Becoming the Woman of His Dreams: Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For

by Sharon Jaynes

If you would like to put a little "wow!" back in your relationship with the man you married, let seven simple secrets, biblical wisdom, and tender stories of both men and women inspire you to be the wife your husband longs for. Sharon Jaynes, author of The Power of a Woman's Words , shares the unique, God-blessed role you can play in making your marriage the joy of both your lives. A happy marriage takes work, but the end result is worth it. Chapters that look at what you can do and who you are as a wife will encourage you to... Your position in your husband's life is absolutely unique. Make it powerful. Make it special. Make it something he longs for.

Genres: Marriage, Christian, Relationships, Self Help, Nonfiction, Faith, Christianity

304 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2005

Reviews

[Jaquelle Ferris · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book was pretty good, but one I’d definitely recommend reading with someone else — particularly a godly older women. And I’d just skip the final section (there was some unhelpful language and examples; there are much better books I’d recommend on the topic).

[Laura · Rating 3 out of 5]

I didn't have a problem with this book up until section 3. I understand that sexual intimacy is important in marriage. But I don't like how the author wrote in a chastising way "If you don't give your man sex then he may look elsewhere." What about the woman who struggles with physical illness and not just mental illness? I struggle with depression and it's not easy to just go off a med and start a new one! I also have had health issues. My husband is not going to leave me because he's not getting a lot of sex! A "Christian" husband shouldn't entertain cheating on his wife due to not enough sex. I feel section 3 of this book was unrealistic and not taking into account that real life happens.

[Amanda · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a marriage changer!

[Jamie Casey · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was suggested to me from a friend that knew I was struggling in my marriage. I didn't share that fact with many people at all. As a matter of fact, she was the only one I shared that fact with with the exception of my therapist.

I think she knew I'd have reservations based solely on the title so she said, "don't let the title scare you. This was one of the most empowering books I've ever read." After that statement, what did I have to lose.

I have to say that there were some things that I didn't agree with, some I just don't quite believe in, but for the most part, I found that I agreed whole heartedly with her opinion.

We live in a different world today than any other time in history. I thought that this book would be irrelevant. But I have to admit, I was wrong. I think that we need to get back to our roots. Quit running from them.

I think that this would be a wonderful book for anyone that is married or in a serious relationship. There are some wonderful tips and some of the best advice I've ever read. A fabulous, fabulous read. Highly recommend.

[Betsy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is much better than the cheesy title indicates. In particular, I liked Jaynes's application of Scripture to marriage--and not just the passages that specifically address marriage, but all applicable passages that address any relationship between two Christians/people.

[Nicole · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love this book! It's one of the few books that I ways keep out for reference. You can read straight through it or read topically. Lots of practical advice throughout, & it has a great prayer resource in the back for praying for your husband using scripture.

[Saz Jibson Ryan · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was helpful for me in understanding a wife's wonderful opportunity to lift up her husband. Jaynes' easy-to-follow, instructive writing style was interactive and engaging.

[Debbie · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book did a good job describing what men want and giving suggestions of how to give it to them. I've read much of the same stuff before, but this was a well-written book on the topic and I'm going to keep it in my library for another read-through.

However, if you were to buy just one book on the subject of improving your relationship with your husband (which is why I bought this), I'd recommend "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn. She not only covers most of the topics in this book but she goes much more in-depth so you can really understand what men mean when they say that they want respect or whatever.

[Michelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book has taught me so much about being a Godly wife. My husband and I have a wonderful marriage of 23 yrs, but what I have learned and practiced from this book has made our marriage even greater! I also like how she interviewed men and asked them what the woman of their dreams was to them. It's nice to hear the men's point of view. Sharon uses stories of real couples' lives as an interesting teaching tool. The book tackled every area of marriage. I have read this book 3 times and I'm on my 4th. It's that good. I like leadership and self-help books expecially when they are God based.

[Tarsha Woods · Rating 5 out of 5]

Perfect read for women who's struggling with respect, forgiveness and intimacy in their marriage. Getting through respecting my husband, having God point his fingers at me revealing when, why and where I stopped respecting my husband. God also revealed how I hold on to grudges stating I forgive when in fact I am still holding on to frustration and humiliation.

God also opened me ears to be a better listener closing my mouth and focus on the two way conversation.

