I would like to express my deep deep appreciation and thanks for the Author's Note in this book!!
It is raw, honest and empowering!! And I would only like to add that people should not generalize what does or doesn't work for them to be the standard for someone else.
For those who haven't read the author's note in this book, I would like to share it (hopefully with approval of both author's) as I think a big part of this statement should be more available to people who have opinions about what does or doesn't apply to survivor's of abuse. I would love to see more author's who write about these subjects to make it so clear that one should never be censured or ashamed of what gives someone pleasure as long as it is consensual for all involved!
Authors’ Note:
As Harper and I were getting things finalized for Blaze of Wrath and getting feedback in, an issue arose that we thought needed to be addressed. It's been hinted at before in our books, but some of our characters are into BDSM. Now, this book isn't classified as dark, so you don't have to worry there. But something we've gotten feedback for (including hate mail and negative reviews) is that Nix shouldn't be enjoying vanilla sex, let alone BDSM and group sex. As an abuse survivor, this is incredibly derogatory and I wanted to address it. Being a survivor of abuse means MANY different things, and everyone's experience is going to be different. Nix is the brainchild of both Harper and I, and as such, some of what she handles is based on our experiences. As a survivor of sexual abuse, many of Nix’s reactions are based on my personal experience with sex and how I react, so it is drawn from real life. It has always been our goal to keep this seriesas realistic as possible, but we would like to remind our readers that everyone’s experiences are going to differ greatly. There is no right way to cope or deal with abuse. Again, I highlight that it is different for everyone, but, to clarify that, please remember: Being a survivor does not always mean you hate all sex. Being a survivor does not always mean that you have panic attacks or flashbacks at every single encounter. Being a survivor does not mean always mean that things that have caused panic attacks in the past will continue to cause them in the present or in the future. Being a survivor does not always mean that you can't enjoy rough sex or even BDSM - for some survivors they prefer BDSM because it is different from their experience. Sometimes it is "normal" sex that can be a problem because it most closely resembles what they lived through. Being a survivor does not always mean that your triggers make sense; some things you expect to be sensitive to, you aren’t; some things you don't realize bother you pop up at the worst, mostunexpected times. For some, it may mean all of these things. For some, it may mean none of these things. And all of that is okay. Nix, in particular, has a problem with weight directly on top of her impeding her breathing. She has other triggers as well that you may pick up on and see crop up now and again. BDSM, and other kinks, are not in and of themselves triggers for Nix, nor for many others. Nix is a character, but she's still a person. Survivors need to do whatever it takes to make them happy and whole. More of Nix's back story will come to light as she is comfortable revealing it to her mates. She will enjoy many different kinks with her mates. She'll grow as a person and find things that she likes and dislikes. She'll communicate with them and develop a healthy, fulfilling sex life. And we hope that you enjoy her journey along the way. To all my survivors out there, I'm so sorry for what you've been through, and I'm so proud of where you are today. You're not alone, and support is always here if you need it. Be happy. You've earned it. I hope Nix has helped to ease your burden just a little, as she has helped mine.
Love,Quinn (and Harper)
Ooh and for those who didn't understand yet, I highly recommend this series! 😘