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My Family Can Kiss My Ass: How to Deal with Toxic, Messy, Narcissistic Family Members
Are you struggling with breaking free from your toxic family members? Have you started to do Google searches on Narcissistic Personality Disorder to figure out if you've been dating narcissists and you want to get to the root of your childhood trauma? Do you feel that your family are backstabbers and want to see you fail at life? Have you tried to make amends multiple times with your parents, yet nothing changes because they continue to mistreat you? In this book, you will learn all of the signs of narcissistic abuse and how your family members hide behind their deviant behavior and get away with harming you. Most people don't recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse in their family, because the bad behavior has been "normalized" by both your parents and grandparents. It's time to take a stand against your toxic relatives and reclaim your peace and freedom. This is the book for you!
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Published November 24, 2021
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February 15, 2022
MY FAMILY CAN DEFINITELY KISS MY ASS! LOL
After reading this book in less than two hours, my toxic family can now kiss this black sheep’s ass! I have my confirmation and hope my son will read this book too! It’s such a shame that toxic family members will try their best to steal the light of the empath. I always felt talked about and devalued by my family and this book confirmed my suspensions but I’m 58 now so much of my childhood healing is done but I definitely will no longer feel guilty of staying busy when it comes to turning down family functions and holiday gatherings! This was an awesome read!!
After reading this book in less than two hours, my toxic family can now kiss this black sheep’s ass! I have my confirmation and hope my son will read this book too! It’s such a shame that toxic family members will try their best to steal the light of the empath. I always felt talked about and devalued by my family and this book confirmed my suspensions but I’m 58 now so much of my childhood healing is done but I definitely will no longer feel guilty of staying busy when it comes to turning down family functions and holiday gatherings! This was an awesome read!!
May 23, 2024
And as the title says, my family can quite literally kiss my ass.
I really enjoyed this quick little self help read as being the black sheep sometimes you feel alone in how you’re feeling, but it was good to put in actual words the behaviors of those around you.
And hey, it’s not you, it’s them.
I really enjoyed this quick little self help read as being the black sheep sometimes you feel alone in how you’re feeling, but it was good to put in actual words the behaviors of those around you.
And hey, it’s not you, it’s them.
March 1, 2022
If i could gave given this less stars I would have. The author may be a life coach and so called "expert" in narcissistic abuse, but she sure doesn't know basic grammar. This book was horribly written! It will be of no help to anyone suffering from narcissistic abuse as all it contains is one long rambling rant about the authors supposedly abusive family members. In fact, it seems as though this book more of a passive aggressive act to get back at her family, than a tool to help others suffering from abuse. It's a good thing I downloaded it free on the Kindle app because if I'd paid for this book I'd definitely be asking for a refund.
December 8, 2021
she wrote this for me
Or at least that’s what I thought when reading this. As an author she connected and taught me new phrases.
Or at least that’s what I thought when reading this. As an author she connected and taught me new phrases.
May 25, 2024
I don’t think I’ve ever read a book so fast. I needed this book. If you KNOW ME then you KNOW I HAD to read it. I am so thankful I found this because it makes sense. It’s not just a long list of problems but it has the one solution that is vital to healing and progress. I know exactly where to go from here after reading this book
March 9, 2022
The author's heavy-handed writing towards God made it more challenging to read. People need help garnering understanding and getting the healing they need from narcissistic families, but not everybody is interested in a religious experience. There's some good nuggets in here, but the backdrop of "God chose you to bear the burden for breaking the generational abuse cycles" was a bit much, and not a take I was looking to get.
June 15, 2022
Not a healthy book to overcome negativity
This was the hardest100 pages to get through. Give that I do sympathize with her for her traumatic upbringing but the way she wrote this both is as though everyone else is just as damaged
This was the hardest100 pages to get through. Give that I do sympathize with her for her traumatic upbringing but the way she wrote this both is as though everyone else is just as damaged
June 12, 2022
At the beginning, I enjoyed the book. Sure, there were a lot of grammatical errors, and perhaps it is a bit too preachy for my taste. But then I read this sentence:
“Society has pressured us to run to the church for our problems only to be met by a harem of pedophiles, closeted homosexuals/lesbians, polygamists and predators.”
And now I kind of want to burn this book. Who tf compares predators/pedophiles with LGBT+?
