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วิธีสร้างพลังใจสู้ชีวิต และมีวินัยในตนเอง เพื่อก้าวสู่เป้าหมายที่ตั้งใจ
คนเราจะประสบความสำเร็จในชีวิตได้ ตามเป้าหมายที่ตั้งไว้นั้น ไม่สามารถได้จากการอธิษฐาน ร้องขอ หรือรอในสวรรค์บันดาล แต่ต้องสร้างด้วยตนเอง ด้วยวิธีคิดและวิธีการที่ถูกต้อง
ทั้งนี้ ปัจจัยที่สำคัญคือต้องมีพลังใจเพื่อสร้างวินัยในตนเองให้เดินหน้าฟันฝ่าอุปสรรคและปัญหาต่าง ๆ หากมีพลังใจและมีวินัยในตนเองแล้ว โอกาสไปสู่เป้าหมายที่ตั้งไว้จะเป็นจริงได้
ดังคำกล่าวของ ประธานาธิบดีรูสเวต์ ที่ว่า “คุณสมบัติที่แยกคนคนหนึ่งให้โดดเด่น ไม่ใช่ความสามารถพิเศษ การศึกษา หรือความฉลาด แต่คือเรื่องวินัยในตนเอง ซึ่งเป็นกุญแจสำคัญที่ส่งผลให้คนคนหนึ่งทำตามสิ่งที่ปรารถนาได้... เมื่อเรามีวินัยในตนเองแล้ว ทุกอย่างก็เป็นไปได้ หากปราศจากวินัยในตนเอง แม้กระทั่งเป้าหมายง่าย ๆ ก็ดูแทบเป็นไปไม่ได้เลย”
ทั้งนี้ ปัจจัยที่สำคัญคือต้องมีพลังใจเพื่อสร้างวินัยในตนเองให้เดินหน้าฟันฝ่าอุปสรรคและปัญหาต่าง ๆ หากมีพลังใจและมีวินัยในตนเองแล้ว โอกาสไปสู่เป้าหมายที่ตั้งไว้จะเป็นจริงได้
ดังคำกล่าวของ ประธานาธิบดีรูสเวต์ ที่ว่า “คุณสมบัติที่แยกคนคนหนึ่งให้โดดเด่น ไม่ใช่ความสามารถพิเศษ การศึกษา หรือความฉลาด แต่คือเรื่องวินัยในตนเอง ซึ่งเป็นกุญแจสำคัญที่ส่งผลให้คนคนหนึ่งทำตามสิ่งที่ปรารถนาได้... เมื่อเรามีวินัยในตนเองแล้ว ทุกอย่างก็เป็นไปได้ หากปราศจากวินัยในตนเอง แม้กระทั่งเป้าหมายง่าย ๆ ก็ดูแทบเป็นไปไม่ได้เลย”
152 pages, Paperback
First published February 1, 2009
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About the author
Jim Randel
42 books19 followersJim Randel, a graduate of the Columbia University College and Law School, has made his living as an entrepreneur. During his 30-year career, Jim has been the lead investor in many real estate and business deals. He has been a guest speaker at Harvard and NYU Business Schools, annual conventions for national organizations, and investor sessions in every large city in the United States. He has also appeared on numerous networks as an expert on investing. Recent engagements include ABC, CBS, Fox, Fox Business and BetterTV.com.
Throughout his career, Jim's passion has been to teach and write. His first book, The Real Estate Game (CCH), was published in 1986 and received national recognition from investors and critics. From 1988 to 1990 he was a daily commentator on the Financial News Network (now CNBC). In 2006 he wrote Confessions of a Real Estate Entrepreneur (McGraw-Hill) which reached #1 in several Amazon categories.
In 2008 Jim founded Rand Media Co, which, under the imprint The Skinny On™, publishes a revolutionary line of illustrated non-fiction books.
The first book in this series, The Skinny on the Housing Crisis, was awarded First Prize in the prestigious Robert Bruss Real Estate Book competition sponsored by NAREE, a group of 600 journalists who cover business and finance. This was quickly followed by 8 more titles: The Skinny on Willpower, The Skinny on Credit Cards, The Skinny on Success, The Skinny on Real Estate Investing, The Skinny on Direct Sales (also available in Spanish as The Skinny on Venta Directa), The Skinny on Time Management, The Skinny on the Art of Persuasion, and the newest in the series, The Skinny on Networking.
Jim lives and works in Westport, Connecticut with his wife Carol. They have four grown children and two grandchildren.
For more information about the Skinny on series, go to: www.TheSkinnyOn.com.
Throughout his career, Jim's passion has been to teach and write. His first book, The Real Estate Game (CCH), was published in 1986 and received national recognition from investors and critics. From 1988 to 1990 he was a daily commentator on the Financial News Network (now CNBC). In 2006 he wrote Confessions of a Real Estate Entrepreneur (McGraw-Hill) which reached #1 in several Amazon categories.
In 2008 Jim founded Rand Media Co, which, under the imprint The Skinny On™, publishes a revolutionary line of illustrated non-fiction books.
The first book in this series, The Skinny on the Housing Crisis, was awarded First Prize in the prestigious Robert Bruss Real Estate Book competition sponsored by NAREE, a group of 600 journalists who cover business and finance. This was quickly followed by 8 more titles: The Skinny on Willpower, The Skinny on Credit Cards, The Skinny on Success, The Skinny on Real Estate Investing, The Skinny on Direct Sales (also available in Spanish as The Skinny on Venta Directa), The Skinny on Time Management, The Skinny on the Art of Persuasion, and the newest in the series, The Skinny on Networking.
