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He’s My Mom!: A Story for Children Who Have a Transgender Parent or Relative
My Mom's name is David. He used to be a she but now he is a he! Last year he did this thing called transition. He took some medicine which made his voice deeper and he started wearing different clothes.
When Benjamin's uncle accidently misgenders his dad David, Benjamin explains why misgendering is hurtful and why we need to treat trans people with respect. Benjamin speaks with confidence about transitioning and gender identity, and helps to educate and empower others with trans relatives or friends.
This brightly illustrated book for children aged 3 - 7 will aid discussion with children about a loved one transitioning or about trans people in general. Featuring a child with a mom who has transitioned, this book passes on an important message about acceptance and respect, and covers pronouns, dysphoria, family diversity and misgendering.
When Benjamin's uncle accidently misgenders his dad David, Benjamin explains why misgendering is hurtful and why we need to treat trans people with respect. Benjamin speaks with confidence about transitioning and gender identity, and helps to educate and empower others with trans relatives or friends.
This brightly illustrated book for children aged 3 - 7 will aid discussion with children about a loved one transitioning or about trans people in general. Featuring a child with a mom who has transitioned, this book passes on an important message about acceptance and respect, and covers pronouns, dysphoria, family diversity and misgendering.
40 pages, Hardcover
First published August 19, 2021
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April 28, 2021
Simply excellent!
This sweet story starts off with everyday events: Bambi adopting a new puppy, looking forward to a family camping trip, it's time to wind down so "come inside now".
The next step is completely natural: "my mom transitioned". Bambi talks about how mom explained it all to him, mom will always love him, and will always be Bambi's mom.
When a cousin forgets to use the correct pronouns, Bambi discusses how hurtful that can be. It's a really lovely scene to see Bambi as an advocate for his mom, and to see how proud he is of his mom!
Beautiful block style illustrations, with vibrant and attractive colors, it's very appealing.
A nice touch at the end are the questions for discussion, as well as the helpful glossary.
thank you to Jessica Kingsley Publishers and NetGalley for this ARC, all opinions are my own
This sweet story starts off with everyday events: Bambi adopting a new puppy, looking forward to a family camping trip, it's time to wind down so "come inside now".
The next step is completely natural: "my mom transitioned". Bambi talks about how mom explained it all to him, mom will always love him, and will always be Bambi's mom.
When a cousin forgets to use the correct pronouns, Bambi discusses how hurtful that can be. It's a really lovely scene to see Bambi as an advocate for his mom, and to see how proud he is of his mom!
Beautiful block style illustrations, with vibrant and attractive colors, it's very appealing.
A nice touch at the end are the questions for discussion, as well as the helpful glossary.
thank you to Jessica Kingsley Publishers and NetGalley for this ARC, all opinions are my own
May 29, 2021
I don’t think I’ve ever reviewed a picture book but I’m going to try my best because this is a book that could potentially change so many lives. First, I want to start by saying that I received an earc copy of this book through Netgalley in exchange of an honest review and y’all know I am very honest in these reviews so when I tell you I’m so glad this book existed I truly mean it.
People like to say kids are too young to understand what being queer is and that there’s no point of teaching them because they might just get confused. I’ve heard this so many times from so many mouths but this is just not true. If a kid can understand how a prince was turned into a beast and how a kidnapped woman could end up falling in love with him in his beast form (which by the way can be a VERY dangerous message but you don’t see parents complaining about it) then they can understand how two men can fall for each other or how someone can be born in the wrong body. Just say you don’t want to explain it to them because you’re scared your kid might realize they’re queer and leave.
Now that you see the flaw in your thinking let me talk to you about this beauty. If you have no idea how to explain to kids what being transgender means check this book out. Honestly though it’s a chapter book this is a fantastic tool for kids all age. This book with its very simple explanation and language (because it really is that simple) will help you open the conversation about being trans. It covers topics like misgendering, pregnancy, and transitioning in a such a sweet and simple way that even *I* a 24 years old benefited from it. I can see myself reading this book to all of my niblings and using it as a way to open the conversation and let them know I will be their safe place if they need me.
I just know this book will change so many lives from kids having their teacher or guardian reading this and then understanding how diverse this world is to the kids who are questioning why the feel different and finding the answer they’re looking for between the pages of this book. I am so glad this book exist and can’t wait until this books stop being special and become part of the norm.
This book will be out on August 19, 2021 so go preorder a copy or ask your library to buy a copy or add it to your TBR and mention it to all your friend and family. You never know who might need it.
A BIG thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for my earc of this book.
People like to say kids are too young to understand what being queer is and that there’s no point of teaching them because they might just get confused. I’ve heard this so many times from so many mouths but this is just not true. If a kid can understand how a prince was turned into a beast and how a kidnapped woman could end up falling in love with him in his beast form (which by the way can be a VERY dangerous message but you don’t see parents complaining about it) then they can understand how two men can fall for each other or how someone can be born in the wrong body. Just say you don’t want to explain it to them because you’re scared your kid might realize they’re queer and leave.
Now that you see the flaw in your thinking let me talk to you about this beauty. If you have no idea how to explain to kids what being transgender means check this book out. Honestly though it’s a chapter book this is a fantastic tool for kids all age. This book with its very simple explanation and language (because it really is that simple) will help you open the conversation about being trans. It covers topics like misgendering, pregnancy, and transitioning in a such a sweet and simple way that even *I* a 24 years old benefited from it. I can see myself reading this book to all of my niblings and using it as a way to open the conversation and let them know I will be their safe place if they need me.
I just know this book will change so many lives from kids having their teacher or guardian reading this and then understanding how diverse this world is to the kids who are questioning why the feel different and finding the answer they’re looking for between the pages of this book. I am so glad this book exist and can’t wait until this books stop being special and become part of the norm.
