Cleaving: The Story of a Marriage

by Dennis Covington, Vicki Covington

Writing in alternating voices, the authors reveal the secret to their marriage--a union fraught with such problems as infidelity and alcoholism, which were overcome by hard work and a conscious effort to root their lives in the world outside of their lives. Tour.

Genres: Nonfiction, Memoir, Marriage

213 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 1999

Reviews

[Cathy · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is so intimate that I found it embarrassing to read. The Covingtons take turns telling the story of their marriage, which includes drug abuse, adultery, and horrible emotional scenes -- but also enduring love. They keep referring to a mission to dig wells in Central America as a metaphor for redemption and faith, and that was in some ways less compelling to me, the way that hearing about other people's good works tends to be.

They both write extremely well, but I came away not sure whether I wanted to know this much about the inner workings of someone else's relationship. I have just reread "Salvation on Sand Mountain," Dennis' book about Appalachian snake handlers, and I find it uncomfortable to witness how little detachment he has from his subject matter in that book -- here I think it is obvious that detachment, for better or worse, is in neither of the Covingtons' natures.

[Jennifer Baum · Rating 1 out of 5]

Crappy, pseudo-intellectual writing by aging hippies that seems to be going for shock value - not sure if I'm going to continue reading this.

[Natalie Chanin · Rating 3 out of 5]

just could not stand up to "salvation"...

[Peter · Rating 2 out of 5]

A couple tell the story of their marriage. Its well-written, but not necessarily hopeful or suggestive of the diligence necessary to keep one's vows.

There is a sadness in it, especially since the marriage does not last.

[Tracy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Written by a husband and wife, both of whom had relationships with others which was startling at first and then just seemed like it was woven into the fabric of their humanness. This book was an airport purchase I devoured because it was there more than it was anything super special.

[Abby]

One of my favorite words in the English language is "cleave". Why is it super cool? Because it has two simultaneously opposite meanings! It's the only word in the English language to do so, I believe. "Cleave" can mean either "to slice apart", or "to hold tightly together". Apparently their marriage experienced both, and so it's a little play on words. I really like this author, and I'm just half way into my first book of his so far.

Also, it sounds like his marriage was really rocky and dysfunctional. I like to hear about weird people because I always feel way better about myself after.

[Lua · Rating 4 out of 5]

I liked this book partly because it mostly takes place in Birmingham, Alabama - where I grew up and still have family. And also because of the authors' honesty in recounting all the troubles they went through in their marriage. However, their honesty about extramarital affairs was hard to read - especially wondering what it would be like to have their friends and acquaintances, and especially their daughters learn all these details - yikes.

[Maria (Ri) · Rating 2 out of 5]

Didn't really like the way this couple dealt with each other. My husband and I try to have much more respect and commitment to each other than was seen here. I also wonder how this book has affected their daughters...

[Jackie Simons]

Read 12/99

[pearl · Rating 2 out of 5]

Recently, I finished the book. I just don’t like the fact that cheating, weed, abortion, and alcohol is too normalize in this book 😵