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Choose Your Story, Change Your Life: Silence Your Inner Critic and Rewrite Your Life from the Inside Out
The things we tell ourselves affect how well or poorly our path in life goes. It’s time to flip the script on the internal stories you tell yourself and live life on your terms.
Most of the “self-stories” you tell yourself—the kind of person you say you are and the things you are capable of—are invisible to you because they have become such a part of your everyday mental routine that you don’t even recognize they exist.
Yet, these self-stories influence everything you do, everything you say, and everything you are.
Choose Your Story, Change Your Life will help you take complete control of your self-stories and create the life you’ve always dreamed you’d have. Author Kindra Hall offers up a new window into your psychology, one that travels the distance from the frontiers of neuroscience to the deep inner workings of your thoughts and feelings.
In Choose Your Story, Change Your Life, Kindra will help
Uncover the truth of how you have created the life you have;Challenge everything you think you know about how your life has been built;Uncover the clear steps you can take to create the life you want;Take control of your self-story to become the author of who you are; andLive your life in a way you never have before.This eye-opening, but applicable journey will transform you from a passive listener of these limiting, unconscious thoughts to the definitive author of who you are and everything you want to be.
Changing your life is as simple as choosing better stories to tell yourself. If you can change your story, you can change your life.
Most of the “self-stories” you tell yourself—the kind of person you say you are and the things you are capable of—are invisible to you because they have become such a part of your everyday mental routine that you don’t even recognize they exist.
Yet, these self-stories influence everything you do, everything you say, and everything you are.
Choose Your Story, Change Your Life will help you take complete control of your self-stories and create the life you’ve always dreamed you’d have. Author Kindra Hall offers up a new window into your psychology, one that travels the distance from the frontiers of neuroscience to the deep inner workings of your thoughts and feelings.
In Choose Your Story, Change Your Life, Kindra will help
Uncover the truth of how you have created the life you have;Challenge everything you think you know about how your life has been built;Uncover the clear steps you can take to create the life you want;Take control of your self-story to become the author of who you are; andLive your life in a way you never have before.This eye-opening, but applicable journey will transform you from a passive listener of these limiting, unconscious thoughts to the definitive author of who you are and everything you want to be.
Changing your life is as simple as choosing better stories to tell yourself. If you can change your story, you can change your life.
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December 26, 2022
This is for those of you who are considering listening to this as an audiobook... Please don't.
Whatever inspirational / up coaching/ feel good messaging is part of this book is entirely lost by painful execution by the author. Kindra Hall, like many authors, feels that her message is best delivered by her actual voice. That seems to have been done without a modicum of voice coaching or recognition that there are professionals who do this for a living.
Ms Hall lacks any discernible vocal range and manages to insert gravitas and enthusiasm to her words by simply yell/ screeching them louder.
This vocal style was particularly grating given the psychologically complex issues in the book - including ones of developing a sense of self-mastery. The goal of the book is to tell better stories about ourselves and to buy into them wholeheartedly. The irony that the author doesn't realize her own limitations in this regard was not lost on me.
I hung with it through several hours of audio narration but cannot recommend this book.
Whatever inspirational / up coaching/ feel good messaging is part of this book is entirely lost by painful execution by the author. Kindra Hall, like many authors, feels that her message is best delivered by her actual voice. That seems to have been done without a modicum of voice coaching or recognition that there are professionals who do this for a living.
Ms Hall lacks any discernible vocal range and manages to insert gravitas and enthusiasm to her words by simply yell/ screeching them louder.
This vocal style was particularly grating given the psychologically complex issues in the book - including ones of developing a sense of self-mastery. The goal of the book is to tell better stories about ourselves and to buy into them wholeheartedly. The irony that the author doesn't realize her own limitations in this regard was not lost on me.
I hung with it through several hours of audio narration but cannot recommend this book.
April 30, 2023
Genres: Nonfiction/Self-Help
This was a reread. I often choose to reread a book if I only have a short time to listen to an audio...so this was my choice for a busy afternoon. I liked it just as much as I did the first time.
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I listened to the audio and got a feel for who the author was. She definitely had a story to tell (or 50) but I liked her constant positive spin. Her gentle encouragement to level up felt authentic. Her comments on Wizard of Oz and on icebergs, pulled me right in to her message. I couldn't disagree.
This wasn't quite 5 stars but I rounded up. I liked her point of view and this felt like it came from an honest place. And I've put in on my reread pile.
This was a reread. I often choose to reread a book if I only have a short time to listen to an audio...so this was my choice for a busy afternoon. I liked it just as much as I did the first time.
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I listened to the audio and got a feel for who the author was. She definitely had a story to tell (or 50) but I liked her constant positive spin. Her gentle encouragement to level up felt authentic. Her comments on Wizard of Oz and on icebergs, pulled me right in to her message. I couldn't disagree.
This wasn't quite 5 stars but I rounded up. I liked her point of view and this felt like it came from an honest place. And I've put in on my reread pile.
June 21, 2022
3.5 stars.
It isn't bad, it just struck me as a warmed-over, pop pyschology, self-help version of cognitive behavior therapy. And hey - if you're gonna rip off something, CBT is prety good stuff to rip off. But it all kinda rankled me.
Hall notes that the stories we tell ourselves shape our self-image, the decisions we make in life, and ultimately the whole of our lifestyles. These stories often spring up automatically, and we need to be aware of them, control them, edit/reedit them, reject ones no longer serving us, and create new ones that function more effecively for us. OK, basically, take what she calls "story" and replace them with "automatic thoughts" and that's a core insight of CBT. Then you should analysis and inspect your automatic thoughts and challenge them - especially the counterproductive ones that damage yourself. Also, Hall talks about you need to dig deeper to see the roots of your story - and CBT talks about how you need to look at the core of your identity (how you view yourself, how you view the world, how you view other people) to understand where your automatic thoughts come from.
So, yeah, it reminded me of CBT, though it never once acknowledged it (and, for all I know, Hall doesn't know about it). Personally, I prefer the rigor of CBT to the more rah-rah attitude I got here.
Some stuff from the book: do something you believe is important and you'll be surprised how hard it is to feel average. (OK, there's a nice insight). Four key elements that make a story stick include: identifiable characters, authentic emotion, a significant moment, and specific details. If your stories aren't working, you can try replacing them, reinterpreting them, rerouting them, research new ones, or just rewrite them. To help install better stories in your life, write down stories that serve you, say them aloud, paln for tough moments, and start each day with your stories. So some stuff here is intersting.
