'The book that everyone will be talking about this a staggering work of honesty, empathy and humanity, wholly unlike anything else you will have read' Terri White
On the evening of Halloween in 2015, Morgan Hehir was walking with friends close to Nuneaton town centre when they were viciously attacked by a group of strangers. Morgan was stabbed, and died hours later in hospital. He was twenty years old and loved making music with his band, going to the football with his mates, having a laugh; a talented graffiti artist who dreamed of moving away and building a life for himself by the sea.
From the moment he heard the news, Morgan's father Colin Hehir began to keep an extraordinary diary. It became a record not only of the immediate aftermath of his son's murder, but also a chronicle of his family's evolving grief, the trial of Morgan's killers, and his personal fight to unravel the lies, mistakes and cover-ups that led to a young man with a history of violence being free to take Morgan's life that night.
Inspired by this diary, About a Son is a unique and deeply moving exploration of love and loss and a groundbreaking work of creative non-fiction. Part true crime, part memoir, it tells the story of a shocking murder, the emotional repercussions, and the failures that enabled it to take place. It shows how grief affects and changes us, and asks what justice means if the truth is not heard. It asks what can be learned, and where we go from here.
I discovered this book when it was shortlisted for the always excellent Gordon Burns Prize. My desire to read more non-fiction is constantly hampered by my glacial reading pace, so I decided it was time to embrace audio. This is a review of the book as read by Mark Jarvis.
The blurb from the Gordon Burns people describes this best as :
A moving exploration of love and loss. Part true crime, part memoir, it tells the story of the shocking murder in 2015 of twenty-year-old Morgan Hehir in Nuneaton, of the emotional repercussions and the failures that enabled it to take place
At first, I wasn't sure if I could go on with this, it's hard to listen to the diary entries of the father of a murdered boy, it feels uncomfortable and raw. David Whitehouse does an excellent job of situating this unfathomable grief in the wider context of a society struggling with high rates of knife crime, failures of policing, and budget cuts. Peppered with stories about other potentially avoidable crimes, you get an incisive picture of the trail of destruction, that unchecked violence has on society and that goes well beyond the murder of Morgan Hehir.
The entire thing will make you mad and desperately sad.
I am glad I listened to this, and leave full of admiration for the doggedness and bravery of Morgan's father Colin Hehir.
I have been reading About A Son for quite a few weeks now. This is a book that delivers massive emotional punches on almost every page. My feelings went from terrible sadness, to incredible anger and back again, many times. When I began reading this book, my Mum was terminally ill. I finished reading it the evening that she died. I have my own grief to deal with, but my circumstances are so far away from Colin and Sue Hehir's. Their story is one that they should never have had to tell, it's a story of the murder of a young man in the prime of his life, and the aftermath that they continue to endure. It almost broke me in parts, but I took strength from their ability to carry on. I don't know how they do it.
David Whitehouse is an award winning author. He was sent the manuscript of Colin Hehir's diary by a Nuneaton reporter. He admits that at first he didn't know what to do with it, or if he had the strength to deal with it. When Colin contacted him directly, David knew that he had to tell this story.
Every single one of us will experience grief in our lives. For most of us, it will be something that is expected, sometimes, when someone is suffering, it can be welcomed. Grief is a an emotion that is personal and individual, every single one of us will deal with our emotions in a different way.
I do not know anyone personally who has been murdered. I do not know any family who has had to deal with the horror of discovering that your loved one has been taken from you by the hand of another human being.
Colin and Sue Hehir are an ordinary couple, living in an ordinary town, doing ordinary jobs. They were proud of their boys. Morgan was twenty years old, he enjoyed music, art and sport. He had friends, he worked in a local hospital. He was ordinary, but to his family he was, quite rightly, extraordinary.
Morgan was murdered when he and his friends were attacked by a group of strangers. It was another ordinary night in Nuneaton. Morgan and his friends were looking forward to a night on the town, laughing and joking, dressed for Halloween. Minding their own business, just being lads.
