目送

by Lung Ying-tai, 龍應台

After her book of conversation with her 19-year-old son, the author, commentator, and professor writes about her father's death, her aging mother, her sons growing up and leaving home, her vulnerability and failures parents and her friends...

Genres: China, Chinese Literature, Literature, Essays, Nonfiction, Inspirational, Asia

311 pages, Paperback

First published July 10, 2008

About the author

Lung Ying-tai (traditional Chinese: 龍應台; simplified Chinese: 龙应台; pinyin: Lóng Yìngtái) (born February 13, 1952 in Kaohsiung) is a Taiwanese essayist and cultural critic. She occasionally writes under the pen name 'Hu Meili' (胡美麗). Lung's poignant and critical essays contributed to the democratization of Taiwan and as the only Taiwanese writer with a column in major mainland Chinese newspapers, she is an influential writer in Mainland China.

Lung was the Minister of the Ministry of Culture of the Republic of China in 2012-2014.

(from Wikipedia)

Reviews

[LEUNG CHIN KIU Felix · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book includes a lot of separated stories (散文), which talk about the author's living and life, it taught me about the way of living and the things that we should do and not to do. One of the chapter talked about the author's parents getting old, I learn from that one a lot, to cherish your time living in this world and be prepared, it made me impressed. This book packed a lot of interesting ideas and stories for us to check out, as well as some funny things and fact that happen, the author described scenarios in a really realistic way. This book is totally good for almost all types of people. I'm happy about reading it!

[Jasmine · Rating 5 out of 5]

Life is a journey full of unexpected events which is worth a ride.

This is a book consists of 74 proses. Most of them were about life, love, friendship, relationship, and the author's experiences. I like those precious lessons of life because they were truly touching and thought-provoking, making me retrospect my daily life and the way I interact with people or family.

「人生由淡淡的悲傷和淡淡的幸福組成，在小小的期待、偶爾的興奮和沉默的失望中度過每一天，然後帶著一種想說卻又說不來的『懂』，作最後的轉身離開。」(Life is made up of simple grief and simple happiness, living every day in tiny anticipation, occasional excitement, and silent disappointment, and with a kind of "understanding" that's beyond words served as a good-bye.)

龍應台在華文文壇界佔有一席之地，而《目送》更是令人值得深思的一本書，其中談論的主題皆是生活周遭的所見所聞，尤其跟家人的相處與面對時間遞嬗及年紀的增長，在在使我們更能用心體會生命存在的價值。

[Bill · Rating 5 out of 5]

用了幾年斷續讀完了這本書，陪伴是對親人最好的愛，要寫下來。龍應台的書要讀幾本。

[Barack Liu · Rating 5 out of 5]

230-Mu Song-Lung Ying-tai-Essay-2008
Barack
2019/07/29
2020/06/24


—— "The so-called father-daughter-mother-child match only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back in this life and this life. You stand at this end of the path and watch him gradually disappear into the path. Turning place, and, with his back, he silently tells you: don’t chase. "

"Watching" was first published in Taiwan in 2008. It contains a total of 73 essays by Long Yingtai, including writing about father's death, mother's old age, son's separation, friend's concern, brothers' hand in hand, writing about failure and vulnerability, loss and letting go, and writing about perseverance. And absolutely nothingness.

Long Yingtai was born in 1952 in Liáo Village, Kaohsiung, Taiwan. He studied in the Department of Foreign Languages at National Cheng Kung University and obtained a Ph.D. in English at Kansas State University. In 1985, he gave birth to his son Andre. In 1999, he served as the first Director of the Cultural Affairs Bureau of Taipei City. In 2012, he became the first "Minister of Culture" in Taiwan, China. Representative works: "Wildfire Collection", "Dear Andre", "Watching", "A Hundred Years of Thinking", "Da Jiang Da Jiang 1994", etc.

