When He Can't Commit: What To Do When You Fall For An Ambivalent Man

by Rhonda Findling

Ambivalence (am-biv-e-lens) n. 1. The existence of mixed feelings toward someone or something. Difficulty in reaching a decision.

Ambivalent Man (am-biv-e-lent man) n. Abbreviation: AM. 1. One who exhibits or feels ambivalence toward women. 2. One who plays games. He wants a relationship; he wants to break up. He’s confused, mixed up, inconsistent, and unpredictable. Yet he’s irresistible and easy to fall in love with . . . and almost sure to cause a broken heart.

The Commitment Cure is the first book to help women figure out what to do once they’ve fallen for an "AM" by helping to demystify the six types of Ambivalent Men and their characteristics. The six types are:

·The Runner
·The Man Who Plays Parlor Games
·The Casual Dater
·The Fling Man
·The Eternal Bachelor
·The Ambivalent Cyber Man

Packed with myriad helpful quizzes, advice, and personal stories of women from the trenches, The Commitment Cure helps women make smart and savvy decisions about when to stick by an AM—and when to kick him to the curb!

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help

325 pages, Kindle Edition

First published February 9, 2004

About the author

Rhonda Findling, MA,CRC is an internationally acclaimed psychotherapist and author with a private practice in Forest Hills and Manhattan (New York City). She has been in private practice 17 years(full time 10 years). She was a staff psychotherapist at Postgraduate Center for Mental Health in New York for 15 years. She taught courses on psychology and counseling at Marymount College. Rhonda has worked as a psychologist for the State of New York for three years . She was a counselor at Victims Information Bureau where she counseled victims of rape, sexual assault and spouse abuse.

Rhonda has appeared as a relationship expert on several national talk shows including Ilanya, Ricki Lake, Geraldo, Maury Povitch, Good Day New York, Judith Regan Tonight , and Eye Witness News. Rhonda has also been featured on radio shows nationwide.

Rhonda has led "Don't Call That Man!" workshops and seminars throughout the world including Paris, Berlin, Leeds and Glastonbury,England. She has also presented at the Learning Annex, 92nd St. Y and Hazelden. She has been featured in the "New York Post", "Newsday", " Los Angeles Times", "Cosmopolitan Magaine","Denver Rocky Mountain News", and "Today's Black Woman." Her articles have appeared in "Essence" magazine, "Complete Woman" and "Mouthpiece" (the newsletter for the New York State Association of Criminal Defense Lawyers).

Rhonda is a member of the National Speakers Association, the Dramatist Guild, the New York State Psychological Association, the American Screenwriters Association and is recognized in Who's Who in America.

Rhonda is the author of the play "The Psychic" that was produced by Caicedo Productions and Doubletime Productions at the American Theatre of Actors in New York City November 1996. The Psychic also had a staged reading at the Nuyorican Poetry Cafe in New York City August 1997. She has taken classes in directing, screenwriting, and filmmaking at New School University and Film and Video Arts Inc. She studied acting at HB Studios, Stella Adler Studio Of Acting in New York City , and with William H Macy in Chicago. She's appeared in several community theatre productions on Long island, New York and two off-off Broadway productions in Chicago.

Reviews

[Karyn · Rating 5 out of 5]

I first bought this book after a major heartbreak. I knew he loved me, and I couldn't understand why he would just give up on me. This book held the answer. I wanted to know how to get him back. The title of this books leads you to believe it will teach you how to do that, or at least that is how I interpreted it. It didn't teach me how to get him back. It did teach me how to spot men who are afraid of commitment and how to break habits of dating men who aren't interested in the long run. I recommend this book to anyone who is ready to start dating men who want to settle down, and to those who are stuck in a relationship that is going no where.

It is easy to read.

[Emily · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book came out pretexting but the advice still holds- if you keep dating jerks, why are you attracted to that and what do you need to heal in yourself to do better. Actually interested in checking out her newer updated book.

[Alice · Rating 4 out of 5]

Review to come