Jim lives and works in Westport, Connecticut with his wife Carol. They have four grown children and two grandchildren.
For more information about the Skinny on series, go to: www.TheSkinnyOn.com.
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May 2, 2010
The Skinny On: Willpower – Literally, Where There is a Will There is a Way!
Rating: 5 of 5: TMBOA Recommended
Author: Jim Randel
Format: Paperback
What I like about Jim Randel’s The Skinny On books, is that they are like hiring an excerpt consultant to come and spend a couple of hours teaching from their extensive research and experience, all for the price of a couple of cups of coffee. Written in a power point type fashion with wonderfully simple but effective and well illustrated characters, Randel teaches through fictional case studies. Peppered throughout these studies are the wisdom of experts who have been well researched and quoted by Randel along with an extensive bibliography for those wanting to delve deeper. Usually when I attend a conference or listen to an expert speaker, I consider it well worth my time if I can learn one new factoid or item that I can put into practice. While I have read a number of the references Jim uses in his books, I still found multiple take-aways to use going forward making reading The Skinny On books well worth the time.
In The Skinny On: Willpower, Randel uses an example of eating properly (fewer marshmallows!) and losing weight to impart lessons regarding willpower. Given the number of dieting books, exercise videos, and overall size of this market, use of this example should resonate with many readers. Randel reiterates common lessons with respect to willpower which include goal setting. Important in this exercise is the specificity of the goals - how much, by when, etc. Generic goals – be happier – eat better, etc. are prone to failure because there isn’t anything objective to hold oneself accountable to.
Of even greater interest to me, however, was Randel’s focus on preparing for challenges. Inherent in needing to exercise willpower is the fact that one’s will will be challenged. For example, in dieting, one will be challenged with emotional stresses that could trigger unhealthy eating – before setting off on a new goal, one needs to anticipate what the potential challenges to the goal and one’s will will be and create a “willpower plan”. The idea is to think through these future stresses and how to manage them before they happen. By making a plan before the issue comes up, one is able to effectively plan a response and practice this response before the challenge comes. This way, when the eventual challenge comes the stress of the challenge itself does not break one’s will and success is easier to obtain. Randel provides some research suggesting that this practicing improves one’s willpower similar to training a muscle in athletics or the mind in intellectual pursuits.
Finally, I enjoyed the discussion on self discipline. Randel’s writes “self discipline is about doing things today that may not be your first choice for the pleasure of experiencing bigger and better things tomorrow.” Well said.
Regardless of the methods you use, Randel’s book contains a lot of information packed into a small and engaging package. Perhaps not all ideas will resonate with everyone, but there is so much good content here, everyone will gain a key take-away or two.
Rating: 5 of 5: TMBOA Recommended
Author: Jim Randel
Format: Paperback
What I like about Jim Randel’s The Skinny On books, is that they are like hiring an excerpt consultant to come and spend a couple of hours teaching from their extensive research and experience, all for the price of a couple of cups of coffee. Written in a power point type fashion with wonderfully simple but effective and well illustrated characters, Randel teaches through fictional case studies. Peppered throughout these studies are the wisdom of experts who have been well researched and quoted by Randel along with an extensive bibliography for those wanting to delve deeper. Usually when I attend a conference or listen to an expert speaker, I consider it well worth my time if I can learn one new factoid or item that I can put into practice. While I have read a number of the references Jim uses in his books, I still found multiple take-aways to use going forward making reading The Skinny On books well worth the time.
In The Skinny On: Willpower, Randel uses an example of eating properly (fewer marshmallows!) and losing weight to impart lessons regarding willpower. Given the number of dieting books, exercise videos, and overall size of this market, use of this example should resonate with many readers. Randel reiterates common lessons with respect to willpower which include goal setting. Important in this exercise is the specificity of the goals - how much, by when, etc. Generic goals – be happier – eat better, etc. are prone to failure because there isn’t anything objective to hold oneself accountable to.
Of even greater interest to me, however, was Randel’s focus on preparing for challenges. Inherent in needing to exercise willpower is the fact that one’s will will be challenged. For example, in dieting, one will be challenged with emotional stresses that could trigger unhealthy eating – before setting off on a new goal, one needs to anticipate what the potential challenges to the goal and one’s will will be and create a “willpower plan”. The idea is to think through these future stresses and how to manage them before they happen. By making a plan before the issue comes up, one is able to effectively plan a response and practice this response before the challenge comes. This way, when the eventual challenge comes the stress of the challenge itself does not break one’s will and success is easier to obtain. Randel provides some research suggesting that this practicing improves one’s willpower similar to training a muscle in athletics or the mind in intellectual pursuits.
Finally, I enjoyed the discussion on self discipline. Randel’s writes “self discipline is about doing things today that may not be your first choice for the pleasure of experiencing bigger and better things tomorrow.” Well said.
Regardless of the methods you use, Randel’s book contains a lot of information packed into a small and engaging package. Perhaps not all ideas will resonate with everyone, but there is so much good content here, everyone will gain a key take-away or two.