“Society has pressured us to run to the church for our problems only to be met by a harem of pedophiles, closeted homosexuals/lesbians, polygamists and predators.”
And now I kind of want to burn this book. Who tf compares predators/pedophiles with LGBT+?
March 17, 2022
I had high hopes for this book but it fell short on so many levels!
Firstly it’s packed full of references to God, to the point of being preaching and nauseating with multiple references to God in each page. And if that wasn’t enough it was also equally overflowing with swear words. It completely confused me as the two are polar opposites. I don’t mean the odd “bloody” I’m referring multiple uses of the F work in a sentence about being being in the hands of God.
It is a short book and the limited parts of the book which wasn’t swearing at you or telling you to God is the only one you need to please the author did have some good points and tips about how to deal with narcissistic parents but they were thin and lacking any substance and detail which is poor given the importance and sensitive nature of the subject matter.
Firstly it’s packed full of references to God, to the point of being preaching and nauseating with multiple references to God in each page. And if that wasn’t enough it was also equally overflowing with swear words. It completely confused me as the two are polar opposites. I don’t mean the odd “bloody” I’m referring multiple uses of the F work in a sentence about being being in the hands of God.
It is a short book and the limited parts of the book which wasn’t swearing at you or telling you to God is the only one you need to please the author did have some good points and tips about how to deal with narcissistic parents but they were thin and lacking any substance and detail which is poor given the importance and sensitive nature of the subject matter.
May 7, 2022
Great Read!
Easy to read with great examples. I'm so happy that I could read the similarities in my upbringing and relationships as an adult with family members and others. People who are surviving or who are currently dealing with Narcissist behavior should check this book out. Took me about two days.
Easy to read with great examples. I'm so happy that I could read the similarities in my upbringing and relationships as an adult with family members and others. People who are surviving or who are currently dealing with Narcissist behavior should check this book out. Took me about two days.
August 28, 2023
Love
I wish I would have read this book years ago. I honestly benefitted from reading this. I will be encouraging others to read it.
I wish I would have read this book years ago. I honestly benefitted from reading this. I will be encouraging others to read it.
September 19, 2024
My Family Can Kiss My Ass: How to Deal with Toxic, Messy, Narcissistic Family Members by Chanel Jasmin Clark
+128-page Kindle Ebook
Genre: Nonfiction, Self Help, Mental Health
Featuring: Author's Links and Contacts, Epigraph, Dysfunctional Families, Toxic Relationships, Narcissistic Energy, Toxic-Codependency, Parentification, C-PTSD, Child Abuse, Pseudo-Mutuality, Grammatical Errors, Perception Management, Scapegoats, Empaths, Trauma Bonds, Profanity, God's Plan, Illustrations, Narcissistic Traits vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Narcissists, Narcissistic Supply, Narcissistic Abuse Cycle - Lovebombing, Devaluation, and Discard; Triangulation, Gaslighting, Covert and Overt Narcissists, Financial Abuse, Abandonment, Emotional Neglect, Divergence, Ways They Kee Tabs on You, Smear Campaigns, Cutting-Off Toxic People, Abuse by Proxy, Holidays and Vacation, Funerals, Coercive Enmeshment, Vexatious Litigation, Narcissists are Fake Christians, Therapy
Rating as a movie: R for adult content and language
Quotes: We learn toxic-codependency in our youth and it is transferred over into our adulthood. This is why you would attract a narcissist as a lover. Your mother and father programmed you to be addicted to narcissistic energy because they’re narcissistic and they “normalized” the toxic behavior in your household when you were a child.
All of the abuse and dysfunction that takes place behind closed doors is silenced and swept under the rug. Everyone is taught to never discuss or speak about what takes place in the home, and to always put on a fake smile whenever they leave the premises. Everything is all about maintaining a fake image to fool the outside world.
Our families will try to cripple us if we decide to detach ourselves from their dysfunction. So at the end of the day, they’ve placed a wedge between you and God whether you realize it or not. We’ve been conditioned by our loved ones to stay loyal to abuse. With understanding and self-reflection, I pray that you will come to a point in your life where you won’t fear cutting off your family permanently. I pray that you will connect the dots to all of your relationships that have failed, and tie them to your parents who initially trained you to attract toxic lovers and bad friendships. From that understanding comes the ability to stop allowing the parasitic host (mom and dad) to feed off of your spiritual energy.