Some individual stories in the book bugged me. When I read Angela Duckworth's "Grit" I remember some friends saying they thought that book was how to be an effective asshole. I didn't find that in that book, but that impression seeped in here.
It's mostly for people looking to improve themselves in business. Yeah, other aspects of life are also covered, but Hall writes for "Success" magazine so its main focus is entrepreneural.
It isn't bad, it just struck me as a warmed-over, pop pyschology, self-help version of cognitive behavior therapy. And hey - if you're gonna rip off something, CBT is prety good stuff to rip off. But it all kinda rankled me.
Hall notes that the stories we tell ourselves shape our self-image, the decisions we make in life, and ultimately the whole of our lifestyles. These stories often spring up automatically, and we need to be aware of them, control them, edit/reedit them, reject ones no longer serving us, and create new ones that function more effecively for us. OK, basically, take what she calls "story" and replace them with "automatic thoughts" and that's a core insight of CBT. Then you should analysis and inspect your automatic thoughts and challenge them - especially the counterproductive ones that damage yourself. Also, Hall talks about you need to dig deeper to see the roots of your story - and CBT talks about how you need to look at the core of your identity (how you view yourself, how you view the world, how you view other people) to understand where your automatic thoughts come from.
So, yeah, it reminded me of CBT, though it never once acknowledged it (and, for all I know, Hall doesn't know about it). Personally, I prefer the rigor of CBT to the more rah-rah attitude I got here.
Some stuff from the book: do something you believe is important and you'll be surprised how hard it is to feel average. (OK, there's a nice insight). Four key elements that make a story stick include: identifiable characters, authentic emotion, a significant moment, and specific details. If your stories aren't working, you can try replacing them, reinterpreting them, rerouting them, research new ones, or just rewrite them. To help install better stories in your life, write down stories that serve you, say them aloud, paln for tough moments, and start each day with your stories. So some stuff here is intersting.
Some individual stories in the book bugged me. When I read Angela Duckworth's "Grit" I remember some friends saying they thought that book was how to be an effective asshole. I didn't find that in that book, but that impression seeped in here.
It's mostly for people looking to improve themselves in business. Yeah, other aspects of life are also covered, but Hall writes for "Success" magazine so its main focus is entrepreneural.
December 27, 2021
This book is amazing. Kindra is talking to me... okay, well not just me but every page I turned made me feel as if she was giving me the kick in the butt that I need. Our success in achieving the goals we have set forth for ourselves all start with the stories we tell ourselves! The book is not just one that tells stories but teaches the reader how to reprogram his/her thinking .... how to CHOOSE YOUR STORY!
I received an advanced copy of the first half of the book, even though it's not released.
I received an advanced copy of the first half of the book, even though it's not released.
August 22, 2022
“…By documenting our happiness and joy, we’re creating a catalog of story material to choose from when we need it. Like Hansel and Gretel‘s bread crumbs, that trail of our positive stories can lead us back to good if we’ve lost our way.”
Kindra Hall explains how the stories we tell ourselves are a way our brain tries to protect us from future pain. Often, however, these stories become self-limiting. Strategically utilizing hand picked stories can have life changing results.
Part one shows how people become the stories they tell themselves. Part two explores the self-storytelling process, demonstrating how to catch, analyze, choose, and install positive, life changing stories. Part three, entitled Hacking Your Essential Stories, focuses on specific areas: business and career; health and well-being; money and financing; relationships and love; family and parenting. Throughout the book, Hall’s four-step process is reiterated using a multitude of examples both from Hall’s personal experience and that of her clients.
I liked how the book begins and ends with a story of the author going to see a production of THE WIZARD OF OZ, linking using the techniques in the book to following a yellow brick road toward a better destiny. The sections on the perils of potential, the dark side of goal setting, perfectionism, and the story you tell yourself about what you have and haven’t achieved were especially fascinating.
The book is well organized and does a great job of laying the groundwork by explaining the theory behind the process. Hall’s narrative comes across as honest and unvarnished. I can see why Hall has become such a successful speaker and coach.
Kindra Hall explains how the stories we tell ourselves are a way our brain tries to protect us from future pain. Often, however, these stories become self-limiting. Strategically utilizing hand picked stories can have life changing results.
Part one shows how people become the stories they tell themselves. Part two explores the self-storytelling process, demonstrating how to catch, analyze, choose, and install positive, life changing stories. Part three, entitled Hacking Your Essential Stories, focuses on specific areas: business and career; health and well-being; money and financing; relationships and love; family and parenting. Throughout the book, Hall’s four-step process is reiterated using a multitude of examples both from Hall’s personal experience and that of her clients.
I liked how the book begins and ends with a story of the author going to see a production of THE WIZARD OF OZ, linking using the techniques in the book to following a yellow brick road toward a better destiny. The sections on the perils of potential, the dark side of goal setting, perfectionism, and the story you tell yourself about what you have and haven’t achieved were especially fascinating.
The book is well organized and does a great job of laying the groundwork by explaining the theory behind the process. Hall’s narrative comes across as honest and unvarnished. I can see why Hall has become such a successful speaker and coach.
January 19, 2023
This is probably going to be one of the most important books I read all year!! This book was selected and given to me by my Federal Government Coaching network for our continued development book club reading and discussion.
The premise of the book is about how we create the life we have by the stories we tell ourselves. By nature, we are storytellers - that is one of our greatest strengths. Things becomes problematic when those stories are creating your reality...and it is not the reality you want.
Kindra outlines a four-step process to breaking the bad story habit:
1. Catching Your Self-Storyteller
2. Analyzing the Story for it's Truth and Impact on your Life
3. Choosing a Story that Serves you Better
4. Installing that Story in your Brain for Better Results
I loved Kindra's storytelling approach to sharing her work - the material is well researched and logically organized, she gave actionable steps of how to create change, and she shared relatable examples of how we get stuck and the process of rewritting our story. Ask yourself, are the stories your telling yourself serving you? If not, pick up this book!!
"We are not who we are because of our atoms our molecules, our DNA. We're who we are because of the stories we tell ourselves - about the pain we're in, the hopes we have, the dreams we live with." - Seth Godin
The premise of the book is about how we create the life we have by the stories we tell ourselves. By nature, we are storytellers - that is one of our greatest strengths. Things becomes problematic when those stories are creating your reality...and it is not the reality you want.