September 2, 2019
4.5
สั้น กระชับ จับประเด็นดี อ่านช่วงที่หมดกำลังใจอยู่นี่ช่วยได้เยอะ มีการแนะนำหนังสือเล่มอื่นๆไว้อ่านอีก ถ้าหากต้องการขยายความในประเด็นที่ผู้เขียนยกตัวอย่างมา
ประเด็นที่ชอบ (ไว้ถามตัวเอง เวลาที่ต้องตัดสินใจต่างๆ)
- คนเราจะปฏิบัติได้ผลสำเร็จมากกว่า ถ้ารู้อย่างแน่นอนแล้วว่า
เราต้องการอะไร
- คนที่ได้รับแรงจูงใจจากความเชื่ออันแรงกล้าที่อยู่ข้างใน
จิตใจ มักทำตามเป้าหมายได้สำเร็จมากกว่าคนที่ได้รับแรง
จูงใจจากปัจจัยภายนอก (เช่น เงิน)
[ มีผู้หญิงคนนึงเป็นโรคอ้วน หลังจากพยายามลดมากว่า 20 ปี
สุดท้ายเธอลดได้สำเร็จ เหตุเพราะต่อมาลูกของเธอต้องผ่าตัดเปลี่ยนไต ซึ่งเธอจะบริจาคได้ ก็เมื่อน้ำหนักลดลงได้ก่อน]
นั่นหมายความว่า ความสำเร็จที่มาพร้อมพลังใจ จะขึ้นอยู่กับ
สิ่งที่คุณเลือกที่จะให้คุณค่าก่อน
- "ชีวิตเป็นเรื่องยาก" เมื่อเรารู้อย่างแท้จริง (ด้วยความเข้าใจและยอมรับความจริงแล้วว่าชีวิตเป็นเรื่องยาก) ตอนนั้นเองที่ชีวิตจะไม่ใช่เรื่องยากอีกต่อไป (เข้าใจแล้วหาหนทางต่อ)
- แรงจูงใจคือสิ่งที่ทำให้เราเริ่มต้นลงมือทำ ส่วนนิสัยคือสิ่งที่ช่วยให้เรายังคงทำต่อไป (สิ่งยากคือตรงนี้ การดำเนินไปให้ต่อเนื่อง)
- พลังใจก็มีวันอ่อนล้าเป็น จึงไม่ดีนักถ้าจะทำงานหลายอย่างพร้อมกัน (พลังใจสำคัญต่อการแก้ปัญหา ถ้าหมดแรงใจไปก่อน เราจะไม่มีกะจิตกะใจทำอะไรต่อไป อย่างนี้เลยต้องสำรองพลังใจเอาไว้ใช้ในอนาคตด้วย)
[มีการทดลอง : กลุ่มนึงให้กินของอร่อยๆ แล้วไปแก้โจทย์คณิต กับอีกกลุ่มให้กินของที่ไม่อร่อยเอาซะเลย แล้วแก้โจทย์คณิตเหมือนกัน ปรากฏว่า กลุ่มที่เจอเรื่องแย่ๆ หนักๆมา (ที่กินของไม่อร่อยมาก่อน) ยอมแพ้เร็วกว่าอีกกลุ่มที่กินของอร่อย โดยกลุ่มกินของอร่อยนี่ จะพยายามแก้โจทย์เลขต่อไปอีกได้นานกว่า แล้วจึงยอมแพ้ (ก็ยังไม่เสียพลังใจไปกับเรื่องอื่นนี่นะ)]
** อย่างนี้แล้วใครที่ชอบหวดซ้ำใส่ชีวิตตัวเอง ก็ต้องคลายมันลงได้แล้วล่ะ (บอกตัวเอง T.T)
- ความกลัวว่าจะล้มเหลวเป็นเรื่องปกติ เวลาที่เรากำลังต่อสู้กับความท้าทายใหม่ๆ (ให้ลองคิดกลับกันดู เพราะมีสิ่งท้าทายนี้เข้ามา ความกลัวมันก็ต้องมีเป็นเรื่องปกติ...ถ้าไม่มีอะไรให้ท้าทายเลย มันก็น่าเบื่ออีกแบบเหมือนกันนะ)
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สุดท้ายที่ชอบคือ ในเล่มบอกว่า
...มันไม่มีสูตรสำเร็จสำหรับทุกคน...
