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All Of My Friends Are Rich
Orphan Leo Cotton has finally built a family, but the advent of bipolar depression wakes him from this dreamlife to reveal dark truths about the man he'd married.
One year later, Leo is lost. Embarrassed by a dead-end job that barely pays the bills, he can't help but notice that those around him are all enjoying success. When his closest friend, Sara, asks him to be her best man, Leo reaches the last straw: how can he possibly afford these lavish festivities on his wages? A Grindr chance encounter reveals that a shortcut to riches does exist . . . but in the end, this reckless route may cost him the loved-ones he aims to impress and welcome terrible danger . . .
Leo's trip will take him afar, but answers lie only within.
One year later, Leo is lost. Embarrassed by a dead-end job that barely pays the bills, he can't help but notice that those around him are all enjoying success. When his closest friend, Sara, asks him to be her best man, Leo reaches the last straw: how can he possibly afford these lavish festivities on his wages? A Grindr chance encounter reveals that a shortcut to riches does exist . . . but in the end, this reckless route may cost him the loved-ones he aims to impress and welcome terrible danger . . .
Leo's trip will take him afar, but answers lie only within.
295 pages, Kindle Edition
First published April 20, 2020
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About the author
Michael Sarais
4 books54 followersBorn in Italy, Michael Sarais has spent the last decade living in London. He achieved his BA in Fashion Journalism from the University of The Arts London before deciding to follow his dream of being an author.
He debuted with the adult queer novel All Of My Friends Are Rich, and he released a children's picture book tie-in titled The Golden Boy. His second novel Out Of Touch will come out in Autumn 2023.
When he is not creating worlds for his often queer and wildly flawed characters, Michael enjoys videogames, anime, and spending his time outdoors with his husky Cloud.
He debuted with the adult queer novel All Of My Friends Are Rich, and he released a children's picture book tie-in titled The Golden Boy. His second novel Out Of Touch will come out in Autumn 2023.
When he is not creating worlds for his often queer and wildly flawed characters, Michael enjoys videogames, anime, and spending his time outdoors with his husky Cloud.
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July 25, 2020
Michael Sarais' debut novel,
All of My Friends Are Rich
, is emotionally searing, thought-provoking, even a little bit sexy. Man, this was good.
Leo is on the verge of turning 30, and he’s not in a good place. His marriage has ended, he has a job he hates and he wishes he could write again, he’s bipolar but doesn’t always remember his meds, and he resents his husband for abandoning him when he was at his lowest.
When Leo’s best friend Sara announces her engagement and asks him to be her best man, he’s excited for her as well as a little bit envious and resentful. But when she talks about a bachelorette party in Ibiza and a wedding in Santorini, his anxieties grow. He wishes he could be like his friends, who seemingly have an unending supply of money and don’t have to order the cheapest thing on the menu.
How can he get enough money to fulfill his best-man responsibilities and relax? A chance encounter on Grindr introduces him to one possibility. But the further down that road he travels, the less in control he feels, until he finds himself jeopardizing the few things that work in his life, and exposing himself to potential danger.
This was a powerful read about one man’s struggle with mental illness, financial anxiety, and happiness. Leo is a fascinating, flawed character who makes some seriously questionable decisions but you can see how his mind and his heart work.
I had a few Bookstagram friends who got their hands on advance copies of this book and raved. I’m so glad this lived up to my expectations, and I can’t wait to see what’s next for Sarais.
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Leo is on the verge of turning 30, and he’s not in a good place. His marriage has ended, he has a job he hates and he wishes he could write again, he’s bipolar but doesn’t always remember his meds, and he resents his husband for abandoning him when he was at his lowest.
When Leo’s best friend Sara announces her engagement and asks him to be her best man, he’s excited for her as well as a little bit envious and resentful. But when she talks about a bachelorette party in Ibiza and a wedding in Santorini, his anxieties grow. He wishes he could be like his friends, who seemingly have an unending supply of money and don’t have to order the cheapest thing on the menu.
How can he get enough money to fulfill his best-man responsibilities and relax? A chance encounter on Grindr introduces him to one possibility. But the further down that road he travels, the less in control he feels, until he finds himself jeopardizing the few things that work in his life, and exposing himself to potential danger.
This was a powerful read about one man’s struggle with mental illness, financial anxiety, and happiness. Leo is a fascinating, flawed character who makes some seriously questionable decisions but you can see how his mind and his heart work.
I had a few Bookstagram friends who got their hands on advance copies of this book and raved. I’m so glad this lived up to my expectations, and I can’t wait to see what’s next for Sarais.
The beauty of Pride Reads continues!!
Check out my list of the best books I read in 2019 at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2020/01/the-best-books-i-read-in-2019.html.
Check out my list of the best books of the decade at https://itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com/2020/01/my-favorite-books-of-decade.html.
See all of my reviews at itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com.
Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/the.bookishworld.of.yrralh/.
May 20, 2020
My first novel!
I am incredibly excited to share Leo's story with the world.
This book is particularly dear to me as I have written it in the middle of a very dark time of my life. Even though much of All Of My Friends Are Rich revolves around sex and can get very raw and explicit at times, it still has a heart and a few themes that I hope manage to reach you.
It's Leo season!
I am incredibly excited to share Leo's story with the world.
This book is particularly dear to me as I have written it in the middle of a very dark time of my life. Even though much of All Of My Friends Are Rich revolves around sex and can get very raw and explicit at times, it still has a heart and a few themes that I hope manage to reach you.
It's Leo season!
May 22, 2020
5 bright shining stars
Leo Cotton is broke, divorced, deeply hurt, and now separated from his big love, Squall his Siberian husky.
Life isn’t easy, he loves and hates his little pills, officially diagnosed as bipolar, he needs them.
Sara is getting married, in Greece for god sake, how will he ever get his hands on money, because he’s the only one in the circle of friends with absolutely no money.
When he finds out Grindr offers more it seems to be the solution to his financial problems.
Not his first choice but hey, he has no boundaries. Prepare yourself for some encounters of all kinds!
Business is doing well, it’s beneficial, only... with being busy to gain money he forgets what’s important and in front of him.
Okay, Leo isn’t always in the right state of mind and doesn’t always make the right decisions, there are a few moments I wanted to shake him and talk (read: shout) some sense into him. Ugh, but awesomely written!
The further in Leo’s journey the more he fucked up and silly me found it all very exciting.
“All of a sudden, you’re a liability, and your emotions are just symptoms to be discounted.”
A debut novel, very impressive! This author has a captivating way of writing. Full of sarcasm, mockery, and vulnerability. A story about best friends, the effects of mental illness, estimates errors, second chances, keeping up appearances, forgiveness, and living with the best people around. I loved the bunch of kind-hearted people we meet.
Following Leo’s life was everything, his ups, and very downs, his delicious sense of humor, just how I like it. He’s snobby at times, looking down his nose to others. His morbid thoughts are interesting to follow. He was a snob but you got to like him, because he’s also real, kind, endearing, and trying hard. It’s a widely written story, exceptionally entertaining! Facing Red and Blue made me quite emotional. Hooray for Sara, she’s the best best-friend on earth! The conflicts were amazingly voiced, real, raw, clear, and heartfelt. The hurt was palpable, the emotional parts ditto. The enlightening prospects were wonderful!
I got a bit drunk of all the glasses and bottles passing by lol.
I’m happy to offer a Montblanc pen to get an autograph <3
For me this story was an absolute winner!
Leo Cotton is broke, divorced, deeply hurt, and now separated from his big love, Squall his Siberian husky.
Life isn’t easy, he loves and hates his little pills, officially diagnosed as bipolar, he needs them.
Sara is getting married, in Greece for god sake, how will he ever get his hands on money, because he’s the only one in the circle of friends with absolutely no money.
When he finds out Grindr offers more it seems to be the solution to his financial problems.
Not his first choice but hey, he has no boundaries. Prepare yourself for some encounters of all kinds!
Business is doing well, it’s beneficial, only... with being busy to gain money he forgets what’s important and in front of him.
Okay, Leo isn’t always in the right state of mind and doesn’t always make the right decisions, there are a few moments I wanted to shake him and talk (read: shout) some sense into him. Ugh, but awesomely written!
The further in Leo’s journey the more he fucked up and silly me found it all very exciting.
“All of a sudden, you’re a liability, and your emotions are just symptoms to be discounted.”
A debut novel, very impressive! This author has a captivating way of writing. Full of sarcasm, mockery, and vulnerability. A story about best friends, the effects of mental illness, estimates errors, second chances, keeping up appearances, forgiveness, and living with the best people around. I loved the bunch of kind-hearted people we meet.
Following Leo’s life was everything, his ups, and very downs, his delicious sense of humor, just how I like it. He’s snobby at times, looking down his nose to others. His morbid thoughts are interesting to follow. He was a snob but you got to like him, because he’s also real, kind, endearing, and trying hard. It’s a widely written story, exceptionally entertaining! Facing Red and Blue made me quite emotional. Hooray for Sara, she’s the best best-friend on earth! The conflicts were amazingly voiced, real, raw, clear, and heartfelt. The hurt was palpable, the emotional parts ditto. The enlightening prospects were wonderful!