Kindra outlines a four-step process to breaking the bad story habit:
1. Catching Your Self-Storyteller
2. Analyzing the Story for it's Truth and Impact on your Life
3. Choosing a Story that Serves you Better
4. Installing that Story in your Brain for Better Results
I loved Kindra's storytelling approach to sharing her work - the material is well researched and logically organized, she gave actionable steps of how to create change, and she shared relatable examples of how we get stuck and the process of rewritting our story. Ask yourself, are the stories your telling yourself serving you? If not, pick up this book!!
"We are not who we are because of our atoms our molecules, our DNA. We're who we are because of the stories we tell ourselves - about the pain we're in, the hopes we have, the dreams we live with." - Seth Godin
January 10, 2025
Listened to the audio and was enthralled. I had a lot of good ideas come to mind about trying to reframe struggles and problems. I will probably revisit this book again. Very inspiring and enjoyable listen.
June 5, 2022
Grateful I finally made it through this. Now to dive into my stories... those that are limiting and those I need to choose to be able to move forward in a better light.
November 3, 2022
Nothing earth shattering but Hall really drills home her point about the narratives we tell ourselves and walks through how to break the cycle. Much of this can be found in other books but the combination of anecdotes and application in a various aspects of life made this a better read than expected.
Your brain thinks stories are real.
The remarkable thing about this self storytelling, however is not that it exists – the truth is both far weirder and more wonderful. The crazy thing about self stories is that they actually become your life. Your self stories become true. They are an ongoing, self fulfilling prophecy. With that, above all, is the most amazing part: we become our stories.
Rosenthal’s experiment where he singled out random students as intellectual “growth spurters.” The expectation of the teachers and the students themselves led to more self-confidence, more attention and better performance (becoming a self fulfilling prophecy). The opposite of this so-called Pygmalion effect is called the golem effect where low expectations lead to poorer results. (p26)
** Benefits of Storytelling (p16)
Storytelling captures your attention (cortisol).
Storytelling helps you learn (dopamine).
Storytelling helps you trust (oxytocin).
** Self Stories
Subconscious (invisible)
Triggered
Automatic and repeating (habit).
Breaking the bad self story requires opportunities for interruption.
Far more negative stories at our fingertips relative to positive ones.
** Roadmap for Improvement (p47)
Catching Yourself storyteller in the act
Analyzing a story for its truth and impact in your life
Choosing the story to serve you better
Installing that story in your brain in life for better results
Choosing what story or stories you tell yourself can change your response, which in turn changes your results. Put that on repeat, and suddenly, your life can look wholly different.
** Iceberg Moments (p57)
Event => Story => Response => Result
Each story is like an iceberg with similar implications (what is there versus what can be seen with the naked eye).
Negative self talk is quite common, many comments imply a permanence and associated identity (I’m a failure versus I failed).
Be aware of “well-dressed excuses” that sound good on the surface but don’t help you achieve your goals.
Don’t ignore physiological signals about stress or discomfort.
** Elements of a Good Story (p77)
Identifiable characters
Authentic emotion
The significant moment
Specific details
The idea Is to recognize why we remember certain stories and how you need to craft their replacement.
Do not judge or minimize stories because they clearly matter.
As they say in the theater: there are no small parts, only small actors.”
** Six Questions
Where did the story come from (what is my Earliest memory that relates to this story; can I track this story over time; how have I expanded or built on this story since it began)?
Is this story true (was it ever true; was it true at one point but the truth has shifted; was it true for me and not just for the person who told it to me)?
Lori Gottlieb (author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) has found that “As humans, we are all unreliable narrators. We think we are telling the accurate version of the story, but of course, what we’re telling is a story through our subjective lens.”
Why is the story there (how does this story keep me where I am; how is it protecting me; what am I afraid of)?
What price do I pay for this story (what would my life be like if the story was gone; what am I missing out on because of the story; how do I behave when the story is in play)?
Does this story serve me?
Where am I in this story (why do I think this story is permanent; what could happen that would send this story in a new direction)?
A story can be created in an instant, and yet, miraculously, a story is also simultaneously as long and perpetually unfolding as life itself and end can be a beginning; a beginning can be a middle period the middle of one story can be the end of another. When it comes to our self stories, there are endless possibilities and possible combinations, but our default mode is to see stories as finished – has completed things that are true, permanent states of being. We like to put a period in the end, a title at the beginning and go from there. (p94)
** Choosing Better Stories
Two common mistakes are choosing things that aren’t stories (don’t fall into the trap of positive self talk or affirmations) and discounting small stories.
Five ways to choose better stories:
Replace: Out with the bad, and with the good
Reinterpret: See another side of the self story
Reroute: Use one story to inspire another
When you try to do something you truly have never done before, your inner storyteller is likely to push back. This overactive “editor” it’s like something within you holding a red pen and striking down ideas or finding flaws before you even get a chance to fully explore them. Finding new stories to choose can be a struggle in these situations, because the editor throws them out the second they show themselves. (p106)
Particularly true for perfectionists and Type A personalities.
Research: Borrow a story from someone else
Rewrite: Find a story that doesn’t exist – yet
** Implementing Better Stories
Write the stories that serve you (journaling)
Share your stories aloud (alone and to someone else, use them to “change the world”)
Plan for the tough moments (prepare for triggers)
Start each day with your stories (as easy as a post it note)
Expect your existing stories to be tenacious.
Until you completely habituate a new story, your old one is going to run in your head, at least some of the time period in fact it might always run. The game is to catch it in action and scare it off – like spying a rare animal as it slinks off in the dark. (p135)
** Applied to Business and Career
Instead of focusing on the stories outside you or around you, the idea is to focus on stories within you to advance your professional goals.
One of the easiest ways to catch yourself stories in the act is to pay close attention to feedback – both the feedback you receive and how you respond to it.
In one study, researchers track the progress of participants trying to find a fulfilling job. Those who spent the most time fantasizing about their future fulfilling work actually applied for fewer jobs, got fewer offers, and when they did get work, got paid less!
The problem with all this future think is that it can actually undermine your attempts to do the actual work. Some researchers believe that excessive visualization might trick a part of your brain into thinking you’ve already reached the goal, thereby reducing your motivation to do the work.