สั้น กระชับ จับประเด็นดี อ่านช่วงที่หมดกำลังใจอยู่นี่ช่วยได้เยอะ มีการแนะนำหนังสือเล่มอื่นๆไว้อ่านอีก ถ้าหากต้องการขยายความในประเด็นที่ผู้เขียนยกตัวอย่างมา
ประเด็นที่ชอบ (ไว้ถามตัวเอง เวลาที่ต้องตัดสินใจต่างๆ)
- คนเราจะปฏิบัติได้ผลสำเร็จมากกว่า ถ้ารู้อย่างแน่นอนแล้วว่า
เราต้องการอะไร
- คนที่ได้รับแรงจูงใจจากความเชื่ออันแรงกล้าที่อยู่ข้างใน
จิตใจ มักทำตามเป้าหมายได้สำเร็จมากกว่าคนที่ได้รับแรง
จูงใจจากปัจจัยภายนอก (เช่น เงิน)
[ มีผู้หญิงคนนึงเป็นโรคอ้วน หลังจากพยายามลดมากว่า 20 ปี
สุดท้ายเธอลดได้สำเร็จ เหตุเพราะต่อมาลูกของเธอต้องผ่าตัดเปลี่ยนไต ซึ่งเธอจะบริจาคได้ ก็เมื่อน้ำหนักลดลงได้ก่อน]
นั่นหมายความว่า ความสำเร็จที่มาพร้อมพลังใจ จะขึ้นอยู่กับ
สิ่งที่คุณเลือกที่จะให้คุณค่าก่อน
- "ชีวิตเป็นเรื่องยาก" เมื่อเรารู้อย่างแท้จริง (ด้วยความเข้าใจและยอมรับความจริงแล้วว่าชีวิตเป็นเรื่องยาก) ตอนนั้นเองที่ชีวิตจะไม่ใช่เรื่องยากอีกต่อไป (เข้าใจแล้วหาหนทางต่อ)
- แรงจูงใจคือสิ่งที่ทำให้เราเริ่มต้นลงมือทำ ส่วนนิสัยคือสิ่งที่ช่วยให้เรายังคงทำต่อไป (สิ่งยากคือตรงนี้ การดำเนินไปให้ต่อเนื่อง)
- พลังใจก็มีวันอ่อนล้าเป็น จึงไม่ดีนักถ้าจะทำงานหลายอย่างพร้อมกัน (พลังใจสำคัญต่อการแก้ปัญหา ถ้าหมดแรงใจไปก่อน เราจะไม่มีกะจิตกะใจทำอะไรต่อไป อย่างนี้เลยต้องสำรองพลังใจเอาไว้ใช้ในอนาคตด้วย)
[มีการทดลอง : กลุ่มนึงให้กินของอร่อยๆ แล้วไปแก้โจทย์คณิต กับอีกกลุ่มให้กินของที่ไม่อร่อยเอาซะเลย แล้วแก้โจทย์คณิตเหมือนกัน ปรากฏว่า กลุ่มที่เจอเรื่องแย่ๆ หนักๆมา (ที่กินของไม่อร่อยมาก่อน) ยอมแพ้เร็วกว่าอีกกลุ่มที่กินของอร่อย โดยกลุ่มกินของอร่อยนี่ จะพยายามแก้โจทย์เลขต่อไปอีกได้นานกว่า แล้วจึงยอมแพ้ (ก็ยังไม่เสียพลังใจไปกับเรื่องอื่นนี่นะ)]
** อย่างนี้แล้วใครที่ชอบหวดซ้ำใส่ชีวิตตัวเอง ก็ต้องคลายมันลงได้แล้วล่ะ (บอกตัวเอง T.T)
- ความกลัวว่าจะล้มเหลวเป็นเรื่องปกติ เวลาที่เรากำลังต่อสู้กับความท้าทายใหม่ๆ (ให้ลองคิดกลับกันดู เพราะมีสิ่งท้าทายนี้เข้ามา ความกลัวมันก็ต้องมีเป็นเรื่องปกติ...ถ้าไม่มีอะไรให้ท้าทายเลย มันก็น่าเบื่ออีกแบบเหมือนกันนะ)
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สุดท้ายที่ชอบคือ ในเล่มบอกว่า
...มันไม่มีสูตรสำเร็จสำหรับทุกคน...
April 15, 2012
Where there’s a will there’s a way. Few people have success fall into their laps. Most have to work hard and smart to reach their goals. They have to be clear about what they want, make a plan, and then be persistent (very persistent) until the end is reached. Willpower is key.
The Skinny on Willpower is another great resource from the Skinny On series. Short and straightforward, these books get to the heart of the matter. Goals without a plan will fail. Dreams without action are doomed. You aren’t guaranteed success but if you really want it, take active steps toward your goals and persevere through the tough times you have a real chance at achieving your dreams.
The Skinny on Willpower is another great resource from the Skinny On series. Short and straightforward, these books get to the heart of the matter. Goals without a plan will fail. Dreams without action are doomed. You aren’t guaranteed success but if you really want it, take active steps toward your goals and persevere through the tough times you have a real chance at achieving your dreams.
December 4, 2019
ชอบตรงที่ค้นคว้ารวบรวมและสรุปเนื้อหาจากหนังสือหลายๆ เล่มรวมเป็นหนังสือที่อ่านง่ายพร้อมภาพประกอบ
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นับว่าดี ควรเอาไว้อ่านปลุกไฟในตัวเองเวลาเหี่ยวๆ
ข้อเสีย มีตัวอย่างจากหนังสือหลายเล่มที่น่าอ่านมากๆ อ่านเล่มนี้แล้วรายชื่อหนังสือที่จะอ่านจะงอกขึ้นมาอีกเป็นสิบเล่ม
May 26, 2014
Good tips, but this is a very shallow treatment on willpower and how to improve it. Lots of stick figure cartoons and visual sound bites. If you want to improve your willpower, start by reading a self-help book that offers depth and requires concentration (like Baumeister's).
March 2, 2011
Quick read (1hour)! He read everybody on Willpower and gives you the "Best of the Best -- I liked this book!
