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Love or Something Like It

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A clear-eyed, emotionally honest debut about a thirtysomething woman forced to redefine her entire world after her young marriage falters, Love or Something Like It proves we can grow up at any age.

When Lacey Brennan meets Toby, a sweet and talented comedian, she impulsively moves across the country to be with him in Los Angeles. Lacey is unsure of what she is looking for out west–love? a new career? an escape from her fractured family?–but is reassured when Toby proposes on her thirtieth birthday. “I was thirty and I finally knew what I was doing,” she says.

In California, which Lacey calls “the edge of the earth,” she has the giddy, anticipatory feeling that anything can happen–opportunity looms large, and her life may yet turn out the way she wants it to. But soon in her marriage with Toby, from their awkward honeymoon in Paris to their desperate attempts to build careers, Lacey knows that something is wrong. Toby, unemployed, becomes a permanent fixture on the couch, and things are no better at Lacey’s TV job, where a pit bull stalks her, colleagues tyrannize her, and her boss hits on her. Meanwhile, her twin brother has dropped off the face of the earth, and Lacey begins to wonder whether she and Toby should start a family if she can’t even figure out her own. It is only after Lacey has given up on both L.A. and love that she gets an unexpected shot at happiness.

Rich with wry humor and wisdom, Deirdre Shaw’s novel deftly portrays a relatable, unforgettable character in Lacey Brennan, who, after a five-year quest for love and belonging, finds she must live in the moment in order to understand her past and face her future.

243 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2009

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Deirdre Shaw

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Deirdre Shaw's first novel is LOVE OR SOMETHING LIKE IT (Random House, April 2009). She grew up in New York and now lives with her husband and young son in Los Angeles, where she writes for television.

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March 1, 2009
OK - full disclosure here... the author, Deirdre Shaw, is my wife. Which may make it seem like I can't really write an objective review. So I'll tell you about when I read the book for the first time, and you can take away what you will...

This is Deirdre's first novel, which she was completing just as we met. When I read the novel for the first time I didn't know Deirdre too well, and was a little nervous to read it... what if I didn't like it and had to find some way to be polite and say nice things? Thankfully, that wasn't the case. I thought it was artfully written, funny, engaging, and very moving. I remember getting to the last page and realizing that she was such a good writer that I had to marry her. There were other reasons, of course, but I'm a sucker for artistic talent.

So there you go... a subjective review, for what it's worth. But if you read it I think you'll agree with both of my conclusions: 1) It's a great book, and 2) I made the right choice to marry her.

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1,311 reviews29 followers
April 18, 2009
I was nervous about this one after seeing that it takes place in Hollywood. I was afraid it was going to be a story about rich, stuck-up actors and actresses in the business. However, I was completely taken back by this fantastically written book. The characters were struggling writers and were trying to figure out in what direction their lives were going. This is a great first novel and I can't wait to read more from this author.
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10 reviews
May 2, 2009
Just as wonderful as I thought it would be. Disclaimer: this book evolved out of a short story featured at the New Short Fiction Series Emerging Voices Group Show '05 - its even more wonderful than its beautiful source.
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365 reviews66 followers
May 28, 2009
This novel seemed to take a very long road to tell a very basic story. Often wrote in 1st person than switching to 3rd it was a bizarre read. One I finished but not one I'm very likely to pick up and read again.
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Author 4 books103 followers
May 26, 2015
This book was so heartfelt and smart and deftly written. The main character is so vulnerable and smart. It's a great romp around LA with a character that grows and changes in truly believable ways. Read this book!
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17 reviews1 follower
January 9, 2026
I loved this story, I just really struggled with the writing style. It felt like the author was talking in circles and at times I wondered if she forgot her point - though she did always manage to find where she was going. I also struggled with the fact that it switched from first to third person and back. It made it feel like something wasn’t fully proofed before publishing.

That said, I liked the characters and resonated with a lot of the story and the struggles Lacey went through.
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285 reviews6 followers
January 28, 2023
2.5: I liked the beginning, the first 35 pages or so, more than the rest of the book. Lacey and Toby were in their early 30s, but their actions and emotions seemed to be more like those of young people in their late teens or early twenties.
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December 2, 2013
Reading this thoughtful, detailed story made me think "well here's the difference between a self-published author and one from a publishing house!" Not that I don't love many of the loving-hands-at-home books I've downloaded -- yes, yes, I do -- but in general they are just not as well-written, as well-constructed, as introspective, as mature as this fantastic novel.

Truthfully and embarrassingly, I put off reading this because I found the author's photo to be pretentious and self-aware, and I feared what that might mean for the story .... I was wrong.