And yet who among us hasn’t had phases of life where we felt bad about where we are instead of where we should be or discouraged by the potential we haven’t lived up to potential can be a cruel master and goals have a way of highlighting its power potential is fleeting. It’s ambiguous. By definition, you never quite reach it. Skills enable new skills. Accomplishments enable newer, larger accomplishments. Confidence begets greater confidence. Your potential is an ever moving signpost that is wonderful for helping you grow, but terrible if you never celebrate that growth by looking back at the stories that show you just how far you’ve come.
** Money and Finances
Many money stories are handed down through families.
The four money stories you should evaluate:
Your story about how much money you have
Your story about how much money you need (how much is enough and if you have what you need, why are you anxious)
Your story about where money comes from
Your story about how money should be used
** Relationships and Love
Strangers are a part of our lives, and yet sometimes, one negative interaction from a person I don’t know and will never see again as the power to completely throw me off my game. And it’s just as true of digital encounters (p203).
While understanding your stories helps you to respond to events in more positive, productive ways, understanding the inner stories of others helps do the same – and that can go a long way at work (p205).
You can only give love to others if you love yourself first.
Focusing on stories instead of positive thoughts can make this process more tangible and effective.
** Family and Parenting
Putting your oxygen mask on first
The lesson for parents – and anyone else interacting with kids – is that equipping kids with statements isn’t as powerful as equipping them with stories.
Stories are memorable. They’re sticky. They’re emotionally charged. Each time you use stories, you’re equipping kids with a tool that can use later on in expanding their ability to put things into perspective (p227).
Tell your children their stories, no matter how old they are. Each time you do, you reinforce the essence of who they are as people. Don’t tell them that they’re resilient – tell them the story of their resilience. Don’t tell them that they’ve always been curious – tell them the stories of their curiosity and action. Don’t just tell them they’re stronger than they think – tell them the story of a time you witnessed their unbelievable strength.
The stories from our youth are valuable long after the innocence of childhood has passed. Even if they look too busy for something as silly as a trip down memory lane, tell them stories. It’s the greatest gift you can offer – the gift of perspective. The gift of watching someone grow and seeing them in a way they can’t possibly see themselves
** Quotes
“People are hard to hate close up. Move in.” (Brene Brown)
“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” (Abraham Lincoln)
“We can’t really give to our children what we don’t have ourselves. In that sense, my greatest gift to my daughter is that I continue to work on myself.” (Marianne Williamson in Return to Love, published in 1992)
Your brain thinks stories are real.
The remarkable thing about this self storytelling, however is not that it exists – the truth is both far weirder and more wonderful. The crazy thing about self stories is that they actually become your life. Your self stories become true. They are an ongoing, self fulfilling prophecy. With that, above all, is the most amazing part: we become our stories.
Rosenthal’s experiment where he singled out random students as intellectual “growth spurters.” The expectation of the teachers and the students themselves led to more self-confidence, more attention and better performance (becoming a self fulfilling prophecy). The opposite of this so-called Pygmalion effect is called the golem effect where low expectations lead to poorer results. (p26)
** Benefits of Storytelling (p16)
Storytelling captures your attention (cortisol).
Storytelling helps you learn (dopamine).
Storytelling helps you trust (oxytocin).
** Self Stories
Subconscious (invisible)
Triggered
Automatic and repeating (habit).
Breaking the bad self story requires opportunities for interruption.
Far more negative stories at our fingertips relative to positive ones.
** Roadmap for Improvement (p47)
Catching Yourself storyteller in the act
Analyzing a story for its truth and impact in your life
Choosing the story to serve you better
Installing that story in your brain in life for better results
Choosing what story or stories you tell yourself can change your response, which in turn changes your results. Put that on repeat, and suddenly, your life can look wholly different.
** Iceberg Moments (p57)
Event => Story => Response => Result
Each story is like an iceberg with similar implications (what is there versus what can be seen with the naked eye).
Negative self talk is quite common, many comments imply a permanence and associated identity (I’m a failure versus I failed).
Be aware of “well-dressed excuses” that sound good on the surface but don’t help you achieve your goals.
Don’t ignore physiological signals about stress or discomfort.
** Elements of a Good Story (p77)
Identifiable characters
Authentic emotion
The significant moment
Specific details
The idea Is to recognize why we remember certain stories and how you need to craft their replacement.
Do not judge or minimize stories because they clearly matter.
As they say in the theater: there are no small parts, only small actors.”
** Six Questions
Where did the story come from (what is my Earliest memory that relates to this story; can I track this story over time; how have I expanded or built on this story since it began)?
Is this story true (was it ever true; was it true at one point but the truth has shifted; was it true for me and not just for the person who told it to me)?
Lori Gottlieb (author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) has found that “As humans, we are all unreliable narrators. We think we are telling the accurate version of the story, but of course, what we’re telling is a story through our subjective lens.”
Why is the story there (how does this story keep me where I am; how is it protecting me; what am I afraid of)?
What price do I pay for this story (what would my life be like if the story was gone; what am I missing out on because of the story; how do I behave when the story is in play)?
Does this story serve me?
Where am I in this story (why do I think this story is permanent; what could happen that would send this story in a new direction)?
A story can be created in an instant, and yet, miraculously, a story is also simultaneously as long and perpetually unfolding as life itself and end can be a beginning; a beginning can be a middle period the middle of one story can be the end of another. When it comes to our self stories, there are endless possibilities and possible combinations, but our default mode is to see stories as finished – has completed things that are true, permanent states of being. We like to put a period in the end, a title at the beginning and go from there. (p94)
** Choosing Better Stories
Two common mistakes are choosing things that aren’t stories (don’t fall into the trap of positive self talk or affirmations) and discounting small stories.
Five ways to choose better stories:
Replace: Out with the bad, and with the good
Reinterpret: See another side of the self story
Reroute: Use one story to inspire another
When you try to do something you truly have never done before, your inner storyteller is likely to push back. This overactive “editor” it’s like something within you holding a red pen and striking down ideas or finding flaws before you even get a chance to fully explore them. Finding new stories to choose can be a struggle in these situations, because the editor throws them out the second they show themselves. (p106)
Particularly true for perfectionists and Type A personalities.
Research: Borrow a story from someone else
Rewrite: Find a story that doesn’t exist – yet
** Implementing Better Stories
Write the stories that serve you (journaling)
Share your stories aloud (alone and to someone else, use them to “change the world”)
Plan for the tough moments (prepare for triggers)
Start each day with your stories (as easy as a post it note)
Expect your existing stories to be tenacious.
