Amy Sue Nathan is a friend, a fellow writer, both of us having lived, raised our children in a suburb of Chicago. But life is change, Amy eventually moving east and publishing her first novel,
The Glass Wives. It’s a perfect title, referring to the two women who married Richard Glass—one the ex-wife, the other the current wife, their lives becoming complicated, emotional walls challenged and broken when Richard Glass suddenly dies. Now these two women and their families are thrown together, facing difficult decisions: how can they both heal, each having their own hurts, each needing to move toward love and loyalty. Nathan skillfully brings it all to the page.
Then my book club read Nathan’s next novel, LEFT TO CHANCE. We enjoyed meeting Nathan’s cast of characters who live in Chance, Ohio, the book relating the main character’s return, her slowly discovering that Chance truly was a major part of her past, and she thus allowing herself to reconnect might be the best way to determine her future, heal her hurts.
I could continue these short summaries, stressing I have read, enjoyed all of Amy’s books. But as a fellow writer, this review is to stress that Amy has perfected her craft…Well Behaved Wives being my new favorite.
Reading Nathan, we can see how she weaves her own history, her own hurts and challenges into her work. That’s the best way for a writer to bring flesh and blood characters to the page, to evoke emotion and allow us to live in the “place” of the story. Research helps. That might mean reading or an actual car trip. It might mean long phone conversations and research. Nathan did all of this to create Well Behaved Wives, to bring to the page distinct characters of a different moment in time, but a moment that has boiled up, arousing anger, need, and realization in women—we will not be abused by anyone, even a partner, a husband. And I’m not giving the plot away…Nathan provides Domestic Violence Resources at the end of the novel…the reader knows the topic and issue the novel will be dealing with. And there is the title.
Well Behaved Wives. It’s brilliant. Maybe we think of being well-behaved when we were children! “Behave yourself,” might even be a sentence that mothers no longer use. There are other ways to guide children into society. Sometimes they even become our teachers!
But Nathan is writing about a different time and she records it in spades: how the wives relate to one another, their insecurities and how they often seem to have lived their lives by only moving forward, not looking back to question: is this the right move? Am I on the right pathway?
Goodreads does warn the reader: Perfect wives, imperfect lives, and upending the rules of behavior in 1960s America.
It doesn’t matter, though it adds to the portrait that Nathan provides—that the perfect wives living in the posh suburbs of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania are Jewish. Nathan sets tables of ethic foods all through the novel, so even if you can’t picture the sweet, you are already craving it. But as modern readers, modern women, we aren’t craving the need for being well-behaved, for spending hours learning from one who knows the etiquette of setting a table, pleasing your spouse. I must comment these women spend a great deal of time worrying about dress, food, and decorating. Sure, many of us have, so thank God Nathan has created Ruth (the perfect name echoing Ruth Bader Ginsberg) who has attained a law degree, but is basically hiding that fact until she can meet other requirements and become a full-fledged lawyer. And until she stops at Carrie’s home to find she is bruised, and probably beaten, though immediately denying it, the oh I just tripped and fell routine. This is the heart, the true purpose of the novel. It takes us a while to get there, but then we know these women, wonder how they will react. And Nathan doesn’t disappoint.
Because COME ON! These are well behaved wives. When they go to bed at night they are planning dinner parties and outfits for luncheon. They don’t have nightmares of beatings and abuse… until reality provides day mares and these women must change. Nathan creates a parallel story line. One of the wives has a secret about her own mother. That helps tear down the walls of disbelief, the fragility of a time when preparing for Jewish feasts and pleasing husband provided the main content of these women’s lives. But there is always Ruth.
Nathan has done it again, with skill, knowledge and real characters that might make you want to scream. But hey! It’s history. And Nathan has dealt with history before…she knows how to pull you into the story, so that when you close the book, you make sure your husband has cleaned up the snack he made for himself!