This book will be out on August 19, 2021 so go preorder a copy or ask your library to buy a copy or add it to your TBR and mention it to all your friend and family. You never know who might need it.
A BIG thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for my earc of this book.
May 12, 2021
4.5 stars.
Perfect for young readers, especially those who know someone who is trans such as a parent, friend or relative. The language is straightforward and direct but also very insightful.
I appreciated the importance of using the correct pronouns, as well as the child observing how happy his mom is after transitioning.
The biggest takeaway is that no matter how much the outer appearance of his parent has changed, his mom is still the same person inside and his love for his child has not changed.
Thank you to the Jessica Kingsley publishers and NetGalley for the digital ARC.
Perfect for young readers, especially those who know someone who is trans such as a parent, friend or relative. The language is straightforward and direct but also very insightful.
I appreciated the importance of using the correct pronouns, as well as the child observing how happy his mom is after transitioning.
The biggest takeaway is that no matter how much the outer appearance of his parent has changed, his mom is still the same person inside and his love for his child has not changed.
Thank you to the Jessica Kingsley publishers and NetGalley for the digital ARC.
June 28, 2021
4.83 stars
He’s My Mom! Is a child’s book that introduces trans identities, transitioning, pronouns and misgendering concepts in an age-appropriate way.
I felt that Sarah Savage did a wonderful job creating a book about trans identities in a way that was age appropriate, respectful and concise. Joules Garcia illustrations were clean, inclusive and complemented the book perfectly. I feel that both story and illustration were representative, diverse and inclusive. He’s My Mom! Will definitely find its spot in my bookshelves.
I remember when my child was in first grade, a classmate of his changed their name to represent the gender they identified with. The school tried to be inclusive, and the adults did a very good job embracing and respecting this change, but they did fail in making children understand the change.
I loved the language in the book, it’s simple, accurate and child friendly. As an educator, I really appreciated the reading guide at the end. It has great conversation starters to further discuss the topics with children. My favourite part was the way it was mentioned that people can make gendering mistakes, but it’s important to learn to pay attention because being misgendered is hurtful.
I am looking forward to other books in the series (I hope they exist) especially about a child who identifies with a different gender than the one they were born as. If anything, I wish this book featured a couple. I do not feel that there’s anything wrong with being a single parent, but I will make sure children don’t think Bambi’s mom is single because he transitioned.
Disclaimer: I first read it as an ARC. In exchange for an honest review, I am thankful to Jessica Kingsley Publishers, NetGalley and Sarah Savage for providing me with a copy of He’s My Mom!
#SarahSavage #JessicaKingsleyPublishers #He’sMyMom #NetGalley
He’s My Mom! Is a child’s book that introduces trans identities, transitioning, pronouns and misgendering concepts in an age-appropriate way.
I felt that Sarah Savage did a wonderful job creating a book about trans identities in a way that was age appropriate, respectful and concise. Joules Garcia illustrations were clean, inclusive and complemented the book perfectly. I feel that both story and illustration were representative, diverse and inclusive. He’s My Mom! Will definitely find its spot in my bookshelves.
I remember when my child was in first grade, a classmate of his changed their name to represent the gender they identified with. The school tried to be inclusive, and the adults did a very good job embracing and respecting this change, but they did fail in making children understand the change.
I loved the language in the book, it’s simple, accurate and child friendly. As an educator, I really appreciated the reading guide at the end. It has great conversation starters to further discuss the topics with children. My favourite part was the way it was mentioned that people can make gendering mistakes, but it’s important to learn to pay attention because being misgendered is hurtful.
I am looking forward to other books in the series (I hope they exist) especially about a child who identifies with a different gender than the one they were born as. If anything, I wish this book featured a couple. I do not feel that there’s anything wrong with being a single parent, but I will make sure children don’t think Bambi’s mom is single because he transitioned.
Disclaimer: I first read it as an ARC. In exchange for an honest review, I am thankful to Jessica Kingsley Publishers, NetGalley and Sarah Savage for providing me with a copy of He’s My Mom!
#SarahSavage #JessicaKingsleyPublishers #He’sMyMom #NetGalley
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December 27, 2021This sequel to
She's My Dad!
follows the structure of the first book very closely, and doesn't work quite as well for me -- though I admit that may in part be because I read it second.
If you haven't read the other one, here's the basic structure: Kid talks about their love for animals, mentions an upcoming family event in a way that triggers surprise in the reader based on gendered assumptions, then has a reveal that actually the parent they're using a gendered term for uses the unexpected set of binary pronouns. Kid briefly overviews transition to the reader. Kid and parent go to the family event, have a good time, a cousin compliments the parent to the kid but uses the wrong pronoun, the kid names their hurt and corrects the cousin, who accepts the correction graciously.
While the dad in She's My Dad! wears trans pride color nail polish, the mom in this book wears a blue shirt with pink piping (over a white shirt), which is a nice touch.
If you haven't read the other one, here's the basic structure: Kid talks about their love for animals, mentions an upcoming family event in a way that triggers surprise in the reader based on gendered assumptions, then has a reveal that actually the parent they're using a gendered term for uses the unexpected set of binary pronouns. Kid briefly overviews transition to the reader. Kid and parent go to the family event, have a good time, a cousin compliments the parent to the kid but uses the wrong pronoun, the kid names their hurt and corrects the cousin, who accepts the correction graciously.
While the dad in She's My Dad! wears trans pride color nail polish, the mom in this book wears a blue shirt with pink piping (over a white shirt), which is a nice touch.
July 23, 2021
The book as a whole was very heartwarming and important :) also the pictures were really sweet!! It felt a little more like a guide for children than a children's book to me, however, it is still very easy to read and it has a clear message.
People are not born being hateful, hate is something that sadly we learn. That is why such a simple book like this one should be essential for kids nowadays, especially when our society is getting (thankfully) more diverse ;)
David's experience may not be the same as other trans people (not everyone goes through surgeries for example), but to be fair, every person has a different experience when it comes to transitioning and this book just shows one of them. There are some other things that are basic which are included, such as correcting people when they misgender someone, I think "He's my mom" did an amazing job developing that!