Until you completely habituate a new story, your old one is going to run in your head, at least some of the time period in fact it might always run. The game is to catch it in action and scare it off – like spying a rare animal as it slinks off in the dark. (p135)
** Applied to Business and Career
Instead of focusing on the stories outside you or around you, the idea is to focus on stories within you to advance your professional goals.
One of the easiest ways to catch yourself stories in the act is to pay close attention to feedback – both the feedback you receive and how you respond to it.
In one study, researchers track the progress of participants trying to find a fulfilling job. Those who spent the most time fantasizing about their future fulfilling work actually applied for fewer jobs, got fewer offers, and when they did get work, got paid less!
The problem with all this future think is that it can actually undermine your attempts to do the actual work. Some researchers believe that excessive visualization might trick a part of your brain into thinking you’ve already reached the goal, thereby reducing your motivation to do the work.
And yet who among us hasn’t had phases of life where we felt bad about where we are instead of where we should be or discouraged by the potential we haven’t lived up to potential can be a cruel master and goals have a way of highlighting its power potential is fleeting. It’s ambiguous. By definition, you never quite reach it. Skills enable new skills. Accomplishments enable newer, larger accomplishments. Confidence begets greater confidence. Your potential is an ever moving signpost that is wonderful for helping you grow, but terrible if you never celebrate that growth by looking back at the stories that show you just how far you’ve come.
** Money and Finances
Many money stories are handed down through families.
The four money stories you should evaluate:
Your story about how much money you have
Your story about how much money you need (how much is enough and if you have what you need, why are you anxious)
Your story about where money comes from
Your story about how money should be used
** Relationships and Love
Strangers are a part of our lives, and yet sometimes, one negative interaction from a person I don’t know and will never see again as the power to completely throw me off my game. And it’s just as true of digital encounters (p203).
While understanding your stories helps you to respond to events in more positive, productive ways, understanding the inner stories of others helps do the same – and that can go a long way at work (p205).
You can only give love to others if you love yourself first.
Focusing on stories instead of positive thoughts can make this process more tangible and effective.
** Family and Parenting
Putting your oxygen mask on first
The lesson for parents – and anyone else interacting with kids – is that equipping kids with statements isn’t as powerful as equipping them with stories.
Stories are memorable. They’re sticky. They’re emotionally charged. Each time you use stories, you’re equipping kids with a tool that can use later on in expanding their ability to put things into perspective (p227).
Tell your children their stories, no matter how old they are. Each time you do, you reinforce the essence of who they are as people. Don’t tell them that they’re resilient – tell them the story of their resilience. Don’t tell them that they’ve always been curious – tell them the stories of their curiosity and action. Don’t just tell them they’re stronger than they think – tell them the story of a time you witnessed their unbelievable strength.
The stories from our youth are valuable long after the innocence of childhood has passed. Even if they look too busy for something as silly as a trip down memory lane, tell them stories. It’s the greatest gift you can offer – the gift of perspective. The gift of watching someone grow and seeing them in a way they can’t possibly see themselves
** Quotes
“People are hard to hate close up. Move in.” (Brene Brown)
“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” (Abraham Lincoln)
“We can’t really give to our children what we don’t have ourselves. In that sense, my greatest gift to my daughter is that I continue to work on myself.” (Marianne Williamson in Return to Love, published in 1992)
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
November 11, 2021
Kindra Hall is a brilliant storyteller and in this book she uses stories to help us examine the stories we tell ourselves. Both inspiring and full of practical examples, the reader is walked through the process of examining the root of our inner critic and then how to find and rewrite the stories that are holding us back. Highly recommended for anyone unhappy with where they are or wanting to make positive changes in any area of their life.
eARC provided by publisher via Edelweiss
eARC provided by publisher via Edelweiss
March 2, 2022
Skip a page or skip the book? Doesn’t matter. The writer tries to give all kinds of advice without any solid research. The writer tries to be a historian, agony aunt, and physiologist at the same time. The stories in the book don’t tie together. Irony at it’s best
April 4, 2023
Review: This book is filled with very engaging stories and I think actually does have the potential to change peoples lives. Would highly recommend.
What I got from it:
Main point: For different areas of our lives (ie relationships, money, work, education) we have different beliefs about ourselves based on stories from our past. For example, you may think that you are not very smart.
a) The idea with this book is to take this belief and look further for what stories helped create this belief in your past (no matter how old). For example, the belief in not being smart could be a culmination of ie failing the gifted test on first try, not doing as well as cousins in math tutoring, getting told by high school chemistry teacher that didn't have a great future ahead.
b) The next aspect is to question this belief: is it true? was it ever true? does holding onto this story have a purpose (ie protection for self)? how does this story influence your behavior? what price do I pay for this story?
c) Next thing to assess is does this story serve me? (Should I find a way to let this story go).
d) The next step is to find alternatives to the story presented. For example, what were the instances where you were told that you were smart (ie getting 100 on midterm exam, scoring 98% on standardized admission tests, getting good evaluations, etc). Don't minimize any of your wins or successes. If you don't have clear success stories like this, it is okay to imagine them (ie someone telling you that you were excellent on the job, etc).
e) Remind yourself of the daily successes and positive stories you've had every morning, and come up with a new empowering belief that serves you better.
Minor points
1. Theres a story of a child who noticed a tiny dragon in his house, the mom thought this was a joke and so they ignored it. The dragon grew and grew until it got so big in the house that it was impossible to ignore. The child asked the mom, why did it get so big? Mom responds, I think it just wanted to be acknowledged. The idea of this book is that we hold onto certain stories of our lives and that they need to be acknowledged.
2. Be sure to tell others and yourself the good things that happen in your daily life. We tend to speak more on the negative.
3. It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go.
4. Sometimes the best way to acknowledge and let a story go is to fully own it. For example, if you hate being a smoker and keep telling yourself that you don't really smoke that much this isn't ideal. Instead calling yourself a clear smoker can maybe force you into a cognitive dissonance and make you want to change.
