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Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids
Do you worry that you're messing up your kids? Do you get stressed when you think about their futures? New York Times bestselling author Crystal Paine knows how you feel. A mom of four, Crystal has struggled with anxiety over parenting. She wanted to parent with grace, instead of a system of rules where kids are expected to do all the right things. She wanted to be a safe place for her children, and she definitely didn't want to be remembered as the sort of mom who yelled, wounded her kids with words, or worse, cared more about her reputation than her kids' hearts.
In this book, Crystal shares the life-changing lessons that God has been teaching her about raising kids with love and grace.
In Love-Centered Parenting , Crystal will
· reveal the no-fail secret to launching your kids
· uncover the root of why we often feel so frustrated and irritated with our kids
· share the four most important choices we can make as parents
· give you the tools to keep going when you want to give up
· help you get your kids to talk to you
It is possible to parent from a place of freedom and rest, giving your kids what they truly need to thrive in this world.
In this book, Crystal shares the life-changing lessons that God has been teaching her about raising kids with love and grace.
In Love-Centered Parenting , Crystal will
· reveal the no-fail secret to launching your kids
· uncover the root of why we often feel so frustrated and irritated with our kids
· share the four most important choices we can make as parents
· give you the tools to keep going when you want to give up
· help you get your kids to talk to you
It is possible to parent from a place of freedom and rest, giving your kids what they truly need to thrive in this world.
224 pages, Hardcover
Published March 16, 2021
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January 4, 2021
I have long felt that Christian parenting books often say the same things repackaged a bit. So I admit, I didn’t have the highest hopes for this book. However, I have always loved Crystal’s books. From the first few paragraphs I was hooked and knew this wasn’t like other parenting books. Crystal made me think and feel deeply about my parenting. But more than anything, she helped me to think critically of myself (in a good way). This book has left me pondering for weeks the stories and insights she shares. Thank you Crystal, you are such an inspiration!
February 27, 2021
Crystal Paine (the Money Saving Mom of blog fame) is coming out with a new parenting book. I received a copy in advance and promised to write an honest review.
I've now raised 7 children into adulthood and was very interested in finding out more about Crystal’s approach to raising her kids. I found all the parenting advice to be spot on and it closely reflected my own parenting journey. This is not a "how to change your children and make them behave" book. Nope. It's about how YOU as a parent can change YOUR heart and YOUR approach and forge a stronger, more positive relationship with your children. By doing that, the entire family benefits. And the approach works.
Crystal shares a lot of personal stories about her journey as a parent, and she does so while protecting the privacy of her children. This openness and honesty with her failures and successes will help other parents. For this alone, many will value her book.
This book is directed to evangelical Christian parents - and I'll be honest that is not me. I am not at all religious, although I grew up in the Episcopal Church. I do read Christian authored books (i.e. Jen Hatmaker), and often get good bits of wisdom from them after I filter out the religious references. So my question was - is this a book that will cross-over to the non-Christian audience? Unfortunately, it's not. The parenting advice is solid and spot-on, but this book is 100% written for Christians and in my opinion those with evangelical leanings. For me, the book was still excellent, but a non-religious reader would need to apply a filter to a good bit of the text.
So why a 4-star rating? Well, the book is written by a Christian, for Christians and published by a Christian publisher. For the targeted audience, this is a 100% fantastic book. I review books hoping to give potential readers insight about a book and whether it’s a fit for them.
Crystal comes from a legalist (I had to look that term up, that's how much I don't know) background and I think her message and the personal journey will resonate with others moving away from that perspective. I do wish the cover made it more apparent that this is a Christian book. My only other peeve is that the book subtitle talks about launching children, but by design, it's really about raising younger children. Crystal still needs to launch her children, and I look forward to that book as well.
So - If you are a Christian and looking for some excellent heartfelt and heart-led parenting advice, this is the book you need.
I've now raised 7 children into adulthood and was very interested in finding out more about Crystal’s approach to raising her kids. I found all the parenting advice to be spot on and it closely reflected my own parenting journey. This is not a "how to change your children and make them behave" book. Nope. It's about how YOU as a parent can change YOUR heart and YOUR approach and forge a stronger, more positive relationship with your children. By doing that, the entire family benefits. And the approach works.
Crystal shares a lot of personal stories about her journey as a parent, and she does so while protecting the privacy of her children. This openness and honesty with her failures and successes will help other parents. For this alone, many will value her book.