January 30, 2022
CNY前的最後一碗（？）雞湯。
整本書最刺眼的一句話是“每年元旦那天，許多人高估了自己的意志力。”
所以藉著今年的第二個NY，回顧僅在一個月前列出的四個目標，竟...被他說對了！可惡呀！
作者是個很嚴謹的人，不是像其他的雞湯文作者一樣堆砌鼓動人心的華麗辭藻之後就讓你在風中凌亂，而是不斷地旁徵博引，用其他實驗、書籍和新聞等來佐證自己的觀點，使這煲雞湯有了實際的療效（滋補呀，潤肺呀，養顏呀...><開個玩笑，就是很scientific，讓人覺得很靠譜啦）
因為是穿插火柴人的故事來傳遞觀點的，所以對我這種還未能適應快速消化一大串文字的讀者來說可以說是非常user-friendly， 但就是說... 畫風可以再精美點，然而轉念一想，這是十年前的著作了，也就... 打擾了。
簡單說說全書說了甚麼吧：
1） 要有明確的目標，因為這是決定毅力強弱的重要因素，也可以減少思想上的歧義和執行中的變異。
2） 要有心理準備達至目標的過程中不會一路順風順水，相反可能是一場艱難的跋涉。因為值得追求的東西，從來就不會是輕易到手的（最後這句是引用呀，好一個議論文大師，這論據我有點喜歡是怎麼回事，默默抄錄在小本本上了）
3） 要保存能量，以滿足維持毅力的需要。人的能量是有限的，採取行動或需要克服消極行動時，考慮得越少，效果越好。大概就是約等於要心無旁騖的意思？
【偏個題，energy 讓我想到訓輔課老師說，有behavioural和emotional問題的小孩會有很多能量trapped在he/she難以跨越的問題上，導致限制了自我發展的無限可能，大概是同理吧～】
4） 盡可能細緻地確定你的目標和實現目標的過程，因為當人的心智知道它具體需要做甚麼的時候，它運作得最好。並且將任務分解為易於操作的小項目，以增強滿足感和自信心，畢竟你不可能一口氣吞下一隻大象～
5）對毅力而言最重要是對自己進行精神控制和心理堅韌的培育
首先，要對自己的思想保持警覺，將控制行為的思想準確地辨別出來，爾後發現這是壞思想也沒關係，因為你要相信你有能控制自己的主導思想的能力，無論好思想還是壞思想都能按你所想，被引入和移除的你頭腦。
清空了大腦裡的垃圾之後，記得用一種愉快的態度勾畫你的挑戰喔，因為積極思考能讓你事半功倍。
到了為夢想付諸行動的時刻囉～我要在二月之前減重10斤，在三月之前ielts考band 7， 在四月之前將所有論文寫好...
打咩打咩！
毅力是有限的喲，我們付出的任何類型的毅力都會對其他任何形式的毅力產生即時的干擾作用（another citation from welcome to your brain)， 所以給自己一點時間去恢復和增強力量啊喂。
當然，即使已經做好充足的前期準備工作，也將自己引導到能將能量最大化的道路之上，但是在實踐過程中，心理建設還是會有破防的時候，那該怎麼辦呢？
作者提出
a) 強迫自己想像一連串“非此即彼”的選擇的結果，釐清你的目標，在正確的時間做出正確的選擇
b）灌雞湯：相信你的毅力已經比你所意識到的強大多了
然後在艱難登頂的過程中，不斷地運用你的毅力，你就會越有信心和實力去迎接新的挑戰。因為毅力不是天賦，而是一種技能。在任何毅力面前，挑戰都展示了它那無盡的可能性，而你也獲得了更大的自信和更積極的自我關懷。（真的有在cite很多別人煲的雞湯啦～）
當然，在恪守自律以達至目標的過程中，可能會有自我懷疑，也可能迎來別人不解或嘲笑的眼光，不要怕喔，自律不是自我剝奪，而是在你應該去做某件事時，就用最完美的方式去做（再再再quote>,,<)（我們沒有在苦行僧啦，只是延遲享樂，懂？！格局打開來！）
一旦你在生活中通過有規律的行為營造了某種重複，習慣就建立起來了，這時就不需要消耗太多的能量維持自律了，因為完成這項困難而有價值的事情對你而言，就像早起要刷牙一樣習以為常了。
最後，展望依靠強大的自律推動著的人生的進程，希望我們都能夠看到它將你的生活推到了新的高度。
祝願你我都有毅力，為了夢想堅持，頂峰相見吧！
整本書最刺眼的一句話是“每年元旦那天，許多人高估了自己的意志力。”
所以藉著今年的第二個NY，回顧僅在一個月前列出的四個目標，竟...被他說對了！可惡呀！
作者是個很嚴謹的人，不是像其他的雞湯文作者一樣堆砌鼓動人心的華麗辭藻之後就讓你在風中凌亂，而是不斷地旁徵博引，用其他實驗、書籍和新聞等來佐證自己的觀點，使這煲雞湯有了實際的療效（滋補呀，潤肺呀，養顏呀...><開個玩笑，就是很scientific，讓人覺得很靠譜啦）
因為是穿插火柴人的故事來傳遞觀點的，所以對我這種還未能適應快速消化一大串文字的讀者來說可以說是非常user-friendly， 但就是說... 畫風可以再精美點，然而轉念一想，這是十年前的著作了，也就... 打擾了。
簡單說說全書說了甚麼吧：
1） 要有明確的目標，因為這是決定毅力強弱的重要因素，也可以減少思想上的歧義和執行中的變異。
2） 要有心理準備達至目標的過程中不會一路順風順水，相反可能是一場艱難的跋涉。因為值得追求的東西，從來就不會是輕易到手的（最後這句是引用呀，好一個議論文大師，這論據我有點喜歡是怎麼回事，默默抄錄在小本本上了）
3） 要保存能量，以滿足維持毅力的需要。人的能量是有限的，採取行動或需要克服消極行動時，考慮得越少，效果越好。大概就是約等於要心無旁騖的意思？
【偏個題，energy 讓我想到訓輔課老師說，有behavioural和emotional問題的小孩會有很多能量trapped在he/she難以跨越的問題上，導致限制了自我發展的無限可能，大概是同理吧～】
4） 盡可能細緻地確定你的目標和實現目標的過程，因為當人的心智知道它具體需要做甚麼的時候，它運作得最好。並且將任務分解為易於操作的小項目，以增強滿足感和自信心，畢竟你不可能一口氣吞下一隻大象～
5）對毅力而言最重要是對自己進行精神控制和心理堅韌的培育
首先，要對自己的思想保持警覺，將控制行為的思想準確地辨別出來，爾後發現這是壞思想也沒關係，因為你要相信你有能控制自己的主導思想的能力，無論好思想還是壞思想都能按你所想，被引入和移除的你頭腦。
清空了大腦裡的垃圾之後，記得用一種愉快的態度勾畫你的挑戰喔，因為積極思考能讓你事半功倍。
到了為夢想付諸行動的時刻囉～我要在二月之前減重10斤，在三月之前ielts考band 7， 在四月之前將所有論文寫好...