5. Sometimes having very large goals can be depressing and demotivating, as constantly falling behind expectation.
What I got from it:
Main point: For different areas of our lives (ie relationships, money, work, education) we have different beliefs about ourselves based on stories from our past. For example, you may think that you are not very smart.
a) The idea with this book is to take this belief and look further for what stories helped create this belief in your past (no matter how old). For example, the belief in not being smart could be a culmination of ie failing the gifted test on first try, not doing as well as cousins in math tutoring, getting told by high school chemistry teacher that didn't have a great future ahead.
b) The next aspect is to question this belief: is it true? was it ever true? does holding onto this story have a purpose (ie protection for self)? how does this story influence your behavior? what price do I pay for this story?
c) Next thing to assess is does this story serve me? (Should I find a way to let this story go).
d) The next step is to find alternatives to the story presented. For example, what were the instances where you were told that you were smart (ie getting 100 on midterm exam, scoring 98% on standardized admission tests, getting good evaluations, etc). Don't minimize any of your wins or successes. If you don't have clear success stories like this, it is okay to imagine them (ie someone telling you that you were excellent on the job, etc).
e) Remind yourself of the daily successes and positive stories you've had every morning, and come up with a new empowering belief that serves you better.
Minor points
1. Theres a story of a child who noticed a tiny dragon in his house, the mom thought this was a joke and so they ignored it. The dragon grew and grew until it got so big in the house that it was impossible to ignore. The child asked the mom, why did it get so big? Mom responds, I think it just wanted to be acknowledged. The idea of this book is that we hold onto certain stories of our lives and that they need to be acknowledged.
2. Be sure to tell others and yourself the good things that happen in your daily life. We tend to speak more on the negative.
3. It is the set of the sails, not the direction of the wind that determines which way we will go.
4. Sometimes the best way to acknowledge and let a story go is to fully own it. For example, if you hate being a smoker and keep telling yourself that you don't really smoke that much this isn't ideal. Instead calling yourself a clear smoker can maybe force you into a cognitive dissonance and make you want to change.
5. Sometimes having very large goals can be depressing and demotivating, as constantly falling behind expectation.
March 18, 2023
Book of the Day – Choose Your Story, Change Your Life
Today’s Book of the Day is CHOOSE YOUR STORY, CHANGE YOUR LIFE, written by Kindra Hall in 2022 and published by HarperCollins Leadership.
Kindra Hall is President and Chief Storytelling Officer at Steller Collective, a consulting firm focused on the strategic application of storytelling to today’s communication challenges. She is one of the most renowned keynote speakers, today.
I have chosen this book because I have quite often read Kindra Hall’s books and contributions as well as listened to her speeches and keynotes.
This book is about silencing that negative voice inside you and rewriting your life in the way that most suits who you really are.
One of the things that most people do is to stop being aware of their inner narrative about who they are, what they really want, and what they are capable of. The negative outcome of this is that, even if we are not aware of these “self-narrated” stories, we are always listening to them.
And we believe what we tell about ourselves!
So, if one is not careful, and speaks ill about him/herself, the result will be that one will start behaving accordingly to that daily, continuous, and negative narrative that influences everything one does and is.
Choose Your Story, Change Your Life is one of those books that can literally change your life, by helping you become aware of and control your inner narrative and self-stories. This will let you start creating the life you want and deserve.
Kindra Hall makes an excellent job of mixing state-of-the-art knowledge about psychology and neuroscience with inner work and improvement. All of this by giving practical and effective suggestions on how to silence the inner critic and develop positive, life-changing storytelling.
Reading this book, the readers will learn about:
how they have created their own life,
becoming aware of the negative effects of the inner critics,
identifying the steps needed to create the life they want,
gaining control of and trust in their inner narrative,
becoming the positive storyteller of the life you have chosen and the person you really are.
I think that this is an excellent book giving valuable and practical tools to overcome the negative voices speaking ill about us and start achieving and growing in your life. So, it is definitely worth a read!
Today’s Book of the Day is CHOOSE YOUR STORY, CHANGE YOUR LIFE, written by Kindra Hall in 2022 and published by HarperCollins Leadership.
Kindra Hall is President and Chief Storytelling Officer at Steller Collective, a consulting firm focused on the strategic application of storytelling to today’s communication challenges. She is one of the most renowned keynote speakers, today.
I have chosen this book because I have quite often read Kindra Hall’s books and contributions as well as listened to her speeches and keynotes.
This book is about silencing that negative voice inside you and rewriting your life in the way that most suits who you really are.
One of the things that most people do is to stop being aware of their inner narrative about who they are, what they really want, and what they are capable of. The negative outcome of this is that, even if we are not aware of these “self-narrated” stories, we are always listening to them.
And we believe what we tell about ourselves!
So, if one is not careful, and speaks ill about him/herself, the result will be that one will start behaving accordingly to that daily, continuous, and negative narrative that influences everything one does and is.
Choose Your Story, Change Your Life is one of those books that can literally change your life, by helping you become aware of and control your inner narrative and self-stories. This will let you start creating the life you want and deserve.
Kindra Hall makes an excellent job of mixing state-of-the-art knowledge about psychology and neuroscience with inner work and improvement. All of this by giving practical and effective suggestions on how to silence the inner critic and develop positive, life-changing storytelling.
Reading this book, the readers will learn about:
how they have created their own life,
becoming aware of the negative effects of the inner critics,
identifying the steps needed to create the life they want,
gaining control of and trust in their inner narrative,
becoming the positive storyteller of the life you have chosen and the person you really are.
I think that this is an excellent book giving valuable and practical tools to overcome the negative voices speaking ill about us and start achieving and growing in your life. So, it is definitely worth a read!
January 6, 2023
I got this book in an Audible sale. It’s not something I would normally gravitate to (I’m kind of over books written by popular business coaches), but I thought it might be a good mental check/reframe launching into the new year.
If you’re already familiar with the concepts of self stories and self-limiting beliefs, you won’t find anything all that revelatory here. It’s mostly anecdotal, which sometimes works for me, but this time it just felt repetitive and lacking depth.
For someone who keeps reminding us that she “tells stories for a living,” she sure does tell a lot of boring stories. I kept finding myself wanting to yell, “Get to the point!” Rather than feeling intrigued at the start of any of her stories or case studies, I could tell immediately what the end “lesson” was going to be.
Maybe I would have gotten a little more out of this had I read the physical book, but the audiobook made it all feel superficial and like an overly long TED Talk or sales pitch. The author reads the book and her voice and cadence are incredibly aggravating. She over-emphasizes every other word and basically yell-talks the entire book.
If you’re already familiar with the concepts of self stories and self-limiting beliefs, you won’t find anything all that revelatory here. It’s mostly anecdotal, which sometimes works for me, but this time it just felt repetitive and lacking depth.