I hope that the next generation gets to read more books like this one! It makes me happy to see this kind of representation :)
People are not born being hateful, hate is something that sadly we learn. That is why such a simple book like this one should be essential for kids nowadays, especially when our society is getting (thankfully) more diverse ;)
David's experience may not be the same as other trans people (not everyone goes through surgeries for example), but to be fair, every person has a different experience when it comes to transitioning and this book just shows one of them. There are some other things that are basic which are included, such as correcting people when they misgender someone, I think "He's my mom" did an amazing job developing that!
I hope that the next generation gets to read more books like this one! It makes me happy to see this kind of representation :)
June 4, 2021
Picture books can be amazing and this one is a great example for it! He's My Mom! tells such a sweet story about a boy called Bambi (isn't it cute enough to draw you in?!) living with his parent who transitioned and is now called David. Everything is explained and described by Bambi in a very sweet simple way. Which might be perfect to explain transitioning even to a very young audience because his words are so easy and there are no hard to understand terms involved. There is also a glossary at the end of the book with some further explanations.
The illustrations were another thing I really liked about this book. They are clear, nearly minimalistic, but still so colorful- they reminded me of old comic books or cartoons.
All in all He's My Mom! is great example about how easy it can be to explain important things while telling an everyday story like going on a camping trip. It's a great picture book for everyone not only for people looking for gender identity related books.
The illustrations were another thing I really liked about this book. They are clear, nearly minimalistic, but still so colorful- they reminded me of old comic books or cartoons.
All in all He's My Mom! is great example about how easy it can be to explain important things while telling an everyday story like going on a camping trip. It's a great picture book for everyone not only for people looking for gender identity related books.
July 1, 2021
This slender book meant a lot to me, as I have two students who are being raised by two dads. It is only a matter of time until I have one or more students with a trans parent, and I’m happy to see that there is now a book for them and their classmates.
While He’s My Mom, the tale of a young man whose mother is now a man, does yeoman’s work for youngsters who want to understand other families, I think the book really fills a niche for young children whose parents are about to change gender; it reassures them that the important things will never change.
Joules Garcia’s hip illustrations and Bambi’s clearly being a teen or tween help to make this book useful for somewhat older kids than would otherwise be the case.
In the interest of full disclosure, I received this book from NetGalley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
While He’s My Mom, the tale of a young man whose mother is now a man, does yeoman’s work for youngsters who want to understand other families, I think the book really fills a niche for young children whose parents are about to change gender; it reassures them that the important things will never change.
Joules Garcia’s hip illustrations and Bambi’s clearly being a teen or tween help to make this book useful for somewhat older kids than would otherwise be the case.
In the interest of full disclosure, I received this book from NetGalley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
May 28, 2021
I received an ARC in change of an honest review through NetGalley, all the opinions are my own. Thank you to the publisher for the ARC.
I have made a goal of trying to read a lot of picture books about diversity in the past few months. So that one day when I have a child I can pass them on and educate them.
He's my Mom! is an excellent picture book that educates the reader about transition and the use of the correct pronouns.
The message of the book is simple and clear: Bambi's mom is a man called David and he goes by the pronouns he/him. And all that David and Bambi want is love and respect even though in the beginning things might seem confusing.
The art work was also amazing on top of a beautiful story with a beautiful message.
I know that everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I believe that more and more books for children should have diversity and educate them that people come in all shapes, sizes and colors and even though we might seem different on the outside we are all the same on the inside.
P.S. the dog was adorable
I have made a goal of trying to read a lot of picture books about diversity in the past few months. So that one day when I have a child I can pass them on and educate them.
He's my Mom! is an excellent picture book that educates the reader about transition and the use of the correct pronouns.
The message of the book is simple and clear: Bambi's mom is a man called David and he goes by the pronouns he/him. And all that David and Bambi want is love and respect even though in the beginning things might seem confusing.
The art work was also amazing on top of a beautiful story with a beautiful message.
I know that everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I believe that more and more books for children should have diversity and educate them that people come in all shapes, sizes and colors and even though we might seem different on the outside we are all the same on the inside.
P.S. the dog was adorable
August 6, 2021
I was prepared for the worst on seeing the title, but while a little bit blunt it's a cute story about a boy and his (trans man) parent whom he calls Mom or David. The main character mostly talks about adopting a dog and being excited to go on a camping trip that's family tradition, but manages to include a lesson on the importance of pronouns and includes some lovely trans acceptance from all family members mentioned. One cousin briefly uses the wrong pronouns for David (in a compliment), but the main character corrects him and the cousin apologizes. I personally wouldn't use it as the only story for the topic of trans identity and life, as the continued use of Mom and the sentence to the effect of "my mom used to be a she, but now he's a he" could be triggering and dysphoric for a lot of trans readers, and physically transitioning to a binary gender shouldn't be made to seem like a requirement as much as something that can be part of a trans person's identity, but it's nice to see a story that neatly includes a few key points as well as not making someone's queerness the one and only focus of a family story.
May 20, 2021
* thank you NetGalley for the Earc*
This book was perfect for the target audience. This book tells a wonderful story about a child and their parent's journey with transitioning and what that means. At the end of the book, there is an excellent glossary provided that encompasses all of the meanings of the terminology used.
This book was perfect for the target audience. This book tells a wonderful story about a child and their parent's journey with transitioning and what that means. At the end of the book, there is an excellent glossary provided that encompasses all of the meanings of the terminology used.
December 13, 2021
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I got an ARC of this book.