This book is directed to evangelical Christian parents - and I'll be honest that is not me. I am not at all religious, although I grew up in the Episcopal Church. I do read Christian authored books (i.e. Jen Hatmaker), and often get good bits of wisdom from them after I filter out the religious references. So my question was - is this a book that will cross-over to the non-Christian audience? Unfortunately, it's not. The parenting advice is solid and spot-on, but this book is 100% written for Christians and in my opinion those with evangelical leanings. For me, the book was still excellent, but a non-religious reader would need to apply a filter to a good bit of the text.
So why a 4-star rating? Well, the book is written by a Christian, for Christians and published by a Christian publisher. For the targeted audience, this is a 100% fantastic book. I review books hoping to give potential readers insight about a book and whether it’s a fit for them.
Crystal comes from a legalist (I had to look that term up, that's how much I don't know) background and I think her message and the personal journey will resonate with others moving away from that perspective. I do wish the cover made it more apparent that this is a Christian book. My only other peeve is that the book subtitle talks about launching children, but by design, it's really about raising younger children. Crystal still needs to launch her children, and I look forward to that book as well.
So - If you are a Christian and looking for some excellent heartfelt and heart-led parenting advice, this is the book you need.
June 14, 2022
I enjoyed a lot of this book- especially the idea that parenting should be relationship driven over constant correction. Also, the idea of “lean in and love” and Crystal’s personal stories were good.
However… I disliked the foundational message of, “In Christ, you are enough.” The truth is that we are not enough! CHRIST is enough! Our “not enough”-ness is what drives us to Him for strength, help, grace etc. It might seem like a subtle difference - but when the focus is on ourselves feeling good enough, our focus is still on *ourselves*! Instead, our focus needs to be on Christ.
(I listened to the audiobook.)
However… I disliked the foundational message of, “In Christ, you are enough.” The truth is that we are not enough! CHRIST is enough! Our “not enough”-ness is what drives us to Him for strength, help, grace etc. It might seem like a subtle difference - but when the focus is on ourselves feeling good enough, our focus is still on *ourselves*! Instead, our focus needs to be on Christ.
(I listened to the audiobook.)
January 13, 2021
Parenting books can be a dime a dozen but this one is something special. The message Crystal shares in Love Centered Parenting was exactly what I needed to hear as a mom of four little ones. I think it also felt especially relevant to me since I’m from a similar conservative and rules-focused background as Crystal. I may came back here and update this review with more details later but for now - this book touched me deeply, brought me to tears at times, and ultimately left me feeling encouraged and equipped with godly, practical wisdom for my parenting journey. I highly recommend this book and will be re-reading it for sure!
June 8, 2021
It was fine. There was nothing groundbreaking here, but it was full of good reminders.
3.5 stars
3.5 stars
July 16, 2023
If I could give this 10 stars, I would. It’s hands down the best parenting book I have ever read - and I’ve read quite a few. Always trying to find the “right” one with the best plans and method of operation.
But Crystal let’s us know there is no best or secret plan. We’re to parent our children the way Jesus parents us. With love. It seems so simple but it’s something I missed. I thought it was all about obedience. But it’s really all about relationship.
I’d wager to say I highlighted half the book. I have plans to keep it out and read highlighted portions regularly because I don’t want to forget what I’ve learned.
I have already seen my relationship with my kids bloom. Thank you, Jesus, that Crystal followed your lead. Our family needed it.
Bonus: in the back of the book are some excellent resources, including a list of conversation starters that I’ve been able to use with my teen. So helpful!!
But Crystal let’s us know there is no best or secret plan. We’re to parent our children the way Jesus parents us. With love. It seems so simple but it’s something I missed. I thought it was all about obedience. But it’s really all about relationship.
I’d wager to say I highlighted half the book. I have plans to keep it out and read highlighted portions regularly because I don’t want to forget what I’ve learned.
I have already seen my relationship with my kids bloom. Thank you, Jesus, that Crystal followed your lead. Our family needed it.
Bonus: in the back of the book are some excellent resources, including a list of conversation starters that I’ve been able to use with my teen. So helpful!!
January 8, 2023
This book was SOOOO good. The truths in this book spoke to me at such a deep level. I am so grateful for the reminders of understanding the depths of God’s love for me so that I can extend that same type of love to my children. This is a book that I know I will re-read many times.