I got a bit drunk of all the glasses and bottles passing by lol.
I’m happy to offer a Montblanc pen to get an autograph <3
For me this story was an absolute winner!
January 13, 2021
This story starts as a funny and sarcastic British rom-com; imagine reading Bridget Jones or Boyfriend Material. 29 yo Leo is divorced, hates his ex’s new boyfriend, rents a room, doesn’t like his job, drinks a lot, and is kind of bankrupt. Then his best friend Sara tells him she’s getting married in ... Greece. And Leo needs money, fast!
It seems like the perfect blurb for a British rom-com, but it isn’t. Yeah, it’s funny and sarcastic, but also raw, harsh, and graphic at times. Leo struggles with his bipolar disorder, basically with his life. So when he desperately needs money, and someone offers him to pay for sex, he decides to do it on a whim. After each sex encounter he is less and less in control, and he gets more and more fucked up. His life spirals down fast. I flinched at times when he made another stupid decision and wanted to scream at him: ‘Please Leo, don’t do this!’ And I think my disgust and disbelief was visible on my face when I read certain scenes...
This is not a sweet love story; it’s hard and disturbing at times. Although the writing is uplifting and sarcastic, the story can be quite dark too. It’s also vulnerable, showing Leo’s flaws time and again.
This story reminded me a bit of Yes, Daddy, a book not out yet (June 2021) —although the premise is entirely different. Until about 80% of the story I was sure I’d rate it 3 stars. It was an easy and fast read, I had fun, I liked Leo with all his flaws, and the story is captivating and well written. But at times I flinched a little too much. Then Leo hit rock bottom, and my heart ached. I read on, and, reading about Red and Blue, I cried, and decided this should definitely be 4 stars.
Michael, maybe your next story can be as funny and sarcastic as this one, but a tiny, tiny bit less disturbing?
Aw, I just found out Michael is publishing The golden boy. If you’re not up to All of my friends are rich, please read The golden boy, it’s a kid’s story.
Michael, maybe your next story can be as funny and sarcastic as this one, but a tiny, tiny bit less disturbing?
Aw, I just found out Michael is publishing The golden boy. If you’re not up to All of my friends are rich, please read The golden boy, it’s a kid’s story.
February 29, 2024
Fun, but also very dark and graphic. I consider myself quite open minded, but I audibly gasped at several points while reading this!
May 22, 2020
Originally published on The Nerd Daily | Review by Amy Lehan
Michael Sarais has managed to craft a book that takes you on a journey where you quite literally gag (more than once), laugh, and try not to cry as Leo stumbles through his existence. His decision to make money from being an escort seeping into every corner of his life, despite his self-assurances that wouldn’t happen. Leo is so beautifully flawed, unaware of his self-worth and often downright hilarious, I often found myself wanting to throttle him for his poor choices. The continued struggle Leo faces with his mental health is so real, the way he is not fully aware of how his mental state presents to others really rung true, his mental health was a backdrop to this story that you didn’t feel suffocated by. It was more than a plot point or a box to check to make the story relevant in today’s reading world. The authenticity to Leo’s struggle and his desire to have a life and career he can be proud of is ultimately what made me fall in love with this story, more than Leo’s spark and humour. I wanted Leo to find his path and succeed.
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Michael Sarais has managed to craft a book that takes you on a journey where you quite literally gag (more than once), laugh, and try not to cry as Leo stumbles through his existence. His decision to make money from being an escort seeping into every corner of his life, despite his self-assurances that wouldn’t happen. Leo is so beautifully flawed, unaware of his self-worth and often downright hilarious, I often found myself wanting to throttle him for his poor choices. The continued struggle Leo faces with his mental health is so real, the way he is not fully aware of how his mental state presents to others really rung true, his mental health was a backdrop to this story that you didn’t feel suffocated by. It was more than a plot point or a box to check to make the story relevant in today’s reading world. The authenticity to Leo’s struggle and his desire to have a life and career he can be proud of is ultimately what made me fall in love with this story, more than Leo’s spark and humour. I wanted Leo to find his path and succeed.
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January 5, 2022
Wow! I never expected this book to be so steamy. I mean, I knew what the book was about before reading it, but still! Anw, now for the actual review: this book is so scary because it’s so real. I can just imagine how many people struggle with the difficulties Leo had to go through, and just as easily imagine them taking a similar path down. This book is actually so sad and I’m so happy Leo found his happy ending. To be fair, I think that Leo should have ended up with Andrew, because they’d make a great couple, but I guess ok, it is what it is🤷🏽♂️
And lastly, despite how the author described (in more detail than necessary imo) all the sex scenes of this book, I love how not once was the sexual life of Leo & Duncan shared with the reader. I believe it’s a message of how special the thing they have is, and that it remains private, even from the reader.
A lot of trigger warnings should be added tho, and you should definitely research them up before reading this book! Some are: drug addiction, sex addiction, depression, suicide thoughts, fear of STD and STD discussion, r@pe, gaslighting, etc.
P.S: I don’t recall where I saw this book for the first time, might have been bookstagram or booktube, but for some reason I thought that it was super popular and now I’m weirded out by the fact that it doesn’t even have 190 ratings! It definitely deserves a lot more attention!
And lastly, despite how the author described (in more detail than necessary imo) all the sex scenes of this book, I love how not once was the sexual life of Leo & Duncan shared with the reader. I believe it’s a message of how special the thing they have is, and that it remains private, even from the reader.
A lot of trigger warnings should be added tho, and you should definitely research them up before reading this book! Some are: drug addiction, sex addiction, depression, suicide thoughts, fear of STD and STD discussion, r@pe, gaslighting, etc.
P.S: I don’t recall where I saw this book for the first time, might have been bookstagram or booktube, but for some reason I thought that it was super popular and now I’m weirded out by the fact that it doesn’t even have 190 ratings! It definitely deserves a lot more attention!
June 18, 2020
4.5
I don't even know how to describe this book. Just go in blindly, honestly. Best thing you can do and just enjoy the ride
I don't even know how to describe this book. Just go in blindly, honestly. Best thing you can do and just enjoy the ride
June 13, 2020
4.5 Stars
First of all, thank you so much to Michael for reaching out and sending me a signed copy of All Of My Friends Are Right. I really appreciate it. It's been an absolute pleasure to read and review your book.
This book totally went down a path I wasn't expecting at all. I loved every single thing about it. The writing style, the story, the friendships, the relationships, everything.
The only reason this is 4.5 instead of 5 stars, is soley based on me and not the book. Part way through, I found myself a little uncomfortable with some of the situations Leo was getting himself into and the person he was becoming. I know that's the point of the book. But I did question why I was still reading at that point.
However, I'm so glad I continued. Leo's story is one of huge challenges, not only of financial problems but also mental health problems as well. The combination is toxic and we see Leo make some extremely concerning and questionable choices that quite frankly, had me worrying about him and worry about people that are exactly like him, out in the real world.
I adored Leo and Sara's friendship, they're such beautiful friends. I also really enjoyed Andrew and Leo's friendship too, I thought Andrew was such a genuine friend to Leo despite not always being there. And Leo and Duncan's relationship was adorable.
This book gave me so much more than I was expecting. But I loved it none the less. It was a lot more erotic than I was expecting too!
I really did enjoy All Of My Friends Are Rich, the ending had me in tears, it really is so much more than just a man finding himself becoming an escort in a desperate attempt to raise some fund for his rich best friends wedding and I highly recommend continuing with the story if that's something that you find is putting you off, because you'll reap the rewards at the end. And WOW that ending?! Will there be a second book Michael? HA!
TW: drug abuse, alcohol abuse, suicidal thoughts, depression.
First of all, thank you so much to Michael for reaching out and sending me a signed copy of All Of My Friends Are Right. I really appreciate it. It's been an absolute pleasure to read and review your book.
This book totally went down a path I wasn't expecting at all. I loved every single thing about it. The writing style, the story, the friendships, the relationships, everything.
The only reason this is 4.5 instead of 5 stars, is soley based on me and not the book. Part way through, I found myself a little uncomfortable with some of the situations Leo was getting himself into and the person he was becoming. I know that's the point of the book. But I did question why I was still reading at that point.
However, I'm so glad I continued. Leo's story is one of huge challenges, not only of financial problems but also mental health problems as well. The combination is toxic and we see Leo make some extremely concerning and questionable choices that quite frankly, had me worrying about him and worry about people that are exactly like him, out in the real world.
I adored Leo and Sara's friendship, they're such beautiful friends. I also really enjoyed Andrew and Leo's friendship too, I thought Andrew was such a genuine friend to Leo despite not always being there. And Leo and Duncan's relationship was adorable.
This book gave me so much more than I was expecting. But I loved it none the less. It was a lot more erotic than I was expecting too!