I am a trans man and I recently acquired children. They are old enough that they did not have to have a big transition talk about me, but at one point in their life they did. My fiancé is a non-binary parent. They came out when their kids (my new kids) were young. The explanation went along the lines of “being called a girl is like having an itchy tag in your shirt. Being not a girl is like a fuzzy blanket”. The kids got it really quickly and started calling my partner “Fuzz”. The kids are now 16 and 18 and still call my partner Fuzz. That is not a name that my partner asked for, but it worked with the kids and it was really adorable so who was ever going to ask for a different one?
So I really loved how it let the kid and David decide what was best for them. It fit how I have always seen this conversation go. Not every trans person changes their name with their kid. I know hairy moms and dads in dresses. What works with the family works for the family. Judging the book for not having David relabeled as “Dad” doesn’t make sense when you actually are around kids of trans parents. Some parents relabel, some don’t. There is no right answer for what kids and parents should do when a parent comes out, outside of do what makes everyone comfortable.
The story itself seems a bit disjointed. The dog adoption plot really doesn’t line up with the rest of the book. It could have been cut entirely and the point of the book would have still worked perfectly. I would have missed the cute dog though. The dad was also completely missing from the story, which felt like a weird detail. There was no mention of where he was by anyone. I would have liked that explained instead of the dog being adopted. Even if it was “My dad and David are best friends, but now we live in different houses” or “Dad was too busy at work to go camping with us this year”. Anything to explain why he isn’t there. With such a focus on David, it felt weird that the dad was not mentioned at all.
The book is cute and fast. It is a picture book. The art itself isn’t super groundbreaking, but I loved how it was mostly realistic. I loved the pride flag details like in the photos near the middle of the book. I loved the cute dog. I loved how David changed a little bit as the book went on, like his facial hair grew in. It was a nice little detail.
My biggest issue with the book was honestly that the dog they JUST adopted that day was allowed off leash repeatedly. That is so dangerous. Please leash your dogs.
I got an ARC of this book.
I am a trans man and I recently acquired children. They are old enough that they did not have to have a big transition talk about me, but at one point in their life they did. My fiancé is a non-binary parent. They came out when their kids (my new kids) were young. The explanation went along the lines of “being called a girl is like having an itchy tag in your shirt. Being not a girl is like a fuzzy blanket”. The kids got it really quickly and started calling my partner “Fuzz”. The kids are now 16 and 18 and still call my partner Fuzz. That is not a name that my partner asked for, but it worked with the kids and it was really adorable so who was ever going to ask for a different one?
So I really loved how it let the kid and David decide what was best for them. It fit how I have always seen this conversation go. Not every trans person changes their name with their kid. I know hairy moms and dads in dresses. What works with the family works for the family. Judging the book for not having David relabeled as “Dad” doesn’t make sense when you actually are around kids of trans parents. Some parents relabel, some don’t. There is no right answer for what kids and parents should do when a parent comes out, outside of do what makes everyone comfortable.
The story itself seems a bit disjointed. The dog adoption plot really doesn’t line up with the rest of the book. It could have been cut entirely and the point of the book would have still worked perfectly. I would have missed the cute dog though. The dad was also completely missing from the story, which felt like a weird detail. There was no mention of where he was by anyone. I would have liked that explained instead of the dog being adopted. Even if it was “My dad and David are best friends, but now we live in different houses” or “Dad was too busy at work to go camping with us this year”. Anything to explain why he isn’t there. With such a focus on David, it felt weird that the dad was not mentioned at all.
The book is cute and fast. It is a picture book. The art itself isn’t super groundbreaking, but I loved how it was mostly realistic. I loved the pride flag details like in the photos near the middle of the book. I loved the cute dog. I loved how David changed a little bit as the book went on, like his facial hair grew in. It was a nice little detail.
My biggest issue with the book was honestly that the dog they JUST adopted that day was allowed off leash repeatedly. That is so dangerous. Please leash your dogs.
August 10, 2022
Content warnings are listed at the end of my review!
I liked this book a lot, I just wanted more! It's almost like a book you'd get in a kids meal, it's so incredibly short! We follow our young narrator Bambi and their mom who is a transgender man named David, and the two will be joining the men of their family on a camping trip with their new puppy. Bambi talks about their mom's transition, him taking medicine, wearing different clothes, changing pronouns, surgery. They all meet up with their family in the forest to camp, and Bambi corrects their cousin Rufus when he misgenders their mom and the two talk about it. The back provides a short reading guide and glossary relating to the book.
I think what makes it so special is showing a loving trans family. David and Bambi both care a lot for one another, and David's relationship with the word mom is really nice to see. He is ok with Bambi calling him David or mom, and Benji calls him either, while also using he/him always for David. He corrects people when they misgender David, but also is willing to help educate others as it is a learning process that Benji knows from when David first came out.
Summary:
Readability: ★★★★☆, Super quick, lighthearted, and easy to follow, typical picture book! It walks readers through understanding David's transition a bit and it handles the topic well.
Entertainment: ★★☆☆☆, It's charming, but there's so little! The story is really just a vessel to help readers learn about trans people, so it really gets thrown to the wayside. The art is nice but there's also so little, each page has a drawing but often it's just a figure, an object, or people together. There's only 4 scenes depicted showing an environment that isn't just floating on a blank background. I feel like alone these things would be ok, but together it leaves me still craving a lot more.
Audience: Anyone who'd like to know a little bit about trans people and trans families! It's a lovely icebreaker on trans topics! There's also a companion book called She's My Dad!: A Story for Children Who Have a Transgender Parent or Relative that I'd like to read (I can find multiple library copies of He's My Mom! but not She's My Dad! nooooo)
Content Warnings: dysphoria, fear, misgendering
I liked this book a lot, I just wanted more! It's almost like a book you'd get in a kids meal, it's so incredibly short! We follow our young narrator Bambi and their mom who is a transgender man named David, and the two will be joining the men of their family on a camping trip with their new puppy. Bambi talks about their mom's transition, him taking medicine, wearing different clothes, changing pronouns, surgery. They all meet up with their family in the forest to camp, and Bambi corrects their cousin Rufus when he misgenders their mom and the two talk about it. The back provides a short reading guide and glossary relating to the book.