February 22, 2021
I wasn't sure how I'd actually take this book. To be honest, while I'm a Christian, I'm an ELCA liberal who doesn't fit the mold of a conservative evangelical and too often find that Christian parenting books do not really provide me with any useful parenting guidance or inspiration. Not only that, I usually have a lot of trouble getting through reading parenting books in general because it seems like they just list a bunch of guidelines for how to parent your kiddo with zero realistic comparisons from their own parenting experiences. But Crystal made herself vulnerable by writing about her own personal parenting and life experiences, which motivated me to actually sit down and read this book. I am already ready to go back and re-read it because I actually feel like I've gained wisdom and insight into how to develop my relationship with my young children to support their development into loving, kind, and honest people.
May 15, 2021
I had heard high praise for this book and when I finally got it on hold from the library I was not at all disappointed. This is by far Crystal’s best book yet. I appreciate her raw honesty and openness, and I can relate to so many of the struggles she shared. Seeing how she has found genuine heart change and freedom gives me great hope for my own journey. This is definitely a book I will be purchasing for myself and recommending to others. Even if you’re not a parent, the truths in this book about learning to rest in God’s love apply to anyone. So foundational and vital.
February 17, 2023
Let me start off by saying I really wanted to love this book and I fully expected to. I have followed Crystal for years online and really enjoy her social media and blog content. However, this book seemed to preach a self-centered gospel approach, instead of Christ centered. The constant reiteration of "I am enough" instead of "I am not enough, which is why I must rely on Christ." I also didn't love the idea of affirmations she gives. It really isn't biblical, and honestly, not very helpful.
I did enjoy her story telling of her life and some principles she lays out, but it honestly wasn't anything too ground breaking. The reminder to not hold one's children to too high expections was helpful. But I didn't feel like the book laid out anything that hasn't already been said.
I did enjoy her story telling of her life and some principles she lays out, but it honestly wasn't anything too ground breaking. The reminder to not hold one's children to too high expections was helpful. But I didn't feel like the book laid out anything that hasn't already been said.
March 17, 2025
I've wanted to read this book since it was first released. Wow! Wow! Wow! That is all I can say! Crystal's story about hitting rock bottom in her parenting described my life this past year as a mom. This book is precisely the book I needed to read right now!
We have five kids, ages 23 to 12, and my last two children are so different from my oldest three. It feels like we have had to relearn how to parent all over again.
This past year, I felt like I hit rock bottom in my parenting journey. I have experienced despair, fear, discouragement, and shame, wondering what in the world we are doing wrong!!! I'm grateful that Crystal was willing to share the challenging stories about her kids. Honestly, I wish I had read this book sooner. I highly recommend it!
We have five kids, ages 23 to 12, and my last two children are so different from my oldest three. It feels like we have had to relearn how to parent all over again.
This past year, I felt like I hit rock bottom in my parenting journey. I have experienced despair, fear, discouragement, and shame, wondering what in the world we are doing wrong!!! I'm grateful that Crystal was willing to share the challenging stories about her kids. Honestly, I wish I had read this book sooner. I highly recommend it!
October 26, 2021
This book was refreshing to my soul. It wasn’t mind-blowing or full of groundbreaking revelations, but more of a heart reset for when you find yourself stalling out or feeling like a failure as a parent; it points you back to the main things.
Paine’s words and vulnerability are a welcome source of life-giving encouragement in a world of shame-motivated parenting and fear-motivated living.
My main takeaways:
•“Live as loved.” This is actually a quote that has stuck with me since hearing Crystal talk about it on on Instagram a couple of years ago. The Holy Spirit has reminded me of these words many times since then, and I find myself meditating on it pretty frequently. We can’t love others well if we aren’t living from the core belief that we are fully and wholeheartedly loved by God. Love-centered parenting really revolves around this whole central point.
•Ask “How would ‘Loved me’ act or respond?” in awkward, embarrassing, or stressful situations, rather than acting from a place of worry about how others perceive me. “Loved me” can show up as myself and confidently love others.
•“Lean in and love.” When our kids are struggling or we’re faced with frustrating, confusing parenting moments, we can lean into it with humility and approachability instead of reacting from fear or shame.
This quick, easy read is a strong contender for one of my top five reads for 2021.
Paine’s words and vulnerability are a welcome source of life-giving encouragement in a world of shame-motivated parenting and fear-motivated living.
My main takeaways:
•“Live as loved.” This is actually a quote that has stuck with me since hearing Crystal talk about it on on Instagram a couple of years ago. The Holy Spirit has reminded me of these words many times since then, and I find myself meditating on it pretty frequently. We can’t love others well if we aren’t living from the core belief that we are fully and wholeheartedly loved by God. Love-centered parenting really revolves around this whole central point.