打咩打咩！
毅力是有限的喲，我們付出的任何類型的毅力都會對其他任何形式的毅力產生即時的干擾作用（another citation from welcome to your brain)， 所以給自己一點時間去恢復和增強力量啊喂。
當然，即使已經做好充足的前期準備工作，也將自己引導到能將能量最大化的道路之上，但是在實踐過程中，心理建設還是會有破防的時候，那該怎麼辦呢？
作者提出
a) 強迫自己想像一連串“非此即彼”的選擇的結果，釐清你的目標，在正確的時間做出正確的選擇
b）灌雞湯：相信你的毅力已經比你所意識到的強大多了
然後在艱難登頂的過程中，不斷地運用你的毅力，你就會越有信心和實力去迎接新的挑戰。因為毅力不是天賦，而是一種技能。在任何毅力面前，挑戰都展示了它那無盡的可能性，而你也獲得了更大的自信和更積極的自我關懷。（真的有在cite很多別人煲的雞湯啦～）
當然，在恪守自律以達至目標的過程中，可能會有自我懷疑，也可能迎來別人不解或嘲笑的眼光，不要怕喔，自律不是自我剝奪，而是在你應該去做某件事時，就用最完美的方式去做（再再再quote>,,<)（我們沒有在苦行僧啦，只是延遲享樂，懂？！格局打開來！）
一旦你在生活中通過有規律的行為營造了某種重複，習慣就建立起來了，這時就不需要消耗太多的能量維持自律了，因為完成這項困難而有價值的事情對你而言，就像早起要刷牙一樣習以為常了。
最後，展望依靠強大的自律推動著的人生的進程，希望我們都能夠看到它將你的生活推到了新的高度。
祝願你我都有毅力，為了夢想堅持，頂峰相見吧！
March 21, 2020
Được tặng quyển sách này phiên bản tiếng Việt vào dịp 8/3, kèm theo một cái postcard hình mèo từ công ty ^^ với lời chúc "May your day be filled with happiness, sweet smiles and warm hugs". Tự nhiên thấy cảm động gì đâu, và quyết tâm sẽ đọc liền cho nóng chứ không xếp cuối trong list những quyển sách đang đọc dài như sớ táo quân của mình...
Sách có nhiều điểm chung với những cuốn về phát triển bản thân mà mình đã từng đọc về ý chí và phấn đấu gặt hái thành công, có khác chăng là ngắn gọn súc tích hơn và có câu chuyện minh họa khá dễ thương về hai vợ chồng Bily và Beth. Từ khi hình thành mục tiêu đến lúc thực hiện được là cả một tiến trình dài đòi hỏi ý chí và nỗ lực không ngừng từ bản thân, vài điều mà mình rút ra được cho bản thân và cũng là phù hợp với mình nhất:
- Hãy chắc chắn bạn ước muốn, khát khao thực hiện nó nhất trên đời này;
- Đừng ôm đồm quá nhiều mục tiêu một lúc, hãy tập trung vào một mục tiêu trong một thời điểm và dồn hết tâm trí và cở thể cho nó, điều này sẽ giúp nó dễ được thực hiện hơn và bạn cũng không để trí óc và cơ thể overload.
- "Chặng đường từ nơi bạn đứng đến nơi bạn muốn đến là gồm những bước nhỏ, dễ làm, đừng cố chạy hết chặng đường đua trong một chốc. Hãy chậm rãi và vững vàng, quan trọng là những miếng nhỏ dễ cắn, dễ nhai." -> để có thêm động lực và cảm thấy mình tiến bộ mỗi ngày, hãy chia nhỏ công việc thành từng miếng "dễ cắn" -> nếu đối mặt với việc khó khăn khi thực hiện mục tiêu, đừng bận tâm với việc chinh phục nó ngay tức khắc, thời gian sẽ ở bên bạn nếu bạn tiến bộ mỗi bước mỗi ngày...