I really did enjoy All Of My Friends Are Rich, the ending had me in tears, it really is so much more than just a man finding himself becoming an escort in a desperate attempt to raise some fund for his rich best friends wedding and I highly recommend continuing with the story if that's something that you find is putting you off, because you'll reap the rewards at the end. And WOW that ending?! Will there be a second book Michael? HA!
TW: drug abuse, alcohol abuse, suicidal thoughts, depression.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
May 24, 2021
It is too much to try to put it in a few words.
Accompanying Leo was a profound and far from easy experience, but it was worth it.
It is a direct reading, without unnecessary rambling, real and close to realities with which one can empathize despite its harshness.
You have to read to understand.
Accompanying Leo was a profound and far from easy experience, but it was worth it.
It is a direct reading, without unnecessary rambling, real and close to realities with which one can empathize despite its harshness.
You have to read to understand.
August 26, 2020
This book is very much out of my comfort zone, but I did think it was a good read. It reminds me a little of Boyfriend Material, the currently popular m/m romance, but messier and more focused on sex instead of romance.
This could have been a very heavy read with the existing themes, and while it did have some emotional punches, it was also a pretty funny read at times, and it ended up being more of a feelgood read than I was expecting.
What I appreciated most about it is how this book was not toned down to be palatable for a broader audience. The gay rep is not made palatable for a cishet audience. The mental illness rep is not made palatable for a neurotypical audience. That's something we don't see quite often enough and I loved that this book was clearly not written for those audiences.
While I did appreciate the book overall, I sometimes found the wording of things to be problematic, and that took me out of the story a little.
CWs: mental illness, (unprotected) sex/sex work, possibility of HIV, past death of parents, alcohol, drugs
This could have been a very heavy read with the existing themes, and while it did have some emotional punches, it was also a pretty funny read at times, and it ended up being more of a feelgood read than I was expecting.
What I appreciated most about it is how this book was not toned down to be palatable for a broader audience. The gay rep is not made palatable for a cishet audience. The mental illness rep is not made palatable for a neurotypical audience. That's something we don't see quite often enough and I loved that this book was clearly not written for those audiences.
While I did appreciate the book overall, I sometimes found the wording of things to be problematic, and that took me out of the story a little.
CWs: mental illness, (unprotected) sex/sex work, possibility of HIV, past death of parents, alcohol, drugs
June 26, 2021
Oooof, what a read.
Honestly, I finished this book yesterday afternoon and I am still not quite sure what to think or where to even begin to think about it. I have talked with some of my friends about it so I'll try to put my thoughts into some coherent sentences (please bear with me). The rest of this review will be underneath the spoiler tag though, as well as trigger warnings.
All in all, I had an interesting time reading this book. I honestly couldn't put it down and read it on one day and during a reading slump no less! This book is here to make you uncomfortable and to feel and as much as I was creeped out, cringing, outright scared for Leo, I appreciated that immensely immediately after reading. I can honestly just recommend you to give it a try, I promise you that you'll love it!
Honestly, I finished this book yesterday afternoon and I am still not quite sure what to think or where to even begin to think about it. I have talked with some of my friends about it so I'll try to put my thoughts into some coherent sentences (please bear with me). The rest of this review will be underneath the spoiler tag though, as well as trigger warnings.
All in all, I had an interesting time reading this book. I honestly couldn't put it down and read it on one day and during a reading slump no less! This book is here to make you uncomfortable and to feel and as much as I was creeped out, cringing, outright scared for Leo, I appreciated that immensely immediately after reading. I can honestly just recommend you to give it a try, I promise you that you'll love it!
July 10, 2020
After seeing the cover and hearing about the book, I couldn't wait to dive in. This book did not disappoint! I love the witty tone, Leo's personality, and the deep truths explored throughout the book. The author does an excellent job of capturing the existential angst and ache for something more we all feel at some point in our lives. I highly recommend this book.
June 25, 2021
3.5
Alright, I've been procrastinating hard on writing my review for this one because I have such complicated feelings about it. This book follows Leo as he struggles to figure out his place in life when all of his friends have loads of money and are getting married or together and all of them seem to have their lives figured out while Leo drowns. Leo's husband broke up with him after he was diagnosed as bipolar and while he finally had answers for his depressive episodes and hypomania, he no longer had a relationship and is struggling hard.
When Leo's best friend Sara gets engaged and asks Leo to be best man, he takes a hard look at his finances and realizes he can't afford the same lifestyle as his friends. This leads to him making a lot of poor decisions and going down a rabbit hole of escorting through Grindr. Men pay him for sex and companionship as he spirals into hypomania.
As a whole I can appreciate this book and the mental health rep. I also loved that this book wasn't written in a way that portrays queerness as idealized and palatable to straight readers. Leo's escapades are messy and sometimes dangerous and realistically awkward and uncomfortable for him. They aren't romanticized and neither is his mental health.
Mild spoilers ahead:
Where I struggled the most with this book was how it was so clearly trying so hard to be inclusive, yet fell short many many times. Lets talk about the fatphobia first. There's multiple comments about body size that portray fat bodies as evil and negative, yet there's a scene where Leo is paid by a fat client, a morbidly obese client as stated in the book, and Leo makes a point of saying how he couldn't feel bad about his own body in the presence of such a huge man. ugh. it was rough. But then he goes on to have sex with the fat character and gets off so obviously it cant be fatphobic *insert eye roll*
Next lets chat about prostitution and sex work. Sex work is a valid form of employment and I was really put off by the intense shaming of sex workers that happens in this. Not only from Leo's friends once they find out he has been escorting and selling himself, but from Leo himself. It's constantly described as shameful and something to be hidden. While I understand this for Leo himself, since he didn't really want to do it and did it only for money, there were so many conversations about sex work in general that were negative and off putting.
Lastly, we've got to talk about how shitty Leo is to his friends and how his friends constantly and instantaneously forgive him. this just seems iffy and I can't actually imagine that it wouldn't take a little groveling to make up for his terrible behavior.
There's also the fact that everything just casually solves itself for Leo in the end. He is miraculously without any STIs after months of having unprotected sex. He somehow doesn't get fired or arrested for stealing a multi-thousand dollar suit and he's just all good at the end. He has one therapy appointment and I wouldn't loved to see more on page therapy and medication rep at the end.
Mental health is messy and unforgiving and can be dangerous and traumatic. To see everything wrapped up nicely in a bow was weird for me. I know that it wasn't that easy for Leo as it seemed, but the way this book ends is the issue, not necessarily the mental health rep itself.
Somehow, with all of my criticism, I would still recommend this book, because it does have redeeming qualities and I do appreciate the effort. As a whole, this book is messy but in a way that works. as long as you're aware of the CWs, I'd absolutely rec this one, especially for mental health rep.
rep: gay man.
Alright, I've been procrastinating hard on writing my review for this one because I have such complicated feelings about it. This book follows Leo as he struggles to figure out his place in life when all of his friends have loads of money and are getting married or together and all of them seem to have their lives figured out while Leo drowns. Leo's husband broke up with him after he was diagnosed as bipolar and while he finally had answers for his depressive episodes and hypomania, he no longer had a relationship and is struggling hard.
When Leo's best friend Sara gets engaged and asks Leo to be best man, he takes a hard look at his finances and realizes he can't afford the same lifestyle as his friends. This leads to him making a lot of poor decisions and going down a rabbit hole of escorting through Grindr. Men pay him for sex and companionship as he spirals into hypomania.
As a whole I can appreciate this book and the mental health rep. I also loved that this book wasn't written in a way that portrays queerness as idealized and palatable to straight readers. Leo's escapades are messy and sometimes dangerous and realistically awkward and uncomfortable for him. They aren't romanticized and neither is his mental health.
Mild spoilers ahead:
Where I struggled the most with this book was how it was so clearly trying so hard to be inclusive, yet fell short many many times. Lets talk about the fatphobia first. There's multiple comments about body size that portray fat bodies as evil and negative, yet there's a scene where Leo is paid by a fat client, a morbidly obese client as stated in the book, and Leo makes a point of saying how he couldn't feel bad about his own body in the presence of such a huge man. ugh. it was rough. But then he goes on to have sex with the fat character and gets off so obviously it cant be fatphobic *insert eye roll*
Next lets chat about prostitution and sex work. Sex work is a valid form of employment and I was really put off by the intense shaming of sex workers that happens in this. Not only from Leo's friends once they find out he has been escorting and selling himself, but from Leo himself. It's constantly described as shameful and something to be hidden. While I understand this for Leo himself, since he didn't really want to do it and did it only for money, there were so many conversations about sex work in general that were negative and off putting.
Lastly, we've got to talk about how shitty Leo is to his friends and how his friends constantly and instantaneously forgive him. this just seems iffy and I can't actually imagine that it wouldn't take a little groveling to make up for his terrible behavior.