Colin Hehir is not an academic, or a writer. However, he was compelled to keep a diary of everything that happened to him and his family after that night, and it is both powerful and devastating. Most of us see reports on the news about a tragic murder, this is often followed by reports of an arrest, a court case and then a sentence. These things did happen in this case, but it is the tiny details that Colin records, the things that the general public don't learn about that turn this into such a eye opening and heart shattering account.
There were times when I had to stop reading. There are parts of the British justice system that are abhorrent, things that happened to Colin and Sue that defy everything that we believe about victim's rights. When you are told that you cannot go into the hospital room, to see your murdered son because he is now 'a crime scene', how do you cope? I was angry, and sad and just totally devastated on their behalf.
It doesn't stop there either. The strength and fortitude shown by Colin and his wife, ensuring that Morgan's death was investigated properly and that every single one of the the terrible things that happened were made public is incredibly moving. They have done everything in their power to ensure that Morgan is never forgotten and that, maybe, future incidents such as these will be handled better.
This is a book that will never leave me. I feel as though I know the family so very well. I have nothing but admiration for this incredible family, and for Morgan's friends and associates. Nothing will ever bring him back and I'm positive that Colin would rather have never had to write his diary, but we should be grateful that the did.
Wonderfully re-worked by David Whitehouse from Colin's own words, with compassion and understanding and at times, a little touch of humour. Incredible and a must-read.
'About A Son' by David Whitehouse is a must-read for three reasons. It is the story of the greatest fear any parent dreads, an account of how society fails its citizens, and a narrative masterpiece.
On Halloween in 2015, a group of costume-dressed young men goes out to enjoy themselves in an English town. Strangers attack them in a park. Morgan Hehir dies from multiple stabs by a steak knife. His father, Colin, keeps a diary to remember everything that happens next to him and his wife, Sue, and two sons. He wants to find out what happens and why. A local newspaper reporter introduces Colin to David Whitehouse, a novelist who takes the diary and transforms it into a book showing how our society is far from civilised.
The narrative unfolds tragic, profound, disturbing, and an incredible series of consequences. I finished reading the book feeling compassion for the Hehir family and respect for David Whitehouse. I was angry Morgan’s death could have been prevented if the police, law, and social services had done their respective jobs and if it had not been for the Tory government's push for austerity and its consequences on the institutions we rely upon in society. Further, the failure in integrity for some in the police and judiciary is shocking.
A book that will stay with me forever. An astonishing exploration of grief, written by David Whitehouse and based the diaries of Colin Hehir, a Nuneaton man whose son Morgan died after a brutal and senseless murder. Whitehouse's use of the second person narrative is incredibly intimate and compelling, offering up in Colin's distinctive voice a quietly damning indictment of a legal system that exacerbates the pain of a victim's family. Colin is an ordinary, extraordinary hero, whose broken, open-hearted story shows us just how loved ones somehow, impossibly, carry on after an enormous trauma. This should be required reading for every politician, judge, lawyer, police officer, probation officer, medical professional and social worker in the country.
I can’t place the genre. I see parts of it, but I’ve honestly never read anything like it.
I could probably write an essay on why this is and the intricacies but I’m going to leave it at this: it didn’t make me feel sympathy or even empathy for Colin Hehir and his family, it made me feel like I knew Morgan, I knew Nuneaton and I grieved with them. Obviously, you hope you’d never feel that pain, but the writer manages to give you a tiny piece to hold. It burns and it is uncomfortable but it’s so important.
This was an exceptional read. A heartbreaking story told in the words of a Father grieving his son who was Murdered.
Morgan Hehir was murdered on a night out in a random attack. Since, his father, Colin, has kept a diary and ended up in conversation with the Author who has written his story down in diary form, but almost like letters to himself. Describing everything from the night of the fatal attack, to his families fight for justice.
This was written in an incredible way, everything was so well put together and exceptionally detailed and descriptive. What a tragedy this family have faced, and more so as they struggled with decisions the police made following Morgan's death, and yet something else the family had to face as they requested time and again for Investigations into the Police Conduct, something which should be far from anybody's mind at a time like this, but not for this family.