Our parents are our ORIGINAL enemies. Your abuse began with them and transferred over into your love life and friendships. Let go and let God step in. All you got to do is surrender to Him and push your family out. There’s a brand new life waiting for you. Let go.
You’re more than likely the good black sheep and I can tell you now that you have been selected by God to be the “Chosen One” of your family. I wholeheartedly believe that when you were conceived in your mother’s womb, God marked you to take on the greatest task of breaking your family’s generational curse. Yes, even before you were born, God marked you. It is an honor and privilege to be selected by God to carry out such a difficult task. He was being very selective when He chose you. This is why your family attacks you the way that they do. They see the anointing and they hate that you were chosen to receive it.
Stay out of the church too. The church is full of narcissistic predators. Society has pressured us to run to church for our problems only to be met by a harem of pedophiles, closeted homosexuals/ lesbians, polygamists and predators. Your family will force you to use church in place of actual therapy knowing church is toxic as hell and won’t help you heal.
Books and Authors mentioned:
My rating: ⭐️⭐️😲🐑
My thoughts: 🔖Page 23 of 128 Chapter 2 NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IN YOUR FAMILY - This book has tunnel vision. It's hard because it reminds me of Saaphyri praying on Flavor of Love. Cussing and prayers don't go together for me, but I'm going to finish this book, tomorrow.
I don't even know where to begin. When I saw the money app information I knew it was about to be some mess. The delivery was awful and I not trying to victim blame or dissect someone else's truth but I wouldn't recommend this book for growth or overcoming. This book reads like someone having a vent session and I'll just leave it at that.
Recommend to others: No, but you'll probably read it anyway like I did.
+128-page Kindle Ebook
Genre: Nonfiction, Self Help, Mental Health
Featuring: Author's Links and Contacts, Epigraph, Dysfunctional Families, Toxic Relationships, Narcissistic Energy, Toxic-Codependency, Parentification, C-PTSD, Child Abuse, Pseudo-Mutuality, Grammatical Errors, Perception Management, Scapegoats, Empaths, Trauma Bonds, Profanity, God's Plan, Illustrations, Narcissistic Traits vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Narcissists, Narcissistic Supply, Narcissistic Abuse Cycle - Lovebombing, Devaluation, and Discard; Triangulation, Gaslighting, Covert and Overt Narcissists, Financial Abuse, Abandonment, Emotional Neglect, Divergence, Ways They Kee Tabs on You, Smear Campaigns, Cutting-Off Toxic People, Abuse by Proxy, Holidays and Vacation, Funerals, Coercive Enmeshment, Vexatious Litigation, Narcissists are Fake Christians, Therapy
Rating as a movie: R for adult content and language
Quotes: We learn toxic-codependency in our youth and it is transferred over into our adulthood. This is why you would attract a narcissist as a lover. Your mother and father programmed you to be addicted to narcissistic energy because they’re narcissistic and they “normalized” the toxic behavior in your household when you were a child.
All of the abuse and dysfunction that takes place behind closed doors is silenced and swept under the rug. Everyone is taught to never discuss or speak about what takes place in the home, and to always put on a fake smile whenever they leave the premises. Everything is all about maintaining a fake image to fool the outside world.
Our families will try to cripple us if we decide to detach ourselves from their dysfunction. So at the end of the day, they’ve placed a wedge between you and God whether you realize it or not. We’ve been conditioned by our loved ones to stay loyal to abuse. With understanding and self-reflection, I pray that you will come to a point in your life where you won’t fear cutting off your family permanently. I pray that you will connect the dots to all of your relationships that have failed, and tie them to your parents who initially trained you to attract toxic lovers and bad friendships. From that understanding comes the ability to stop allowing the parasitic host (mom and dad) to feed off of your spiritual energy.
Our parents are our ORIGINAL enemies. Your abuse began with them and transferred over into your love life and friendships. Let go and let God step in. All you got to do is surrender to Him and push your family out. There’s a brand new life waiting for you. Let go.
You’re more than likely the good black sheep and I can tell you now that you have been selected by God to be the “Chosen One” of your family. I wholeheartedly believe that when you were conceived in your mother’s womb, God marked you to take on the greatest task of breaking your family’s generational curse. Yes, even before you were born, God marked you. It is an honor and privilege to be selected by God to carry out such a difficult task. He was being very selective when He chose you. This is why your family attacks you the way that they do. They see the anointing and they hate that you were chosen to receive it.