It's Lacey's bildungsroman, even though we are with her from twenty-nine through thirty-four (so a little old for a classic coming-of-age but that's the way it's happening these days -- we all seem to be maturing m-u-c-h later!). I am Lacey's age, meaning I would've been that age at that time, so the zeitgeist was personal for me.

Lacey has moved to Los Angeles from New York to live with her boyfriend, Toby, who is ensconced in the Hollywood scene. I am less than interested with the Hollywood story so, again, erroneously, again, thought I'd be checking out of this story. Well, while it is mostly set in Los Angeles with people who work in the entertainment industry, it's deeper than that: Hollywood and all that ick (my determination) is merely a backdrop for what Lacey does.

Lacey grows up. She grows up in such soft, subtle, nuanced ways that it was a pleasure and a heartbreak to read. Lacey and Toby marry, and Lacey is excited for their future. She is excited to grow up with Toby; unfortunately, Toby feels otherwise and it's on their honeymoon that Lacey really, clearly begins to see this. The dissolution of their marriage whimpers -- nothing explosive, and it felt real. Lacey has only herself on whom to rely so she does. Her world is changing beyond her control, beyond her desire, but she doesn't give up. She finds work and makes it work, even if it's not her passion; that's what grownups do. They take care of themselves and, if in a committed relationship (say, for example, a marriage), they take care of each other. Toby doesn't subscribe to this belief system.

Lacey thought she'd done everything "right": she came from a good family; she attended the right schools, got married at a respectable age ... but it didn't matter. Things can still blow up -- maybe not blow up, but one can still be left scratching one's head, wondering how this happened when it wasn't supposed to be like this.

Lacey was no Anne Shirley, I would not say she had pluck. She didn't seem esp funny or amusing to me, not vivacious; she seemed to have a quieter personality and kept her head down, doing what she had to in order to get by. I really admired that about her.

The story did seem to have a huge "huh?" for me in that after her divorce Lacey seemed to become a serial dater, or have an extraordinary number of dates in a short time, and I do not know anyone who dates that much or has the opportunity to date that much. It seemed both ridiculous and superfluous to me. Which brings me to probably my biggest problem with the book: I am afraid it is largely autobiographical, and I am making sure to learn nothing about the author so I won't be terribly disappointed if it is largely borrowed from her life. For some reason it would take the bloom off the rose for me, to learn she has mostly mined her background as opposed to inventing out of nearly whole cloth this fastidious story. As a reader and a lover of fiction, I need to believe stories are spun out of air, not out of my fourth grade.

Through time and experience and therapy, Lacey starts to understand herself, from where she's come and where she wants to go.**THIS** was my favorite part of the story, to watch this woman understand herself and move forward so she doesn't repeat herself, doesn't prevent herself from finding and making her happiness. I just loved this. Loved it. I loved watching this woman not be dependent upon anyone (esp a man) to make her okay, to make her happy, to complete her, etc. Being in a relationship can be wonderful, it can be fun, but we have to be our own person first, and to me, this was the central theme of Lacey's story.

The book ends on an upbeat note: Lacey met a man who has traveled the same road as she. He is figuring himself out and he likes her for who she is, not what she can do for him or how she can take care of him. Lacey won't hitch her wagon to his star, though: she's determined to be her own star, but we understand their stars might be traveling along the same trajectory .... Nothing is tied in a neat bow, no tidy epilogue (thank goodness!). Instead, we feel okay, watching Lacey go off and make her way: we know she can do it. We know Lacey and we know Lacey knows herself.

I finished the book feeling slightly bittersweet because I'd grown to care about Lacey and wanted to see her achieve some lasting happiness, so it was totally selfish on my behalf.
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January 16, 2012
This is a nice, easy-to-read novel about a couple of formative years in a young woman's life. Lacey leaves NYC to be with her boyfriend Toby in Hollywood. Toby is nice, funny, loving, and the fact that he moves on the periphery of Hollywood's celebrity culture is a nice perk. Lacey herself, after a boring newspaper job, starts working as a writer's assistant on a sitcom. Then Toby loses his job. They get married anyway, but things start going downhill immediately, as Toby becomes passive and withdrawn and Lacey begins to realize that she wants to be taken care of, not the caretaker. THey end up divorcing and Lacey rebounds with a downright stupid affair with her nasty boss. Finally she decides to move back to NYC... and then she meets another man.

The story, as outlined above, could be that of a 1000 other novels. But the story is saved by the gentle dissection of Lacey's soul, the probings into her backstory, her family's story. The second major attraction of the novel for me was the often very funny description of the Hollywood world, the shark-infested waters of the enterntainment business. And third, having lived on both coasts myself, I could identify with Lacey's waverings about which geography would suit her best, which state or city would make her happiest (she even considers moving to the Midwest after a week in an artists' colony). In that respect, the book reminded me of Alison Lurie's The Nowhere City, where a couple of transplanted New Englanders ponders the same questions in the 60s.