There's also the fact that everything just casually solves itself for Leo in the end. He is miraculously without any STIs after months of having unprotected sex. He somehow doesn't get fired or arrested for stealing a multi-thousand dollar suit and he's just all good at the end. He has one therapy appointment and I wouldn't loved to see more on page therapy and medication rep at the end.
Mental health is messy and unforgiving and can be dangerous and traumatic. To see everything wrapped up nicely in a bow was weird for me. I know that it wasn't that easy for Leo as it seemed, but the way this book ends is the issue, not necessarily the mental health rep itself.
Somehow, with all of my criticism, I would still recommend this book, because it does have redeeming qualities and I do appreciate the effort. As a whole, this book is messy but in a way that works. as long as you're aware of the CWs, I'd absolutely rec this one, especially for mental health rep.
rep: gay man.
December 31, 2020
All my Friends are Rich is a debut novel by Michael Sarais that is wildly sexy, thought-provoking, and heartfelt. This book will give you the opportunity to escape and explore Europe (which I GREATLY miss!) and follow in Leo’s footsteps as a manages to find a way to live a healthier and more joyful life in the wake of a year of unexpected twists and turns.
Leo Cotton is a twenty-nine-year-old gay man trying to live out the lavish and luxurious London lifestyle that his friends so easily live. But Leo is not in a good place. His marriage has ended, he is in a job that he absolutely hates, and all he wants to do is write but never feels confident in himself as a writer. Leo has bipolar disorder and struggles to take his medication consistently which can lead him to be involved in very questionable experiences.
Leo’s long-time friend Sara is getting married and asks Leo if he would be her best man. While Leo is excited for Sara and will of course be her best man, he can’t help but also feel depressed and resentful knowing that his best friend is moving on in life. As she talks about her engagement party in Ibiza and wedding in Santorini, Leo constantly worries that the expenses to participate in these trips will bankrupt him. He knows that solely relying on his earnings in his retail work will not provide enough funding for him to participate in the bachelorette party and wedding. Leo constantly wishes he could be like his friends and not have to worry about money on a daily basis.
When Leo finds that a chance encounter on Grindr may provide him with a little extra cash in his pocket, his world spirals into meetings with various men that leave Leo unfulfilled and feeling as if he is quickly losing control. Leo must grapple with sacrificing his emotional and psychological well-being to please others no matter what it costs him.
This book has a little bit of everything. This novel is quite sexy and steamy, speaks to the importance of friendship, tells the story of a man trying to make sense of being bipolar, and champions the importance of self-preservation. Thank you @moby.fict and @ddrosche for this fabulous recommendation!
Leo Cotton is a twenty-nine-year-old gay man trying to live out the lavish and luxurious London lifestyle that his friends so easily live. But Leo is not in a good place. His marriage has ended, he is in a job that he absolutely hates, and all he wants to do is write but never feels confident in himself as a writer. Leo has bipolar disorder and struggles to take his medication consistently which can lead him to be involved in very questionable experiences.
Leo’s long-time friend Sara is getting married and asks Leo if he would be her best man. While Leo is excited for Sara and will of course be her best man, he can’t help but also feel depressed and resentful knowing that his best friend is moving on in life. As she talks about her engagement party in Ibiza and wedding in Santorini, Leo constantly worries that the expenses to participate in these trips will bankrupt him. He knows that solely relying on his earnings in his retail work will not provide enough funding for him to participate in the bachelorette party and wedding. Leo constantly wishes he could be like his friends and not have to worry about money on a daily basis.
When Leo finds that a chance encounter on Grindr may provide him with a little extra cash in his pocket, his world spirals into meetings with various men that leave Leo unfulfilled and feeling as if he is quickly losing control. Leo must grapple with sacrificing his emotional and psychological well-being to please others no matter what it costs him.
This book has a little bit of everything. This novel is quite sexy and steamy, speaks to the importance of friendship, tells the story of a man trying to make sense of being bipolar, and champions the importance of self-preservation. Thank you @moby.fict and @ddrosche for this fabulous recommendation!
June 23, 2021
2.5 starts, rounded up to 3.
TW: Alcoholism, Drug usage and abuse, mental health issues and concerns including bipolar depression, suicidal thoughts, AIDS/HIV concerns, Mention of Heart-attack, Graphic Sexual content among others
After I finished this book, my feelings were all over the place. I am still not sure how exactly I feel about this. I thought if I gave myself a day or two before I sat down to write this review, it would make sense, but it turns out that it's not the case with this book. So, Ill try to make this as coherent as I possibly can but please keep in mind that this would be a long one.
Leo Cotton recently got separated from his husband and has been suffering from bipolar depression for as long as he remembers. He is in a job that he hates and has friends who have money to throw around like confetti. When his best friend, Sara announces that she is all set to ring the bells, Leo gets all caught up thinking about how would he be able to enjoy all the exotic and lavish things his friends have got planned? To make matters worse, Sara wants him to be her best man. When Leo stumbled upon a chance encounter on a gay hookup app, he takes the opportunity and realised he can make money by offering sex / his body and we just go from there.
PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS REVIEW CONTAINS SPOILERS.
To begin with, I found Leo's character extremely unlikable. I know that this was definitely due to his bipolar depression, but saying that makes it feel like it's okay to use mental health issues as an excuse to overlook shitty behaviour and toxic traits. He is a boozy, arrogant, irresponsible, manipulative man-child who wishes to do a lot of things in life but doesn't want to DO THEM. He does have qualities that did make me empathise with him but no for long. His repeated and constant "CONSCIOUS" choice for engaging in activities that he knows would do him no good is very difficult to forgive. Again, I know that this might very well be a part of his hypomania phase (?), but even if it was, there was NO attempt at actually helping himself out. If you want to throw yourself on the road I will save you once, twice, thrice but if it gets a habit and no matter what help I provide you with and you throw it with yourself, then well maybe I DONT HAVE THE TIME FOR YOU ANYMORE. As horrible as it may sound, but it's true. Leo is toxic.
One can argue that people with hypomania do not work that way. But in all honesty, he had a therapist who he VISITED LITERALLY ONLY ONCE (or maybe twice, the second one is towards the end of the book and doesn't count) and has friends who are there to support him in all ways one could ask for - and yet he continues to go about throwing himself on the streets because WHY NOT?
In my opinion, Leo is ungrateful or he is not grateful enough. He self sabotages everything that comes in his way and copes with life by drinking. I am not sure why the drinking was NEVER addressed as an ISSUE big enough when it clearly was but yeah whatever.
Sara as a character is too kind. She is too good. She is also a great friend. I wish I had someone like Sara. But I am not sure if I have the patience and or the energy to deal with people like Leo. I am being honest, I am all in for morally messed up people, people who need help, people who are dealing with a mental health issue. But what I cannot tolerate and stand is repeating your actions that make things only worse. I am a huge believer in the fact that god/universe (in my case, other people including therapists/doctors) can only help you if you want to help yourself. And Leo sort of doesn't want to. He has grown way too comfortable in his mess.
Coming back to Sara. She is a great friend and all that is fine but what really did surprise me was the fact that Alfie, who's Sara's fiance never had an opinion about Sara being engaged in Leo's mess. I am not saying that his opinion, even if negative would affect Sara's choices but I am pretty sure he did feel something right? I happen to know people like Sara in my personal life and I also know how much their relationship with their partners/children suffer because of their constant attempt to fix their best friends. It's draining. And after a while, it will become a problem. And I felt with Leo's case, it should have already been a matter they should have had an opinion about.
Next, coming to the side characters, I felt that each one of them was written quite well. They felt real. I liked two of them quite a lot - Andrew and Duncan. Now, I am not sure what went around between Leo and these two guys. I am very sure that Andrew who is GEM OF PERSON felt something for Leo which probably was a tad bit more than platonic friendship, but it just feels that Leo never saw it or addresses it. I feel that Duncan as a character is also too good to be true but hey, I still love his adorable smile so I am all in for him.
I have been the biggest advocator of redemption for problematic characters. I believe that people can turn around, that we all have the good and the bad inside of us and we can, sometimes with a little bit of help, choose which one do we want to shine brighter. So, for most of the book, I was waiting for the slight kick of realisation to happen! And again, it's there but because Leo as a character is so infuriatingly stuck on ruining his life, it all goes down the drain.
The third act of the story starts right after Leo feels he might have got HIV and thereafter he gets to have a CAKEWALK TO CLEAN TICKET which I don't buy. All conflicts resolve one after another as if it's ever that easy. People forgive and forget what Leo does quite easily. If the book had 10 subplots with 10 different conflicts, ALL OF THEM RESOLVE AND ALL OF THEM SORT OF ENDS WELL which is quite honestly disappointing to read because the problems that Leo had were far too many and quite tricky to deal with. I am all in for fairytales and happily ever afters but this was not one of those books for 280+ pages and suddenly when there's an attempt to that, it feels very out of place.