- Phân tích và lên kế hoạch chi tiết nhất có thể cho mục tiêu
- Sắp đặt những thử thách của bạn theo cách vui vẻ, chứ không phải đau đớn (suy nghĩ tích cực và thay đổi cách nhìn nhận khó khăn theo hướng tích cực hơn...) -> có thêm động lực để kiên trì...
(đọc xong vào tháng 3 mùa dịch Covid-19 đang lan tràn)
Sách có nhiều điểm chung với những cuốn về phát triển bản thân mà mình đã từng đọc về ý chí và phấn đấu gặt hái thành công, có khác chăng là ngắn gọn súc tích hơn và có câu chuyện minh họa khá dễ thương về hai vợ chồng Bily và Beth. Từ khi hình thành mục tiêu đến lúc thực hiện được là cả một tiến trình dài đòi hỏi ý chí và nỗ lực không ngừng từ bản thân, vài điều mà mình rút ra được cho bản thân và cũng là phù hợp với mình nhất:
- Hãy chắc chắn bạn ước muốn, khát khao thực hiện nó nhất trên đời này;
- Đừng ôm đồm quá nhiều mục tiêu một lúc, hãy tập trung vào một mục tiêu trong một thời điểm và dồn hết tâm trí và cở thể cho nó, điều này sẽ giúp nó dễ được thực hiện hơn và bạn cũng không để trí óc và cơ thể overload.
- "Chặng đường từ nơi bạn đứng đến nơi bạn muốn đến là gồm những bước nhỏ, dễ làm, đừng cố chạy hết chặng đường đua trong một chốc. Hãy chậm rãi và vững vàng, quan trọng là những miếng nhỏ dễ cắn, dễ nhai." -> để có thêm động lực và cảm thấy mình tiến bộ mỗi ngày, hãy chia nhỏ công việc thành từng miếng "dễ cắn" -> nếu đối mặt với việc khó khăn khi thực hiện mục tiêu, đừng bận tâm với việc chinh phục nó ngay tức khắc, thời gian sẽ ở bên bạn nếu bạn tiến bộ mỗi bước mỗi ngày...
- Phân tích và lên kế hoạch chi tiết nhất có thể cho mục tiêu
- Sắp đặt những thử thách của bạn theo cách vui vẻ, chứ không phải đau đớn (suy nghĩ tích cực và thay đổi cách nhìn nhận khó khăn theo hướng tích cực hơn...) -> có thêm động lực để kiên trì...
(đọc xong vào tháng 3 mùa dịch Covid-19 đang lan tràn)
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July 19, 2017
Quick read, shallow, but practical. This book helps me to build a basic systematic understanding of what willpower is and how to achieve it. It also provides info for further reading for each part so that I can get more details if I need. I tried to write down all the tips and relate it to my real life and practice it.
December 28, 2025
Unfortunately, this book leaves you with more questions than answers... Which is weird, because this is supposed to be like a synopsis, right? Which makes me feel like it should have been almost entirely answers and conclusions. If the answer to willpower is so simple, then a book such as this would be rendered entirely superfluous.
Unhelpful. Do not recommend.
Unhelpful. Do not recommend.
March 20, 2021
Có vẻ kiểu sách như thế này hài hước và dêc đọc đối với một số cá nhân nhưng mình lại cảm thấy có nhiều chỗ cợt nhả như nào ấy. Có lẽ nó không phù hợp với mình!
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March 2, 2022
用火柴人小故事輕鬆易明地帶出主旨。
觀點其實都不算新奇，實操指引也不多，但勝在不斷引經據典，也推薦了很多相關的書籍供讀者做參考，也給自己的論點做backup。
如果喜歡雞湯的朋友，還是值得推薦的：）
觀點其實都不算新奇，實操指引也不多，但勝在不斷引經據典，也推薦了很多相關的書籍供讀者做參考，也給自己的論點做backup。
如果喜歡雞湯的朋友，還是值得推薦的：）
January 25, 2010
This is part of a new series that attempts to provide a plain-English explanation of some of today’s most important topics. A team of researchers and readers read everything they can get their hands on about a certain topic, like willpower, and distills it into a book intended for busy people.
The book follows Billy, who needs to lose some weight, and his wife, Beth, who wants to start her own business, but they are having problems in the willpower department. The author takes them through the entire process of committing to something, sticking with it and dealing with negative thoughts.
Instead of saying something vague, like "I need to get healthy" on January 1, like most people, then give up after a few weeks, make it more definite and achievable. For instance, try "I will go for an after-dinner walk three times a week" or "I will cut out soda and potato chips." Break a large task into smaller mini-tasks. If you would like to start your own business, then start with "I will write out a business plan." After that, "I will submit my business plan to my local bank for a loan."
When it comes to willpower in general, first and foremost, you must be totally committed to "it," whatever it is. If it doesn’t produce a fire in your belly, then why bother? Get ready for a difficult journey. Be as specific and concrete as you can about your goal, and how you plan to get there. Learn to deal with the self-doubt and negative thoughts that will inevitably occur. Willpower is like a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it will be for next time.
Don’t let the stick figure illustrations get in the way of enjoying an excellent book. It is very easy to read, and is full of information on how to clean out mental clutter and get anyone moving toward their personal and business goals. This one is very highly recommended.
The book follows Billy, who needs to lose some weight, and his wife, Beth, who wants to start her own business, but they are having problems in the willpower department. The author takes them through the entire process of committing to something, sticking with it and dealing with negative thoughts.
