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Flirting 101: How to Charm Your Way to Love, Friendship, and Success
Every party has a stand-out - a guy or gal who breezes into a room and instantly attracts everyone's attention. It's not always about looks or money, so what's their secret? It's all about flirting! A good flirt knows how to make anyone around them feel good, and that's a very powerful skill. Luckily, it is a skill that can be learned. THE STREET GUIDE TO FLIRTING will show you how
-Discover your inner flirt
-Increase your self-confidence
-Take advantage of non-verbal communication
-Overcome your fear of rejection
And much more!
Whether you want to attract a life partner, improve business, or just have a little fun, this book is packed with useful tips, stories, practical exercises, and quizzes to help you transform into the most fabulous flirt you can be.
-Discover your inner flirt
-Increase your self-confidence
-Take advantage of non-verbal communication
-Overcome your fear of rejection
And much more!
Whether you want to attract a life partner, improve business, or just have a little fun, this book is packed with useful tips, stories, practical exercises, and quizzes to help you transform into the most fabulous flirt you can be.
181 pages, Paperback
First published February 1, 2005
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October 26, 2009
We used this hilarious book as a tool in our acting class at school...not only does it give great tips for charming the pants off of people, but it also helps give confidence to those who are normally not assertive and good at putting themselves "out there". Sometimes I use tricks I learned in this book when I'm out at bars...just to see how far I can push the envelope :)
January 3, 2016
I'm not really sure why this needed an entire book. It could have easily been summed up in one long article. I mean, it wasn't bad but there wasn't anything revolutionary in this. You could find the same advice in any dating blog on the internet. I also found that a lot of the information was redundant.
December 15, 2022
This book is pretty basic and kinda outdated back to before 2010 times when texting first started. You can read this and learn the basic obvious flirting techniques but much better books out there who teach the same stuff but also teach more advanced concepts in terms of flirting with people.
October 13, 2023
Flirting is something almost everyone does. It is not only used to create romantic relationships but the first step in building many new relationships.
Breaking down the process and things to consider along with what your goal is is very helpful.
Breaking down the process and things to consider along with what your goal is is very helpful.
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November 29, 20141 the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of 2 chemical substances; if there's any reaction, both are transformed CG Jung
3 when you flirt w/ some1 u r actually paying them a compliment
6 great attitude toward life & having a good attitude is attractive . Being good looking or clever with words is useless if your attitude sucks
20 use a bubble journal to track your mood. The mind respondsbp fantasy and reality the same so get positive
22 pheromones only work w/I 9-10 geet so unless you're 1 on 1 you're still competing e/others. Try food smells like muffins
23 sweat is a turn on only when it is 20 min. Fresh
23 personal list- list 3 places or situations where u feel completely relaxed and at ease list 3 that fill u w excitement...
24 use sfl talk
39 me brand who u r not what u o, positive attributes, what u care about, what u have contributed to, your dreams and aspirations
Being cler about who u r frees you to experience the i divi duality of those u flirt w/
40 applied for ad job by making an ad resume...getting noticed is key it's better to be looked over than overlooked Mae West
60 mirroring exercise
Enlist a friend and ask the to sit and talk to you for five minutes about something they are interested in or their last vacatin. As they talk, consciously notice and copyhoe thy hold their head, thir body posture , and where they place their arms and thir legs. When you have become a mirror of their body, notice where they are breathing. Is it in the upper middle or Lowe chest? How fast is it? Now do the same.
Become really present, be in the o net, listening and interested in everything your friend says. Do this w/o judgment, accepting everything they say as if it is the most important information you have ever heard.
If your friend changes posture or moves during the exercise, count silently to five and adjust your posture to mirror them again.
After five minutes, stop and ask your frien how it felt to be mirrored by you. Chances are it felt good. If you want to find out what happens without rapport, repeat the exercise but deliberately let your attention wander and avoid mirroring them. Instead choose different gestures and posture. You'll notice they will find it hard to talk w/o stumbling and will unconsciously try to get your attention or just give uo
Sometimes it is not appropriate to direct.y mirror someone, so a more subtle approach is to match r
Them. An ex. Of matching would be if someone crosses their arms, you cross your legs. If they are tapping a pen, you tap your foot at the same rate.....watch the Peyton out of the cor er of your eye a d you'll observe e them be o I g awer of you.