•Ask “How would ‘Loved me’ act or respond?” in awkward, embarrassing, or stressful situations, rather than acting from a place of worry about how others perceive me. “Loved me” can show up as myself and confidently love others.
•“Lean in and love.” When our kids are struggling or we’re faced with frustrating, confusing parenting moments, we can lean into it with humility and approachability instead of reacting from fear or shame.
This quick, easy read is a strong contender for one of my top five reads for 2021.
February 22, 2021
This book is a must read for every parent. This isn’t a step by step process to parenting perfection. It’s actually the steps to releasing the burden of perfection and seeing YOURSELF and children in a different new refreshing way.
I haven’t been able to stop reading this. It’s been hitting me right behind the eyes. It is completely echoing what a counselor/coach has also been telling me. Now prayers that I would truly BELIEVE these words.
I love the hope that Crystal gives instead of shaming me! I’m a few years behind Crystal and have hope that I too can change for the positive. I was also shaken by my daughter being in a similar spot with suicide thoughts, and it broke me to the core. Reading how she’s used this for good is the greatest gift! Amazing book. I will read again and again. I’ve highlighted almost all of it:)
I’m just a few days of implementing things I feel so differently about my parenting and have an overall lighter feeling. I’ve noticed my kids are also reacting differently to me.
This is the best investment you can make into yourself and your children. Buy it!
I haven’t been able to stop reading this. It’s been hitting me right behind the eyes. It is completely echoing what a counselor/coach has also been telling me. Now prayers that I would truly BELIEVE these words.
I love the hope that Crystal gives instead of shaming me! I’m a few years behind Crystal and have hope that I too can change for the positive. I was also shaken by my daughter being in a similar spot with suicide thoughts, and it broke me to the core. Reading how she’s used this for good is the greatest gift! Amazing book. I will read again and again. I’ve highlighted almost all of it:)
I’m just a few days of implementing things I feel so differently about my parenting and have an overall lighter feeling. I’ve noticed my kids are also reacting differently to me.
This is the best investment you can make into yourself and your children. Buy it!
June 16, 2021
This book was fantastic! I was completely convicted and encouraged through Crystal's words and personal stories.
In the middle of reading this book I had a moment with my 13 year old daughter that I failed in parenting a situation. I had focused on what she was doing wrong and used way to many words as I preached to her why it was wrong. I later apologized and told her I was wrong. I had in no way walked with her in that moment. She was frustrated and I only added to it.
This book helped me see that I was not giving this daughter enough grace. I do more so with my other children but for her, I just don't dish it out enough. I am sure she feels completely inadequate in my eyes because I never just lean in and love. I am always teaching to do better. Ugh yuck writing these words are hard!
This conviction does not come with shame though. It feels like I have been given a gift to have this new perspective and desire for my children to know they are so loved!
In the middle of reading this book I had a moment with my 13 year old daughter that I failed in parenting a situation. I had focused on what she was doing wrong and used way to many words as I preached to her why it was wrong. I later apologized and told her I was wrong. I had in no way walked with her in that moment. She was frustrated and I only added to it.
This book helped me see that I was not giving this daughter enough grace. I do more so with my other children but for her, I just don't dish it out enough. I am sure she feels completely inadequate in my eyes because I never just lean in and love. I am always teaching to do better. Ugh yuck writing these words are hard!
This conviction does not come with shame though. It feels like I have been given a gift to have this new perspective and desire for my children to know they are so loved!
April 7, 2024
I was hesitant that I would be picking up another gentle parenting book. It's not that I don't want to be a loving gentle spirit mother, but I believe that a lot of boundaries have been lost in this parenting idea of encouraging sinful children to do what is contrary to their nature.
However, I was instantly pulled in by the fiest chapter. Someone was walking through my nightmare, and she wrote a book on her experiences, what she learned, and what parents can take away.
While there were some minor disagreements on certain ways to handle things, as a whole, I found this scripture sound, focusing more on our biblical role of parenting, and finding the heart of the matter. Because of this, I give this book 4 stars. At the time of this review, I have a 16 year old, 15, a few days shy of 12, 11, and 7 year old. I didn't learn anything revolutionary, but I did get pointed back to the WORD, and to our Heaven Father, who is the true example of love-centered parenting.
However, I was instantly pulled in by the fiest chapter. Someone was walking through my nightmare, and she wrote a book on her experiences, what she learned, and what parents can take away.