Instead of saying something vague, like "I need to get healthy" on January 1, like most people, then give up after a few weeks, make it more definite and achievable. For instance, try "I will go for an after-dinner walk three times a week" or "I will cut out soda and potato chips." Break a large task into smaller mini-tasks. If you would like to start your own business, then start with "I will write out a business plan." After that, "I will submit my business plan to my local bank for a loan."
When it comes to willpower in general, first and foremost, you must be totally committed to "it," whatever it is. If it doesn’t produce a fire in your belly, then why bother? Get ready for a difficult journey. Be as specific and concrete as you can about your goal, and how you plan to get there. Learn to deal with the self-doubt and negative thoughts that will inevitably occur. Willpower is like a muscle; the more you use it, the stronger it will be for next time.
Don’t let the stick figure illustrations get in the way of enjoying an excellent book. It is very easy to read, and is full of information on how to clean out mental clutter and get anyone moving toward their personal and business goals. This one is very highly recommended.
August 7, 2010
From my review on Bookvisions htt://bookvisions.blogspot.com
The Skinny on Willpower –how to develop self-discipline is another in The Skinny On series. I previously reviewed The Skinny on Time Management. The Skinny On books are designed to bring a power pack of information in a quick-read form. Introduced with “Give us about an hour to read about Bill and Beth’s struggles with the willpower they need to accomplish their goals”. The book delivers what it promises.
The stick figures are back, and I would have missed them if they had not! The pictures and lesson layout make this an interesting way to study this important topic. Preparation, goals setting, goals management, thought control, challenges, and focus are all covered in these simple lessons.
No matter what you are trying to accomplish, keeping your focus on track can be a difficult project. The Skinny on Willpower will give you the tools to help the reader accomplish their goals.
The Skinny on Willpower –how to develop self-discipline is another in The Skinny On series. I previously reviewed The Skinny on Time Management. The Skinny On books are designed to bring a power pack of information in a quick-read form. Introduced with “Give us about an hour to read about Bill and Beth’s struggles with the willpower they need to accomplish their goals”. The book delivers what it promises.
The stick figures are back, and I would have missed them if they had not! The pictures and lesson layout make this an interesting way to study this important topic. Preparation, goals setting, goals management, thought control, challenges, and focus are all covered in these simple lessons.
No matter what you are trying to accomplish, keeping your focus on track can be a difficult project. The Skinny on Willpower will give you the tools to help the reader accomplish their goals.
May 5, 2012
I'm one of the people who really need to read this kind of book, this book is great and i think it will help me a lot, its make things clear for me. here is two or three facts about this book:
-This book is really skinny on, it point out all the thoughts with less words.
-This book don't tell you what u should do or give u a foot steps to walk with, its just simplify the willpower matter and give it to u.
-Most what u will read in this book its just things u already know, but there is a really new good thoughts (new for me at less) and its organize the old thoughts for u.
so its helpful any way, and i recommend it to every one :)
-This book is really skinny on, it point out all the thoughts with less words.
-This book don't tell you what u should do or give u a foot steps to walk with, its just simplify the willpower matter and give it to u.
-Most what u will read in this book its just things u already know, but there is a really new good thoughts (new for me at less) and its organize the old thoughts for u.
so its helpful any way, and i recommend it to every one :)
July 30, 2011
The format is a bit odd at first with its large font and almost bullet point like writing, but I got used to it quickly. It's full of helpful information distilled from a variety of experts on the subject and presented in a brief and effective manner. I really learned a lot from this book and plan to read others in the series.
September 29, 2012
I like the two "skinny on ..." Books that I've read. They don't have much new info, but they are a great distillation of the multitude of info that's already out there. Not in great detail, mind you, but perfect as a review, or as an introduction to the concepts for anyone struggling in the area of self-discipline. (Adolescents in the house, perhaps?)
September 16, 2019
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October 2, 2011
Useful for somebody who is struggling, or just working with a change process. Small or bigger. A bit simplistic.
A small irritating detail with the Kindle version is that the book is a set of pictures so can't highlight.
A small irritating detail with the Kindle version is that the book is a set of pictures so can't highlight.
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July 8, 2012I enjoyed this book. It was full of stick figures but I made great reference to other great books. It accomplished its goal of reviewing all the other books on the topic and giving us the important facts and theories.
September 12, 2016
I honestly thought I'd hate this book. Stick figures, cartoon strips - it all seemed a bit basic. But actually the finer points distilled into a short, visual quick read was just the ticket. Some really interesting points to think about too.
September 30, 2010
A nice overview. Think my students will like it.
Want to read
February 10, 2011Available in SG library 155.25 (Sengkang)
July 4, 2013
One personal take-away:
Willpower is like a muscle. Preserve it for situations where you need it the most.
Willpower is like a muscle. Preserve it for situations where you need it the most.
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May 24, 2014nice
July 1, 2016
Good book, easy to read
It provides a few effective techniques to help making good habits. Easy and pleasant to read. The Chinese translation is accurate, too.
It provides a few effective techniques to help making good habits. Easy and pleasant to read. The Chinese translation is accurate, too.
July 22, 2016
with a story to ilustrate how willpower can bring impact to our lives and how we can be self discipline.
January 18, 2017
A booklet, simple and clear. But of course what the most important is to take action and sustain.
May 20, 2013
Simple, short, easy to implement ideas for sticking to our health and life goals.
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