62 lookers I see what you mean, that seems clear, can u show me
Listeners that sounds right, rings a bell, I'm in tune w what u r saying, tell me about it
Feelers, get a handle on tho gs , wrap my mi d around it, get in touch w what important, walk through this process
64 quiz= feeler
70 1st position your perspective 2nd partners 3rd observer of both of you..try all 3
75 guys tilt in direction of interested party
78 body language. Coworkers when boss around, friends w established group vs new love interest, family how body language reflects mood, couples in love, couples at war, advertisement body la gauge
79 personal space, start at edge of zone about 4 feet away w 45 angle turn .....narrowed eyes are global signal of feeling threatened
88 use a wine glass as personal prop run finger on rim or up and down stem
89 if interrupted in 1:1 conversation..touch the other person to keep them engaged before you reply to 3rd party!!!!!******
96 ask open ended questions
97 if u r going to answer their question w question soften it by " gret question but before I answer can i ask u ...."
104 flatter someo e to another person or in front of another person instead off or in addition to complimenting them directly
135 had any god text lately double entendre
('} {') kissing
I_/I_/? Drinks for 2
Ura* you're a star
@}----\-,-------- rose
Http://lingo2word.com
151 feel good associations . He gently touched her elbow on exactly the same spot and said, I have enjoyed this eve, you make me feel good, can we do it again...when he emphasized the words and she heard and felt feel good again which were clearly linked to his smile
U can make yourself really memorable using carefully chosen phrases, voice tone, touch or gesture when u notice some1 is feeling good. Alternatively u can use words to put sone1 in a good mood and then create an association between the good mood and yourself. Creating positive associations the feel good factor is the final skill in flirting
153 at work or in a social situation try to bond w someone. Notice their mood by watching their facial expression, breathing and posture changes. When they move into a positive mood, smile, nod and sat yes.
Keep doing this for at least 19 minutes. Then when they are in a neutral mood,nod and say yes. Stand back and watch the result
Just making someone feel good will automatically link the feeling to you but if you reinforce this w a phrase a smile a look and or touch the result will amaze you
174 the scan is a flirting tool
176 a great flirt never stops flirting with their partner. Rob "are you thinking of wearing that short black skirt tonight" why "because if you are I'll spend my day thinking about your sensational legs" both spent their day in pleasurable anticipation of the night ahead
3 when you flirt w/ some1 u r actually paying them a compliment
6 great attitude toward life & having a good attitude is attractive . Being good looking or clever with words is useless if your attitude sucks
20 use a bubble journal to track your mood. The mind respondsbp fantasy and reality the same so get positive
22 pheromones only work w/I 9-10 geet so unless you're 1 on 1 you're still competing e/others. Try food smells like muffins
23 sweat is a turn on only when it is 20 min. Fresh
23 personal list- list 3 places or situations where u feel completely relaxed and at ease list 3 that fill u w excitement...
24 use sfl talk
39 me brand who u r not what u o, positive attributes, what u care about, what u have contributed to, your dreams and aspirations
Being cler about who u r frees you to experience the i divi duality of those u flirt w/
40 applied for ad job by making an ad resume...getting noticed is key it's better to be looked over than overlooked Mae West
60 mirroring exercise
Enlist a friend and ask the to sit and talk to you for five minutes about something they are interested in or their last vacatin. As they talk, consciously notice and copyhoe thy hold their head, thir body posture , and where they place their arms and thir legs. When you have become a mirror of their body, notice where they are breathing. Is it in the upper middle or Lowe chest? How fast is it? Now do the same.
Become really present, be in the o net, listening and interested in everything your friend says. Do this w/o judgment, accepting everything they say as if it is the most important information you have ever heard.
If your friend changes posture or moves during the exercise, count silently to five and adjust your posture to mirror them again.
After five minutes, stop and ask your frien how it felt to be mirrored by you. Chances are it felt good. If you want to find out what happens without rapport, repeat the exercise but deliberately let your attention wander and avoid mirroring them. Instead choose different gestures and posture. You'll notice they will find it hard to talk w/o stumbling and will unconsciously try to get your attention or just give uo
Sometimes it is not appropriate to direct.y mirror someone, so a more subtle approach is to match r
Them. An ex. Of matching would be if someone crosses their arms, you cross your legs. If they are tapping a pen, you tap your foot at the same rate.....watch the Peyton out of the cor er of your eye a d you'll observe e them be o I g awer of you.
