I Love You, But Why Are We So Different?: Making the Most of Personality Differences in Your Marriage

by Tim LaHaye

Temperaments expert Tim LaHaye delves into the four basic personality types to help couples turn their personal differences into marriage-enriching assets. Biblical principles and practical advice encourage readers to build dynamic, lifelong relationships.

Genres: Relationships, Self Help, Christianity, Christian

304 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1991

About the author

Timothy "Tim" F. LaHaye was an American evangelical Christian minister, author, and speaker, best known for the Left Behind series of apocalyptic fiction, which he co-wrote with Jerry B. Jenkins.

He has written over 50 books, both fiction and non-fiction.

Reviews

[Jennifer Tse · Rating 5 out of 5]

I borrowed this from the library due to the interesting title. More than just the cover though, this is a very interesting book about Christian marriage and temperaments/personality differences. Although I am single, I think it is a great book to inform us of the reality of conflicts in marriages. I think the temperament descriptions are pretty accurate and really points out great tips on my strengths and weaknesses. My roommate and I had a great time reading the temperament descriptions and comparing it to ourselves and friends. I also really like the chapter on letting us know how to deal with fears/anger. Definitely will recommend it to friends who wants to enhance their marriage and people who are curious about Christian marriages!

Favorite Quote: "Most couples will probably not come "best friends" for several years after they marry. They need time to know, appreciate, and like each other, and only a passage of time permits them to invest in one another, beginnning with children, home, vocation, and interests, I have watched couples who were on the verge of divorce and thought they were worst enemies learn to become best friends. Those who have never tried to examine the art of friendship inevitably succumb to the alternative - a miserable, lonely life. Marriage should solve loneliness, which is why God gave Eve to Adam. Unfortunately, union with a partner does not always resolve an individual's loneliness; instead, it can lock the person into a relationship from which he cannot escape. If partners do not learn to become true friends, their marriage turns into a solitary existence. God never intended that. He designed marriage to produce the best friendship two people could share on this earth." (Page 260-261)

[Alicia · Rating 4 out of 5]

A nice refresher on the personalities,Ade me want to read his more popular book spirit filled temperaments book. Slightly dated now but still enjoyable.

[Nuela Jones · Rating 2 out of 5]

Heard so much about this book and finally reading…yes you can attract someone with different personalities and you both can work it out. 100% recommended!!

[Beverly Dowdell · Rating 4 out of 5]

Practical advice throughout. I didn't necessarily agree with everything but the point of reading is to get what I need which is relevant to me and there was a lot which was very helpful and useful.