Part of the catalog
1. There are some roads, only one person can walk
1.1. Watching
1.2. Yuer
1.3. Seventeen years old
2. There is a mark on the sand, a sound in the wind, and a shadow in the light
2.1. Find
2.2. Melancholy
2.3. My Village
3. Blooming tea trees all over the mountains
3.1. Nether
3.2. Disarm
3.3. Be young

"When two people walk together, half of their hearts are on the person, and only half of their hearts are looking at the scenery. To really watch, you must walk alone. Walking alone is the private meeting between you and the scenery."

"Shu people Zhang Dai, Tao Anqi. Not a dude, loves the prosperity, a good abode, a funny maid, a good prostitute, good clothes, good food, a good horse, a good lantern, a good firework, a good Liyuan, Good advocacy, good antiques, good flowers and birds, both tea and tangerine abuse, bookworms, poetry demon, toil for half a lifetime, all become dreams. Between the age of 50, the country is ruined and the country is destroyed, and the rest is broken. folding tripod residual disease piano and several books Zhi, Yan lack of a party only. commoner sparse buttercup, often to the famished look back twenty years ago, really Kate. "

In December of the fifth year of Chongzhen, Yu lived in West Lake. In the three days of heavy snow, the sound of people and birds in the lake was absolutely perfect. The day was more set, Yu took a small boat, held a lavender fire, and went to the lake pavilion to watch the snow alone. The rime is foggy, the sky and the clouds, the mountains, and the water are white. The shadows on the lake are just a trace of the long dike, a small pavilion in the center of the lake, a mustard with Yu Zhou, and two or three grains of people in the boat. On the pavilion, there were two people spreading felts and sitting opposite each other, and a boy was making wine, and the furnace was boiling. Seeing Yu Daxi, he said: "How can there be more people like this in the lake?" La Yu Tongyin. Yu Qiang drinks three whites and farewell. Asked his surname, he was from Jinling. Before getting off the boat, Zhouzi murmured: "Don't say that you are idiots, even more idiotics are like sannyasis."

"We tried desperately to learn how to successfully sprint 100 meters, but no one taught us: when you fall, how to fall with dignity; when your knee is broken and bloody, how to clean your wounds and how to bandage; you can't bear the pain. What kind of expressions should you use to face others when you are down? How to treat the bleeding wounds in your heart, how to get deep peace of mind, and how to clean up when your heart is broken like glass? Who taught us, What kind of bravery is really useful when you fall? What kind of wisdom can you survive? How can a fall become a power to travel? Why failure is often the practice of life? How can people who have fallen be more profound and sincere? We have not learned it." "Wisdom must come from loneliness."

"A lot, did not take long on the loose, because people become, life changes, and family, but also with the bad when long for stability, a lot of people into a house; when the desire for freedom, but also a lot of people eager to flee a stable family man. Maybe you met a person who yearned for freedom, and someone who was looking for freedom might fall in love with someone who was looking for stability. Home, accidentally became a place without warmth and only oppression. The outside world is desolate, but home But it can be colder. Although one person is lonely, two people can be more lonely while speaking silently under the lamp." "It's not that people are getting smaller, but you are getting old."

"It turns out that there is a categorical inverse relationship between these two passbooks. Every cent of "money" you earn in that passbook is accumulated with every inch of "time" in this passbook. "In exchange for it. And, even more amazing, the two "currency values" of "money" and "time" are non-circulating, non-convertible, and unequal currencies-once you use it, you can't use the passbook. "Money" is exchanged for the "time" that has already been paid out. No price or any number can be exchanged. Yes, because of this, so how different my attitudes towards the use of the two passbooks are. "Money" is becoming more generous, and "time" is becoming more and more stingy. "Money" can be given to strangers who pass by, while "time" is only given to warm and beloved people."

"Happiness is that the ordinary days remain the same. Happiness is that the ordinary people remain the same." "It costs three to twenty-five dollars to bury a landmine, which is extremely fast; to clear a landmine, it costs three hundred to one thousand. U.S. dollars, but-how to sweep mines? A minesweeper, risking being blown to pieces, lay on the ground, holding a metal rod for mine detection, and stretched out to the ground in front of him all day. He can clear an area of 20 to 50 square meters. This means that it will take 4,300 years to clear one-fifth of Afghanistan’s landmines."

