Luminaries and lyrical …. a little like a rap song …..
“Our parents take us aside one night. ‘If anyone asks, we’re the only ones who live here, okay?’”
“Though we don’t fully understand, we know how to keep our families’ secrets”.
“When our cousins and aunts and uncles leave for new jobs and new cities—they are nannies and construction workers, cooks and caretakers—we feel a sinking sorrow. It doesn’t matter if we don’t share a drop of blood with these people; we have been taught to call them Family”.
“Brown girls brown girls brown girls who profess a deep, unshakable love for these boys who sometimes see them, but mostly don’t”.
“We have been warned by our mothers, about men who lure girls, force themselves onto girls, rape girls, mutilate girls, leave girls, now dead, in suitcases on the sides of highways or hidden in dumpsters to be found by somebody or nobody, men who keep girls as slaves for years so their families do not know whether they are alive or dead”.
“Even in song, we become fluent in the language of our colonizers. Our English, impeccable. Our mother tongues, if we were taught them at all, become atrophied muscles, half-remembered melodies”.
“No matter their zip code or tax bracket, listen as these white people deem us and our families the good immigrants, the hard-working ones—not like the lazy people in this country who are a burden on the system (It dawns on us that someone at our families have parroted these arguments too). No, we are the grateful brown people”.
“Some of us leave anyway. For universities— Berkeley, northwestern, UT Austin—across the country. Sayonara, New York! we say, I am fucking outta here! A few of us had to our cities Ivy League University dozens of Subway stops— practically light-years—away”.
“So what’s new with you? is the question we hope our friends who have remained in the dregs of Queens will ask when we visit, but never do. We have moved away from this neighborhood, have been gone for five years since graduating college. But our friends who’ve stayed anchored to the hood want to spend forty minutes talking about which of our old classmates got knocked up, yet again”.
“Brown girls brown girls brown girls who, in their bones, are beginning to understand that they are the sum of many identities, many histories, at once”.
“When you grow up, you’ll see, our mother said. As if, one day, we would suddenly understand why they were the way they were in our girlhoods: overly critical, casually cool, lacking imagination, close minded. Afraid. We vowed, then, never to become them. For months, which solidify into years, we do not call much. And when we do, we tell our mothers only what they want to hear, what we believe they can handle. Yes, work is going well. Yes, the children are great. Because to explain the truth of our lives—we’ve left our partners, we’ve decided to adopt, we’ve chosen to forgo children altogether, we are deeply unhappy—or happier than we’ve ever been—would mean, we think, our mothers forcing us to live another way”.
“In The US, disappropriate amounts of brown people are infected and killed. And yes some of us join them, too”.
March 2021: one year after New York’s first lockdown. Projected US death toll: 500,000 people”.
“But whatever, that’s not the point”.
“We die”.
Divided into eight parts…. Daphne Palasi Andreads gives us a powerful debut — at only 202 pages — with a chorus of soulful voices — an experienced any man or woman of any color can relate to — about families, home, friendship, hardships, adventures— but especially highlights and tributes to brown girls —
Brown girls >> you’re beautiful!!!
This is a wonderfully-felt impactful book.
I loved it!