For someone who keeps reminding us that she “tells stories for a living,” she sure does tell a lot of boring stories. I kept finding myself wanting to yell, “Get to the point!” Rather than feeling intrigued at the start of any of her stories or case studies, I could tell immediately what the end “lesson” was going to be.
Maybe I would have gotten a little more out of this had I read the physical book, but the audiobook made it all feel superficial and like an overly long TED Talk or sales pitch. The author reads the book and her voice and cadence are incredibly aggravating. She over-emphasizes every other word and basically yell-talks the entire book.
January 15, 2023
2.5, rounded up. I agree with the premise…I think the language we use really matters. (Spoken and silent - private thoughts/inner dialogue, only heard in our head.) She seemed a bit hypocritical when commenting on affirmations or vision boards…she was dismissive of these. One of her “success self-stories” was Jim Carrey telling Oprah about the $10m check he carried around before he had earned that $. Carrey subsequently closed a $10m deal for Dumb and Dumber. That example seems more in line with a vision board exercise. Also, there is data that when people change their “I am” beliefs, they can change their behaviors and thus change their life. (Affirmations.) I don’t think her self-stories are all that different than vision boards and affirmations. Differences in format and structure. Semantics. At the start of most chapters, she recaps the previous chapter. This was a bit annoying, trust the reader to remember what they read. But I DO think the message was positive and can certainly be helpful. The writing was easy enough to read.
January 8, 2025
I have not read this author's other books or articles. (I gather she regularly is a business keynote speaker and talks about storytelling and has written books on that particular subject).
If you like books by Jen Sinclair and Rachel Hollis, you'd probably like this book. Kindra is not Rachel (as she adamantly tells you) but it sort of fits into the same girl power/#girlboss genre quite a bit.
There is less humble bragging in this book compared to some of the others and I did like its premise. It's all about the internal stories we tell ourselves, how that can block us from achieving what we want, and how we can begin to notice these stories, challenge them, and rewrite them. In pysch terms, it's noticing and listening to our automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) that have worn their grooves in our neural processes and then applying Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to create better thought patterns. This is a pretty good start in that and she teaches it well through stories (of course).
If you like books by Jen Sinclair and Rachel Hollis, you'd probably like this book. Kindra is not Rachel (as she adamantly tells you) but it sort of fits into the same girl power/#girlboss genre quite a bit.
There is less humble bragging in this book compared to some of the others and I did like its premise. It's all about the internal stories we tell ourselves, how that can block us from achieving what we want, and how we can begin to notice these stories, challenge them, and rewrite them. In pysch terms, it's noticing and listening to our automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) that have worn their grooves in our neural processes and then applying Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to create better thought patterns. This is a pretty good start in that and she teaches it well through stories (of course).
January 6, 2022
This book is absolutely incredible! From the very first chapter when she began to describe the process of storytelling I was able to connect the dots. Normally you have to read multiple chapters to even get the foundation of what the author is trying to teach, but Kindra sets the stage from page one, making this one of the most amazing practical application tools I've ever read!
I began thinking about the stories I tell myself right away. I also started looking at the stories I've told myself about my life differently as well. The process she teaches about in the book is so helpful and is such a gentle way of self-healing. This isn't a "beat you over the head so you'll change" book. It's a "love yourself on your healing journey but still make forward progress" book. I can't wait to discover and rewrite even more stories from my past and going forward! I would absolutely recommend this book for anyone looking for practical, attainable, and grace-filled change in their lives!
I began thinking about the stories I tell myself right away. I also started looking at the stories I've told myself about my life differently as well. The process she teaches about in the book is so helpful and is such a gentle way of self-healing. This isn't a "beat you over the head so you'll change" book. It's a "love yourself on your healing journey but still make forward progress" book. I can't wait to discover and rewrite even more stories from my past and going forward! I would absolutely recommend this book for anyone looking for practical, attainable, and grace-filled change in their lives!
April 11, 2022
When we consider our own lives and the vast number of experiences we have had it is clear that those events really are stories and we supply the plot lines and even the conclusions for many of them. Over time we create our own conclusions and with each repeat of the story we reinforce our conclusions. The message of “Choose Your Story” is summed up in a quote by Seth Godin: “ We are not who we are because of our atoms, our molecules, our DNA. We’re who we are because of the stories we tell ourselves- about the pain we’re in, the hopes we have, the dreams we live with.”
The author lays the components that make stories stick and shows how we construct the beliefs and use them to prop up our own conclusions. This allows us to catch glimpses of our subconscious at work making creating false assumptions.
The book offers a solution to finding our real self in what turns out to be an approach that most anyone could follow
The author lays the components that make stories stick and shows how we construct the beliefs and use them to prop up our own conclusions. This allows us to catch glimpses of our subconscious at work making creating false assumptions.
The book offers a solution to finding our real self in what turns out to be an approach that most anyone could follow
March 20, 2025
I haven’t tried the method yet, so I’ll do that and then report back if my opinion changes. But let me spare you the hours reading it to see if it sounds like the book for you… “just tell yourself into the state of being you would like to be in.” Don’t want to be sick? Tell yourself the story that you’re not sick. Want to have money? Tell yourself the story that you have money. Want to find love? Tell yourself the story that you’re lovable.
In some ways, the concept does actually remind me of the great book “You Are Not a Rock,” but this book feels like it completely denies mental illness and lowest of lows, there are just token mentions and it doesn’t feel at all authentic. It feels like toxic optimism honestly, is that a term??
I’m truly happy for anyone this method works for, but to me it’s either absurd for the book to be so long when the concept is so simple, or absurd for the book to exist if the concept is baloney.
In some ways, the concept does actually remind me of the great book “You Are Not a Rock,” but this book feels like it completely denies mental illness and lowest of lows, there are just token mentions and it doesn’t feel at all authentic. It feels like toxic optimism honestly, is that a term??
I’m truly happy for anyone this method works for, but to me it’s either absurd for the book to be so long when the concept is so simple, or absurd for the book to exist if the concept is baloney.
January 6, 2022
I would recommend this book to everyone. I’ve read many books that encourage us to set daily affirmations to change our mindset, but why do we have that mindset in the first place? It’s all in the stories we tell ourselves & Kindra has a way of breaking down the steps of how to identify them, acknowledge them & then choose a different internal soundtrack in key aspects of our lives from career to kids. It’s a completely different perspective that has truly changed how I see myself in this world around me. She does it through the stories & the step by step process (which is as what really won me over - I’m a step by step, give me a checklist to follow with examples kinda girl) she shares in this book. If your read one book this year - make it this one!!
