About the author: Kay served the Minnesota Department of Corrections in the position of Restorative Justice Planner from 1994 to 2003. In that position she provided education to the criminal justice system, other agencies and the general public about restorative justice. She also assisted groups interested in implementing the principles of restorative justice in their communities through system change and community empowerment. She worked with leaders in corrections, law enforcement, the judiciary, civic organizations, neighborhood groups, faith communities and education to develop a comprehensive response to crime and conflict based on restorative justice.
I would like to introduce this book with the introduction of the book. “ We’re all lovers and we’re all destroyers. We’re all frightened and at the same time we all want terribly to trust. This is part of our struggle. We have to help what is most beautiful to emerge is us and to divert the powers of darkness and violence. I learn to be able to say,”“This is my fragility. I must learn about it and use it in a constructive way.”” -Jean Vanier Canadian Philosopher
The theme of this book is that we are all connected and that all the violence, chaos, hurt and injustice can be talked about in a way that indignous people of old would gather in a circle and make decisions about the choice of one person as a community and in a circle. Some cultures still have this in place, which is the circle, it can be a talking circle, understanding circle, healing circle, sentencing circle, support circle, community circle, conflict circle, reintegration circle and celebration circle.
The basics of a circle are: A talking piece by allowing only the person holding the talking piece to speak, a circle regulates the dialogue as the piece circulates consecutively from person to person around the group. Second : A facilitator or keeper- The facilitator of the pacemaking circle, often called a keeper, assists the group in creating and maintaining a collective space in which each participant feels safe to speak honestly and openly without disrespecting anyone else. Third guidelines - participants in a circle play a major role in designing their own space by creating the guidelines for their discussion. Lastly depending on what kind of circle is taking place you may have to have a consensus decision-making - decisions in a circle are made by consensus. Consensus does not require enthusiasm for the decision or plan, but it does require that each participant is willing to live with the decision and support its implementation. Also is The Four Relational Elements of Circles: Developing Plans/Sense of Unity, Meeting getting acquainted, Addressing Vision/Issues (content) and Building understanding and trust. These are the basics of a circle. In conclusion this book is a very small book but it's very powerful and has many stories about circles that have been implemented with positive results, this is a book that wants to prepare the future leaders to have a reflective discussion and encourage peaceful solutions for conflict.
This book relates to my AmeriCorps service experience because we are looking for ways to move in restorative justice and this is a wonderful way to do that.
I would like to recommend this book to every CTEP member because the more people understand that what we do to one we do to us all, we are all connected, we are all hurting, we are all looking for answers and we can all come together if we can focus on our similarities rather than our differences.