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Turn Up the Heat: A Couples Guide to Sexual Intimacy
One of God's greatest gifts is the pleasure and privilege of sex within marriage. Dr. Kevin Leman knows even married people have lots of questions about sex, but sometimes they feel too embarrassed to ask or don't know where to turn for the best answers. For all those questions readers couldn't imagine asking their pastor or even their close friends, Dr. Leman is ready with open ears and expert advice. Often asked about sex and intimacy as he speaks and travels, he bets that some of those questions are the ones readers want answered too. With his trademark humor and wit, he offers frank answers to the burning questions all of us have about sex. Covering such topics as God's original intentions for sex, body image, attraction, expectations, sex drive, sex after children arrive, and much, much more, Turn Up the Heat is comprehensive in scope and just what the doctor ordered. Readers will not only get the answers they crave but plenty of the hearty chuckles they expect from Leman. Perfect for newlyweds or couples who have been married for years.
304 pages, Paperback
Published March 1, 2009
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Kevin Leman
221 books382 followersDr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including The View with Barbara Walters, The Today Show, Oprah, CBS's The Early Show, Live with Regis Philbin, CNN's American Morning, and LIFE Today with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to Good Morning America. He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including The Birth Order Book and Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.
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September 6, 2010
Sheet Music was about what to put where and how to move it around and touch each other and stuff. Sorry to be graphic, but that was the point, to teach newlywed couples how to enjoy each other as God intended. Turn Up the Heat is for couples who know how to do it but have trouble being intimate and connected. The issues Lehman covers here run the gamut. Every couple will find something that speaks deeply to the challenges they are currently facing or have faced in their marriage. If you suspect that your marriage is not what it could or should be, or if it's on the rocks in any way, you need to read this book. You have no idea what you're missing out on, and Lehman will show you. My wife and I have already worked through some pretty cutting battles in our marriage, and we found this book useful as sort of a retrospective of our journey, so it wasn't a tough read for us, but we see how for some couples it could be. But you have to understand that sometimes you have to bleed a little bit on the road to healing and wellness.
June 6, 2011
This was an interesting book- Kevin Leman has years of experience and lots of media exposure (Today show, etc.). I always enjoy reading about the differences between men and women (because I easily forget how men are wired). My favorite quote from the book: "To have great sex, men need a place; women need a reason.". I give it three stars because the questions are all over the board and it seemed a bit choppy- but easy enough to skip the questions that don't interest you.
September 18, 2009
I saw this at church and thgoutht hmm... I've never seen a book on sex that is written by a christian, I should check this out. I'm glad I did. I like Dr. Leman and will be reading more of his books. I think it's a very healthy perspective and has some great ideas for strengthing your relationship.
September 5, 2016
39th book read in 2016.
Number 162 out of 531 on my all time book list.
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Number 162 out of 531 on my all time book list.
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February 24, 2015
Title: Turn Up the Heat.
Author: Dr. Kevin Leman.
Genre: Christian, Nonfiction, Marriage, Self-Help, Psychology, Communication.
Plots: Since the success of his book, Sheet Music, Leman has turned his amusing sense of humor and down-to-earth advice to another book, this time about how couples can turn up the heat in their sex life. Whether you’re stuck in a rut, newlywed or just looking for a refresher, this fun easy to read book is a wonderful addition to your library. Covering all the milestones in life – the honeymoon to the rest home – and everything in between, from children to boring daily life to midlife crisis’s, this book has a little something for everyone. There are also special chapters for abuse victims and affairs. The overall theme of the book is communication and loving each other outside the bedroom. If you have a strong marriage in other areas of life, the bedroom will heat up accordingly.
Likes/Dislikes: This book was very fast and easy to read, though it felt more like a refresher to me. There wasn’t a whole lot of new information, and based on what was written, my husband and I are doing pretty well. I did enjoy the little blurbs scattered throughout the book and loved the author’s sense of humor. The one thing I just really didn’t like was in one of the chapters Leman answers a woman’s concerned question regarding how to get her husband interested when he isn’t, mainly due to the fact that they use NFP {Natural Family Planning} and he doesn’t want anymore children. Leman’s curt answer failed to actually answer the question and he could’ve given a lot more advice on the subject. My husband and I use NFP and one of the reasons why it’s so successful for us is because we communicate frequently. NFP relies very heavily on communication. Aside from that bit, it was a pretty good book.
Rating: PG-18 and up, due to content. Recommended only for married couples.
Date Review Written: February 23rd, 2015.
Author: Dr. Kevin Leman.
Genre: Christian, Nonfiction, Marriage, Self-Help, Psychology, Communication.
Plots: Since the success of his book, Sheet Music, Leman has turned his amusing sense of humor and down-to-earth advice to another book, this time about how couples can turn up the heat in their sex life. Whether you’re stuck in a rut, newlywed or just looking for a refresher, this fun easy to read book is a wonderful addition to your library. Covering all the milestones in life – the honeymoon to the rest home – and everything in between, from children to boring daily life to midlife crisis’s, this book has a little something for everyone. There are also special chapters for abuse victims and affairs. The overall theme of the book is communication and loving each other outside the bedroom. If you have a strong marriage in other areas of life, the bedroom will heat up accordingly.