Conclusion : a lovely novel that draws you in and gently takes you into another world.

I will be looking forward with interest to further novels from this author.
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Author 2 books135 followers
March 4, 2009
Deirdre Shaw is my dear friend. I want to say she's my friend because she is thoughtful, witty and the sharpest of observers. She is these things, but she is my friend because she is INSANELY talented. Years ago, the first time I met Deirdre, I heard her read one of her stories, and I said to myself, that woman is going to be famous, so go make her your friend, ding-dong. And now, low and behold here is that book, that book that is going to make you all know her name!

If you have ever loved someone and then rolled over one day and wondered who they were and how you came to be living in a foreign land -- literal and figurative, than pick this book up and feel all those yearnings and that mix of confusion and nauseous rendered as only Shaw can. Every page holds Deirdre's thoughtfulness, wit, and an unmatched precision of observation. It is a book to be devoured in one sitting and returned to for the sheer pleasure of it. Read it and you'll want her as your friend too.
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989 reviews22 followers
August 31, 2018
This book was published in 2009 and has been on my TBR list since about then. I finally decided to go for it, and I'm glad I did! It is an extremely well-written story about the impact of deep-seated family issues and the challenges of a young marriage. The main character, 30-something Lacey Brennan, is newly transplanted in Los Angeles as a result of her new marriage. She begins a career as a writer in the television industry. The author, whom I understand to be a TV writer herself, delivers an interesting insider's look at both the industry and life in L.A., much as Stephanie Danler did with the NYC restaurant industry in Sweetbitter with a 10-years younger, single, main character. I like both books very much for that similar quality, but LOSLI is much less racy and drug-fueled and more introspective, and I enjoyed the writing style a lot.
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Author 6 books20 followers
April 27, 2009
"Raw, realistic...anyone who's ever had to deal with the death of a relationship (and isn't that pretty much everyone?) will appreciate Shaw's honest, vividly written take."
- People Magazine, 5/4/09, (3 1/2 out of 4 stars)

"A thoughtful, well-written story about a young woman prevailing over a difficult past...wryly funny, refreshingly honest...Shaw writes convincingly, with insight and wisdom."
- The Boston Globe, 4/12/09

"Piercingly insightful... Shaw's graceful prose and razor-sharp observations make this absorbing debut a true standout." -- Booklist (starred review), 03/01/09

“Bright and promising...Shaw’s first novel unfolds easily, with well-crafted prose and vivid detail. A great young-in-L.A. novel.”
-- Publishers Weekly, 11/08/08
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259 reviews2 followers
August 3, 2009
I think it's hard to relate to the Hollywood part when I've only visited- but it was interesting to see the lifestyle of someone from the East Coast trying to find their way in such a different way of life. I really liked how the author brought the dysfunctional family together to help clear the air- how amazing it would be if every 30-something had the courage to do that. The world would be a much better, happier place!!! The couple Lacey & Toby befriended at the beginning, I believe that part could have been shortened - didn't add as much - and loved the transformation of her brother. Decent beach read!!
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399 reviews4 followers
May 26, 2009
Lacey grows up in a rocky-split family. Her mother left at a young age, leaving their father to take care of lacey and her twin brother sam. Lacey decides to leave for a boarding school at 14 yrs old, and Sam decides he cant take it anymore and ventures out on his own. He gets caught up in skiing and drugs. The whole time Lacey feels she is at fault for leaving him behind.

Lacey ages and gets married to Toby. Their marriage doesnt even last one year. She feels she is once again is at fault. She has many regrets, and heart ache and tries to sort it all out. She learns to love again and to just live in the moment instead of the past or the future. She is once again happy!
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14 reviews2 followers
July 22, 2009
I had seen this book in the library under the new novel section and went on a waiting list to read it. I was not disappointed by the wait.

Shaw gives us an insightful look at a 30 something newlywed trying to redefine her life as both her personal and professional life take an unfairytale like turn. What you get is vivid detailing and a no so rosey view of young Hollywood which unfurls into a smart storyline which one cannot stop reading!

This real story of LA is a promising debut from Shaw. If you are looking for something more than a "beach read" this is highly recommended. You will not be disappointed!

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4,244 reviews93 followers
January 3, 2015
Maybe I wasn't in a terribly discriminating mood, but I really liked this semi-coming-of-age story. I say "semi" because a woman in her 20s-30s is, for all intents and purposes, already Of Age. Lacey's journey from childhood (divorced parents, runaway scapegrace brother) to marriage (to a Peter Pan type) to living on her own and finally being ok with that resonated. Not because I've had similar experiences, but because the archetypes felt real - I understood her journey.