"The dividing line between civilization and barbarism is weak, chaotic, and will break if you pull it." "You look around, there is a red hustle and bustle, but it seems to see the boundless indifferent empty space, those who come are always coming, those who go are always going , Nothing can be grasped or kept; it turns out that all the hustle and bustle of the red dust is the grass rolling by the wind, running in one direction, the end of the wilderness. It turns out that all my present moments belong to others In the past. He who is reluctant to give up, he hurries to get rid of. What you rush to get rid of, others are reluctant to give up. The continuation of life is an eternal transfer process of nostalgia and getting rid of."

"When you haven't seen this flower, this flower is dead with you; when you see this flower, the color of this flower is understood for a while, and you know that this flower is not outside your heart."

Objective things want to have an impact on us. Must act on our consciousness first. When something is not thought of in our minds, what is the difference between it and nonexistence? If the sound of a tree falling is not heard by any person or animal, what is the difference whether it falls? It only exists when its impact is felt. Such as sound, overwhelming wires and so on . It's like in the game , the map of the area that the player has not reached is actually not drawn by the computer. The computer will only render what the player has seen.

" Many, many children are waiting for the first bell ringing in the playground on the playground. The little hands, circled in the palms of father and mother, looked at the surroundings with timid eyes. They are kindergarten graduates, but They still don’t know a law: the graduation of one thing is always the opening of another. "

Like the game , fiction, animation , like , the end of each event, followed by another new thing. Life interesting places , then this is it. Whenever we are sentimental because of the end of the matter and the parting of people , it is actually the beginning of a new journey.

" He was in a long line, waiting for the passport inspection; I was standing outside, following his back with my eyes and moving forward inch by inch. Finally it was his turn, stopped at the customs window for a while, then took my passport back, and flashed in. The door was suddenly invisible. I've been waiting, waiting for a glance back before he disappeared. But he didn't, not once. "

If when you leave , there is a person in your care you watched you leave behind. Then we'd better look back at the other party at the last moment when we disappear from the other party's field of vision , and smile.

" Slowly and slowly, I learned that the so-called father-daughter mother-child game only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back drift away in this life and this life. You are standing here on the path. At one end, watching him gradually disappear into the corner of the path, and, with his back, he silently tells you: don't chase. "

Parents can only accompany us for the first 18 years of life. Our children only accompany us for the middle 18 years of our lives. And friends come and go in our lives. Only his wife , was able to accompany our most personal life. Therefore, how can one choose a life partner carelessly?

" Will old women be like this? They are getting thinner and thinner, their feet are getting lighter, their voices are getting weaker, their expressions are getting more and more withdrawn, that is to say, people are gradually turning into shadows. Is that so? "

When my own grandmother passed away, she gradually lost her memory. She almost forgot her sons, daughters , and grandchildren . Memory is one of the most precious things of mankind. If there is no memory, am I still me ?

" "You must not believe what the teacher said," Hua Fei smiled. "The teacher told us: Don't believe in this kind of'pure' love. In fact, love lasts mostly because the two have a foundation of'mutual benefit'. Without a'mutually beneficial' relationship, love will not last. I looked at him in surprise and asked, "Do you agree with him?" Hua Fei nodded. I quickly recalled my 17-year-old self: I, and my friends my age, believed in Qiong Yao. All men have deep and painful eyes, and women have cold little hands and cold hands. Hot and crazy enthusiasm. Love is the soul without meat, it is surging and uncontrollable; the love that is beautiful, romantic, pure and destructive is the highest level of love. "

When a man in love , experienced probably really is such a pure spirit can be detached style of physical love. But I think , after experiencing the failure of a passionate first love. This feeling of high fever will probably fade away gradually.