While there were some minor disagreements on certain ways to handle things, as a whole, I found this scripture sound, focusing more on our biblical role of parenting, and finding the heart of the matter. Because of this, I give this book 4 stars. At the time of this review, I have a 16 year old, 15, a few days shy of 12, 11, and 7 year old. I didn't learn anything revolutionary, but I did get pointed back to the WORD, and to our Heaven Father, who is the true example of love-centered parenting.
January 6, 2023
as a person who works with children, and hopes to have kiddos of my own one day, i often try to extend my knowledge of parenting. i picked up this book because i was interested in it’s proclaimed “no-fail” guide to parenting. as a read, i delved deeper into my own perspective on faith in parenting and came to realize that as Paine suggests, we are not responsible for creating cookie-cutter children with mapped out futures. we can’t fail as parents if we thoroughly love our children, care for them and their developing brains, and lead them to God.
Paine often challenged my views, and has offered practical applications on how to be a love-centered parent. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and am excited to apply the new approaches I have learned.
Paine often challenged my views, and has offered practical applications on how to be a love-centered parent. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and am excited to apply the new approaches I have learned.
March 12, 2021
I love how Crystal shared so openly and honestly from her parenting experiences. This book is full of eye-opening truth that I can't wait to implement in my life and parenting. I am going to read this again starting now to really take it all in!
February 23, 2021
I am so grateful to this author as a professional counselor of 25 years who is trying to get the message out to Christian parents regarding the fact that they can be intentional in their parenting, pray for their kids and teach them truth, and still have a child who struggles with depression and suicide. Her opening story and her struggles are raw and reality for many of the families I’ve worked with as a public school crisis counselor and private Christian school mental health consultant. .
Love Centered Parenting also addresses the feelings that all parents struggle with and I hope it inspires more parents to become prepared and build relationships with a counselor sooner so their first encounter with our mental health system is not an ER visit like her child experienced. Covid and cancel culture are hitting our kids hard. I can’t thank you enough Crystal for normalizing the real struggles our kids and their parents who love them face today.
I also loved the 10 practical tips for parents in Chapter 5 and am working on these daily as I have a teen daughter and 10 year old son. I’m excited to add this book as a recommended resource at our center.
Michelle Nietert, LPC-S
Clinical Director of Community Counseling Associates
Author of Loved and Cherished
Love Centered Parenting also addresses the feelings that all parents struggle with and I hope it inspires more parents to become prepared and build relationships with a counselor sooner so their first encounter with our mental health system is not an ER visit like her child experienced. Covid and cancel culture are hitting our kids hard. I can’t thank you enough Crystal for normalizing the real struggles our kids and their parents who love them face today.
I also loved the 10 practical tips for parents in Chapter 5 and am working on these daily as I have a teen daughter and 10 year old son. I’m excited to add this book as a recommended resource at our center.
Michelle Nietert, LPC-S
Clinical Director of Community Counseling Associates
Author of Loved and Cherished
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December 20, 2024I really enjoyed Crystal’s grace filled take on parenting. She is continually pointing to scripture to remind me as a mom that I can rest in Jesus’ finished work and trust and that He loves me and my kids. As a mom of multiples she shares her story of starting out as a perfectionist people pleasing mom and by God’s grace growing into a woman who is more patient and loving towards her kids.
She emphasizes the importance of creating an environment where our kids feel cherished and valuable and know that they can come to us with their struggles, questions and failures. I loved the way she talked about teens which is so counter cultural and has been my experience as well. Teenagers get such a bad rap but it doesn’t have to be that way. They just need grace like we all do to make mistakes and parents who point them to Jesus.
Quotes I loved
“But little bit by little bit, I began to anchor myself to the belief that I was worthy of love not because of who I was or wasn’t, but because of who God is and who I am in Christ.”
“Ultimately, I’m not in control of my kids’ lives and decisions…I need to release them and their lives to God. My kids are His first, not mine.”
She emphasizes the importance of creating an environment where our kids feel cherished and valuable and know that they can come to us with their struggles, questions and failures. I loved the way she talked about teens which is so counter cultural and has been my experience as well. Teenagers get such a bad rap but it doesn’t have to be that way. They just need grace like we all do to make mistakes and parents who point them to Jesus.
Quotes I loved
“But little bit by little bit, I began to anchor myself to the belief that I was worthy of love not because of who I was or wasn’t, but because of who God is and who I am in Christ.”
“Ultimately, I’m not in control of my kids’ lives and decisions…I need to release them and their lives to God. My kids are His first, not mine.”