Recommend you fast while reading, so you can not only see God face in the mist of your Storm however hear his voice.

Mrs. Sharon Jaynes can please email me praying for my Husband Head to Toe.

[Celinda Daniel · Rating 4 out of 5]

Alguns anos atrás minha veia feminista iria detestar a idéia deste livro. Mas alguns anos de experiência conjugal tem me provado que o melhor mesmo é "amolecer o queixo e tentar entender o lado deles"... afinal, não espero nada menos que isso em relação mim também.
Há quem diga que os princípios e sugestões apresentados são retrógrados e domesticadores, mas eu me pergunto se tudo tem mesmo que mudar se "modernizar", ou será que existem coisas que simplesmente são o que são, e temos que aceitar: a noite é escura, o sol é quente, a água é molhada e os homens são assim.
Controvérsias à parte, super indico... Vale a pena ler e praticar.

[Jenny · Rating 4 out of 5]

As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, my only complaint is the use of so many different scriptural translations outside of the KJV. I didn't find it outdated or sexist, but rather this book was insightful and helped me to improve my relationship and better understand the inner-workings of my husband. Some of the religious points were lacking the full doctrine, but it is still a good read with great advice on how to better love the man God has blessed me with and allowed me to be partnered with forever.

[Stacey Lynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was awesome! As my usual skeptical self draws leery of ultra-religion-associated books, I wasn't sure whether this book would help me or not. But there were many great insights on what pleases our men. Though the book was geared more so toward married women, I can see mistakes I've made as a long term girlfriend in past relationships. Encouraging, and motivating, Sharon Jaynes gets you psyched and geared up to start loving your man in sure-fire ways that actually work!

[Nina Singhapakdi · Rating 5 out of 5]

When one of my spiritual mentors recommended this book to me (I was asking her for books to help me conduct my relationship in a Godly way), I was a bit turned off by the title. I really loved it once I started reading it and went through it so quickly. It helped me understand needs and healthy patterns of relating along with offering up encouraging stories. This book is also thoroughly rooted in scripture.

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

Oh, my, goodness!!! Just read it. . . . . . our life didn't change drastically immediately after reading it. Things like this take time and dedication on YOUR part. But--its been just over a year and I can tell you that we are not the same couple we were before. Its quite evident to those close to us and we LOVE it!!!!!

[Christabelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

After serendipitously discovering this at the library book sale, I have to say I am well pleased. Sometimes a wife just needs that reminder of why she married her husband in the first place. This book reminds me what marriage began as, the dreams of a young couple, and renews my desire to connect with him. I'm glad I read this one.

[WhatRachelsReading · Rating 5 out of 5]

You can never get enough advice on how to improve a marriage! There is some wonderful wisdom inside this book and I would highly recommend any married lady to read it!! Now, to become the woman of MY man's dreams!

[Angela · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book had a few good things to say, but a lot of it seemed like a recipe for how to become a mindless bimbo. Also, the book didn't stick to a single translation of the Bible, but quoted scriptures from all over the place. It lacked consistency.

[H.M. Chambers · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an excellent book, with lots of insight! It concurred with what I already knew, plus added depth and new areas of information. I will be reading this book again and a again for a long time to come, and I am sure that it will keep helping me with my relationship just as it has helped me now.

[BethAnne · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book was ok.
I learned a few good things.
My husband thought pats of it were humorous that were supposed to be serious. Needless to say we have a few inside jokes when it comes to this book.

[Bridgette · Rating 5 out of 5]

I learned to be the wife that my husband but ultimately who God wants me to be! Every wife should read this!!

[Cindy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hard book to put down. I better understand my husband now.

[Laura Milner · Rating 5 out of 5]

Inspiring and helpful.

[Erinfarleys · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have read this book many times and plan to read it many more!!! It is fantastic and always leaves me inspired to be a better wife.

[Ashley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this book

[Dani · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wonderfully insightful!

[Janetlynnrhodes · Rating 1 out of 5]

Complete outdated garbage designed to create a Stepford Wife. While it had a few good suggestions, most of the book made me angry. A real marriage does not always function this way.

[Arianna Dubovik · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great for any women who really wants to become the "woman of his dreams." i suggest all women in a relationship, married or not, to read this.

[Gayla · Rating 5 out of 5]

Should be required reading before getting married!

[Crystal Walker-pirtle · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great read for every wife.