" Tsai Qin's voice has the deepness of the river, the melancholy of the evening, and the lingering lingering of a hangover. She sang in a low voice, the reverberation of the sound and then abruptly stopped, people responded with fanatical applause. She said, you know. It’s my song. What you don’t know is my life, and my life is not important to you. Amidst the waves of applause, I didn’t applaud, but I still looked at her deeply. The “things” she said, It was the death of the fifty-nine-year-old director Yang Dechang. The "life" she said was her own life; but life, except for herself, who might know? A person who once loved so much that he couldn't help himself has died, Cai Qin, where is yours One song is to mourn; which song is to say goodbye; which song is to re-promise; which song is to make eternal preparations for yourself? "

There are not many people in this world who have the will , time , and patience to understand the story of our life. Even if we become famous in the future, people may just envy our talents or status . They never accompany us to grow up together, never comfort us or support us when we were the youngest and most disappointed . One day it will become famous all over the world, but apart from a few old friends , who can know your own loneliness ?

" Today is the night of July 7, the second night that the former traveler Shen Junshan suffered a three-time stroke and fell into a coma. There are fifty thousand people singing happily, applause, laughter, and singing, mixed with the city lights prancing and illuminating. The pink sky is gone. At this moment, Shen Junshan, who has been known as a "gifted scholar" all his life, is in the intensive care unit alone. Of course, the talented scholar is as clear as ice and snow: There are certain things that can only be done by one person. Some are related, Only one person can walk. There are some roads, and only one person can walk. "

" I used to stay in the villa for thirty days without leaving the house. I sat on the balcony and recorded the minutes and seconds of the setting sun and the movement of the point where it touched the edge of the mountain when it fell. Sometimes, trekking birds accidentally flew into the house, I flapped my wings from one bookcase to another, looking for a way out in confusion and panic. On a particularly humid day, I opened the floor-to-ceiling glass door of the balcony and stood in the middle of the living room, guarding a cloud on the top of the mountain in the distance. Looking at this cloud, slowly drifting from the mountain peak, drifting over, across the balcony, into my living room, enveloping me, and then flow to each room, finally divided into small flowers, floating out from different windows , Return to Shanlan. "

This time I experienced the feeling of being dormant for 6 months. Re-read more than 200 books , as if to re-experience the over 200 different life, with more than 200 different friends to talk to. It's hard to say what the gains are from how to do it . I can only wait for the future again when memories of this time, its effect will emerge. At that time, there may be a mottled feeling of time being scattered.

" There is a kind of loneliness, adding a person to talk about, a close dog, maybe it can be reduced. There is a kind of loneliness, the boundlessness of the "exhausted boat" between the boundless world, perhaps can only face each other alone , Practice without makeup. "

"I used to believe in patriotism, but later I learned that there was a problem with the definition of "national". Usually, the "national" defined by those who tempted you to be patriotic is not necessarily cute, not necessarily worthy of love, and more likely to be worth overthrowing. I have believed in history. Later, I learned that half of the original history is fabricated.

[Babe Gladwaller · Rating 4 out of 5]

读得很慢，觉得很沉重又是生活的现实，但是龙应台身上有一份从容淡然。

[Allison Tsui · Rating 5 out of 5]

這本書令我明白到父母親的想法，有些東西我和作者的孩子都做了，而可能令父母不開心。現在我明白了應該怎樣與父母相處。我希望我日後可以令父母不用再為我擔心。

[P · Rating 4 out of 5]

單談作品。　［文字］　比喻多巧思，但行文囉嗦。用字雅俗夾雜，好用大詞，有濫調（素顏前行等）；　愛用第二人稱，甚至寫自己也用，似乎是她的特色，很有意思，讀來直接完成了讀者的自我代入，同時我想像，以第三視角審視自己也是寫作者的一種技巧與龍女士的獨特習慣（就創傷事件尤其說得通，輕度的「解離」是一種人之常情），不過主動招徠的親切也是一種自說自話的壓迫，難免有部分讀者的感受更偏不適；　句式口語化，易拖沓；　文章結構也「口語化」，雖然常有前後呼應的設計，但底盤還是隨性的，有想到哪寫到哪的意味，不過更應該説是作者砍斷連續劇的位置非常肆意，前後幾篇往往是連著的，而每一集結構奇怪節奏飄忽。　以上見仁見智。　要我説，排比易寫，剋制卻難。有時候她一個個比方打下去，我感覺被冒犯😂。　［內容］　情與理都大致實在，但講述姿態令我分心，時有隔靴搔癢之感。一些展示生活方式與境界的文字在我看來是閑筆，且我從文字感受到的龍的境界與她描寫、嚮往的境界尚有差距。雖然是尋常人都有的問題，但這種不匹配（不信服）導致閱讀體驗的煩躁。
I - 3星 ； II - 3星 ； III - 4.5星

