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You End Up Where You're Heading: The Hidden Danger of Living a Safe Life
You settled for the first job that came along, the okay apartment, and the steady, but unfulfilling partner. You thought you were playing it safe.
But with each passing day, the simmering frustration with your mediocre choices feels like it might swallow you whole. You're not growing, not creating, not moving. The person you want to be is gasping for air, but you don't know how to breathe life into them. The "safe" path is slowly killing you.
In You End up Where You're Heading, Jimmy Rex and Cameron Carling pull back the curtain on the easy, inauthentic life you've been sold and give you tools to seek your unmet potential. You'll learn how to shift your mindset from a stuck Settler to a curious Explorer, push through when the road gets rough, and exponentially expand your rewards.
Anything is possible in life. But everything lies on the other side of fear.
But with each passing day, the simmering frustration with your mediocre choices feels like it might swallow you whole. You're not growing, not creating, not moving. The person you want to be is gasping for air, but you don't know how to breathe life into them. The "safe" path is slowly killing you.
In You End up Where You're Heading, Jimmy Rex and Cameron Carling pull back the curtain on the easy, inauthentic life you've been sold and give you tools to seek your unmet potential. You'll learn how to shift your mindset from a stuck Settler to a curious Explorer, push through when the road gets rough, and exponentially expand your rewards.
Anything is possible in life. But everything lies on the other side of fear.
258 pages, Paperback
Published July 31, 2020
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August 20, 2020
I am not a fan of self help books. However, I picked this up and read the entire thing. I really enjoyed the way this book is written. Where most self help books are preachy and not relatable at all, this one does not preach, but tells you the good, bad, and ugly of achieving what you want. If you are looking to be the most successful person out there, with riches and fame, this is 100% recommended. If you are looking to be happy in the life you are leading, and can get past the idea that “settling” into a 9-5 job so you can be home to coach little league or choosing to be a stay at home mom, is not actually “settling.” That your mediocre and the authors mediocre can be two different sides of the spectrum. That choosing less is actually your expedition. That slowing down is what you need a map for. If you can use his formula for whatever it is you need in your life whether fortune and fame or a understated quiet family life, then I recommend it 100%. My critique: don’t get hung up on all the “success” in this book. If you don’t make millions or reach the peak of Mountain Everest, but instead, run/walk to that next tree or save enough to go out to dinner once a month, and these things were your goals, then that is your peak and you should be proud of yourself.
August 18, 2020
There are two paths we can choose to take in life: the settler and the explorer.
This book is not just a great reminder of why we can ALL choose the latter. It's also actionable and detailed as far as what that path looks like and how to walk it.
If you like to read things and never take action afterward, you'll love this book.
If you like to read things and ACTUALLY do something with that knowledge, you'll ALSO love this book.
There are countless examples used of men and women who hit rock bottom and then pulled themselves out. Whatever situation you find yourself in, these accounts will inspire and motivate you to come out the other side of it an explorer.
Reading this book made me cry, smile, and reflect on where I've been settling and how I can hold myself more accountable in the future.
HIGHLY RECOMMEND!
This book is not just a great reminder of why we can ALL choose the latter. It's also actionable and detailed as far as what that path looks like and how to walk it.
If you like to read things and never take action afterward, you'll love this book.
If you like to read things and ACTUALLY do something with that knowledge, you'll ALSO love this book.
There are countless examples used of men and women who hit rock bottom and then pulled themselves out. Whatever situation you find yourself in, these accounts will inspire and motivate you to come out the other side of it an explorer.
Reading this book made me cry, smile, and reflect on where I've been settling and how I can hold myself more accountable in the future.
HIGHLY RECOMMEND!
September 29, 2020
This might as well have been the story of How To Win The Lottery. There are some very successful people who have done well for themselves finding opportunities despite setbacks and hardships in here. What are untold are the stories of people that have done basically the exact same things and had their lives ruined. This isn't being negative, this is simply being honest - this book is a hagiography of Survivorship Bias. You can work very hard, never lose sight of your dreams, have the best mentors you can, and still fail. Not everyone finds the opportunities, or the second opportunities, or the third opportunities, that the characters in the book did. It's easy to see any number of things that might derail someone.
It was really cool of the author to give the person who stole money from them and lost it a second chance, where they redeemed themself. Giving thieves a second chance isn't always a great piece of advice to give people.
The author mentions the story about Tommy Boy and the pizza in the trunk is a nice reminder to never bet more than you can afford to - and it feels entirely antithetical to the basis of this book. Most people *can't* have a safe life to return to after they mortgage it to attempt to follow their dreams.
The story of the person that let themselves have five minutes to cry after they'd been in a horrible medical experience (might have been an inoperable fatal cancer or a car accident that had long-term permanent injuries, forgot which it was in the book) ... many people don't grieve like that, and many people shouldn't grieve like that. It does a disservice to relay the "suck it up" mentality as a way to overcome psychological trauma - some people can, other people discover minimizing their mental health that way just kicks the can down the road for much worse problems to come.
Also, despite the author's claims that people with a child with Down's Syndrome are on average happier than those with a neurotypical child, many other studies report that children with disabilities do experience a lower quality of life.
Nikola Motors ... well, as of September 2020, it hasn't done great with regard to earning trust.
It was really cool of the author to give the person who stole money from them and lost it a second chance, where they redeemed themself. Giving thieves a second chance isn't always a great piece of advice to give people.
The author mentions the story about Tommy Boy and the pizza in the trunk is a nice reminder to never bet more than you can afford to - and it feels entirely antithetical to the basis of this book. Most people *can't* have a safe life to return to after they mortgage it to attempt to follow their dreams.
The story of the person that let themselves have five minutes to cry after they'd been in a horrible medical experience (might have been an inoperable fatal cancer or a car accident that had long-term permanent injuries, forgot which it was in the book) ... many people don't grieve like that, and many people shouldn't grieve like that. It does a disservice to relay the "suck it up" mentality as a way to overcome psychological trauma - some people can, other people discover minimizing their mental health that way just kicks the can down the road for much worse problems to come.
Also, despite the author's claims that people with a child with Down's Syndrome are on average happier than those with a neurotypical child, many other studies report that children with disabilities do experience a lower quality of life.
Nikola Motors ... well, as of September 2020, it hasn't done great with regard to earning trust.
August 17, 2020
Inspiring Storytelling. Great read
I love how the authors use real experiences of amazing people to demonstrate the principles shared throughout the book. This style makes it easier to see how I can apply the knowledge to my life.
I love how the authors use real experiences of amazing people to demonstrate the principles shared throughout the book. This style makes it easier to see how I can apply the knowledge to my life.
May 24, 2021
This book is great if you're looking for motivation and inspiraional stories. I love these kinds of books and podcasts, so I knew I would enjoy it.
This book is interesting because it talks about overcoming great failures and keep going.
This book is interesting because it talks about overcoming great failures and keep going.
July 3, 2022
Much needed!
I am actually on an adventure right now doing door to door sales in Southern California and I found a lot of valuable golden nuggets that will help me have a deeper experience as I explore the beauties of Southern California! Thank you brother!
I am actually on an adventure right now doing door to door sales in Southern California and I found a lot of valuable golden nuggets that will help me have a deeper experience as I explore the beauties of Southern California! Thank you brother!
December 11, 2020
Loved it, great motivational book.
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