Mental health representation is done well but the importance given to it is next to negligible. Yes, there is a therapist and maybe in the end when Sara takes Leo to a support group, he may continue, but for the most part, there is a consistent lack to ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE ISSUE which the MC has for quite some time now. Leo stops taking his meds because he is too busy fucking random strangers and drinking wine is the epitome of casual behaviour which I cannot overlook, forgive or forget very easily.
Now, if you have happened to read all of the above, you may be wondering DID YOU EVEN LIKE THIS BOOK? Then the answer is, YES. I did like the attempt to showcase how bipolar disorder/depression can mess you up. It also was efficient to show how important it is to keep a check on your finances and on how much you drink, etc etc. I also enjoyed the pacing of the book. Since it is written in the first person and you get to follow Leo all around, you see what goes around his mind at almost all times.
This book outdoes itself in terms of the sexual encounters Leo has with other men. I enjoyed how each one of them was significantly different from one another and the author did not shy away from being all brutal and graphic with his sex scenes. They are done well and do not read like a cheap erotic novel.
Not sure if this is a problem of the book or something I have in me, but the constant condescending tone of Leo when he was with these men was very difficult to read. I was more interested in their (strangers he met) stories. Even though I know this is the reality of so many older gay men that they live alone and are lonely and would literally pay someone to keep them company, but it still made me sad. I empathised with them 100% more than with the MC because he was just straight-up selfish.
It was also a little odd that even though Leo survived for most of this book by escorting men, there is this narrative that you get by the end of the book that it was not right or not something that Leo should do because he can do better. I think everyone can do better. Those who escort professionally choose ESCORTING despite their circumstances. I am not sure if this was something that was consciously intended but it is there and I felt it was quite offensive to those who perform such stuff.
Anyway, this was too long and I honestly have a lot more to say but maybe that's for another time. As of now, I would like you to pick this book at your own risk. It's not that I don't like this. Contrary to how paradoxical this may sound, I read this book VERY VERY FAST and I am not a fast reader at all. I just have quite a lot of issues with how characterization has been done the kind of arc that has been drawn for a character like Leo but besides that, this was fine.
TW: Alcoholism, Drug usage and abuse, mental health issues and concerns including bipolar depression, suicidal thoughts, AIDS/HIV concerns, Mention of Heart-attack, Graphic Sexual content among others
After I finished this book, my feelings were all over the place. I am still not sure how exactly I feel about this. I thought if I gave myself a day or two before I sat down to write this review, it would make sense, but it turns out that it's not the case with this book. So, Ill try to make this as coherent as I possibly can but please keep in mind that this would be a long one.
Leo Cotton recently got separated from his husband and has been suffering from bipolar depression for as long as he remembers. He is in a job that he hates and has friends who have money to throw around like confetti. When his best friend, Sara announces that she is all set to ring the bells, Leo gets all caught up thinking about how would he be able to enjoy all the exotic and lavish things his friends have got planned? To make matters worse, Sara wants him to be her best man. When Leo stumbled upon a chance encounter on a gay hookup app, he takes the opportunity and realised he can make money by offering sex / his body and we just go from there.
PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS REVIEW CONTAINS SPOILERS.
To begin with, I found Leo's character extremely unlikable. I know that this was definitely due to his bipolar depression, but saying that makes it feel like it's okay to use mental health issues as an excuse to overlook shitty behaviour and toxic traits. He is a boozy, arrogant, irresponsible, manipulative man-child who wishes to do a lot of things in life but doesn't want to DO THEM. He does have qualities that did make me empathise with him but no for long. His repeated and constant "CONSCIOUS" choice for engaging in activities that he knows would do him no good is very difficult to forgive. Again, I know that this might very well be a part of his hypomania phase (?), but even if it was, there was NO attempt at actually helping himself out. If you want to throw yourself on the road I will save you once, twice, thrice but if it gets a habit and no matter what help I provide you with and you throw it with yourself, then well maybe I DONT HAVE THE TIME FOR YOU ANYMORE. As horrible as it may sound, but it's true. Leo is toxic.
One can argue that people with hypomania do not work that way. But in all honesty, he had a therapist who he VISITED LITERALLY ONLY ONCE (or maybe twice, the second one is towards the end of the book and doesn't count) and has friends who are there to support him in all ways one could ask for - and yet he continues to go about throwing himself on the streets because WHY NOT?
In my opinion, Leo is ungrateful or he is not grateful enough. He self sabotages everything that comes in his way and copes with life by drinking. I am not sure why the drinking was NEVER addressed as an ISSUE big enough when it clearly was but yeah whatever.
Sara as a character is too kind. She is too good. She is also a great friend. I wish I had someone like Sara. But I am not sure if I have the patience and or the energy to deal with people like Leo. I am being honest, I am all in for morally messed up people, people who need help, people who are dealing with a mental health issue. But what I cannot tolerate and stand is repeating your actions that make things only worse. I am a huge believer in the fact that god/universe (in my case, other people including therapists/doctors) can only help you if you want to help yourself. And Leo sort of doesn't want to. He has grown way too comfortable in his mess.
Coming back to Sara. She is a great friend and all that is fine but what really did surprise me was the fact that Alfie, who's Sara's fiance never had an opinion about Sara being engaged in Leo's mess. I am not saying that his opinion, even if negative would affect Sara's choices but I am pretty sure he did feel something right? I happen to know people like Sara in my personal life and I also know how much their relationship with their partners/children suffer because of their constant attempt to fix their best friends. It's draining. And after a while, it will become a problem. And I felt with Leo's case, it should have already been a matter they should have had an opinion about.
Next, coming to the side characters, I felt that each one of them was written quite well. They felt real. I liked two of them quite a lot - Andrew and Duncan. Now, I am not sure what went around between Leo and these two guys. I am very sure that Andrew who is GEM OF PERSON felt something for Leo which probably was a tad bit more than platonic friendship, but it just feels that Leo never saw it or addresses it. I feel that Duncan as a character is also too good to be true but hey, I still love his adorable smile so I am all in for him.
I have been the biggest advocator of redemption for problematic characters. I believe that people can turn around, that we all have the good and the bad inside of us and we can, sometimes with a little bit of help, choose which one do we want to shine brighter. So, for most of the book, I was waiting for the slight kick of realisation to happen! And again, it's there but because Leo as a character is so infuriatingly stuck on ruining his life, it all goes down the drain.
The third act of the story starts right after Leo feels he might have got HIV and thereafter he gets to have a CAKEWALK TO CLEAN TICKET which I don't buy. All conflicts resolve one after another as if it's ever that easy. People forgive and forget what Leo does quite easily. If the book had 10 subplots with 10 different conflicts, ALL OF THEM RESOLVE AND ALL OF THEM SORT OF ENDS WELL which is quite honestly disappointing to read because the problems that Leo had were far too many and quite tricky to deal with. I am all in for fairytales and happily ever afters but this was not one of those books for 280+ pages and suddenly when there's an attempt to that, it feels very out of place.
Mental health representation is done well but the importance given to it is next to negligible. Yes, there is a therapist and maybe in the end when Sara takes Leo to a support group, he may continue, but for the most part, there is a consistent lack to ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE ISSUE which the MC has for quite some time now. Leo stops taking his meds because he is too busy fucking random strangers and drinking wine is the epitome of casual behaviour which I cannot overlook, forgive or forget very easily.
Now, if you have happened to read all of the above, you may be wondering DID YOU EVEN LIKE THIS BOOK? Then the answer is, YES. I did like the attempt to showcase how bipolar disorder/depression can mess you up. It also was efficient to show how important it is to keep a check on your finances and on how much you drink, etc etc. I also enjoyed the pacing of the book. Since it is written in the first person and you get to follow Leo all around, you see what goes around his mind at almost all times.
This book outdoes itself in terms of the sexual encounters Leo has with other men. I enjoyed how each one of them was significantly different from one another and the author did not shy away from being all brutal and graphic with his sex scenes. They are done well and do not read like a cheap erotic novel.
Not sure if this is a problem of the book or something I have in me, but the constant condescending tone of Leo when he was with these men was very difficult to read. I was more interested in their (strangers he met) stories. Even though I know this is the reality of so many older gay men that they live alone and are lonely and would literally pay someone to keep them company, but it still made me sad. I empathised with them 100% more than with the MC because he was just straight-up selfish.
It was also a little odd that even though Leo survived for most of this book by escorting men, there is this narrative that you get by the end of the book that it was not right or not something that Leo should do because he can do better. I think everyone can do better. Those who escort professionally choose ESCORTING despite their circumstances. I am not sure if this was something that was consciously intended but it is there and I felt it was quite offensive to those who perform such stuff.
Anyway, this was too long and I honestly have a lot more to say but maybe that's for another time. As of now, I would like you to pick this book at your own risk. It's not that I don't like this. Contrary to how paradoxical this may sound, I read this book VERY VERY FAST and I am not a fast reader at all. I just have quite a lot of issues with how characterization has been done the kind of arc that has been drawn for a character like Leo but besides that, this was fine.