I think what makes it so special is showing a loving trans family. David and Bambi both care a lot for one another, and David's relationship with the word mom is really nice to see. He is ok with Bambi calling him David or mom, and Benji calls him either, while also using he/him always for David. He corrects people when they misgender David, but also is willing to help educate others as it is a learning process that Benji knows from when David first came out.
Summary:
Readability: ★★★★☆, Super quick, lighthearted, and easy to follow, typical picture book! It walks readers through understanding David's transition a bit and it handles the topic well.
Entertainment: ★★☆☆☆, It's charming, but there's so little! The story is really just a vessel to help readers learn about trans people, so it really gets thrown to the wayside. The art is nice but there's also so little, each page has a drawing but often it's just a figure, an object, or people together. There's only 4 scenes depicted showing an environment that isn't just floating on a blank background. I feel like alone these things would be ok, but together it leaves me still craving a lot more.
Audience: Anyone who'd like to know a little bit about trans people and trans families! It's a lovely icebreaker on trans topics! There's also a companion book called She's My Dad!: A Story for Children Who Have a Transgender Parent or Relative that I'd like to read (I can find multiple library copies of He's My Mom! but not She's My Dad! nooooo)
Content Warnings: dysphoria, fear, misgendering
April 29, 2021
*Thank you to NetGalley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for providing me with a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. All opinions expressed are my own. Please note that I am not an own voices reviewer and it is important to listen to members of the transgender community first and foremost *
This picture-story book aims to open up conversation and aid in teaching children about what it means to have a transgender parent or relative.
A young child tells the story about their mom and how he transitioned recently. The child tells the reader why it's important to use the correct pronouns and explains how they feel in some circumstances, like when the wrong pronouns are used or when their mom was in the hospital for transition surgery.
I really loved the simple illustrations to support the important message behind the text itself. There are also useful discussion questions and a glossary of terms included at the back of the book to aid in meaningful and respectful conversations.
The whole topic is encapsulated in a wider story about the child and their mom going to a social event together, which provides context and more importantly does not make a big deal out of this identify, but rather positions some people being Transgender as an everday, normal reality - which it is!
From a teaching perspective, this book would be particularly useful if there is a child in your lower primary class who has a transgender parent or relative, though I would definitely check with the parent first to ensure that the representation suits their circumstances and they would like this discussion to go ahead in the classroom or one-on-one with the child. Obvisouly comes down to individual circumstances and preferences.
I would recommend this text to ages 5 to 7.
This picture-story book aims to open up conversation and aid in teaching children about what it means to have a transgender parent or relative.
A young child tells the story about their mom and how he transitioned recently. The child tells the reader why it's important to use the correct pronouns and explains how they feel in some circumstances, like when the wrong pronouns are used or when their mom was in the hospital for transition surgery.
I really loved the simple illustrations to support the important message behind the text itself. There are also useful discussion questions and a glossary of terms included at the back of the book to aid in meaningful and respectful conversations.
The whole topic is encapsulated in a wider story about the child and their mom going to a social event together, which provides context and more importantly does not make a big deal out of this identify, but rather positions some people being Transgender as an everday, normal reality - which it is!
From a teaching perspective, this book would be particularly useful if there is a child in your lower primary class who has a transgender parent or relative, though I would definitely check with the parent first to ensure that the representation suits their circumstances and they would like this discussion to go ahead in the classroom or one-on-one with the child. Obvisouly comes down to individual circumstances and preferences.
I would recommend this text to ages 5 to 7.
May 9, 2024
I'm delighted that this exists and I love the artistry, so good on Joules Garcia. The story feels very appropriate in terms of Benjamin (Bambi) being much more interesting in his new dog and his camping trip than his mom's gender; that felt very much like a kid's mind and priorities, as well as making this book feel lighter rather than a heavy-handed lecture. It's also interesting that David allows Benjamin to still call him "Mom," proving that transition isn't a complete hard switch but a navigation of how bendy gender presentation is across one's life.
That said, some of the cadence of the narrative felt very much like Adult Voice, which is not to say that I advocate for telling children's stories in baby voice (I very much do not) but that some of the sentence structures felt forced in Benjamin's voice. Bolding certain words exacerbated this because it makes it super obvious that "hey here's the learning opportunity" and that feels like a different kind of talking down to a kid, to me. (But I have established, in other reviews, that I am painfully aware of not being the target audience for children's books and usually unable to even picture the target audience, so.)
I think this is a solid starting point for having the conversation with kids about trans adults in their lives. And the dog is quite cute.
That said, some of the cadence of the narrative felt very much like Adult Voice, which is not to say that I advocate for telling children's stories in baby voice (I very much do not) but that some of the sentence structures felt forced in Benjamin's voice. Bolding certain words exacerbated this because it makes it super obvious that "hey here's the learning opportunity" and that feels like a different kind of talking down to a kid, to me. (But I have established, in other reviews, that I am painfully aware of not being the target audience for children's books and usually unable to even picture the target audience, so.)
I think this is a solid starting point for having the conversation with kids about trans adults in their lives. And the dog is quite cute.
May 2, 2021
*I received a digital ARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.*
Spanish review below
First of all, I am very grateful to NetGalley for this advanced copy.
I asked This story to read with my 3-year-old nephew. I liked that the narration is simple, practical and direct. Ben tells us about his mother's transition and the changes he has gone through in the process, leaving a message of acceptance and respect.
The types of family have been changing, and I was happy to find stories like this for children, but that adults can also enjoy.
I also want to mention that Joules' illustrations are great. And the little glossary at the end of the book also seemed like a good idea.
