Let's Talk About Down There: An OB-GYN Answers All Your Burning Questions…without Making You Feel Embarrassed for Asking

by Jennifer Lincoln

A shame-free, illustrated guide for people with vaginas—from periods to basic hygiene to safe sex—from TikTok's Dr. Lincoln.

Dr. Lincoln has been sharing her expertise as an OB-GYN to her millions of followers on TikTok, and now in this accessible, illustrated guide she answers real questions about vaginal, sexual, and reproductive health for fans and new readers alike.

Let's Talk About Down There is like the health class you wish you had—think evidence-based, myth-busting sex ed where shame gets tossed out the window—in a format that’s as approachable as a fifteen-second video. Addressing topics such as hormones, menstrual cups, and birth control, all with the help of infographics and illustrations, this succinct, vibrant handbook answers the questions that you may have been too embarrassed to ask, so you’ll be empowered to make more informed health choices and truly care for yourself.
 

Genres: Nonfiction, Health, Self Help, Science, Medical, Sexuality, Womens

224 pages, Paperback

Published September 14, 2021

Reviews

[Kathleen Garber · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an AWESOME book. The book is not afraid to tackle embarrassing questions with poise and candor. This would make a great gift for an older teenager who might have these questions but be too scared to ask them. Or a good book to be in an OB-GYN office for anyone to read in the waiting room.

The book is inclusive in that it never says it’s for women. It says “person with a vagina” if it needs to be said at all.

It’s divided into the following categories: Period Puzzles, Care and Curiosities for Down There…, Facts for Feeling Good, Itching and Burning, Birth Control Basics, Going to the Doctor… and Possibly Pregnant…”

Sample Questions:

What does it mean if I’m bleeding in between my periods?
Can I have sex on my period?
What does normal vaginal discharge look like?
Should I take probiotics to keep my vagina healthy?
Where is my G-Spot?
Will garlic cure a yeast infection?
Does getting an IUD insertion hurt?
How do I know if a condom is OK to use?
Does alcohol or CBD affect birth control?
How long can I go between pap smears?
If my partner pulled out, can I still get pregnant?
How do I know if I am fertile or not?
The book has glossy pages with illustrations that help the answers such as a look at the uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. Inside, you’ll also find illustrations for the different types of hymens, how different labia can look.

Highly Recommended

I received a copy of this in exchange for an honest review

[Robin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Over the past couple of years, there have been a number of books that focus on women's health issues, primarily the area known as "down there." Told in a light tone, this never gets into too much depth but is good for those who want to know more about their own anatomy, especially teens and young adults (there's not much for menopausal and post-menopausal women), although there could be a bit of controversy over the author's recommendations of getting birth control without parental knowledge.

For more in-depth information, my favorite is The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina—Separating the Myth from the Medicine. Another new book being published soon is Pussypedia: A Comprehensive Guide. For anatomy information told in a light and sometimes hilarious tone, try Gross Anatomy: Dispatches from the Front .

Thanks to the publisher for the advance digital edition.
To be published in September 2021.

[Katie · Rating 1 out of 5]

I suppose I should have known what I was going to get from this book, but I went ahead and read it anyways. And I was not surprised. My first huge issue is how the author deals with minors who don't want their parents to know they are on birth control. There is a reason that minors need parental consent for things, birth control among them. By showing minors how to bypass their parents and keep this a secret from them, whether she intends to or not, she is implicating that parents do not need to know what their children are doing. She also gives tips for minors who can legally get birth control but want to keep it a secret. This is disturbing to me. Secondly, she recommends Planned Parenthood and touts their many services. Even Planned Parenthood admits that they are all about abortion. They really haven't done anything for women's health care, and while abortions climb, their other services decline, and that is what they really want. So I cannot recommend this book to anyone.

Thanks to NetGalley for an advanced copy in exchange for my honest opinion.

[Nora · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a comprehensive read for people with vaginas. Perfect for pre-teens, teens, and maybe even young adults (or even some adults might benefit from going through it). It talks about most issues vagina-owners face and answers most questions, but doesn't make the answers boring or too scientific. Although, I felt the answers could have been more detailed in a couple of instances.
But kudos to this books for being 100% LGBTQ+ friendly, that including trans, non-binary, and genderqueer people as well.
Thank you, NetGalley for the opportunity.

[gee · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was the book i needed when i started my period at 11 before my friendship group. I learnt so many new facts that i wasn’t even aware of! The illustrations were spot on & super helpful. I’ll be recommending this to so many people!

[N · Rating 4 out of 5]

THE definitive guide for vagina bearers from ages 13-20.
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Easy to read with fun illustrations and links to (American) organizations you can use to access reproductive care.