Stay out of the church too. The church is full of narcissistic predators. Society has pressured us to run to church for our problems only to be met by a harem of pedophiles, closeted homosexuals/ lesbians, polygamists and predators. Your family will force you to use church in place of actual therapy knowing church is toxic as hell and won’t help you heal.
Books and Authors mentioned:
My rating: ⭐️⭐️😲🐑
My thoughts: 🔖Page 23 of 128 Chapter 2 NARCISSISTIC ABUSE IN YOUR FAMILY - This book has tunnel vision. It's hard because it reminds me of Saaphyri praying on Flavor of Love. Cussing and prayers don't go together for me, but I'm going to finish this book, tomorrow.
I don't even know where to begin. When I saw the money app information I knew it was about to be some mess. The delivery was awful and I not trying to victim blame or dissect someone else's truth but I wouldn't recommend this book for growth or overcoming. This book reads like someone having a vent session and I'll just leave it at that.
Recommend to others: No, but you'll probably read it anyway like I did.
March 23, 2024
I go into every book with the mentality that they automatically get 5 stars and that rating fluctuates throughout my reading. This book quickly went down to a 4, a 3, a 2, a 2.5 and then finally a 2.
The cause of the first lost star, which isn't mentioned in the blurb, is that the author is religious and most of the book is her preaching about God and how he can fix your problems. As an atheist, I prefer to avoid religious books, especially ones that preach too much, so I don't appreciate this being left out of the blurb.
The cause of the second lost star is that the book is heavily anecdotal with no credible sources of information. It felt like I was reading the author's diary or autobiography. I understand that for the author to understand narcissists, they're likely going to have personal experience but just under half way through, her chapters lose structure and is made up of a formula of 'The narcissist will do this to you - I know this because this and this happened to me - so yeah, that's the fact, don't contact them'.
That leads me onto the loss of the third star. Her main advice is: go no contact. Whilst this is legitimate advice for dealing with narcissistic family members, when the rest of the book is full of anecdotes and no new or scientific information, it simply becomes a needlessly stretched out passage of text that reads 'go no contact' in as many possible ways.
The author even has one chapter that says to avoid holidays and vacations with toxic family, then one immediately after saying to avoid family functions, then another chapter saying to avoid funerals. To me, this read as the same thing stretched over three chapters.
It went down to 2 as the book continued to go down the route of 'the narcissist will do this one specific thing to you. I know this because my mum did it to me (followed by another long diary entry)'.
It had a small 0.5 boost when there were some comical sentences thrown in the ever increasingly ranty, sweary, downward spiral of the end of the book; and also when the author said that the church is toxic as hell and won't help you heal.
It went back down to 2 when the author displayed her (likely religion caused) homophobia in the second to last chapter. Then the last chapter was almost entirely focused on the church and God, referring to family members as demonic and even included burning sage, spraying walls with Florida water (???) and mopping your floors with ammonia? I think this is good evidence of how unhinged and unstructured the book becomes the further you read.
What kept this book at a 2 was that, at least at the beginning of the book, the writing started off quite good. She was using official terminology, providing examples that were contained and there were a couple of nuggets of information I found affirming. Throw in some witty or comical sentences and there was a recipe here for a decent and helpful book. Unfortunately, it wasn't delivered and like another reviewer said, I'm so glad I didn't buy this book.
The cause of the first lost star, which isn't mentioned in the blurb, is that the author is religious and most of the book is her preaching about God and how he can fix your problems. As an atheist, I prefer to avoid religious books, especially ones that preach too much, so I don't appreciate this being left out of the blurb.
The cause of the second lost star is that the book is heavily anecdotal with no credible sources of information. It felt like I was reading the author's diary or autobiography. I understand that for the author to understand narcissists, they're likely going to have personal experience but just under half way through, her chapters lose structure and is made up of a formula of 'The narcissist will do this to you - I know this because this and this happened to me - so yeah, that's the fact, don't contact them'.
That leads me onto the loss of the third star. Her main advice is: go no contact. Whilst this is legitimate advice for dealing with narcissistic family members, when the rest of the book is full of anecdotes and no new or scientific information, it simply becomes a needlessly stretched out passage of text that reads 'go no contact' in as many possible ways.