May 7, 2023
Leo is orphaned and separated from his older husband. He works a job he absolutely hates selling high end clothing that he can't afford. His best friend is getting married and has a destination hen do and wedding that he can't afford.
This leads him down a road if selling sex for money.
It's better to go into this book further without knowing any more.
I was frustrated at a lot of the situations that Leo got himself into. The depression felt heavy and accurate. There is, by design, way too much sex but almost none of it feels sexy.
This is such a hard book to rate. It was a really good read but it made me uncomfortable; which I think it is meant to do. The relationship Leo builds with Duncan is adorable. My favorite part of the book was the relationship between Leo and Sara. And the ENDING. I hope there will be a second book.
A couple of times I would get confused with the number of characters and not remember if this was the friend that worked with Leo or the hot one that told him about the escorting app and all of the supporting female characters did sort of feel like various shades of the same person. That all said, I think the important message here about mental health and coping with bipolar makes these slight negatives worth dealing with. Your mileage may vary as well with these negatives. I was pretty put off by the amount of sex in the book, as that's not my vibe, so maybe I'm being a bit nit-picky? Overall I know this will stick with me and I would read a sequel in a heartbeat.
Thank you to the author who provided me with a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
This leads him down a road if selling sex for money.
It's better to go into this book further without knowing any more.
I was frustrated at a lot of the situations that Leo got himself into. The depression felt heavy and accurate. There is, by design, way too much sex but almost none of it feels sexy.
This is such a hard book to rate. It was a really good read but it made me uncomfortable; which I think it is meant to do. The relationship Leo builds with Duncan is adorable. My favorite part of the book was the relationship between Leo and Sara. And the ENDING. I hope there will be a second book.
A couple of times I would get confused with the number of characters and not remember if this was the friend that worked with Leo or the hot one that told him about the escorting app and all of the supporting female characters did sort of feel like various shades of the same person. That all said, I think the important message here about mental health and coping with bipolar makes these slight negatives worth dealing with. Your mileage may vary as well with these negatives. I was pretty put off by the amount of sex in the book, as that's not my vibe, so maybe I'm being a bit nit-picky? Overall I know this will stick with me and I would read a sequel in a heartbeat.
Thank you to the author who provided me with a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
March 13, 2021
This book hit me hard
June 4, 2020
Wow!!! I still have to wrap my around the fact, that this book is a debut. I already finished it a couple of days ago but needed time, to at least give it a try, to cover the - to me - most important and striking parts in my review; which I know I will be failing. So all I can ask you to do now is: READ THIS BOOK!!!
Michael Sarais has a powerful way with words and he uses it excellently. He approaches major subjects in our (western?) society in a fresh and unique way. His words sometimes are not „careful“ but direct and honest. The vibe the book gets with it is real. So very real. Everything in this book feels so very real, sometimes to a degree it makes you uncomfortable, sometimes it makes you cry but most of all it makes you FEEL!
Front and center are two main aspects: mental health and friendship. The author describes in an impressive way how mental illness messes with lives and how friendships can be the only net that catches you. And in the middle of it all Michael Sarais mixes in the perfect amount of romance and manages to sooth my HEA craving heart :) without taking away anything from the message in his book!!!
Although the adventures Leo is going on, may not sound very „ordinary every day life“, it got me thinking: what measures am I taking to prove to others „that I‘ve made it“, that I measure up to all the success others have. The book made me think a lot. Still does. In a good way. The best way.
Michael Sarais has a powerful way with words and he uses it excellently. He approaches major subjects in our (western?) society in a fresh and unique way. His words sometimes are not „careful“ but direct and honest. The vibe the book gets with it is real. So very real. Everything in this book feels so very real, sometimes to a degree it makes you uncomfortable, sometimes it makes you cry but most of all it makes you FEEL!
Front and center are two main aspects: mental health and friendship. The author describes in an impressive way how mental illness messes with lives and how friendships can be the only net that catches you. And in the middle of it all Michael Sarais mixes in the perfect amount of romance and manages to sooth my HEA craving heart :) without taking away anything from the message in his book!!!
Although the adventures Leo is going on, may not sound very „ordinary every day life“, it got me thinking: what measures am I taking to prove to others „that I‘ve made it“, that I measure up to all the success others have. The book made me think a lot. Still does. In a good way. The best way.
September 18, 2022
Review Time ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I am so used to reading YA books that All My Friends Are Rich was both refreshing and shocking in equal measure.
This story is wonderful.
It is raw. Tragic. Scary. Beautiful. Funny. Life affirming and so much more.
"Orphan Leo Cotton has finally built a family, but the advent of bipolar depression wakes him from this dreamlife to reveal dark truths about the man he'd married. One year later, Leo is lost. Embarrassed by a dead-end job that barely pays the bills, he can't help but notice that those around him are all enjoying success. When his closest friend, Sara, asks him to be her best man, Leo reaches the last straw: how can he possibly afford these lavish festivities on his wages? A Grindr chance encounter reveals that a shortcut to riches does exist . . . but in the end, this reckless route may cost him the loved-ones he aims to impress and welcome terrible danger . . . Leo's trip will take him afar, but answers lie only within."
Leo is fundamentally flawed as a character and whilst we often see this in other stories, Leo's deterioration is catastrophic and hard to read at times. Ultimately though he is loveable and this is where Michael really shows he is a master of his craft. He was able to make Leo likeable even when he really wasn't, he gave Leo so many different layers that as the reader you a rooting for him so hard, at one point I actually said "for f#@k sake Leo" out loud in a coffee shop much to the despair of a young mother next to me.
The pacing is perfect, there is no filler, the story rolls along and I really struggled to put this down.
Many reviews have commented on how graphic the novel is. It really is. It's gritty, raw, dark, filthy and you will cringe at points, BUT it all serves a purpose as it highlights brilliantly Leo's struggles with his mental health and just how unwell he became throughout most of the book. It is also a fantastic insight into gay culture and sexuality, which I know for a fact is true to life.
The mental health aspect is handled amazingly well and it was refreshing to read something so hard hitting and honest.
This is book about life, love, friendship and ultimately finding yourself despite your flaws and I bloody loved it.
Easiest 5 stars of the year!
I am so used to reading YA books that All My Friends Are Rich was both refreshing and shocking in equal measure.
This story is wonderful.
It is raw. Tragic. Scary. Beautiful. Funny. Life affirming and so much more.
"Orphan Leo Cotton has finally built a family, but the advent of bipolar depression wakes him from this dreamlife to reveal dark truths about the man he'd married. One year later, Leo is lost. Embarrassed by a dead-end job that barely pays the bills, he can't help but notice that those around him are all enjoying success. When his closest friend, Sara, asks him to be her best man, Leo reaches the last straw: how can he possibly afford these lavish festivities on his wages? A Grindr chance encounter reveals that a shortcut to riches does exist . . . but in the end, this reckless route may cost him the loved-ones he aims to impress and welcome terrible danger . . . Leo's trip will take him afar, but answers lie only within."
Leo is fundamentally flawed as a character and whilst we often see this in other stories, Leo's deterioration is catastrophic and hard to read at times. Ultimately though he is loveable and this is where Michael really shows he is a master of his craft. He was able to make Leo likeable even when he really wasn't, he gave Leo so many different layers that as the reader you a rooting for him so hard, at one point I actually said "for f#@k sake Leo" out loud in a coffee shop much to the despair of a young mother next to me.
The pacing is perfect, there is no filler, the story rolls along and I really struggled to put this down.
Many reviews have commented on how graphic the novel is. It really is. It's gritty, raw, dark, filthy and you will cringe at points, BUT it all serves a purpose as it highlights brilliantly Leo's struggles with his mental health and just how unwell he became throughout most of the book. It is also a fantastic insight into gay culture and sexuality, which I know for a fact is true to life.
The mental health aspect is handled amazingly well and it was refreshing to read something so hard hitting and honest.
This is book about life, love, friendship and ultimately finding yourself despite your flaws and I bloody loved it.
Easiest 5 stars of the year!
May 5, 2020
All My Friends Are Rich by Michael Sarais @michaelsarais ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ A beautifully written story that held my attention from the first page to the very last. The author has the ability to draw you in with a sharp sense of style and wit.
Leo is a young gay man in London who is struggling with mental illness, feelings of inadequacy that stem from a horrible breakup, and not having enough money to keep up with his rich friends. The stress leads him to do questionable things that send him into a downward spiral.
I love how the story is told with real, raw emotion. (I cried along with him at times) Well done Michael! Thank you for sharing your work with me.
Leo is a young gay man in London who is struggling with mental illness, feelings of inadequacy that stem from a horrible breakup, and not having enough money to keep up with his rich friends. The stress leads him to do questionable things that send him into a downward spiral.
I love how the story is told with real, raw emotion. (I cried along with him at times) Well done Michael! Thank you for sharing your work with me.