SPANISH:
Pedí Este cuento para leerlo junto a mi sobrino de 3 años. Me gustó que la narración sea simple, práctica y directa. Ben nos cuenta la transición de su mamá y los cambios que ha atravesado en el proceso, dejando un mensaje sobre aceptación y respeto.
Los tipos de familia han ido cambiando, y fui feliz de encontrar historias como esta para niños, pero que los adultos también podamos disfrutar.
También quiero mencionar que las ilustraciones de Joules son grandiosas. Y el pequeño glosario al final del libro también me pareció buena idea.
Spanish review below
First of all, I am very grateful to NetGalley for this advanced copy.
I asked This story to read with my 3-year-old nephew. I liked that the narration is simple, practical and direct. Ben tells us about his mother's transition and the changes he has gone through in the process, leaving a message of acceptance and respect.
The types of family have been changing, and I was happy to find stories like this for children, but that adults can also enjoy.
I also want to mention that Joules' illustrations are great. And the little glossary at the end of the book also seemed like a good idea.
SPANISH:
Pedí Este cuento para leerlo junto a mi sobrino de 3 años. Me gustó que la narración sea simple, práctica y directa. Ben nos cuenta la transición de su mamá y los cambios que ha atravesado en el proceso, dejando un mensaje sobre aceptación y respeto.
Los tipos de familia han ido cambiando, y fui feliz de encontrar historias como esta para niños, pero que los adultos también podamos disfrutar.
También quiero mencionar que las ilustraciones de Joules son grandiosas. Y el pequeño glosario al final del libro también me pareció buena idea.
May 15, 2021
Thank you to NetGalley and Jessica Kingsley Publishers for the arc of He's My Mom by Sarah Savage.
This book is very sweet. I absolutely love the way that Savage has explained transitioning in language that is appropriate for young children. Not only is there understanding coming from this book but it also teachers children that misgendering those who are transgender is hurtful. When Benjamin's uncle misgenders his dad Benjamin explains why it is hurtful for his dad to be misgendered. I also think it's so important that the book tells the reader that Benjamin's dad is happier now that he has transitioned and that while it wasn't easy for Benjamin at first he is now proud to say, "he's my mom."
This type of representation in children's books is so important to have for everyone to see. Without these books children can be left not being able to see themselves or their families in stories and that is so important for everyone. I appreciate the kind and simple way that this story has been explained and how impactful the pictures are as well. The inclusion of a glossary and reading guide at the back can help those who are not comfortable with the subject support children in understanding what is happening in the story.
This book is very sweet. I absolutely love the way that Savage has explained transitioning in language that is appropriate for young children. Not only is there understanding coming from this book but it also teachers children that misgendering those who are transgender is hurtful. When Benjamin's uncle misgenders his dad Benjamin explains why it is hurtful for his dad to be misgendered. I also think it's so important that the book tells the reader that Benjamin's dad is happier now that he has transitioned and that while it wasn't easy for Benjamin at first he is now proud to say, "he's my mom."
This type of representation in children's books is so important to have for everyone to see. Without these books children can be left not being able to see themselves or their families in stories and that is so important for everyone. I appreciate the kind and simple way that this story has been explained and how impactful the pictures are as well. The inclusion of a glossary and reading guide at the back can help those who are not comfortable with the subject support children in understanding what is happening in the story.
June 27, 2021
He's My Mom! - by Sarah Savage
(Thank you NetGalley for this ARC in exchange for my honest opinions)
This book is needed now more than ever, and perfect for the target audience. I wish we'd had books like this when I was a kid. It breaks everything down into easy-to-read language, while explaining about a person transitioning, pronouns, and gender identity.
The pictures make it easier for kids (and adults) to follow, and will hopefully be easier to understand, especially if this is the first time someone is hearing about the subject.
I think this is a great way to introduce kids to families that may not look identical to theirs, but making them aware they just as valid while normalising it too. But also if their mum or dad is transgender, it might make it easier for them to understand, or explain to others.
The only thing I didn't understand in this book though is why they were introducing an adopted dog into a the storyline, for no reason, but not explaining about the other parent. I think that might be confusing for kids, but I do admit I loved seeing the pictures of the dog!
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(Thank you NetGalley for this ARC in exchange for my honest opinions)
This book is needed now more than ever, and perfect for the target audience. I wish we'd had books like this when I was a kid. It breaks everything down into easy-to-read language, while explaining about a person transitioning, pronouns, and gender identity.
The pictures make it easier for kids (and adults) to follow, and will hopefully be easier to understand, especially if this is the first time someone is hearing about the subject.
I think this is a great way to introduce kids to families that may not look identical to theirs, but making them aware they just as valid while normalising it too. But also if their mum or dad is transgender, it might make it easier for them to understand, or explain to others.
The only thing I didn't understand in this book though is why they were introducing an adopted dog into a the storyline, for no reason, but not explaining about the other parent. I think that might be confusing for kids, but I do admit I loved seeing the pictures of the dog!
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April 26, 2021
Over the first couple of pages, I groaned and thought, please don't tell me a story about a dog that is calling its owner mum, but rather quickly we got to the crux of the real plot.
I admire what Savage has done with this book. She has taken a 'taboo/ grown-up' topic and tapered down the language with the exception of the correct terms we should be using to describe the process of transitioning and how to address certain members of the LGBTQIA+ community.
For someone who has witnessed the transitioning of a close family member, whether they are 3 or 13, it really touches on some of the frequently asked questions/ slurs made.
It approached the subject with grace and highlighted the ignorance that even the people closest to members of the community get it wrong and need educating.
5/5 stars and major applause for the handling of this subject matter. I look forward to seeing further works in the future.
I admire what Savage has done with this book. She has taken a 'taboo/ grown-up' topic and tapered down the language with the exception of the correct terms we should be using to describe the process of transitioning and how to address certain members of the LGBTQIA+ community.
For someone who has witnessed the transitioning of a close family member, whether they are 3 or 13, it really touches on some of the frequently asked questions/ slurs made.