One major quibble: impactful is NOT a word.
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17 reviews1 follower
March 3, 2009
This is a beautifully written first novel by my talented sister-in-law [full disclosure:] that I would love whether or not I knew the author. She writes about her characters with wit and care during difficult transitions in their lives - particularly the life of her main character, Lacey Brennan. The novel explores hazy LA, dysmorphic Hollywood-types, scars leftover from childhood wounds, and the malaise of heartbreak and uncertainty without becoming melancholy. It's moving and honest and I laughed out loud. There is something here for everyone.
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1,052 reviews22 followers
April 25, 2009
A random library find. The title seemed to remind me of something - a review from a friend? but seeing how new the book is (the binding is still stiff!) I realized it hadn't been.

Love or something like it is a good weekend read. I think what I'm left with is the feeling that the book is believable. The characters, the relationships, the situations, and the process. And to borrow a quote from the book, it's about coming forward, straight and true.
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44 reviews
June 7, 2011
I read this the day it was released: I was up all night with allergies and a cold. Thank goodness I had this book! This is not the typical pop novel you might assume from the cover. The author's voice is unique and compelling. I keep hearing Lacey in my head, weeks after I read it. I think I need to read it again, to discover more about her (with an unfogged head).
(Full disclosure, the author is my sister-in-law, but very talented, nonetheless!)
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45 reviews
June 4, 2009
I was pleasantly surprised at how well this story was told. After reading the synopsis, I was thinking it might just be another shallow chick lit book (which don't get me wrong--I do enjoy from time to time). Lacey, the main character is portrayed in a very real and touching way. Basically, the book is about a woman's short lived marriage and the aftermath as she picks herself up again while also doing it in a completely different place from where she had grown up.
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635 reviews70 followers
June 13, 2009
I was surprised by how much I enjoyed this, because it's about a pretty woman from a wealthy family who bounces between interesting jobs and hot boyfriends and is still sort of unhappy. Man, if she led my boring life she would have hung herself at 32. Snap out of it, girl! But it was so well written, and the characters were so believable, that I gulped it down in two days and wanted it to be longer.
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410 reviews3 followers
August 5, 2011
Shaw's book was beautifully written and very heartfelt - it seemed like she took one of her characters' advice and wrote about subjects she knew well - the disintegration of a marriage, and difficult, but well-meaning families. Shaw is also clearly a short story writer - almost every chapter would work on its own. The book was a little slow to start - by not beginning at the "beginning" not eveything worked, but it grows on you quickly.
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284 reviews
July 15, 2012
"Love or Something Like It" is a story about a single woman, alone in a big city (L.A.), sort of searching for love, but really Lacey is just plain searching, and she's no Bridget Jones. At times, this novel's chapters read like independent short stories rather than parts of a cohesive whole. By the end, you'll feel like Lacey is one of your friends, and you'll be proud of what she's accomplished over the course of these 250 pages.
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1,029 reviews8 followers
February 14, 2014
Definitely a book that falls into and appeals to a certain demographic - thirtysomethings who are reflecting on their lives and the choices they've made.

Starts off with an immature and rather annoying main character and ends with the same main character not only growing up but turning into someone you want to root for. Recommended for any thirtysomething woman who is at a crossroad in her life.
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385 reviews56 followers
March 10, 2009
I'm not family nor am I a professional book reviewer, but my library was sent an advanced release copy of this book and it instantly caught my eye. The title is excellent. I wouldn't say it is one of my favorites, but it was really good. I loved the writing and will definitely read any forthcoming books by this author.
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25 reviews
March 5, 2009
With a wry wit and great insight, Deirdre Shaw completely captures what it means to be a 30 (something)woman trying to make a good life for herself. Pardon the cliche, but it really IS laugh-out-loud funny, and yet so spot on that I found great comfort (and relief) in the universality of the story. Great LA scenes too.
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1,978 reviews38 followers
June 12, 2009
This book just got better and better the further into I got. It's about Lacey who impulsively moves to L.A. with her boyfriend, but after they get married their relationship starts to fall apart. She can barely believe it when they get divorced and kindof goes into a tailspin in her own life. But, eventually she picks herself up and begins to re-create her life. A very well-done book!
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16 reviews
July 5, 2009
Beautiful, deep, heartfelt story. Captures the feelings and emotions of the characters very well. It is an inspiring story of how when life throws limes at you, pick yourself up and make limeade. The book is a page-turner right up to the very end. Shaw has a great ability to weave together different storyline threads in a very compelling, readable way.
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689 reviews
September 8, 2009
Story is about a 30ish woman who followed her husband from NYC to LA for his career. Marriage ended after one year and she has to figure out who she is. She has commitment issues stemming from childhood when her mother left the family to marry someone else. Can she resolve those and find happiness?
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