“People in relationships are either flowers or gardeners. Two flowers shouldn't partner; they need someone to support them, to help them grow. ..... There are flowers and gardeners. Flowers bloom; gardeners tend."
― Rebecca Serle, The Dinner List
I just had to add the quote!
My review:
What a charming, whimsical, delightful, delicious story!
It’s Sabrina‘s birthday! Her friend Jessica is throwing her a little party.
At a restaurant.
With good food.
And Audrey Hepburn.
Yes, Audrey Hepburn.
A bit of whimsical butterfly wings in this story as Sabrina walks into her party to find Audrey Hepburn there, along with several other people.
The reason these people are there is because at one point Sabrina wrote all their names down as the five people she’d most like to have dinner with. And as it goes with magical realism, it looks like somebody heard her!
It’s her dinner list!
So yes, there are people from her past including an ex-boyfriend and there is Audrey Hepburn. What are they all doing there? What is the purpose of this little shindig? That you will have to read about for yourself.
A few thoughts here.
This is one of the most unique concepts I’ve ever heard.
The quote above is one of the best quotes I’ve ever heard.
Some people are not going to get this book. I read a lot of the other reviews, but most people do seem to like it.
And lastly, this is way heavier than I expected, which I was originally annoyed by, but I wound up loving the whole book.
So this is really a meditation on life and the choices we make that sometimes go with bad choices and bad decision making. Who hasn’t done that one time in their life or two or three or four or five ?
And maybe this dinner will serve as a way to help Sabrina sort out her life and come to terms with some things.
The book alternates between the dinner party itself where everybody eats , drinks makes merry, talks philosophy, and existentiaism, and Sabrina’s past with other chapters going back to the past in particular, the past between Sabrina and her ex-boyfriend Toby, how they met, what went wrong and there is also Sabrina’s relationship with her estranged father, as well as an old teacher of hers.
It was good. It was very good.
There’s a lot of breakfast at Tiffany mentions in this book. Unfortunately, I’ve never seen the movie and I despise the book so that really didn’t do much for me but it was fun having Audrey Hepburn pop up in a book.
I want to stress that this is not Audrey Hepburn from the past. This is Audrey Hepburn popping up after she has passed away. I want to stress that because if you don’t like magical realism chances are you won’t like the book. But if you do like magical, realism, and a touch of the whimsical and you don’t mind books that are heavier than they originally seem then you’ll probably love this.
So that’s my review without spoilers. The rest will be done with spoilers and if you’re interested in this book, I suggest you not read any further.
SPOILERS
The reason I didn’t give it a five is I really had a hard time with some parts of it because I was in a bad mood and I wasn’t feeling too good physically, and I was unprepared for the emotional depth of the book. I wanted something light and fanciful. It definitely wasn’t light. I’ll say that although it certainly was fanciful.
Can I be honest and say I didn’t like the twist? A lot of reviewers say they didn’t understand the relationship between Toby and Sabrina. Having made more disastrous men choices than I can count right now, in my past, I certainly did understand Sabrina and the appeal of Toby for her.
At the same time, and this is just my opinion, I did kind of feel that he was more into her than she was, into him in a sense because of her refusal to go to California with him.
I have to be brutally, honest and say that I never felt Sabrina loved her job that much and I felt it was insecurity holding her back although I could be wrong on that, and everybody will have their own perspective.
To me, it doesn’t make sense if these two are soulmates and fated to be together as Sabrina thinks , that she would then dump him , let him go to California without her and start dating and eventually living with someone else and this new relationship starts two weeks later.
I’m not dissing the book at all. I’m just stating what I did not like and believe me my likes far outweigh my dislikes, but I did feel the whole thing with Paul easily could’ve been left out because it didn’t really fit with Sabrina’s character. And we really don’t get to know. Paul is a character barely at all.
Jessica annoyed the crap out of me, and though I understand, she was an honest friend I do not like, and do not get along with people who say that you’re friends who then try to get one to conform to stereotype of their idea of a relationship.
As somebody who does not have children, and frankly, never wanted to have children, and doubly frankly, has been judged by many for not having them, I resented Jessica a bit. Even though I got the feeling, she’s a good person all around.
I also don’t agree with people who say the relationship wasn’t salvageable. I’m not saying it definitely was but I’m not seeing. It definitely wasn’t either.
I don’t really regard Toby as a toxic love interest. Trust me I’ve had toxic, many many friends have had toxic , i’m sure many people reading this review have had toxic, have spent many hours talking about toxic. .
What I’m trying to say with this , is Toby was a lovable screwup, but I never felt he was evil or a bad person or that he didn’t care about and love Sabrina. I think just the fact that he gave up his job and geographical location to be with her certainly shows that.
Toby does not do drugs. He’s not physically, nor emotionally abusive. He doesn’t cheat. He does not drink. He expresses his love for her.
BUT:
What he is, is a dreamer, who probably shouldn’t have been in the field of photography at all, because as I was reading, I was struck with the fact that there was not one photography job he had that he seemed to enjoy. Even the one where he got to photograph Obama. I mean, did other readers notice that? I’m not dissing Toby at all, but he never seemed happy in any of his jobs. I think he was in the wrong profession, frankly, and maybe should’ve kept photography as a hobby.
I never got the sense that either one of them really was that into their work and that was the thing that baffled me.
Were this a different book with a happy ending, perhaps Toby could’ve found career counseling or therapy, or the two of them could’ve relocated.
The issue of money is continually held up as a problem in their relationship, but does either of them realize they’re living in the most expensive city in the country?
I mean there are other places besides Manhattan. My whole family is from New York, not Manhattan, per say , but Manhattan and Brooklyn and there’s nowhere more expensive than those cities.
They seem to really thrive in Beach environments, so I wonder why they didn’t get out of the city which seem to be wearing both down and start fresh someplace else.
I mean there are millions of towns and Counties that probably cost a quarter of the price of an apartment in the center of Manhattan.
Of course, if that happened , there would not be a book, so these are just thoughts the went through my mind while I was reading.
Also, hey, what can I say? I really wanted a happy ending. I’ve been reading so much dark stuff lately. I’ve had this one on my radar for a while, but I had no idea. It was this deep as it was so please don’t go into this expecting mindless. I kind of did, and I was surprised in that respect.
So that’s what I didn’t like about it .
What I loved was the dinner setting in the restaurant and the characterizations which were vivid and radiant and came to life.
I loved the homage to Audrey Hepburn and events. Just a beautiful , effervescently written story overall that I’m really glad I read and definitely recommend to all my Goodreads friends.