Accurate, inclusive and funny. It addresses so many questions young people have about their bodies frankly and without judgement.

If you have a teen at home, live in an area with subpar Sex Ed, or have trouble discussing reproductive care, buy this book.

[Adrienne Blaine · Rating 4 out of 5]

I follow this OB/GYN on TikTok (@drjenniferlincoln) and I am so grateful for the work she is doing to combat shame and misinformation around sex education and health, especially considering how many Gen Z TikTok users get their information from that app.

The target demographic seems to be younger folks who may be asking questions about their sexual health for the first time, but there’s plenty of important info for people of all ages that make it worth skimming through. This books is easy to flip through in one sitting and would be handy as a reference to have around in any house that includes people with vaginas.

I appreciate that the book’s illustrations show a range of skin colors and body types. The text also acknowledges the different needs of people with varying gender identities, sexual orientations and body sizes. If only all doctors could be as affirming and accessible as Dr. Jennifer Lincoln!

[Maria · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a well written, no nonsense guide that would be a good resource for someone starting their journey through puberty or a good refresher for those of us who have been doing this for awhile but have questions. I loved that new trends and old wives' tales were addressed and debunked as needed. This was a perfect reference guide for all women. Highly recommended!

I received a copy from #NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

[Layla Platt · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is inclusive, funny, and, informative!
I really like that the chapters are short. You can flip through it in an afternoon or come back to it over a few days. I think that this book would be great for any young adult who is trying to get in touch with their own bodies or might be getting in touch with other people’s bodies… ;)

[Katie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’ve just finished this amazing and informative book. First off thank you to NetGalley. Secondly thank you Dr Lincoln for proving everyone with a book that should be passed out in schools. While I’m certainly not the target demographic it doesn’t mean that I can read it and continue to keep myself up to date in case such questions come up with my nieces. Being educated on your own body is wildly important, being able to feel comfortable talking about topics like this is something we should all strive for. This book was laid out perfectly, got to the point and provided wonderful information. Highly recommend.

[Katelyn · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very informative and empowering! A book any female born person or partner can learn from at any age.

If you do decide to read, I suggest finding a physical book. My experience with an e-book through the Libby app cut off the tables that are in the book.

[Kez · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm buying this for everyone I ever meet, have met - i'll just carry it in my back pocket and pass it out like a pamphlet on our Lord and Saviour.

[ML · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book. It’s a super quick read . Could definitely been read in one sitting. Honestly the illustrations are excellent and just as much the star of the shown. Excellent for women trying to educate themselves , who were not educated growing up.

[Tressa · Rating 4 out of 5]

This title should be required reading for high school sex ed, at a minimum. The short chapters are easy to digest and the conversational tone is friendly but not patronizing. Highly recommend!

[Dallas Gibson · Rating 4 out of 5]

“Shame does no one any good—but education and information does.”

I literally read this whole thing in one sitting… kind of hoping that there would be good questions and interesting in depth answers, but I never really got that. I’d consider this to be more of an informative book for younger people (teens and early twenties) because there were only a few things I didn’t know. But with that being said I have read pretty in depth fertility, reproductive and sexual health books before. Let me add… I understand each case is different but saying ask a doctor after each section further proves to me that this is intended for naive people, which is fine! Information needs to be shared. However that’s done I don’t care - let people learn and question. We all have a long way to go in sex education and body autonomy.

I love how she cut through the bullshit and addresses the inherent shame we all share with our bodies. So important to note that we have morphed ideas of body image through racism, purity, pornography, etc. Really important topic to highlight, so good on you Dr!

Never been a big fan of any doctor that uses BC as a bandaid for anything. Unfortunately with the tone of this book, it seems that she was one of them. “I will also fully disclose that we could use better studies in this area. Our data is not uber strong, so can an individual user see a difference? It’s possible.” It’s a nice quote to add this in, but nowhere really do gynaecologists actually avoid BC. It’s almost always pushed onto you, which has always annoyed me.

Perfect for broad questions, debunking myths and informative answers.

[Anne · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was able to read this as an eARC from NetGalley and enjoyed every minute! As a science teacher, I believe every teen should learn about their bodies and also the bodies of their potential partners. This book covers topics ranging from periods to contraception to when it would be a good time to see a doctor. There are great discussions about all bodies/smells/etc. being normal and what to reflect on if someone is asking you to change.

Dr. Jennifer Lincoln includes many myths and misconceptions with discussions about actual evidence and scientific studies. The writing is very clear and at the same time engaging. I especially found her sections about how young people can get on birth control if their parents aren't supportive and what to do when faced with an unintended pregnancy to be useful, sympathetic, and non-judgmental.

