"But surely it is something to have been / The best beloved for a little while, / To have walked hand in hand with Love, and seen / His purple wings flit once across thy smile"
– Oscar Wilde
Hand in Hand with Love is an anthology of queer poetry from Sappho to Oscar Wilde to Audre Lorde. The poems range from heartbreaking tragedies to sweet paeans to love, from depictions of unrequited lust to fantastical reality-bending adventures on the Goblin Market. Through these poems, the editor, Simon Avery, introduces his reader to a wide range of authors featuring household names like Lord Alfred Tennyson, Emily Dickinson and Walt Whitman, and lesser known poets (obviously well known for experts in queer poetry but not novices like me) such as Lesbia Harford, Claude McKay and Amy Lowell.
I really loved this poetry collection. I am not a big reader of poetry – I like to occasionally dabble in the genre but I don't actively seek out new poets or try and get to know the historical canon of poetry – and collections including many authors can be a hit or miss for me, but this one was, 100%, a hit. There was but a handful of poems I didn't like or connect to – on the flip side, there were so many that I absolutely loved. I think the standout poem of the collection, for me, was the second to last poem, written by Roz Kaveney, called "Stonewall – A Poem". The way Kaveney described the "Stonewall girls" who changed the world and whose names should be known, the people who changed the world who were "too young, too queer, too poor, too brown" and said "The people with nothing to lose / I know their names / Because they are my kind" got me in the feels. The collection covers hundreds of years, and each time period had some exemplary stuff and quotes that felt like a gut punch in the best possible way – from Lord Alfred Douglas's iconic "a love that dare not speak its name" to Lord Byron's melancholic "Thus much and more; and yet thou lov'st me not / And never wilt! Love dwells not in our will. / Nor can I blame thee, though it be my lot / To strongly, wrongly, vainly love thee still" and Audre Lorde's "So it is better to speak / remembering / we were never meant to survive".
Hand in Hand with Love covers a wide array of topics, not focusing just on queer love, lust or loss, but also on themes of self-discovery, religious fervour, nature, war and a desire to be seen and remembered. Some poems were not about love or sex at all, but about the world in general from a queer point of view. One of my favorite lines in the whole book was Wilde describing a scenery in his poem: "Not marking how the spotted hawk in flight / Passed on wide pinion through the lofty air / To where the steep untrodden mountain height / Caught the last tresses of the Sun God's hair". Absolutely gorgeous! Regarding poems about love, there were incredibly tender poems like Amy Lowell's "Decade" which was a short lil poem about a decade-long, still loving relationship and heartbreakers like Harold Munro's "Lament in 1915", a poem about a brutal loss that echoes the pain so many dealt with during and after World War I, which began a year before the poem's lament takes place. There's poems about swearing to give your loved one all you can, to treat them better than anyone else could, like Christopher Marlowe's poem that features the repeated, gorgeous phrase: "Come live with me and be my love". I could keep listing these incredible poems and what they meant to me, but I will leave you with these few examples: honestly, whatever kind of love poem you are in the mood for, you can find one in this collection.
One of my favorite aspects of this collection was how, throughout Simon Avery's curated list of artists, you get a sense of the development of queer poetry from Sappho to the 1990s. Obviously, this is a very small collection and solely focused on western and European literature, so it does not cover all (no poetry collection could) but I'd say this is a great place to start if you want a basic idea of the classics of queer poetry. I also just loved how these poems were, across space and time, in conversation with one another. The ancient Greek Theocritus writes in his poem: "May our love be strong / To all hereafter times the theme of song! / 'Two men each other loved to that degree / That either friend did in the other see / A dearer than himself. They lived of old / Both golden natures in an age of gold". The desire of queer people to be seen and known as they are, to have their feelings respected and remembered, has been universal throughout history. Travis Alabanza's poem ends the collection with harsh, rebellious words: "You tell me of pride in rainbows / In flags and flat stomachs, muscles and chests / Pride in our celebration / In unity and glee / And I spit out my pride in rebellion / The Pride in saying: / I am a freak, and you cannot fuck with me". We have gone from queer love described as "a love that dare not speak its name" to the embracing of "freakiness" and a demand for attention. The collection begins with Sappho, probably the most famous sapphic poet of all time (I mean, the word "sapphic" was derived from her name) and later, Lesbia Harford writes: "Would that I were Sappho / Greece, my land, not this! / There the noblest women / When they loved, would kiss". These kinds of connections and the presence of history in later queer poetry got to me.
I would highly recommend this collection to anyone who is not yet all that familiar with classic queer poets and poetry, or anyone who just wants a beautiful collection of poetry, brimming with queer desire, joy, tragedy and love, to read. I'd say my overall enjoyment of the collection was around 4,5/5 (as I said, I am not a big poetry reader and it is very rare that a poetry book can become an all-time fave for me) but because I appreciated the way Simon Avery curated and crafted this collection and what he wanted to say with it, I decided to bump the rating up to a full 5/5 stars.