A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship

by Laurie Mintz

"Honey, I'm too tired" may sound like just another excuse—but for millions of American women, it's simply the truth. They may settle for no sex at all or the obligatory "I'd better do this for my marriage" sex—often to the detriment of their relationships. In this guide, Dr. Laurie B. Mintz shows women how to bring their libido back to life—and put the passion back into their lives.Mintz, a psychologist and sex expert, has been there, both personally and professionally. She shares her own story, as well as the stories of her many clients, as she puts forward her foolproof five-step plan designed to excite and energize even the weariest of stressed-out women. Complete with case studies and exercises, this sex-cure-in-a-book is all readers need to feel strong, sexy, and sensual again!

Genres: Sexuality, Self Help, Nonfiction, Womens, Relationships, Love

256 pages, Kindle Edition

First published September 1, 2009

About the author

Laurie Mintz (Ph.D.) is a tenured college professor at the University of Florida, who teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to over 150 students a year. She is also a licensed psychologist with over 25 years of experience working with private clients, on both general and sexual issues. She is the author of two books aimed at empowering women sexually: Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex. She has also published over 50 research studies, writes a popular Psychology Today blog and has been quoted extensively in Parenting, Cosmopolitan, Prevention, Woman’s Day, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, CNN.com, Oprah.com and HuffingtonPost.com. When she's not writing, teaching, or seeing clients, Laurie enjoys walking, yoga, and spending time with family and friends.

Reviews

[Angela · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was very disappointed in this book. I guess I hoped it would be better. There were a few helpful communication reminders, but not really a book that I would recommend.

[Laura · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful and practical book. However, evidence shows that pornography is harmful to the human brain. It’s unfortunate that Dr. Mintz doesn’t dismiss this practice. Otherwise she writes in a very accessible and engaging way.

[thebookaddict25 · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dr. Laurie Mintz’s A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex is a refreshingly candid, evidence-based roadmap for women who feel their desire has dimmed under the weight of exhaustion and routine. Far from being just another pop-psychology read, this book delivers real tools grounded in research and clinical experience, offering a sense of hope that is both compassionate and empowering. Mintz acknowledges the silent epidemic of low libido with sensitivity and without judgment, making readers feel seen, understood, and supported.

What sets this book apart is its balance of scientific insight and personal storytelling. Mintz doesn’t shy away from sharing her own struggles, weaving them together with relatable case studies from her clients to illustrate the transformative impact of her approach. The exercises are practical and accessible, encouraging readers to explore both emotional and physical aspects of their sexuality without pressure. Her “Five T’s” framework offers a structure that’s easy to follow while being flexible enough to adapt to different lifestyles and relationship dynamics.

This isn’t just a book for those facing sexual fatigue—it’s a guide to rediscovering self-worth, intimacy, and joy. With warmth, humor, and just the right dose of tough love, Mintz invites women to stop settling and start reclaiming pleasure as a vital part of their lives. A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex is more than a remedy for low libido; it’s a call to reconnect—with oneself, with a partner, and with the spark that too often gets buried beneath the demands of everyday life.

[Michele · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this for a human sexuality class and found it to be an excellent resource. Easy to read, frank talk, examples and case studies. Highly recommend for women and also recommend sharing sections with your partner.

[Luke Shillig · Rating 5 out of 5]

read this after being sexually frustrated.

This was a good reminder of all things that are missing from my relationship. Thank you Mrs Laurie for sharing!

[Sally · Rating 3 out of 5]

A cut above many such books.

[Rachel Bori Orme · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is for Book Club. I'm interested to see if there is anything I can get out of it.

[Veronica Millhouse · Rating 1 out of 5]

I'll let you know how this works....or maybe not because I don't kiss and tell.