Finally, the inclusivity of this book is amazing. Dr. Jennifer Lincoln uses inclusive language throughout such as "people who menstruate." Even the illustrations are inclusive: there are illustrations of people with stretch marks, body hair, and different types of bodies. There is even a section discussing alternative options for people who are transgender or nonbinary and may not feel comfortable seeing an ObGyn.

Overall, I would suggest the book to any teen, parent of a teen, or anyone interested in learning more. I hope to include this book in my classroom library someday.

[Kayli · Rating 4 out of 5]

I picked this book up at the beginning of the year because I was concerned about my health and I was not disappointed. There are seven chapters set up in question and answer form on the following subjects: periods, hygiene, sexual pleasure, general concerns, birth control, visiting your doctor and pregnancy. You can literally read this cover-to-cover or flip to your specific concerns/questions straightaway. Reading this book was like having an informative Q&A session with the cool, older sister you always wanted. Dr. Jennifer Lincoln is concise, helpful and feels nonjudgemental in the best of ways. No question is too silly to tackle and she always emphasizes the importance of consent. There are also a ton of graphics and definitions that help clear up any confusion. I highly recommend this book to anyone who as questions about their body but isn't sure how to ask. I also think it's a great read for teenagers and partners, especially if you ever need help easing into a discussion. I do have two disclaimers though: 1) my copy was an ebook so the graphics were screwed up so heads up and 2) if you do get queasy by medical information don't read it all in one go like I (stupidly) did. I don't consider myself a hypochondriac but I definitely started to feel like one at one point. I gave this book four out of five starts!

[Amethista (Witch in Antwerpen) · Rating 4 out of 5]

I rated this book based on the importance of a book like this, not on my personal preference, as I'm not the intended audience.

In my opinion, this is a great book as an introduction to everything vulva, targeted at young teenagers. It's a good basic information, without going too much into depth, that gives the right information to have a basic knowledge of what it is exactly that it entails to have a vulva. I definitely wished I would have had a book like this to begin with (instead, my first contact with information like this was a brochure/information booklet provided by one of the biggest tampon brands in Europe - biased much?), so I would know what I was dealing with. I think the illustrations work wonders accompanying the texts: it's clear enough, but not too graphic to become almost intimidating. I particularly enjoyed the answer about male birth control, where Dr. Lincoln summarized a couple of projects that are currently being tested - it speaks to me this book was written in this age, where much more is known about female anatomy and sexuality.

I do think there could have been more emphasis on sexuality, however, but I also know that might be a touchy topic to begin with, and not the best one to be discussed by an OB-GYN.

[Alyssa Burrows · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book provides approachable, shame-free and inclusive information on vaginas, vulvas, sex/pleasure, birth control and pregnancy. Although I don't think I am the intended audience for this book I think it is helpful and useful to someone who is younger and or with less of a science background (although it is science and research-based - the research is just not usually presented!) Many of the conclusions go to talking to your doctor which is fair and valid but felt repitive. Strong emphasis was placed on that you are normal! if a partner is saying something that makes you uncomfortable they're likely in the wrong, and shame and "miracle" products are based in the patriachary. The illustrations are well done and are realistic and inclusive. I'm glad this book exists as there is an audience for it and a need for it! Beyond a few new facts and being able to confidently tell my friends their birth control won't mess up their fertility I think Come as you are and the Vagina bible were more thorough for my knowledge level.

[Emma Grace · Rating 3 out of 5]

Back with Em reads banned library books pertaining to seggsual and reproductive health! I’m grateful for her debunking of so many shelved products that prey on shame women are told they should feel! Decent 30,000 foot view for pre-teens/teens that I wish I had and is important to be out there (esp with all the crappy education there is in schools or none with private/homeschooling) BUT unfortunately too many teens/young adults in poverty or rural areas of the US don’t have good healthcare or access to multiple options for healthcare and her go to answer for most things is “talk to your OBGYN or primary care doctor to discuss what options are out there.” She brings up free or sliding scale clinics but too often those are bottom of the barrel (esp if there’s only 1-2 PP in your whole state) for getting to bottom of what may be causing infection or too quick to prescribe horomonal BC when patient wants to discuss other options. I think explaining what some of those potential treatments/alt options are could’ve and should’ve taken up a lot more pages.

[Sara · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.25 stars
This was a very fun book, with cool helpful graphics, lots of fun facts and debunks of fake facts about Vaginas. It also has great detailed info, getting a “how to guide” feel to it at times (positive).
I sometimes found that it lacked a little bit of depth, scientifically, for what i wanted (but i am a scientist in the biomedical field, so...). This might be a benefit for some people! I read this close to This is How You Vagina by Dr N Williams, which goes more into scientific depth, if you’re looking for that.
Now I really feel this book takes the cake due to the amazing inclusivity! As a queer woman/person, I often feel like a footnote in these issues, so it was quite refreshing to read this (and i think it’s even more groundbreaking for the trans community!).