The author even has one chapter that says to avoid holidays and vacations with toxic family, then one immediately after saying to avoid family functions, then another chapter saying to avoid funerals. To me, this read as the same thing stretched over three chapters.
It went down to 2 as the book continued to go down the route of 'the narcissist will do this one specific thing to you. I know this because my mum did it to me (followed by another long diary entry)'.
It had a small 0.5 boost when there were some comical sentences thrown in the ever increasingly ranty, sweary, downward spiral of the end of the book; and also when the author said that the church is toxic as hell and won't help you heal.
It went back down to 2 when the author displayed her (likely religion caused) homophobia in the second to last chapter. Then the last chapter was almost entirely focused on the church and God, referring to family members as demonic and even included burning sage, spraying walls with Florida water (???) and mopping your floors with ammonia? I think this is good evidence of how unhinged and unstructured the book becomes the further you read.
What kept this book at a 2 was that, at least at the beginning of the book, the writing started off quite good. She was using official terminology, providing examples that were contained and there were a couple of nuggets of information I found affirming. Throw in some witty or comical sentences and there was a recipe here for a decent and helpful book. Unfortunately, it wasn't delivered and like another reviewer said, I'm so glad I didn't buy this book.
September 14, 2022
Decent
I was with this book because I am black, & female so I resonate with the title.
However, I was on board UNTIL the mentioning of Sky Daddy.
The same religious ideals that nana was probably raised on, that probably allowed that toxicity…is supposed to be trusted as a solution and remedy for those who are suffering?
As a 28 year old who constantly deals with this and is probably never going to be able to escape this narcissist parental abuse until they die(because I live with them and can’t get a single bedroom apartment on a single income because jobs don’t pay well), I can’t tell you how many times I prayed & screamed for help to the “lord thy god”.
How you gonna say “how are you going to learn to be happy if you don’t detach from family” and then a few lines down say, “don’t worry about the financial struggles”.
I’d love to detach but unfortunately that’s set at a high price of $270,000. (Starting from ground zero in trying to secure housing and a car for myself)
Also unfortunately I’m too woke and understand that God is the ultimate narcissist. He’s the literal guide book for these type of people. Is that who I’m supposed to trust?
When describing a narcissist I would’ve preferred gender neutral, they/them pronouns.
This book is very conflicting; constantly referencing to lean on God but then “stay out of the church; it’s full of narcissistic predators”….
Has some useful insight though if you can skip all the religious jargon
I was with this book because I am black, & female so I resonate with the title.
However, I was on board UNTIL the mentioning of Sky Daddy.
The same religious ideals that nana was probably raised on, that probably allowed that toxicity…is supposed to be trusted as a solution and remedy for those who are suffering?
As a 28 year old who constantly deals with this and is probably never going to be able to escape this narcissist parental abuse until they die(because I live with them and can’t get a single bedroom apartment on a single income because jobs don’t pay well), I can’t tell you how many times I prayed & screamed for help to the “lord thy god”.
How you gonna say “how are you going to learn to be happy if you don’t detach from family” and then a few lines down say, “don’t worry about the financial struggles”.
I’d love to detach but unfortunately that’s set at a high price of $270,000. (Starting from ground zero in trying to secure housing and a car for myself)
Also unfortunately I’m too woke and understand that God is the ultimate narcissist. He’s the literal guide book for these type of people. Is that who I’m supposed to trust?
When describing a narcissist I would’ve preferred gender neutral, they/them pronouns.
This book is very conflicting; constantly referencing to lean on God but then “stay out of the church; it’s full of narcissistic predators”….
Has some useful insight though if you can skip all the religious jargon
June 23, 2022
You Have Toxic Family? READ. [period]
This book is crazy good. It mostly speaks of narcissistic mothers/parents. The book also touches on other family member and could give a person that seems to be titled “the black sheep” a whole opening of understanding. If you deal with negative parents and siblings please please read this, I’m sure you should be able to identify with atleast one thing if not all. This book had me in tears at the end. I finally know I’m not the crazy one and I can finally way from toxic family and love with my badge on wearing it proudly. It’s only up from here.