It approached the subject with grace and highlighted the ignorance that even the people closest to members of the community get it wrong and need educating.
5/5 stars and major applause for the handling of this subject matter. I look forward to seeing further works in the future.
May 6, 2021
There are probably better ways to teach your kids
Savage makes an entertaining story about a boy, Bambi, who goes on a camping trip with his dog and his mom, but this story is mainly used as a delivery mechanism to teach the reader about Bambi’s trans parent. Bambi tells the reader that his mom’s name is David and that he uses he/him pronouns and corrects his cousin when he calls David she. However, the thing that tripped me up on this book is that it is so adamant about David still wanting to use the feminine “mom.” All transgender people of course have the right to use whatever identifiers or combination thereof that they want, but I have never heard of someone transitioning and keeping only one gendered identifier. Because this isn’t explained at all in the book and in my experience is a rare exception rather than the norm, there are probably better books out there to teach you kids about transgender people and parents (see my blog for more recommendations).
Savage makes an entertaining story about a boy, Bambi, who goes on a camping trip with his dog and his mom, but this story is mainly used as a delivery mechanism to teach the reader about Bambi’s trans parent. Bambi tells the reader that his mom’s name is David and that he uses he/him pronouns and corrects his cousin when he calls David she. However, the thing that tripped me up on this book is that it is so adamant about David still wanting to use the feminine “mom.” All transgender people of course have the right to use whatever identifiers or combination thereof that they want, but I have never heard of someone transitioning and keeping only one gendered identifier. Because this isn’t explained at all in the book and in my experience is a rare exception rather than the norm, there are probably better books out there to teach you kids about transgender people and parents (see my blog for more recommendations).
April 8, 2022
I liked a lot of this story, but there were a few things that stuck out that were not addressed. One is that Bambi's family has a boys-only camping trip. I understand this was included so that there could be a reveal that Bambi's mom is a boy, but it hits the wrong way. I think some people could infer that David transitioned so that he could be included in what is later described as a "family camping trip," which we know is only for some members of the family. It's good that David is welcome, but the family / our society should be moving away from these types of divisions when it comes to exclusion. Another is that Bambi is referred to as they in the back, which might be confusing when they have decided to participate in the guys-only camping trip. I do love a good convo about pronouns not correlating to gender identity, but it was just unclear to kids who are interested in learning and drawing conclusions from things like this.
April 22, 2021
I'm always on the look out for new and exciting books for young people about LGBTQ+ themes, so was thrilled to be sent an early copy of this book to review (thanks Netgalley!)
When this book started with the new dog I was slightly bemused as I thought maybe I had misread the description and maybe it was about being a dog mum instead of the idea of a transgender parent. Despite this initial thought, it soon moved into the idea of mum becoming dad and the theme of trans. It just all felt very random. Why the dog?!
Why not just focus on mum/dad?! Didn't really understand this choice with the plot.
I thought the illustrations were cute, and I liked the representation of the illustrations too - I was just slightly confused about the random dog which I thought took away from the whole point of the book!
When this book started with the new dog I was slightly bemused as I thought maybe I had misread the description and maybe it was about being a dog mum instead of the idea of a transgender parent. Despite this initial thought, it soon moved into the idea of mum becoming dad and the theme of trans. It just all felt very random. Why the dog?!
Why not just focus on mum/dad?! Didn't really understand this choice with the plot.
I thought the illustrations were cute, and I liked the representation of the illustrations too - I was just slightly confused about the random dog which I thought took away from the whole point of the book!
June 22, 2021
Thank you NetGalley for the EARC of this book.
I was looking for a book that I could read to support our middle grade novel, which includes a transgender character. I, myself struggled with this topic as I wanted to go about teaching my students in the most accurate, thoughtful and respectful way possible. Thank goodness for this book.
'He's My Mom!' does a phenomenal job of educating people of all ages on what being transgender means. It also covers how to use pronouns and how harmful misgendering someone can be. It lead to some excellent conversations with my Year 8 classes.
I know that this book will change the lives of so many kiddos who don't always see themselves represented in texts. Thank you Sarah Savage for creating a book that I know will be a classroom staple for many years to come.
I was looking for a book that I could read to support our middle grade novel, which includes a transgender character. I, myself struggled with this topic as I wanted to go about teaching my students in the most accurate, thoughtful and respectful way possible. Thank goodness for this book.
'He's My Mom!' does a phenomenal job of educating people of all ages on what being transgender means. It also covers how to use pronouns and how harmful misgendering someone can be. It lead to some excellent conversations with my Year 8 classes.
I know that this book will change the lives of so many kiddos who don't always see themselves represented in texts. Thank you Sarah Savage for creating a book that I know will be a classroom staple for many years to come.
July 7, 2021
Thank you to Jessica Kingsley Publishers and NetGalley for the eARC to read and review!
This was a great story about a boy and his Mom who had recently transitioned to a man, called David. You can tell how much Benjamin (the boy) loves David and cares about his well-being and overall happiness. For example, Benjamin notices how much happier David is and mentions how David “feels sad and hurt when people use the wrong pronouns.”
The story breaks down in a simple way what David went through and felt before, during, and after transitioning, highlights important vocabulary (glossary included), and use of pronouns. The illustrations were so lovely and enhanced my enjoyment of the story.
He’s My Mom! is a good introduction for children (really all ages) to understand a transgender parent or relative they may have in an easy, accessible way.
This was a great story about a boy and his Mom who had recently transitioned to a man, called David. You can tell how much Benjamin (the boy) loves David and cares about his well-being and overall happiness. For example, Benjamin notices how much happier David is and mentions how David “feels sad and hurt when people use the wrong pronouns.”
The story breaks down in a simple way what David went through and felt before, during, and after transitioning, highlights important vocabulary (glossary included), and use of pronouns. The illustrations were so lovely and enhanced my enjoyment of the story.