62 lookers I see what you mean, that seems clear, can u show me
Listeners that sounds right, rings a bell, I'm in tune w what u r saying, tell me about it
Feelers, get a handle on tho gs , wrap my mi d around it, get in touch w what important, walk through this process
64 quiz= feeler
70 1st position your perspective 2nd partners 3rd observer of both of you..try all 3
75 guys tilt in direction of interested party
78 body language. Coworkers when boss around, friends w established group vs new love interest, family how body language reflects mood, couples in love, couples at war, advertisement body la gauge
79 personal space, start at edge of zone about 4 feet away w 45 angle turn .....narrowed eyes are global signal of feeling threatened
88 use a wine glass as personal prop run finger on rim or up and down stem
89 if interrupted in 1:1 conversation..touch the other person to keep them engaged before you reply to 3rd party!!!!!******
96 ask open ended questions
97 if u r going to answer their question w question soften it by " gret question but before I answer can i ask u ...."
104 flatter someo e to another person or in front of another person instead off or in addition to complimenting them directly
135 had any god text lately double entendre
('} {') kissing
I_/I_/? Drinks for 2
Ura* you're a star
@}----\-,-------- rose
Http://lingo2word.com
151 feel good associations . He gently touched her elbow on exactly the same spot and said, I have enjoyed this eve, you make me feel good, can we do it again...when he emphasized the words and she heard and felt feel good again which were clearly linked to his smile
U can make yourself really memorable using carefully chosen phrases, voice tone, touch or gesture when u notice some1 is feeling good. Alternatively u can use words to put sone1 in a good mood and then create an association between the good mood and yourself. Creating positive associations the feel good factor is the final skill in flirting
153 at work or in a social situation try to bond w someone. Notice their mood by watching their facial expression, breathing and posture changes. When they move into a positive mood, smile, nod and sat yes.
Keep doing this for at least 19 minutes. Then when they are in a neutral mood,nod and say yes. Stand back and watch the result
Just making someone feel good will automatically link the feeling to you but if you reinforce this w a phrase a smile a look and or touch the result will amaze you
174 the scan is a flirting tool
176 a great flirt never stops flirting with their partner. Rob "are you thinking of wearing that short black skirt tonight" why "because if you are I'll spend my day thinking about your sensational legs" both spent their day in pleasurable anticipation of the night ahead
November 29, 2018
It was okay. There was definitely a lot of information and my roommate and I had a few good laughs while reading it...but it's not really anything I didn't already know. I feel like the book was kind of common sense. I did like the short activities they had us do because they gave me an insight into myself. But reading this book doesn't give me the confidence to flirt, which is what I lack. Plus this book is from 2003...so I assume reading it in 2018 isn't the most beneficial thing to do (i.e. the whole chapter on flirting over text, email, and telephone).
July 6, 2024
A basic introduction to flirting that's very dated in places. The best written chapter was the one on the unintentional mixed messages women often send to men.
The principles covered here are probably covered better in other books.
The principles covered here are probably covered better in other books.
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November 26, 2022flirting 4 straighties in the year 2003 l8r
July 20, 2013
Is flirting easy? Can anyone do it? This book states that it is easy…sort of. Also, anyone CAN do it…but it takes effort and practice.
Flirting is posited not merely as a game of seduction. It’s not about the cheesy pick-up line but a way to get people to open up, to get better service at hotels, restaurants, car washes, to get that promotion you’ve always craved, attract the attention of that person you’ve fancied. The book lists the secrets of certain historical flirters and how flirting successfully isn’t a matter of how you look so much as how you carry yourself and present yourself to the world.
Above all, “Flirting 101” emphasizes that flirting is all about having fun. If it’s not fun, you’re not doing it right.
Flirting is posited not merely as a game of seduction. It’s not about the cheesy pick-up line but a way to get people to open up, to get better service at hotels, restaurants, car washes, to get that promotion you’ve always craved, attract the attention of that person you’ve fancied. The book lists the secrets of certain historical flirters and how flirting successfully isn’t a matter of how you look so much as how you carry yourself and present yourself to the world.
Above all, “Flirting 101” emphasizes that flirting is all about having fun. If it’s not fun, you’re not doing it right.
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