May 8, 2020
I had the pleasure of being offered an early copy of this little novel here, the debut from @michaelsarais. All My Friends Are Rich follows Leo, a man continuously trying to keep his mental health in check while he faces a constant self proclaimed drive to keep up with his friends, who he sees as being much more successful than him. I have to admit, that point was something that I connected to almost instantly. I’ve spent years battling the inner demons of jealousy and resentment. I mean, if we’re all being honest, I’m sure most of us have. Luckily for me, I never had to make the choices that confront Leo. This book had moments that made me smile, and others that made me squirm. Sarais has a great narrative voice and has created some truly interesting characters and relationships. It’s a quick read that at times reminded me of Bret Easton Ellis’s earlier works, only with a lot more sex and Britishness.
July 14, 2023
What if you are down on your luck and your best friends can’t seem to notice? And you feel like you’re alone in facing this hurdle? What do you do?
In this HBO’s Looking meets Secret Diary of a Call Girl with a hint of Two Broke Girls, you will go on a journey - a naughty but financially rewarding one - with Leo Cotton.
The heat level has definitely risen in LDN and continental Europe! Well, not all the time. That thing with the Gatwick- Bulgaria fella... Yikes!
All of My Friends are Rich is a fun read that keeps you engaged throughout. But it’s not just about Leo’s escapades. Michael Sarais dives into tough topics such as mental health. It makes you wonder what is going to happen next for Leo, the MC in Sarais’ debut novel, and if it’s going to end well for the MC.
In this HBO’s Looking meets Secret Diary of a Call Girl with a hint of Two Broke Girls, you will go on a journey - a naughty but financially rewarding one - with Leo Cotton.
The heat level has definitely risen in LDN and continental Europe! Well, not all the time. That thing with the Gatwick- Bulgaria fella... Yikes!
All of My Friends are Rich is a fun read that keeps you engaged throughout. But it’s not just about Leo’s escapades. Michael Sarais dives into tough topics such as mental health. It makes you wonder what is going to happen next for Leo, the MC in Sarais’ debut novel, and if it’s going to end well for the MC.
April 19, 2020
I read an estate copy of this book provided by Michael.
I found 'All of My Firends Are Rich' very catchy and intriguing.
Well written, got me hooked straight away.
Strongly recommended!
I found 'All of My Firends Are Rich' very catchy and intriguing.
Well written, got me hooked straight away.
Strongly recommended!
January 31, 2021
TW/CW: Drug use, explicit sex scenes, alcohol, divorce
Ever since I saw this book on the authors Instagram I knew I just had to read it. Boy! was I right. I absolutely devoured this book. If I didn't have to work, I'd probably would've finished it earlier.
*Leo Cotton hasn't had it easy lately. Entering into his 30's he feels like a failure. He's soon to be divorced, he's at a crappy job he hates, and he hasn't been in the mood to write. Not only that but, as a result of not taking his meds...his bipolar is acting up and he's engaging in some rather questionable behavior. After his best friend Sara asks him to be her best man, Leo starts to worry about how he's going to afford going and participating in this fabulous and rather expensive wedding. He starts to panic of course because Leo's friends are rich. They don't have to worry about their credit cards declining or worrying about when their next meal is.
After freaking out about this new expense, Leo starts to lurk on the app Grindr. He starts to engage in activities that eventually lead him to spiral out of control. He starts realizing how he doesn't want to lose all that's near and dear to him, and he definitely doesn't want to lose on the possibility of happiness again.
I have to say that Sarais did an absolutely amazing job capturing Leo's character. Leo was such an amazing and complex character. There were so many moments I wanted to slap him and other times I wanted to reach out and hug him. This story did a great job shedding a spotlight on mental illness especially when it comes to being a male with mental illness. I love the LGBTQ representation and I'm also glad there were important issues addressed in the book that are were and still are prevalent in today's society. Also, can we just appreciate the spiciness that is splashed between these pages? Mr. Sarais.....well done!. Overall, I absolutely loved this book and I will say that it's definitely my favorite book of 2021 so far. Huge thanks to Michael for reaching out and providing me with a copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.
Ever since I saw this book on the authors Instagram I knew I just had to read it. Boy! was I right. I absolutely devoured this book. If I didn't have to work, I'd probably would've finished it earlier.
*Leo Cotton hasn't had it easy lately. Entering into his 30's he feels like a failure. He's soon to be divorced, he's at a crappy job he hates, and he hasn't been in the mood to write. Not only that but, as a result of not taking his meds...his bipolar is acting up and he's engaging in some rather questionable behavior. After his best friend Sara asks him to be her best man, Leo starts to worry about how he's going to afford going and participating in this fabulous and rather expensive wedding. He starts to panic of course because Leo's friends are rich. They don't have to worry about their credit cards declining or worrying about when their next meal is.
After freaking out about this new expense, Leo starts to lurk on the app Grindr. He starts to engage in activities that eventually lead him to spiral out of control. He starts realizing how he doesn't want to lose all that's near and dear to him, and he definitely doesn't want to lose on the possibility of happiness again.
I have to say that Sarais did an absolutely amazing job capturing Leo's character. Leo was such an amazing and complex character. There were so many moments I wanted to slap him and other times I wanted to reach out and hug him. This story did a great job shedding a spotlight on mental illness especially when it comes to being a male with mental illness. I love the LGBTQ representation and I'm also glad there were important issues addressed in the book that are were and still are prevalent in today's society. Also, can we just appreciate the spiciness that is splashed between these pages? Mr. Sarais.....well done!. Overall, I absolutely loved this book and I will say that it's definitely my favorite book of 2021 so far. Huge thanks to Michael for reaching out and providing me with a copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.
July 12, 2020
A fast, funny, shamelessly gay adventure that doesn't shy away from the more graphic side of real life.
First of all, the best thing about this novel is definitely the friendship between Leo and Sara - Sara especially is a really fun and enjoyable character, acting not only as a pillar of support for Leo but shining in her own right. She very much typifies a sort of London girl that you don't see in fiction very often, and I loved her feisty spirit and more vulnerable side too.
Another huge positive of the novel is that the author doesn't shy away from the grim realities of things such as sex work, gay sex in general and mental health. In fact mental health is handled really well in this debut, and it's good to see an honest portrayal of these issues and how this can impact an individual's life in all areas, whether that's love, sex or anything else. Of course, this not shying away from certain topics does mean that the book is pretty graphic (lots of sex scenes, all well-written) which may be a bit of a turn off for some readers.
Down to more technical details, and I do think that some parts of the plot were contrived and a bit too cheesy considering the rest of the book has a more gritty feel. I also think that some of the writing needed further tweaking here and there - there are moments where it doesn't feel as strong as other sections which is a shame as when it's good, it's really good.
These are minor blips though, and I can see why other people definitely loved this one - it's a strong debut and definitely a fun frolic through a certain part of gay culture that isn't often spoken about. Looking forward to seeing what the author does next!
4 stars
First of all, the best thing about this novel is definitely the friendship between Leo and Sara - Sara especially is a really fun and enjoyable character, acting not only as a pillar of support for Leo but shining in her own right. She very much typifies a sort of London girl that you don't see in fiction very often, and I loved her feisty spirit and more vulnerable side too.
Another huge positive of the novel is that the author doesn't shy away from the grim realities of things such as sex work, gay sex in general and mental health. In fact mental health is handled really well in this debut, and it's good to see an honest portrayal of these issues and how this can impact an individual's life in all areas, whether that's love, sex or anything else. Of course, this not shying away from certain topics does mean that the book is pretty graphic (lots of sex scenes, all well-written) which may be a bit of a turn off for some readers.
Down to more technical details, and I do think that some parts of the plot were contrived and a bit too cheesy considering the rest of the book has a more gritty feel. I also think that some of the writing needed further tweaking here and there - there are moments where it doesn't feel as strong as other sections which is a shame as when it's good, it's really good.
These are minor blips though, and I can see why other people definitely loved this one - it's a strong debut and definitely a fun frolic through a certain part of gay culture that isn't often spoken about. Looking forward to seeing what the author does next!
4 stars
May 22, 2020
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#allmyfriendsarerich by @michaelsaris
On the surface the protagonist Leo seems somewhat superficial as he laments on the shortcomings of his livelihood, including the recent divorce from husband Jake and ongoing psychiatric intervention related to his mental health.
However as the novel quickly explores the traits of Leo’s trauma resulting in his somewhat floored characteristics, the reader soon learns that they are witnessing an experience of self actualisation. They are observing (& sometimes scrutinising) the story of how someone comes to terms with their inner saboteur masked by; risk-taking behaviours; judgement of those around and the isolation both intrinsic and physical that comes when true friendships are tested.
This book with all its confronting moments and explicit sexcapades puts it ‘tentacles’ on a unique awakening experience.
The friendship between Sara and Leo are so relatable. The narrative voice is clear, like one of your sassy mates with heart is giving you the low-down on their adventures. And while at times you feel you understand the direction of the story, there are moments of pure joy in the reflection and awareness brought to life as Leo fights to ‘carve [his] own path’.
