decolonizing non violent communication

by Meenadchi

Genres: Nonfiction, Communication, Politics, Leadership, Relationships, Education

61 pages, Spiral-bound

Published March 1, 2019

Reviews

[Liz Thumb · Rating 5 out of 5]

The author makes a strong case for using NVC in a new and radical way – through a trauma-informed, decolonial, and deeply somatic lens. I had extolled the virtues of NVC for a long time but, until this book, hadn’t seen the problems. The author has a very special way of writing that feels vivid and authentic. The book itself is beautifully printed.

[healthfob · Rating 5 out of 5]

Yesssss decolonizing NVC means *explicitly* naming and acknowledging systems of oppression and power and exploring how that affects us somatically and externally as interdependent beings!

[Gabriel Chartier · Rating 4 out of 5]

A helpful supplement to NVC

[Adam · Rating 5 out of 5]

An important look at NVC; how we can use it as an anti-oppressive tool, and to be mindful to not use the tool as another part of the oppression toolkit.

[Gabriella · Rating 5 out of 5]

I felt this book inside my body, and I’ve only just started working with it’s prompts and exercises. I like it so much - and feel the need for it so strongly in my community - that I’m organizing a book club of sorts to process the experience with others and test the tools within group discussion and see how it feels. Highly recommended for everyone, especially any flavor of organization.

[Slotface · Rating 5 out of 5]

a really great book. So much wisdom boiled down into a really functional workbook. And designed beautifully.

[Madeleine]

this book's activities are useful and can animate nvc principles in memorable and more anti-oppressive ways. i'd read more on this theme from meenadchi!

[Eduardo Santiago · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nonviolent Communication changed my life when I first read it fifteen years ago. This one I’m thinking not so much... but it’s too early to tell, and I promise to give it time.

I came >this< close to abandoning it on page one, when the very first paragraph tingled my spideysense with a feeling of dread: This is going to be a “hegemony” book, isn’t it? Fourteen pages later there it was, but by then something had happened: I was hooked. The book isn’t pretentious or (overly) chiponshouldery. It feels genuine, written with compassion and respect. The author does point out real concerns with NVC, some of which I’ve learned for myself and grown from, some I had not considered because of my privilege. The author has put a lot of work and thought into this volume, and the world has changed since Rosenberg’s day: the conversations we have are different. This is a worthy successor slash companion to NVC.

My review is being derailed as I write it: I wanted to write about the book’s obsession with unmet needs. I wanted to write a smug rebuttal, saying that part of being a grownup is accepting that some needs can never be met, that we need to suck that up. And I found myself scanning my body (a gift I learned from NVC, strongly reinforced in this book) and finding anger. I guess I haven’t let go of my grief after all. And I guess I have some unexpected work to do. Feeling both dejected and grateful. And that’s all for now.

[Jessica Ranard · Rating 5 out of 5]

An incredible book about non violent direct communication through the lens of decolonization. Maybe we're supposed to take pause and realize that how we communicate is extremely linked with how oppression manifests, and maybe we're supposed to take time with how we communicate and pause our own bodies to see how colonization has affected our ability to know what are needs and wants are before we are able to communicate them. Anyways a beautiful book that is both book & workbook & is deeply poetic and tender and something we should all be reading.

[Sea D. · Rating 5 out of 5]

To deconstruct the work of learned violence, trusting a member of an intersectional community was the only path I wanted to comprehend, discover and evolve non-violent communication from the scope of diasporic truths and practices. Having the honor of working with the author themselves helped recognize that even in wanting to develop non violent communication, there are systems of oppressive practices that must also be uncovered and worked through, even through the roots of your belly.

[miao · Rating 4 out of 5]

reading this book and thinking about my ex and crying

[George · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such a wonderful book - deeply powerful, and highly recommended to work with a group through it slowly. More like a workbook - so you will need to be prepared to do a lot of self work!