds from some professional surveys they ran. I always knew my husband was special and unique, and this book confirm...more
Fabulous, seriously. She put into clear-to-me words so much of what my husband has tried to communicate, but which I just wasn't "getting." I really feel like now that I understand more about what he's thinking and feeling, I'm better able to be sympathetic and not try to mold him into the way I think he should behave or react. It's made me feel more compassionate toward him. I loved it.
Well-intentioned, but a little obvious, I would re-title this work "Traditional Gender Roles for Dummies." Many of the "surprising" revelations might be of real use to women who have little experience talking on a deeply relational level to men, and who want to affirm their men in traditional ways. I found that many of the things that were generalized about men were actually true of me, and many things that were supposedly unknown were just re-phrasings of pretty well establi...more
I picked this one up from the Valentine's display at the library and read it in a couple of hours on a Saturday afternoon. I like to read a marriage book once a year and this was a good one. It is a straightforward analysis of how men think and feel. I like the statistical, survey approach. I like the Christian perspective. Some of the writer's analogies and comparisons were helpful and memorable. This quick read is a good reminder about men's yearning for respect, their performance anxiet...more
This book was ok...I have a hard time with relationship books written by women that appear to be a "tell all" about the inner thoughts and feelings of men. The author made some good and thought provoking points, but on other bases I think she was way off (yet, I'm a woman also so perhaps we are both wrong). Maybe if the book was written by a man I could take it more seriously.
This is my second time reading this book. The first time many areas hit me like a slap in the face - total wake up call to "oh that's why!" The first time I asked my husband about several things which led to great conversation & relationship building. This second time I wasn't as blown away and could see how some would feel it's total "fluff." Lots of stuff that is very much common sense I feel. Lots of discussion potential if you are all comfortable as a group discussing per...more
When I entered to win this in the FirstReads contest, I didn't realize it was a Christian book. Not that I have anything against Christians (being one myself), but I often don't agree with the fundamentalist/born-again point of view. And there was definitely a "serve your husband" undercurrent to this book.
Wives are advised to change their points of view and actions to accommodate their husbands. I will be reading the "For Women Only" companion book that came wit...more
Wives are advised to change their points of view and actions to accommodate their husbands. I will be reading the "For Women Only" companion book that came wit...more
This book was a fun read. I read it in two evenings. It created interesting conversation between my husband and I. Either my husband is strange or the book stereotypes a bit, but he didn't agree with everything it said. I still gave it fours stars because I never would have thought to ask him about some of the subjects if I had not read the book.
I found this book pushed my buttons, which made for lively discussion with friends. However, i found John Grey's "why mars and venus collide" more enjoyable reading and very helpful. "For Women Only" was only about men, and not a side by side comparison. Reading it's companion, For Men Only, might soothe some of the issues it raised for me.
The book was interesting. But I would say that not ALL men fit into this stereotype of a man, but I would say that it would be rare for a man to not fit any of what she studied in the book. Its a good book to read if you're having difficulty understanding your significant other/husband. It was a really quick read, but I would say that most women should read this just to get a general idea of what goes on in their minds in general. And why we have such a hard time understanding each other at ...more
I am not typically one to say this about gender books but this is a must read for any woman who is not a man-basher. Although most women think they truly understand the opposite sex, and although maybe they get it better than most, this book will definitely help you appreciate the qualities that define men.
It was so good in fact, that I will definitely read the book about females titled "For Men Only." I have no doubt it will help me to better understand my female frie...more
It was so good in fact, that I will definitely read the book about females titled "For Men Only." I have no doubt it will help me to better understand my female frie...more
I was invited to read this book by a friend, and like so many survey-driven books, am left questioning the survey more than myself.
While this book does reveal some inner workings of men that many women might not have perceived, it also, in my opinion, portrays men as shallow creatures with little self control, especially when it comes to sex and physical appearance.
This is a spiritual (Christian) based book, so the survey and interpretation of the results are taken throug...more
While this book does reveal some inner workings of men that many women might not have perceived, it also, in my opinion, portrays men as shallow creatures with little self control, especially when it comes to sex and physical appearance.
This is a spiritual (Christian) based book, so the survey and interpretation of the results are taken throug...more
Shaunti Feldhahn does an excellent job of exploring the internal, relational dynamics of men towards women and presenting them to a female audience in a gentle, understanding way. Feldhahn, throughout the book, mentions how most women's reactions to her revelations are not what men are expecting, so it is good that these subjects are present by a woman to women.
I actually found this book very helpful from a guy's perspective, gaining an understanding of how women react to hearing abou...more
I actually found this book very helpful from a guy's perspective, gaining an understanding of how women react to hearing abou...more
This and its accompanying book For Men Only: What you need to know about the inner lives of Women were hands down a love saver. We were going through a period of constant squabbles - hurting each other and not really sure why. We had been in a big fight the night before I had to fly on a trip. At the airport I saw this book and read it on the entire trip. I don't agree with some parts of it - but I read it often. I bought the other version for Men and read it as well. Now we've swapped the...more
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