I liked this book! I read Jesus Over Everything and this one might be even better.
There are some very heavy topics: grief, death of a loved one, comparison, but it's so real raw and honest and Biblical. I listened to it on audio then bought the physical copy so I can read it and mark it up.
I love the line from her stepfather: Never make anything possible that you aren't willing to have happen. I also love her quote: Getting what we want will never be what we want if we aren't okay without it. So many more insightful passages!
What makes this a four star book instead of five star is her constantly going on and on and on about her dad. I knew things were about to get annoying when she referred to her dad as "Daddy". I was like "okay, you're an adult but you're still picturing him as you did at six years old. Got it." A good editor would have cut half of the references to her dad out of this book.
Apparently, he was a pastor who had to resign in disgrace because of tax fraud, but we're supposed to feel sorry for him for some reason.
He also had an affair when he was a pastor, and again, we're supposed to feel sorry for him - not the woman he manipulated, the wife he lied to, nor the congregation who trusted him.
Yes he was "flawed" as we all are, but that doesn't make any of his actions excusable and doesn't mean he shouldn't have been held accountable. Her "church hurt" was because people in the congregation weren't willing to look the other way. WOW. If you've ever dealt with a toxic pastor, this book will be extremely triggering.
The worst though was when he died, her mom moved on and Lisa admitted she was VERY upset. First of all, this man treated her mom terribly - moving her across the country multiple times, cheating on her, and ultimately losing his business over shady illegal practices, then he DIES. Her mom has been devastated over and over and over. She finally finds a sliver of happiness and Lisa Whittle (the author) who is in her own happy marriage at this point, talks about her mom like she committed a crime.
Just...no. This is what's wrong with this faction of the church. But that's another book in itself.
If you can look past all the "my Daddy" stuff, then it's actually a very good book!