January 9, 2022
I think it’s easy to be stuck in the stories we’ve told ourselves for a long time, whether they involve our professional lives, our relationships with family, friends, and other loved ones, our relationship with money and how we parent our children. This book is a game changer—Kindra breaks down how to identify the negative stories and how to learn to tell ourselves the positive. While it seems simple enough, there were many times as I was reading that I realized the many facets of life this pertained to. Kindra’s writing style and use of storytelling is fun and relatable. Personal development books can get dry, but that isn’t the case here at all. I finished this book ready to make some changes in my life, but I felt like I’d had a conversation with a friend, not read a book.
August 12, 2023
This book title caught my attention right away. I was eager to read it and really stand behind the premise of the stories we tell ourselves creates the life we want.
For me, this book was bogged down by the stories she chose to tell. I was looking for less examples, less connection back to the same references, and less of the people that felt like they’re not in the same league of success as the average person. It was a little too long, too redundant, and not always relatable. I’d say 2.5 stars rounded up to 3. Overall, I liked her message and if you’re looking for a book to help you create and find your own stories, this could be a good place to start.
**Thanks to Netgalley for my free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.**
For me, this book was bogged down by the stories she chose to tell. I was looking for less examples, less connection back to the same references, and less of the people that felt like they’re not in the same league of success as the average person. It was a little too long, too redundant, and not always relatable. I’d say 2.5 stars rounded up to 3. Overall, I liked her message and if you’re looking for a book to help you create and find your own stories, this could be a good place to start.
**Thanks to Netgalley for my free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.**
February 18, 2022
I’m a fan of stories. I want the experience and the lesson a well-crafted story provides. Kindra is a master storyteller. She captivates you, and the lesson appears with ease. Spoiler Alert: The lesson is the story and how it’s serving you. This powerful book has changed my life, and how I look at stories, especially the stories I tell myself. If you want to finally lose the weight, finish writing the book, save more money, invest more money, land the dream job, guy, girl, family – life, then get your hands on this book. Just be prepared to write a whole new story. The story you really meant to be writing all along.
June 18, 2022
I. Loved. This. Book.
For anyone interested in the power of story, especially as it pertains to each of our “self-stories,” add this to your top shelf reading list. We are story making creatures to the core and as such the power stories have over our lives and the lives of those around us is truly astonishing. Few things define us to the same extent as the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, others, and the world around us. Thoroughly enjoyed both the book and the author and have just started her first book Stories that Stick. Not since Donald Miller’s Building a Storybrand have I enjoyed a book on the topic this much. Highly, highly recommended!
For anyone interested in the power of story, especially as it pertains to each of our “self-stories,” add this to your top shelf reading list. We are story making creatures to the core and as such the power stories have over our lives and the lives of those around us is truly astonishing. Few things define us to the same extent as the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, others, and the world around us. Thoroughly enjoyed both the book and the author and have just started her first book Stories that Stick. Not since Donald Miller’s Building a Storybrand have I enjoyed a book on the topic this much. Highly, highly recommended!
November 24, 2022
The message of this book repeats so frequently that, although it feels redundant at first, by the end it makes an impact. Hall uses her professional experience as a storyteller, and real-life examples of others, to help readers identify the negative stories in their lives, the ones that hold them back. From here, in every aspect of life, she deconstructs these stories and provides tools on how to rewrite them, using existing experience.
This is a quick but effective read for anyone interested in overcoming their inner critic (which, let's face it, we all have them). And if you're a fan of the Wizard of Oz you'll find her anecdotes quirky and fun.
This is a quick but effective read for anyone interested in overcoming their inner critic (which, let's face it, we all have them). And if you're a fan of the Wizard of Oz you'll find her anecdotes quirky and fun.
December 10, 2021
Kindra Hall is magnetic 🧲. This is just the book I need right now. Being an excellent storyteller herself, she weaves a story throughout as you learn more about how the stories we tell ourselves have huge impact on our lives and how to change it for the better.
I find myself singing Follow the Yellow Brick Road 🎵 in my head as I contemplate how I can flip my own script.
Thrilled to have gained early access to read this gem prior to release by requesting to join the book launch team on Facebook 👏🏻
I find myself singing Follow the Yellow Brick Road 🎵 in my head as I contemplate how I can flip my own script.
Thrilled to have gained early access to read this gem prior to release by requesting to join the book launch team on Facebook 👏🏻
December 11, 2021
Everything we want to accomplish in life typically requires human connections. To connect with others, you must engage with them and there is no better way than storytelling. No one teaches storytelling like Kindra Hall. Reading this latest book from her is inspiring, informative, and I can already tell it’s going to be even more transformational for me than Stories That Stick, and that is no small feat. Can’t wait to finish.
I was able to access the book via early access as an avid follower of Kindra.
I was able to access the book via early access as an avid follower of Kindra.
January 8, 2022
Captivated from beginning to end! Choose Your Story, Change Your Life is the book everyone needs to read, regardless of their capacity to tell stories. It is a masterpiece, eloquent as only Kindra Hall can be, simple yet word by word full of wisdom. The stories we tell ourselves have the power to hold us back or help us move forward where we want to be. With a wide research, Kindra Hall covers all the scenarios possible to help us understand the root of the stories we tell ourselves and provides clear tools to use those stories in our favor to transform our life.
January 11, 2022
We pay so much attention to the stories other people are telling and we often forget how important it is to watch the stories we are telling ourselves. After reading Kindra's book I am much more aware of the stories I am telling myself and the things I'm letting myself believe and remembering the times I did do the hard or difficult or scary things I am facing. It has had a huge impact on how I approach the new or anxiety producing events in my life and made me feel more confident that I can get through them!
January 15, 2022
This is a great book if you are ready for change and unsure where to start. If you feel trapped by the stories that you tell yourself, this book is a great way to get unstuck. Not only does it help you to identify the stories that keep you stuck, it also teaches you that you don’t have to stay that way by simply changing the story you tell yourself. You get to choose the story that encourages you to move forward to the life you want. The premise of this book will stick with you long after you’ve read it. Choose Your Story, Change Your Life is a must read!
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