Likes/Dislikes: This book was very fast and easy to read, though it felt more like a refresher to me. There wasn’t a whole lot of new information, and based on what was written, my husband and I are doing pretty well. I did enjoy the little blurbs scattered throughout the book and loved the author’s sense of humor. The one thing I just really didn’t like was in one of the chapters Leman answers a woman’s concerned question regarding how to get her husband interested when he isn’t, mainly due to the fact that they use NFP {Natural Family Planning} and he doesn’t want anymore children. Leman’s curt answer failed to actually answer the question and he could’ve given a lot more advice on the subject. My husband and I use NFP and one of the reasons why it’s so successful for us is because we communicate frequently. NFP relies very heavily on communication. Aside from that bit, it was a pretty good book.
Rating: PG-18 and up, due to content. Recommended only for married couples.
Date Review Written: February 23rd, 2015.
June 25, 2011
Turn up the Heat, A Couples Guide to Sexual Intimacy, by Dr. Kevin Leman, Revell, Hardcover, 2009, ISBN-13: 978-0800719036, $17.99
“Have a great sex life—by Saturday night! (Or Thursday night if you’re really frisky)”
Introduces, Turn Up the Heat, by esteemed psychologist, best-selling author and radio-television personality, Dr. Kevin Leman. Where he answers the “hottest questions…men and women ask …about sex and intimacy…”
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September 12, 2013
This is a Christian book by a Christian author that found out how to write about sex for up tight religious people. Sex sells, especailly to up tight christians. This book is far better than Sheet Music, because it has written questions in the book. Remeber this is Dr. Leaman's dog and pony show. He specializes in marriatal sex problems and he talks sort of candidly almost. If you happen to be a pruish, blackbelt fundamentalist and you need some help in the bedroom, then this might be the book for you.
October 3, 2010
A must read for newlyweds, long-time marrieds. Especially good if you are going through issues or trying to help a friend go through issues.
It was fun to read snippets to my spouse and see if he agreed/disagreed.
It was fun to read snippets to my spouse and see if he agreed/disagreed.
July 30, 2013
Very disappointing book. Bought this book because his other one "Sheet Music" was so good. This one, not so much. The advice wasn't very helpful and very vague. He was also very hard on the husbands, to the point of being downright insulting.
August 26, 2010
Dr. Kevin Leman is one of the best marriage / family writers out there. I'd give it another star, but just can't seem to do that with a self-help book ... even though it helped!
February 14, 2012
Another good book by Kevin Leman. If you enjoy Leman's humor and perspective then you'll enjoy this book. He always has good advice and I enjoy reading his materials.
July 24, 2013
Interesting read
September 7, 2013
I read pieces of this book. Some of it was helpful and interesting. All in all it made me realize I have a great husband.
March 15, 2017
checked out from Washington Co. Cooperative Library Services, 11/13 list.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
January 25, 2015
This book was incredible! Spoke directly to both my heart AND my husband and our marriage is better for it!
June 30, 2025
Goes Hand-in-hand with his book "Sheet Music".
March 29, 2024
I’m half way through this book, I found it on a book shelf at my church where we share books.
It is fun to read and discuss with my husband. I also enjoyed some of the emotional info that comes along with a sexual relationship, so I gave it a couple stars BUUUUT
Reading it, I don’t love the way he paints his wife. But I’m sure she read it and approved before he published so I moved on,
I quickly realized I’m much more advanced than a large portion of these people asking questions.so I learned some emotional knowledge but no sexual knowledge.
A lot of the women asking questions in this book are insecure and unrealistic.
(and most of all ***) I was immediately turned off by his extreme negativity toward Anal sex. The author makes it seem dirty and shameful. If you are in a married relationship and have trust and communication, the sky is the limit. You can explore your partner however you want for the rest of your life and never let someone shame you for it. Do what’s comfortable for you. I know NUMEROUS people (monogamous straight couples) who LOVE anal sex (I am not one of them ) but this doctor should have shared his concerns and then helped curious couples approach it cautiously and safely. His response was a huge turn off for me. ✌️
It is fun to read and discuss with my husband. I also enjoyed some of the emotional info that comes along with a sexual relationship, so I gave it a couple stars BUUUUT
Reading it, I don’t love the way he paints his wife. But I’m sure she read it and approved before he published so I moved on,
I quickly realized I’m much more advanced than a large portion of these people asking questions.so I learned some emotional knowledge but no sexual knowledge.
A lot of the women asking questions in this book are insecure and unrealistic.
(and most of all ***) I was immediately turned off by his extreme negativity toward Anal sex. The author makes it seem dirty and shameful. If you are in a married relationship and have trust and communication, the sky is the limit. You can explore your partner however you want for the rest of your life and never let someone shame you for it. Do what’s comfortable for you. I know NUMEROUS people (monogamous straight couples) who LOVE anal sex (I am not one of them ) but this doctor should have shared his concerns and then helped curious couples approach it cautiously and safely. His response was a huge turn off for me. ✌️
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October 29, 2018Some of this book didn't apply to me, and a little bit I didn't agree with, but for the most part I really enjoyed this book. The bulk of it is Q & As, and it's amazing how much info I gleaned and took away. I would refer to this book again.
January 15, 2023
I highly recommend this book for ALL married couples!!!
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