February 22, 2021
I have read many Christian parenting books over the years. Some of the messages in this book I've heard before, but this book is so different! The humble way Crystal presents her story completely changed the way I view parenting and brought many of the messages I've heard before into a perspective that is life changing. Instead of giving parents more systems to try, verses to implement, or steps to follow, Love Centered Parenting gives us a guide of how to be released from the burdens and pressures of parenting through the grace and love of God. It gets to the root of what we as parents, and really everyone, needs more than anything- God's love. This book has challenged me in the most amazing way, and I know I'm going to be reading it over and over to help all of the truths she shares settle in. I'm so thankful for her raw honesty and willingness to be obedient to God's calling. I believe God is going to use this book to set many people free!
October 18, 2023
Comforting read. This book is about focusing on loving your child just for being themselves rather than focusing on their performance, or how other people may think they behave. I appreciated how she emphasizes the relationship with the child over them following every rule every time without complaint. Not that she is condoning willful disobedience, but pointing out the balance of grace which we all need. I also appreciated her making a point for parents to apologize when needed, and even sharing with them an example of a time when we disobeyed and had to suffer consequences. The author shares her own raw experiences which makes the book relatable. Would recommend for a parent that is feeling more frustrated than enjoying time with their child/children.
March 31, 2025
4.5 stars
August 17, 2021
I wholeheartedly believe in letting go and trusting God. Hope that every parent will know when it's time to sit back and let your kids succeed and fail.. and love them no matter what, without your own agenda. Look at your children as God looks at you.
May 4, 2022
This is a parenting-life changing book. I found that I identified with about 90% of the things that the author said in this book. For real. I didn't expect that at all. I though, I know this. This will be a good refresher. But seriously, it opened up my hearts and my heart in an entirely new way. I highlighted so much of the book and have even quoted it to friends. A couple of the statement/quotes I've already memorized because they are just THAT GOOD. Like wow. One of my favorites that just hit me square between the heart ventricles was, "If I always protect my kids from heartache and hurt...then I'm raising them to be children who rely on their mom instead of adults who rely on God."
Wow. I thinks that's what I've been doing as a parent. I didn't think I was parenting out of fear or worry. And yet reading this book has opened my eyes to how I was doing just that.. Simply in a different way than I thought.
But if I raise them simply through love--loving them as Christ loves us--then I will be raising them to be adults (and even teens) who rely on God.
The key is understanding how Christ loves us. Because He doesn't love us while not correcting us. He still corrects us. He still says sin is sin. But regardless of our behavior, He loves us and calls us higher to Himself.
Another quote that I loved was, "You don't yell at a flower that isn't thriving; you water it."
Reading this book has made me much more aware of how I speak to them--words and tone--how much I listen to them, how much I love on them, how critical or grace-filled I am with them.
I know she says toward the beginning of the book that it is for parenting younger children because she is still in the process of raising teenagers so she can't speak to that....I will say, this most definitely is something for parents of teens. I have kids ages 9-15, and this spoke to my heart DEEPLY for all of my kids. I think, in fact, my 15 year old might need it even more, because he knows right from wrong. He's been raised well and he's a really good kid. But when I am so concerned with other's opinions or making sure I get everything right with him....I become more critical and less loving. When I can just focus on God doing a work in him through my love and direction, it is a game changer!
Will be rereading and recommending this book regularly!
Wow. I thinks that's what I've been doing as a parent. I didn't think I was parenting out of fear or worry. And yet reading this book has opened my eyes to how I was doing just that.. Simply in a different way than I thought.
But if I raise them simply through love--loving them as Christ loves us--then I will be raising them to be adults (and even teens) who rely on God.
The key is understanding how Christ loves us. Because He doesn't love us while not correcting us. He still corrects us. He still says sin is sin. But regardless of our behavior, He loves us and calls us higher to Himself.
Another quote that I loved was, "You don't yell at a flower that isn't thriving; you water it."
Reading this book has made me much more aware of how I speak to them--words and tone--how much I listen to them, how much I love on them, how critical or grace-filled I am with them.
I know she says toward the beginning of the book that it is for parenting younger children because she is still in the process of raising teenagers so she can't speak to that....I will say, this most definitely is something for parents of teens. I have kids ages 9-15, and this spoke to my heart DEEPLY for all of my kids. I think, in fact, my 15 year old might need it even more, because he knows right from wrong. He's been raised well and he's a really good kid. But when I am so concerned with other's opinions or making sure I get everything right with him....I become more critical and less loving. When I can just focus on God doing a work in him through my love and direction, it is a game changer!
Will be rereading and recommending this book regularly!