This book is crazy good. It mostly speaks of narcissistic mothers/parents. The book also touches on other family member and could give a person that seems to be titled “the black sheep” a whole opening of understanding. If you deal with negative parents and siblings please please read this, I’m sure you should be able to identify with atleast one thing if not all. This book had me in tears at the end. I finally know I’m not the crazy one and I can finally way from toxic family and love with my badge on wearing it proudly. It’s only up from here.
February 28, 2023
I loved this book!!!
This book is EVERYTHING! It changes my whole way of thinking! I feel so much better and I see many points that was made in this book! I wasn't physically abused as a child but I was emotionally! And even in adulthood my mother continues to manipulate me. Now that I see through her she hates me more. She has always played favorites. Even down to her grandkids and great grand kids I loved this book!!! It help me understand so much of my purpose and feeling like I don't belong!
This book is EVERYTHING! It changes my whole way of thinking! I feel so much better and I see many points that was made in this book! I wasn't physically abused as a child but I was emotionally! And even in adulthood my mother continues to manipulate me. Now that I see through her she hates me more. She has always played favorites. Even down to her grandkids and great grand kids I loved this book!!! It help me understand so much of my purpose and feeling like I don't belong!
August 13, 2024
WOW
I could totally relate but I didn’t get it from my parents it mostly came from my siblings. But yet it touched on some serious issues that woke up some things I went through along the way. I too could feel the tension then and even now when I made attempts to be a part of family functions always knowing I was invited and still not welcome. But I no longer feel the need to be involved let along included. A quick and informative read of another’s observations. I needed this today.
I could totally relate but I didn’t get it from my parents it mostly came from my siblings. But yet it touched on some serious issues that woke up some things I went through along the way. I too could feel the tension then and even now when I made attempts to be a part of family functions always knowing I was invited and still not welcome. But I no longer feel the need to be involved let along included. A quick and informative read of another’s observations. I needed this today.
July 17, 2025
Great advice to get rid of toxic family
My God! I swear the author was talking directly to me!
I felt like she really knew my family.
The advice presented in this book doesn't substitute professional help but it will be a great start to understand when you need to get rid of toxic people in your life and move on.
We all make mistakes, but that doesn't mean we have to stand abuse from anyone, including family members.
We all deserve to be happy and have a peaceful life.
If you are dealing with a narcissist or toxic person in your life, I really recommend this book.
My God! I swear the author was talking directly to me!
I felt like she really knew my family.
The advice presented in this book doesn't substitute professional help but it will be a great start to understand when you need to get rid of toxic people in your life and move on.
We all make mistakes, but that doesn't mean we have to stand abuse from anyone, including family members.
We all deserve to be happy and have a peaceful life.
If you are dealing with a narcissist or toxic person in your life, I really recommend this book.
April 13, 2022
I would say one of the bestseller books. I read it and initially thought I’m in the same position as she was. After getting in the middle of the book I found out that there is something wrong going on in my family but it’s not her case of narcissistic people. I met in some way my childhood with her and I was particularly said the Black Sheep, however in different way. I wasn’t abuse the way she was. At my end I was abandoned and opinionated.
May 2, 2022
Amazing Read
This book was so reaffirming: I’m not going crazy and none of what I feel (or have been made to feel) was in my head, so to speak. I’m still in the beginning of my ‘no contact’ boundary and it has been hard, but the peace that I’ve felt… I recommend the book for anyone who’s ever wondered if they were going crazy or if the problem was themselves. It’s not and you’re not alone.
This book was so reaffirming: I’m not going crazy and none of what I feel (or have been made to feel) was in my head, so to speak. I’m still in the beginning of my ‘no contact’ boundary and it has been hard, but the peace that I’ve felt… I recommend the book for anyone who’s ever wondered if they were going crazy or if the problem was themselves. It’s not and you’re not alone.
July 16, 2022
Interesting, and very true
The author flipped a lot between a religious view and then heavy cussing. However, she was speaking from a place of "knowing and feeling". It was nice reading something that validated what I am living through. It's odd reading something that pinpoints things so clearly. If you have true narcissistic parents, this is a good read. You are not alone. Blacksheep unite!
The author flipped a lot between a religious view and then heavy cussing. However, she was speaking from a place of "knowing and feeling". It was nice reading something that validated what I am living through. It's odd reading something that pinpoints things so clearly. If you have true narcissistic parents, this is a good read. You are not alone. Blacksheep unite!
