When Marriage Needs an Answer: The Decision to Fix Your Struggling Marriage or Leave Without Regret

by Sharon Pope

If you knew how to make the relationship better, you would have done that years ago. That doesn’t mean there aren’t real answers to the issues in your marriage and real answers on how to move forward whether that’s with or without your spouse. Every marriage struggles occasionally. But sometimes the struggles begin to feel insurmountable and we begin to think the only answer is to make the heartbreaking and painful decision to leave. The distance between the two of you widens, the resentments mount, and you feel like you’ve tried everything to make it better, but nothing ever changes. The biggest questions of our lives rarely have simple, easy answers. And trying to determine whether the problems in the marriage can be fixed or if the only answer is to lovingly release it is arguably one of the scariest and most important decisions you will ever make.

Through this book, you
• Know if hope exists for your struggling marriage or if the answer is to lovingly release it.
• Learn why you’re feeling stuck and what to do instead.
•Understand why you’re having the same arguments and how to interrupt these same recurring painful patterns in the relationship.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Marriage

280 pages, Paperback

Published August 18, 2020

Reviews

[Bethany · Rating 4 out of 5]

I feel like Sharon is like my iPhone, secretly listening to me and watching my every move. She really calls out all my bullshit for not making a choice. Including my furnace going out.

I can’t say I’m there yet. I want to do what she suggests. I know my answer. I’m just a chicken. I’m afraid. Of everything. It’s easier to stay and accept my fate. I don’t want to ever be here again.

I at first felt stuck. I lashed out. I attacked. Then I tried to make a conscious choice to stay and be open, soft, if you will. That didn’t get anywhere either. Am I just stressed out from kids and work? Or is this really over?

I still don’t have my complete answer. But I’m at least going to try a few of her suggestions before throwing in the towel. Not sure they’ll get me anywhere. But I need to at least try.

[Christina L · Rating 5 out of 5]

Not just for those struggling in marriage…

There are so many great nuggets of truth in this book. If you’re married (even if you have a great relationship) READ THIS BOOK!

[Feistync · Rating 5 out of 5]

This isn’t JUST about sorting your relationship with someone else. It’s more about being honest with yourself - about your past and about what you want from the future. I’ve had some experience with most of the things covered in this book, but she does SUCH an amazing job putting it all together. PSA - while the general concepts are for anyone, this is very much geared toward women. I felt so seen while reading it.

[Rita · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book offers so many more insights into all relationships - not just marriage. I would recommend it to anyone looking to find tools to use in communication.

[Bobby · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good read

Mainly for women. Didn’t realize it when i got it, but the principles are the same for both men and women.

[Ana · Rating 4 out of 5]

Título: When marriage needs an answer
Autor: Sharon Pope

📖Sinopsis: creo que si pudiéramos tener relaciones perfectas, todos las tendríamos, pero seamos francos, no las tenemos. Este libro ayuda a buscar opciones distintas al conflicto,
Busca por medio de herramientas simples, como volver a unir a una pareja. También te da la forma de entender si la opción es irte sin dolor y de una manera amena.

🗒️Opinión: a ti que tienes una linda relación, a ti que no la estás pasando bien, o a ti que aún no tienes una pareja, este libro de manera sabia te puede guiar para que tu relación mejore o para que termine de una manera sana. Es de crecimiento personal lo cual lo hace un negativo para mí porque no me gusta esta literatura, pero siento que está muy bien escrito y por medio de ejemplos personales y de pacientes logra hacer que el lector se identifique con las situaciones.

[Amanda Pustejovsky · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is excellent for anyone trying to make the tough choices in life and marriage.

Goes beyond marriage and gives you necessary life skills to achieve successful relationships with others and, more importantly, yourself. If you're ready for some clarity over what to do next in your marriage, this book is for you. The concepts presented make you think and even help you transform unproductive thought patterns. Really anyone wanting a great marriage and internal self peace should read this book.

[Paige · Rating 4 out of 5]

Like other reviews have said - this book is geared more for women, and yet I find myself thinking any one can read this (and should!) and take something from it. All so relatable.
A good book that I will continue to come back to.

[Stephanie Wagenhals · Rating 5 out of 5]

Perfect

Not sure how but felt this author was writing this book for me. We shall see where it may take us, but such solid advice and guidance I am ready to apply her tools to my marriage and see what comes of it

[Miss Kali Filsell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book

I loved this book it really helped me decide and accept what I knew in heart of hearts had to happen

[Melissa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good information

I felt informed and learned some new tools for being in a relationship. Its an easy read. Would recommend to give it a read.

[Brook Vasquez · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book has a lot of really great therapy principles included, the writing style just felt a little fluffy and like the author was just citing everyone else’s ideas and calling it her own.

[Jody Nalder · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome mind configuration.

Really did make me rethink how I think and how I address my problems. She makes many points I can relate to.

[Elinor · Rating 5 out of 5]

Definitely have me a lot to think about. Many things she wrote were familiar to me, and there were things that I have already tried, and things that I will try.
Worth reading if you are in this situation

[Ashmf3 · Rating 5 out of 5]

I finished reading this with a renewed clarity about what I can do differently for myself, take responsibility, and move forward with confidence and love. Engaging and practical!!

[Amanda · Rating 4 out of 5]

Didn't save my marriage but felt like it helped me to know I made the right decision.