February 23, 2021
I have been following Crystal, the Money Saving Mom, for the last 5 or so years, and always appreciate her authenticity in her posts and podcasts. More recently, she has shared some transformations in her parenting, and how that has dramatically affected her life and the lives of her children. Being a new mom, I was intrigued by her new book, Love-Centered Parenting. I will admit, I’m a bit of a perfectionist. I like to read all the things, do all the research, and try to be the best at whatever it is I do. Parenting is no different, and I want to be the best version of myself I can be for my children. Personal growth is always a good thing, and I had started in on the search for the best parenting advice I could find. I figured a book with a focus on “love” in parenting would be a good read, and since it came from the perspective of someone I already admire, I thought I’d give it a shot.
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That is what this book has been for me. Remarkably freeing. This book was not the typical parenting book that I thought I had picked up. This book, instead, is full of so much wisdom, truth, real life, and, most importantly, relatability. Crystal shows vulnerability through opening up about events and her own personal thoughts and feelings, many of which I also find myself having on a daily basis. These are thoughts and feelings I thought I was alone in having, and I am comforted by the realization that I am not by myself. Moreover, I am never alone because God is with me and He loves me more deeply than I can comprehend. It is this truth that Crystal references throughout her book, and it is one that everyone needs to hear.
I didn’t know how much I needed to read this book until I started reading it. Love-Centered Parenting is transforming my relationship with God, my relationship with myself, and ultimately, my relationship with others.
F R E E I N G
That is what this book has been for me. Remarkably freeing. This book was not the typical parenting book that I thought I had picked up. This book, instead, is full of so much wisdom, truth, real life, and, most importantly, relatability. Crystal shows vulnerability through opening up about events and her own personal thoughts and feelings, many of which I also find myself having on a daily basis. These are thoughts and feelings I thought I was alone in having, and I am comforted by the realization that I am not by myself. Moreover, I am never alone because God is with me and He loves me more deeply than I can comprehend. It is this truth that Crystal references throughout her book, and it is one that everyone needs to hear.
I didn’t know how much I needed to read this book until I started reading it. Love-Centered Parenting is transforming my relationship with God, my relationship with myself, and ultimately, my relationship with others.
July 26, 2021
I loved this parenting book that I heard about on the 3 in 30 podcast -- one of the only podcasts I listen to with some regularity. I loved Crystal's openness, strength, and beautiful journey to finding love and belonging.
Her whole premise is centered on the idea that if we believe we are loved unconditionally by our Heavenly Father, we can love our kids unconditionally as well. I love the idea that we need to focus on love -- love of self, love of others, love of our kids and love of God. If we start from a place of love, we can build such beautiful relationships with our kids.
I loved the different chapters about important topics like lean in and love, cultivating humility, learn to listen, and learn to let go. They all offered great concrete ideas for how to cultivate that characteristic in your parenthood. Not all at once and not perfectly but how to go on the journey to be a more love-centered parent and build lasting and meaningful relationships with your kids. I highlighted a lot of quotes on my ebook app because I just loved how Crystal said so many things.
And I loved her personal stories as well! Crystal is very open about her own journey to love-centered parenting and I connected with her a lot. I appreciated her thoughts about parenting for our kids or parenting for our reputation. I totally do that! And I find myself remembering her stories and anecdotes while I'm parenting throughout the day. I loved how the book ended and how much hope her story has for the future.
A fantastic parenting book that I will be buying!
Her whole premise is centered on the idea that if we believe we are loved unconditionally by our Heavenly Father, we can love our kids unconditionally as well. I love the idea that we need to focus on love -- love of self, love of others, love of our kids and love of God. If we start from a place of love, we can build such beautiful relationships with our kids.
I loved the different chapters about important topics like lean in and love, cultivating humility, learn to listen, and learn to let go. They all offered great concrete ideas for how to cultivate that characteristic in your parenthood. Not all at once and not perfectly but how to go on the journey to be a more love-centered parent and build lasting and meaningful relationships with your kids. I highlighted a lot of quotes on my ebook app because I just loved how Crystal said so many things.
And I loved her personal stories as well! Crystal is very open about her own journey to love-centered parenting and I connected with her a lot. I appreciated her thoughts about parenting for our kids or parenting for our reputation. I totally do that! And I find myself remembering her stories and anecdotes while I'm parenting throughout the day. I loved how the book ended and how much hope her story has for the future.
A fantastic parenting book that I will be buying!
