The Secret to Getting Along (And Why It's Easier Than You Think): 3 Steps to Life-Changing Conflict Resolution

by Gabrielle Hartley

Named as a Next Big Idea Club Must Read!

Is it possible to get along better? Yes, with 3 simple steps for conflict resolution!

Conflict is everywhere—in our homes, at work, on our social media feeds. But conflict isn't inherently bad… in fact, it's a normal and healthy part of human relationships, but many of us aren't good at managing conflict in our everyday lives. In The Secret to Getting Along (And Why it's Easier Than You Think!), attorney Gabrielle Hartley brings more than two decades of divorce mediation experience to helping you learn how to resolve conflict in ways that strengthen your relationships, reflect your values, and lead to positive outcomes for everyone involved. This practical and accessible guide to everyday conflict resolution will help

Reframe your approach to conflictFind your way to more harmony and less discordCreate better outcomes even in your most difficult relationshipsExperience more peace even when relationships don't go wellStrengthen your skills in resolving conflicts of all shapes and sizesFeel more connected to the important people in your lifeWhether you're fighting with your partner about housework, struggling to set boundaries with a difficult family member, or dealing with a toxic coworker, The Secret to Getting Along (And Why It's Easier Than You Think!) is a necessary resource for navigating difficult conversations and situations—and finding the solutions that will help you create a peaceful, less stressful, and more fulfilling life.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Nonfiction

289 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 16, 2023

Reviews

[Sara · Rating 4 out of 5]

A much needed book for our modern times. Contains tons of easy to apply practical tips for a variety of daily situations. The info on self awareness should be required reading for pretty much everyone. Just good therapy.

[George Ciuri · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book

[Christine Heron · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this in fits and starts. There’s a lot of good information that builds on other principles I’ve learned. I will be utilizing some of the resources mentioned in this book. I recommend for everyone dealing with any level of conflict.

[Lux Cunningham · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have a lot of complex challenges in my life, so I was wary of a book that seems to offer an overly simple solution. This book, however, contains profound wisdom that's applicable to just about ANY situation! Hartley enables and empowers the reader to constructively take responsibility for their own role in any conflict while also scaffolding space for taking a step back and/or setting healthy boundaries for however long is necessary--all as part of a process of achieving a resolution that includes genuine harmony and equanimity. Her YES Method contains practical, actionable tools for everyone who wants to heal their relationships, careers, and more. BRAVA!!

[Cordelicacy · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book has a lot of good insights. The ones that stood out for me include:
-think of equanimity as your ultimate goal
-the effort you put into improving a relationship should correspond to the importance of that relationship to you
-the stories you tell yourself about a bad interaction are not always true
-neutrality is the portal to possibilities
-one's inner narrative has a big impact on how one responds to a given conflict
-defensiveness is the enemy of resolution

The author has a background in divorce mediation/law, which I imagine is a great background for seeing good and bad examples of issue resolution. The book is intended for anyone wanting better relationships at work, at home, or anywhere.

[Wendy Foster · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sometimes we have to spend time with people who seem to disagree with us at every turn. This book can help make those interactions not just tolerable, but even pleasurable. Not only does Hartley give great advice, but her personality shines through on every page. Reading this gem if a book is like chatting with a knowledgeable friend over coffee (or cocktails!) Highly recommended!

[Mimi Stein · Rating 4 out of 5]

I really enjoyed and appreciated this book with its simple tools and pragmatic perspective on conflict resolution techniques for daily life.
I listened to it; and I liked it so much I pre-ordered the paperback.

[Eric · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic book!

This book offers a concise, practical approach to conflict resolution. Hartley's three-step method is refreshingly simple yet effective. I found it to be a quick read that could make a real difference in how I handle disagreements.

[Christy Walsh · Rating 3 out of 5]

The author is an expert in her field but the book is too vague and has typos.

[LemontreeLime · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good.

[Crazy4more · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.25 stars

It's just tooooo simple and didn't have summary cheat sheet...