I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own. Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher.

[Bek · Rating 5 out of 5]

I think books like this one is so important in defining what is actually normal and healthy for female anatomy. There is a huge mix of information not only from the internet but from companies that feed off of women’s insecurities, so it’s really refreshing to read clear and concise information that actually helps and steers you in the correct direction.

The information is honest and open. Girls and women won’t get information that is dulled down or worded so it reflects the teachings of religious ideologies.

The writing is easy to digest, yet it doesn’t feel condescending. The writing also has a lot of personality so you feel more like you’re talking to a person, rather than an informational book.

[Shawnna · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thank you NetGalley, Dr. Jennifer Lincoln, and Andrews McMeel Publishing for sending me a free ARC copy of Let’s Talk About Down There in exchange for an honest review.

I found this book to be informational and straight to the point. I appreciated the inclusive language for LGBTQ+ and how the chapters were organized throughout the book. I also liked seeing some myths addressed throughout the chapters. I would have liked to see some subjects to be described in more detail. For example, the section on endometriosis was way too brief for the amount of individuals this diagnosis effects and how it is still misdiagnosed for so many.

Overall, this is a great starter guide for people wanting to learn more about their vaginal, sexual, and reproductive health.

[Bea (beansbookshelves) · Rating 5 out of 5]

I received an advanced reader copy of this book to read in exchange for an honest review via netgalley.

I've never read a book regarding this subject before, but I was curious to try this one out. I'm glad I chose it. This book is so complete! It has so much information and the author answers all the questions you have, and even the ones you've never thought about . The illustrations are simply perfect and I'm glad they weren't scared of painting pads with the right colour, showing menstrual cups and different types of vaginas, etc. The text and the images complement each other. It's probably the best book on this subject. Rating: 5/5 stars.

[Tanya · Rating 5 out of 5]

First of all thank you for the chance to review this book.i admit, i was already following dr.lincoln on social media, so the idea of being able to read her book was sooo appealing.
It's a great source for all the women and young teens. Informative and straightforward, using a simple language that makes it understandable and easy to digest.
Wish i had access to trustworthy information on my days when i was trying to scroll the mass of information online,and i was getting headache from so many contradictions.
I'll give a 5 star,as i really want to see this book getting to as many as possible readers.

[Remy · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book felt like it was written for teens or young adults. It had info in it about teens getting access to birth control without parent approval/permission and didn't really discuss much about what goes on "down there" during menopause or other stages of life which is why I wanted to read it. The info is very basic and feels to be written in a "friendly" sort of manner that will appeal to younger adults. I think the books by Jen Gunter are much more in depth and informative for someone past just barely getting things figured out. ;-) I would have liked it when I was around 18 or so. At my age...not so much.

[Claire Binkley · Rating 3 out of 5]

I genuinely did not know so much of what this OB/GYN had to share that I am almost embarrassed to reveal that I had been reading it in the background!

Dr. Jennifer Lincoln describes several feminine health issues in this book. At the end, there is a mention her work is illustrated by Charlotte Wilcox. I decided it is more reliable than Dr. Google. My previous source of this information was my mother. I think that might be how many female-identifying people get their information about this topic, from their mothers.

So, I liked it, but only a little, since I still personally find that general area awkward to discuss.

[Susanne · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thank you to the author, Andrews McMeel Publishing and NetGalley, for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

This well-written, informative and no-nonsense book, written in a Q & A format, answers questions most pre-teens, teens and young adults will have about their body and their sexuality. I loved the fact that it was inclusive, never talked down to the reader and worked hard to counteract the sadly pervasive influence of shame and purity culture. Not much is included for older readers, but that is a minor failing as they are obviously not the target audience.

[Pamela · Rating 5 out of 5]

Let's talk about down there is a fantastic resource for teens and grown women. There are many questions we need answered, but a typical Google search brings up too much information which can be overwhelming. This book answered all those questions in a straight forward and concise format. Her responses were all empathetic and helpful. Ibalsobloved the organization of this book. I read it all straight through because I have been genuinely interested in women's health lately. However, it is easy to find specific topics if you just want to skim through to what information is of interest to you.

[mir ♡ · Rating 4 out of 5]

this book was quite informative especially since just two years ago i couldnt even find my clit

the shame surrounding vaginas makes me so sad also so glad i dont have social media anymore so i dont have to hear people speaking "if u do this u have loose dry fishy vagina" nonsense

so many myths dispelled like the pineapple juice thinf... (the pineapple flavor will not survive the journey to get to ur vagina) and also now i want combined birth control pills for when im having sex again (celibacy era woop
woop 🙌) and for acne control