Heartbreaking read without a doubt, but one that was executed brilliantly and I think everyone should read this to understand the story and the events following that fateful night on Halloween in 2015. I also thought it was a good touch at the end to describe the events years later, and what happened to some of the defendants later. Very interesting.
Such a beautifully written book and as someone who works closely with people convicted of offences it was a revelation to read the perspective of a victims family. I suppose that is one of the things that Colin really battled with in trying to seek justice for his son - that the criminal justice system appears to function in favour of offenders and so often the victims voice get lost within its processes. I think what bothered me about this book is its failure to consider that so many of us working within the system share these frustrations. It didn’t feel productive in its relentless pursuit to blame ‘incompetent’ services or individuals, rather than confront wider systemic issues around chronic underfunding and understaffing. I agree that Morgans death might have been prevented, but not through changes in police practice. I think this story missed an opportunity to consider the importance of rehabilitation and how we might achieve it, rather than contribute to the pervasive rhetoric that punishment should take priority, despite absolutely no evidence that this is effective in reducing crime.
Am absolutely floored by this book. The honesty, the visceral grief and pain. And Colin and Sue’s seemingly unending quest for justice and accountability is incredible. It is not an easy read. It’s actually almost impossible to read more than a chapter or two without stopping for a breather, but I implore you to spend the time. They’ve earned the right for their story to be shared far and wide.
I feel awful for giving this book less than five stars because the content deserves it, but there is a reason why people rarely write in second person. This diary could have been adapted into a much more impactful read if it wasn’t for the poor narration
It’s taken me some time to collect my thoughts and write this review, mainly because I want to do it justice. This was an almost immediate five star, purely because it surpasses many things that usually stop me from rating a book five stars and deems them as merely unimportant. As this book is so honest, so piercing, it fits almost into a separate category entirely and one in which star ratings truly don’t matter. A ‘good’ book should tell a story, and this story is one that is essential for so many to read.
Colin Hehir recounts the moments, days and years after his son, Morgan, is murdered. He gives his raw account of the aftermath - the grief, the anger and the search for truth. It’s a harrowing read and one I would recommend.
"There's a photograph of you, taken on the night of that second date. A little over 6 years before you got married in 1990, aged just 23 and 22. A photograph taken before everything, really. Before so much loving was done. Before your lives were made together. Before your lives were wonderful. Before your lives unspooled."
Part true crime and part memoir, this isn’t usually the kind of book which I would read but it felt like the book everyone was talking about when first released, and now I can see why.
First and foremost, it’s devastating. As a parent there’s nothing more terrifying than losing a child, and losing them to horrific violence when the killer should never have been free to kill must compound that loss in ways I can’t imagine, but which Whitehouse pieces together beautifully from Colin’s diaries. You truly feel as though you go through all the shock, grief and horror of it with him reading this, and it’s an incredibly emotional and powerful read.
There’s a lot in here about the issues with our police and justice systems that will make people stop and think. But mostly, what I took from this was a love letter from a father to a son, filled with memories and pride, and using that love to hopefully fuel real change and stop others from having to experience this loss. It’s incredible.
I'm still reeling from the roller coater of a ride, this book took me on. It was filled with raw emotion, some poignany humour and a heart wrenching tale of a family/ father trying to come to terms with the murder of his son.
Written in the second person narrative, About A Son makes the reader feel like a fly on the wall witnessing the deepest, most despearte situations a parent can ever find themselves in. Throughout, I was consumed by anger, empathy, horror and was left feeling inspired by the bravey and honesty of Colin Hehir. David Whitehouse has done a remarkable job of imbuing his narrative with all the reality of the Hehir's family experience, whilst offering a cohesive narrative that is shocking, unexpected and completely enthralling. Whitehouse's easy writing style makes this important story accessible to anyone and I can't recommend reading this enough.