He’s My Mom! is a good introduction for children (really all ages) to understand a transgender parent or relative they may have in an easy, accessible way.
April 20, 2021
Representation is important, and finding a book that tells, if not your story, close to your story is very important. In this well thought out easy to read picture book, the main character explains that his mom used to be female, but transitioned and is now presenting as a man.
Bambi still calls him his mom, Mom, but has to sometimes explain that his pronouns are He and Him.
One thing that was sweet in this story is that since the transition, his Mom is so much happier, which is a good thing to point out. That finally getting the gender that they feel, and can now present to the outside world is so much better.
Good book to have on hand, for those children whose parents have transitioned.
Thanks to Netgalley for making this book available for an honest review.
Bambi still calls him his mom, Mom, but has to sometimes explain that his pronouns are He and Him.
One thing that was sweet in this story is that since the transition, his Mom is so much happier, which is a good thing to point out. That finally getting the gender that they feel, and can now present to the outside world is so much better.
Good book to have on hand, for those children whose parents have transitioned.
Thanks to Netgalley for making this book available for an honest review.
April 18, 2023
We need more books like this one to help young kids facing this situation, to accompany them through this and help them see themselves represented in a happy family. It's nice to have the kid saying how their parent is way happier since he started his transition.
I just wish the fact that the trans parent who use the pronouns he/him was ok with being called 'mom' by his child would have been talk at the end of the book, among the list of topics/questions. Because it's perfectly fine that it works for them, but it might have been nice to explain that for other trans parents they might prefer to be called differently. For example they might prefer to be refer as 'dad'. Because here it's presented as being the only option, so if a kid who has a parent doing their transition as a trans man but wish now to be called 'dad', the child might not understand the 'mom' choice of word over here. But I could be mistaken.
I just wish the fact that the trans parent who use the pronouns he/him was ok with being called 'mom' by his child would have been talk at the end of the book, among the list of topics/questions. Because it's perfectly fine that it works for them, but it might have been nice to explain that for other trans parents they might prefer to be called differently. For example they might prefer to be refer as 'dad'. Because here it's presented as being the only option, so if a kid who has a parent doing their transition as a trans man but wish now to be called 'dad', the child might not understand the 'mom' choice of word over here. But I could be mistaken.
April 19, 2021
I received a digital ARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
"He's My Mom!" is a fantastic kids book for many reasons. It calmly explains the importance of going through a transition and changing one's pronouns to a child. It isn't preachy and it is very subtle. Complete with simplistic and contemporary illustrations to depict what a child would see in this situation. It also approaches the subject of correcting those who might use the wrong pronoun. There are kids who are living this, may soon live this, or know someone who is and this is a tremendous resource for parents to utilize for education on the topic.
"He's My Mom!" is a fantastic kids book for many reasons. It calmly explains the importance of going through a transition and changing one's pronouns to a child. It isn't preachy and it is very subtle. Complete with simplistic and contemporary illustrations to depict what a child would see in this situation. It also approaches the subject of correcting those who might use the wrong pronoun. There are kids who are living this, may soon live this, or know someone who is and this is a tremendous resource for parents to utilize for education on the topic.
June 23, 2021
𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒄𝒍𝒂𝒊𝒎𝒆𝒓: 𝑰 𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝑨𝑹𝑪 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒃𝒐𝒐𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝑵𝒆𝒕𝑮𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒆𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒆𝒙𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒗𝒊𝒆𝒘.
This was a cute little book with pretty illustrations! It seems very useful to explain transitioning to young children.
I really appreciated that David keeps using the label "mom", as relabeling isn't necessarily part of transitioning. However, I would've liked a mention *somewhere* about how trans people don't necessarily go through surgeries. Also, when Bambi sais that his mom looks different on the outside but is the same on the inside? And that his mom is much happier now? YEEEES💛
I also thought the glossary and reading guide were a very nice addition to the book.
This was a cute little book with pretty illustrations! It seems very useful to explain transitioning to young children.
I really appreciated that David keeps using the label "mom", as relabeling isn't necessarily part of transitioning. However, I would've liked a mention *somewhere* about how trans people don't necessarily go through surgeries. Also, when Bambi sais that his mom looks different on the outside but is the same on the inside? And that his mom is much happier now? YEEEES💛
I also thought the glossary and reading guide were a very nice addition to the book.
September 20, 2021
We all know how important diverse representation in kid’s lit is in developing a child’s expansive world view but also in normalizing their own experiences. Humans naturally year to belong and feeling like you are “the only one” can bring about feelings of shame, anxiety, and loneliness. The children of transgender parents are an underrepresented group in general as well as in children’s literature. “He’s My Mom” is certainly filling a niche and doing so in an honorable and educational way.
I’m grateful to Sarah Savage, Netgalley, the publisher for providing an advance ecopy in exchange for an honest review. The words and thoughts shared are my own.
I’m grateful to Sarah Savage, Netgalley, the publisher for providing an advance ecopy in exchange for an honest review. The words and thoughts shared are my own.
April 19, 2021
This book isn’t coming out until Aug 19, 2021, but I can assure you that I will be buying a copy as soon as I possibly can.
Reading this book, even as a 28 year old, brought happy tears to my eyes.
It’s a story about Benjamin and his Mom, David.
David is a transgender man.
This story is quick and easy to read, and perfectly explains transgender and how to correct pronouns. It shows just how easy it is for kids to understand and accept things.
I absolutely adore this book and can’t wait to add it to my personal collection of trans stories!
Reading this book, even as a 28 year old, brought happy tears to my eyes.
It’s a story about Benjamin and his Mom, David.
David is a transgender man.
This story is quick and easy to read, and perfectly explains transgender and how to correct pronouns. It shows just how easy it is for kids to understand and accept things.
I absolutely adore this book and can’t wait to add it to my personal collection of trans stories!
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
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