April 1, 2024
must read!!! highly recommend
Wow! This novel was such an eye opener! I am 25 yo and have experienced majority of everything that was mentioned in this novel. It gave me the motivation to keep pushing through these trials and tribulations I endure with so called family and friends. The Black a sheep is a badge of honor title to have. We are God’s chosen children!! Thank you, Ms. Clark!!! Super fantastic read!!!
Wow! This novel was such an eye opener! I am 25 yo and have experienced majority of everything that was mentioned in this novel. It gave me the motivation to keep pushing through these trials and tribulations I endure with so called family and friends. The Black a sheep is a badge of honor title to have. We are God’s chosen children!! Thank you, Ms. Clark!!! Super fantastic read!!!
July 11, 2024
…
As a licensed therapist this book felt odd and weird to read. It read like a biography and didn’t offer any true tips or advice on how to deal with narcissism in a healthy manner. Lots of personal experiences applied to all things in the subject matter. If someone wants to understand narcissism, the people who hurt them and even effective ways to navigate those relationships, Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawaab is a much more effective read with citations.
As a licensed therapist this book felt odd and weird to read. It read like a biography and didn’t offer any true tips or advice on how to deal with narcissism in a healthy manner. Lots of personal experiences applied to all things in the subject matter. If someone wants to understand narcissism, the people who hurt them and even effective ways to navigate those relationships, Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawaab is a much more effective read with citations.
June 4, 2022
Healing Journey
Thank you for everything you share. I was in a relationship with a man who treated me just like my mother did before I realized I chose her in men. I cried and couldn't eat for days knowing how badly abused I have been my whole life. Even reading this book erected pain but I an glad I am aware now so I can continue to heal . Thank you again for this information.
Thank you for everything you share. I was in a relationship with a man who treated me just like my mother did before I realized I chose her in men. I cried and couldn't eat for days knowing how badly abused I have been my whole life. Even reading this book erected pain but I an glad I am aware now so I can continue to heal . Thank you again for this information.
September 2, 2024
A required reading for understanding and healing
This book is a required read for healthy healing, and understanding. Narcissism is real it is in families. Unfortunately narcissists are in society. This book will help you to navigate narcissism in its purest form is plain. It’s simple. It’s straight to the point..
This book is a required read for healthy healing, and understanding. Narcissism is real it is in families. Unfortunately narcissists are in society. This book will help you to navigate narcissism in its purest form is plain. It’s simple. It’s straight to the point..
September 11, 2024
Primarily just a personal account of family issues
Seems the book was written to serve as a therapeutic mechanism for the author. Although it does provide some beneficial terminology, it did not provide information beyond the author’s personal issues. Based on the title, I hoped for more versatile and useful communication rather than a biographical volume.
Seems the book was written to serve as a therapeutic mechanism for the author. Although it does provide some beneficial terminology, it did not provide information beyond the author’s personal issues. Based on the title, I hoped for more versatile and useful communication rather than a biographical volume.
August 7, 2025
very accurate information about toxic families.
I found this book to be jam packed with truth. I’ve experienced the same toxic dynamic in my family. The author really does a great job advising and advocating for the scapegoat. Very encouraging and enlightening. A must read if you are a survivor of narcissistic abuse.
I found this book to be jam packed with truth. I’ve experienced the same toxic dynamic in my family. The author really does a great job advising and advocating for the scapegoat. Very encouraging and enlightening. A must read if you are a survivor of narcissistic abuse.
March 16, 2022
An Honor to be a Scapegoat!!!!
Love how the author is straight to the point,no bullshit, she calls it what it is, easy to read and understand. Rethinking therapy more than ever now thanks to this good read.
Love how the author is straight to the point,no bullshit, she calls it what it is, easy to read and understand. Rethinking therapy more than ever now thanks to this good read.
April 29, 2022
I loved the book. The only issue I had with the book is that the author tells her readers to stay away from church. I know that not all pastors are “holy” but I would have rather her say use discernment to find another church that suits you. Good content overall.
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August 6, 2022
Just what I needed
This book was just what I needed. It mirrored my situation....so I was able to relate. The advice is spot on- right to the point. Great read for anyone dealing with a narcissist.
This book was just what I needed. It mirrored my situation....so I was able to relate. The advice is spot on- right to the point. Great read for anyone dealing with a narcissist.
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