This is a book about grief, the loss of a son from a family and a father’s resolute quest for justice and truth. I’ve never read an account of a family’s grief that is so impactful and deep, examining every last second of the terrible aftermath to Morgan Hehir’s murder. Journalist David Whitehouse has taken Colin Hehir’s diaries and written an arresting, raw account of how a murder can shatter a family. The book is addressed to “you”, Colin in this case, but it urges the reader to imagine the possibility of a loss this great. It’s a tragedy that this book even exists but it is a testament to how loved Morgan was that it does.
A very powerful book, it has passages of real beauty and passages that will break anyone’s heart. If you’re a parent yourself, and if you’ve ever suffered some sort of grief or loss it will hit you even harder. Because of the strange composition (the book is adapted from the Father’s diaries) it’s hard to know who to truly credit for the prose but small matter, it’s a book of real achievement. As with nearly all of these stories sadly it also points to the heart of corruption and ineptitude at the base of nearly all our main institutions in the UK. The short chapter drawing parallels with the spending cuts and the rise in knife crime are truly damning. Yet again a Police department in the country are also shown to be structurally inept at best.
An absolutely astounding book in which an 'ordinary' man, Colin Hehir, opens his heart about the murder of his beloved son, Morgan
Colin details not just the grief that overtakes their lives but the battle they had with the justice system so that he could understand what happened that Halloween night in 2015.
This makes for an extraordinary read that packs a real punch which will remain with you long after you close the last page.
A book brought to my attention by @pictonsfiction that we simply do not understand how it has managed to fly under the radar because it is outstanding.
If you read no further than this just take that away… OUTSTANDING!
Part memoir and part true crime About a Son is a uniquely intimate look at grief and love.
On the evening of Halloween in 2015, Morgan Hehir was walking with friends close to Nuneaton town centre when they were viciously attacked by a group of strangers. Morgan was stabbed, and died hours later in hospital. He was just twenty years old.
From the moment he heard the news, Morgan's father Colin Hehir began to keep an extraordinary diary. That diary inspired this book.
Colin’s diary recorded not only of the immediate aftermath of his son's murder, but also a chronicle of his family's evolving grief, the trial of Morgan's killers, and his personal fight to unravel the lies, mistakes and cover-ups that led to a young man with a history of violence being free to take Morgan's life that night.
I listened to the audio version and the choice of narrator with his Nuneaton connection and authentic accent perfectly accompanied Whitehouse’s distillation of Colin’s diary entries. It was hard not to feel as if he were speaking directly to me. It was incredibly powerful, I spent many hours out on my dog walks struggling to contain the emotions. I laughed, I cried, felt burning infuriation and incredulity.
Having a 14 year old son myself made this book personally relatable and a obscure section at the end of a chapter stopped me in my tracks. A list of things Colin had written that no longer happen, just silly things that currently drive me mad (slamming doors, all the food disappearing within hours of purchase etc) and oh how my heart broke.
My review will never be able to do it justice so instead I shall wrap up this rambling stream of adoration by saying this is a book I urge everyone to read ❤️
A must read, this is about Colin and his wife and their quest for justice for their son Morgan who was murdered in 2015.
Truly heart wrenching, this is about love, loss, grief and shows clearly how mistakes, cover ups and a history of violent offending leads to the murder of Morgan.
This book is compelling, shocking but also amazing. The tragedy of Morgan’s murder and the honesty around the grief, love and fight for justice is so moving. Not an easy read but a story that should be heard. Never read anything quite like it.
A heart wrenching true story of a father losing his son in a senseless stabbing. You feel his pain, his love for his son and his anger at the justice system for letting violent people with previous convictions back on the streets without extreme caution and/or rehabilitation.
This is a well-written, moving study of grief and justice. I think it would have gone up a notch for me if there had been more of a deep dive into what reform of the system could look like, reimagining rehabilitation, prison, and supporting young offenders.
This book was so hard to read, I went from sadness to anger and back again. I hope that changes to policing will be made following this book but sadly I feel I will be disappointed.
Pages full of some of the most honest heartbreaking truth I’ve read . The way grief is described in this book rings so true. This book is powerful and totally unforgettable