April 9, 2021
This book has taken all of my random thoughts about parenting and boiled it down so anyone can read it. It really is a great resource for all types of parents. Whether you are the parent with no idea of where to start or the parent who has been doing this for a while but needs a tweak, this book is for you. Love Centered Parenting is amazing, and my new go-to baby shower gift.
This book starts with working on yourself, the parent before you can help your child. The building blocks of Love Centered Parenting are the ideas of self-love, love from God, and trust in the atonement of Jesus. Crystal is a Christian and allows her beliefs to permeate everything in her life. I love her insights into different passages in the bible and how they apply to the world of parenting.
The four steps she goes over in Love Centered Parenting are 1) Lean In and Love, 2) Listen Well, 3) Lead with Humility, and 4) Let Go. Read the rest of my review here at The Book Nanny!
This book starts with working on yourself, the parent before you can help your child. The building blocks of Love Centered Parenting are the ideas of self-love, love from God, and trust in the atonement of Jesus. Crystal is a Christian and allows her beliefs to permeate everything in her life. I love her insights into different passages in the bible and how they apply to the world of parenting.
The four steps she goes over in Love Centered Parenting are 1) Lean In and Love, 2) Listen Well, 3) Lead with Humility, and 4) Let Go. Read the rest of my review here at The Book Nanny!
February 23, 2021
I received this book before release for my honest review.
Our kids are older. I was figuring I would learn something for our grandchildren that Lord-willing, someday we will be blessed with. I do not usually read parenting books. I am pleasantly surprised with Crystal's book. First, it is written like she is sitting down with a friend over coffee. Crystal opens her heart and shares past family situations to help us know, we are not alone, and there is a better way. I have already started to implement some of the things she has learned. I read through a chapter at a time to be able to digest it as she encourages us to really look deep at the "whys" of how we currently parent and how to move to a more Love-Centered Parenting. The topic of "live as loved" can be applied to every relationship in anyone's life. I highly recommend this book to anyone who deals with children, young adults, grandchildren, etc.
Our kids are older. I was figuring I would learn something for our grandchildren that Lord-willing, someday we will be blessed with. I do not usually read parenting books. I am pleasantly surprised with Crystal's book. First, it is written like she is sitting down with a friend over coffee. Crystal opens her heart and shares past family situations to help us know, we are not alone, and there is a better way. I have already started to implement some of the things she has learned. I read through a chapter at a time to be able to digest it as she encourages us to really look deep at the "whys" of how we currently parent and how to move to a more Love-Centered Parenting. The topic of "live as loved" can be applied to every relationship in anyone's life. I highly recommend this book to anyone who deals with children, young adults, grandchildren, etc.
March 20, 2021
This book is a MUST READ, even if you aren’t a parent. This is revolutionary material in a culture where everyone seems to be striving for approval and struggling with identity.
In Paine’s powerful personal story, she humbly describes why she had to have a heart transformation as a mom and gives practical advice for how we can also learn to “live loved”.
Personally, this book was a God-given blessing. I recently had a situation with one of my children where I believe I would have lashed out in anger, caring more about my reputation than my child’s heart, but having been in the midst of this book, I was reminded to listen to that child and “lean in and love” and to come alongside them and help and guide them, rather than shame and condemn them.
Paine includes “transforming truths” at the end of each chapter and a practical toolbox at the end of the book. This will be a book I keep close and will refer back to again and again.
In Paine’s powerful personal story, she humbly describes why she had to have a heart transformation as a mom and gives practical advice for how we can also learn to “live loved”.
Personally, this book was a God-given blessing. I recently had a situation with one of my children where I believe I would have lashed out in anger, caring more about my reputation than my child’s heart, but having been in the midst of this book, I was reminded to listen to that child and “lean in and love” and to come alongside them and help and guide them, rather than shame and condemn them.
Paine includes “transforming truths” at the end of each chapter and a practical toolbox at the end of the book. This will be a book I keep close and will refer back to again and again.
January 20, 2022
It was fine. As someone who reads a bunch of parenting books, this is not one but certainly takes a number of ideas and concepts from parenting books and experts (which I don't mind). It's basically a memoir, though. There's a lot of Jesus stuff in there, which if you like talking about Jesus you'll appreciate it, but it can get a bit repetitive if you're not as enamored with talking about Jesus as maybe some folks are. I think leaning into loving your kids is a good reminder, so for that it's worth a quick read. But I feel like the title comes off as a parenting book. For those who do read books that come from experts with related degrees, who cite data and research and conduct qualitative research, etc it might be a surprise to find you're basically reading a memoir. It was fine, though. Written well enough to hold your attention.
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