Certainly this book would appeal to many within the LGBTQIAP+ community, however for all, it is a lesson on: mental health and understanding behaviour and the people around us, synonymously with coming to terms with our own history.
#allmyfriendsarerich by @michaelsaris
On the surface the protagonist Leo seems somewhat superficial as he laments on the shortcomings of his livelihood, including the recent divorce from husband Jake and ongoing psychiatric intervention related to his mental health.
However as the novel quickly explores the traits of Leo’s trauma resulting in his somewhat floored characteristics, the reader soon learns that they are witnessing an experience of self actualisation. They are observing (& sometimes scrutinising) the story of how someone comes to terms with their inner saboteur masked by; risk-taking behaviours; judgement of those around and the isolation both intrinsic and physical that comes when true friendships are tested.
This book with all its confronting moments and explicit sexcapades puts it ‘tentacles’ on a unique awakening experience.
The friendship between Sara and Leo are so relatable. The narrative voice is clear, like one of your sassy mates with heart is giving you the low-down on their adventures. And while at times you feel you understand the direction of the story, there are moments of pure joy in the reflection and awareness brought to life as Leo fights to ‘carve [his] own path’.
Certainly this book would appeal to many within the LGBTQIAP+ community, however for all, it is a lesson on: mental health and understanding behaviour and the people around us, synonymously with coming to terms with our own history.
August 22, 2020
Cosas que me gustaron desde el principio :
la forma que representa la ansiedad 100/100
Visita del psiquiatra
Divorcio gay.
No me jodas, me sentía como Leo.
La enfermedad mental de Leo está hermosamente retratada, me encanta...
Y esta frase:
"Nobody prepares you
for the amount of gaslighting you receive when you’re diagnosed with a
mental issue. Nobody prepares you for how much you’ll be abused on the
matter. All of a sudden, you’re a liability, and your emotions are just
symptoms to be discounted."
"Nadie te prepara para la cantidad de luz de gas que recibes cuando te diagnostican un problema mental. Nadie te prepara para lo mucho que abusarán de ti al respecto. De repente, eres una carga y tus emociones son solo síntomas que deben descartarse."
Aprendí la palabra:
Gaslighting:
El abuso emocional más sutil. Una forma de manipulación utilizada para hacer que la víctima dude de su propio criterio.
Ojala regresa con el Búlgaro. Yo me enamoré de Peta, jaja fue un momento muy suave.
Me ha enseñado la cultura gay.
Oh la abstención de antidepresivos son lo peor.
Phil 😢😢 también quedate con Phil
Van como mil lloradas que me echo a lo largo del libro.
Pero también he reído.
Las miles formas de sexo.
Sabía lo que iba a pasar, y me dolía por Leo.
Tensión, Tensión. D:
Leo... ay mi corazón
Y... también debo decir que está uno mismo cambiar, pero con una red de ayuda se puede.
Me gustó mucho Andrew.
Creo que es la clase de libro que hace tiempo he querido leer.
Gracias.
Enfermedad mental, hermosamente retratada.
Solo que, Michael? Ese final? En serio? Me gustó, la vida no es perfecta.
De mis libros favoritos.
Gracias. 📚❤
la forma que representa la ansiedad 100/100
Visita del psiquiatra
Divorcio gay.
No me jodas, me sentía como Leo.
La enfermedad mental de Leo está hermosamente retratada, me encanta...
Y esta frase:
"Nobody prepares you
for the amount of gaslighting you receive when you’re diagnosed with a
mental issue. Nobody prepares you for how much you’ll be abused on the
matter. All of a sudden, you’re a liability, and your emotions are just
symptoms to be discounted."
"Nadie te prepara para la cantidad de luz de gas que recibes cuando te diagnostican un problema mental. Nadie te prepara para lo mucho que abusarán de ti al respecto. De repente, eres una carga y tus emociones son solo síntomas que deben descartarse."
Aprendí la palabra:
Gaslighting:
El abuso emocional más sutil. Una forma de manipulación utilizada para hacer que la víctima dude de su propio criterio.
Ojala regresa con el Búlgaro. Yo me enamoré de Peta, jaja fue un momento muy suave.
Me ha enseñado la cultura gay.
Oh la abstención de antidepresivos son lo peor.
Phil 😢😢 también quedate con Phil
Van como mil lloradas que me echo a lo largo del libro.
Pero también he reído.
Las miles formas de sexo.
Sabía lo que iba a pasar, y me dolía por Leo.
Tensión, Tensión. D:
Leo... ay mi corazón
Y... también debo decir que está uno mismo cambiar, pero con una red de ayuda se puede.
Me gustó mucho Andrew.
Creo que es la clase de libro que hace tiempo he querido leer.
Gracias.
Enfermedad mental, hermosamente retratada.
Solo que, Michael? Ese final? En serio? Me gustó, la vida no es perfecta.
De mis libros favoritos.
Gracias. 📚❤
September 26, 2020
Leo Cotton is a mirror reflection of any gay male who internalizes the mental anguish of not living up to gay façade of success. Most particularly in the gay community- there is this unattainable aspiration for an indispensable income, designer accessories, and an athletic physique. I lived in San Francisco and I am a gay male… Trust me, it’s a thing. His rich best friend is also getting married.
“Aw, Congratulations!” is not the first thing that comes to mind when Leo finds out how expensive the wedding venue and festivities come to be. What is one to do when retail is not paying the bills, let alone the additional costs of maintaining a posh network of friends? Did I mention he is also in the process of getting a divorce? On top of this, Leo is undergoing treatment for newly diagnosed bi-polar disorder.
Michael Sarais does not hesitate to expose the naked truths of the love dynamics between men. In a New York minute, a man may go from being gloriously fucked to being royally fucked over. Sarais seamlessly weaves a plot that addresses the contrast between consensual intimacy and objectification. There are some raw and unpleasant scenes in this story, and I’ll tell you this…. they are absolutely necessary! Gay love is never a pretty picture. I’d wager that virtually any gay male who reads this book understands this reality intimately. The pursuit of love in a discriminating world is inherently messy and emotionally harrowing. Leo Cotton may live in London, yet I see him in every corner of my own life.
“Aw, Congratulations!” is not the first thing that comes to mind when Leo finds out how expensive the wedding venue and festivities come to be. What is one to do when retail is not paying the bills, let alone the additional costs of maintaining a posh network of friends? Did I mention he is also in the process of getting a divorce? On top of this, Leo is undergoing treatment for newly diagnosed bi-polar disorder.
Michael Sarais does not hesitate to expose the naked truths of the love dynamics between men. In a New York minute, a man may go from being gloriously fucked to being royally fucked over. Sarais seamlessly weaves a plot that addresses the contrast between consensual intimacy and objectification. There are some raw and unpleasant scenes in this story, and I’ll tell you this…. they are absolutely necessary! Gay love is never a pretty picture. I’d wager that virtually any gay male who reads this book understands this reality intimately. The pursuit of love in a discriminating world is inherently messy and emotionally harrowing. Leo Cotton may live in London, yet I see him in every corner of my own life.
June 9, 2020
All my friends are rich is the first novel from Michael Sarais. Following Leo, a near 30 year old man, living in London who still shared custody of his husky with his ex husband and is, quite frankly, broke and in a job he despises.
When his best friend Sara gets engaged with plans for a grand wedding in Santorini, Leo has to resort to some... different tactics to try and raise the cash.
All My Friends Are Rich explores themes such as mental health, alcohol and drugs use and, towards the end, HIV. I will say now, if scenes of quite descriptive sex, is not something you're comfortable with them this book might not be for you. HOWEVER, explicit scenes aside, Michael Sarais does a fantastic job of telling Leo's story and how he struggles to keep a hold of the different elements in his life as they start to unravel and intertwine. I liked seeing the interactions with Leo's friends and particularly his ex husband and was interested in the development and the overall arc that Leo has with them.
For a first novel, Sarais has done a fantastic job. There were funny parts, emotional parts and, yes, some parts where I thought 'am I going to be able to continue?' however in the end it was so worth it. This isn't a book I would tend to pick up however I'm glad I got the opportunity to read.
When his best friend Sara gets engaged with plans for a grand wedding in Santorini, Leo has to resort to some... different tactics to try and raise the cash.
All My Friends Are Rich explores themes such as mental health, alcohol and drugs use and, towards the end, HIV. I will say now, if scenes of quite descriptive sex, is not something you're comfortable with them this book might not be for you. HOWEVER, explicit scenes aside, Michael Sarais does a fantastic job of telling Leo's story and how he struggles to keep a hold of the different elements in his life as they start to unravel and intertwine. I liked seeing the interactions with Leo's friends and particularly his ex husband and was interested in the development and the overall arc that Leo has with them.
For a first novel, Sarais has done a fantastic job. There were funny parts, emotional parts and, yes, some parts where I thought 'am I going to be able to continue?' however in the end it was so worth it. This isn't a book I would tend to pick up however I'm glad I got the opportunity to read.
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