當誇則誇。多數篇章都能摘出喜歡的隻言片語來，有幾篇甚至幾乎全文摘錄（不過大段摘的幾篇多半都因爲踩到以上某條不合心意的地方，反而沒有進入下面這個列表）。無論我怎麽挑刺，我知道自己在做人、做事、寫字上都離她差得遠，說龍應台是一個教人如何做兒女的作家，是沒有錯的。尾章大概從中段開始，環環相扣的篇章讓人喘不過氣來，像是一連串炸彈、一套組合拳，威力堪比八九個陳情表，把散落在各篇的零零角角一一回收，竟像是長篇小説的收官。只不過收一個線索刺激一次淚腺，是人生的落幕走馬燈。寫生與命的龍應台是最好的龍應台。

喜歡的篇目（我好像確實比較喪）：
I 1964 共老 菊花 最後的下午茶
II 海倫 火警 手鐲 四千三百年 普通人 蓮花
III 繳械 女人 假牙 關山難越 老子 走路 眼睛 語言 注視 關機 魂歸

又：龍譯詩…不敢苟同
話說讀完這個正巧又看見余光中的鄉愁…以前只是感傷，這次卻痛聲大哭。
隔夜想起四郎探母的唱詞，又流了幾滴。四郎終究是探到了，我對那些人生中的求不得一點抵抗力也沒有阿。

[Wong Tsing Hay]

The book was a quite sad as it was about the author’s dad leaving this world, her mom getting older and older, her sons leaving her to study. I liked the book as it was touching and I learnt many things from this book, the book reminded me to spend more time with my family and friends and also cherish the time with them. Also, it also taught me to be independent, as there are always something that I need to deal it by myself.

[Ng Yan Kiu Chiemi · Rating 5 out of 5]

作者在書中寫道父親的死亡、母親的衰老和失智；寫對父母的憐惜和體恤，寫兄弟攜手共行，兒子的離別，朋友的牽挂；寫自己的失敗和脆弱，失落和放手，以及一個人的走路、賞樹、觀鳥、拍照、生活等。從牽着孩子幼小的手，到青春後期孩子與自己漸行漸遠的背影；從陪着年邁母親如帶着女兒一般，思及自己也曾是父母眼前一去不返的背影，作者身邊的人一個個離開她。正如作者所說：「我慢慢地、慢慢地了解到，所謂父女母子一場，只不過意味着，你和他的緣分就是今生今世不斷地在目送他的背影漸行漸遠。你站在小路的這一端，看着他逐漸消失在小路轉彎的地方，而且，他用背影默默地告訴你，不用追。」我認為這句不只是總括了整本書，而且還讓讀者有很深的體會。

[Qiuld · Rating 5 out of 5]

Short stories about parents and family. No much rhetoric, no much exaggeration. All about the ordinary stories everyone would encounter more or less throughout the life.

[Anne Wang · Rating 4 out of 5]

讀完這本書，真的想回家，看看父母親和家人～

[Angus · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book tells me a lot about the author. in the book the author put many small stories in her life and make this book, This book let me know how her life was. when I am reading at this story it really inspired me a lot, I think the story of this book can be more interesting by adding authors opinion and add more pictures on it , anyway it really let me know more about the author, this book is interesting , but it can still have some improvement on it

[Indy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Short essays that inspire thoughts on life, parenting and travel. Some of them contain Chinese poems which really require some basic Chinese literature knowledge that I lack, hence I found those passages a bit more difficult to comprehend.

[Karlie · Rating 5 out of 5]

年末在书架上翻找看有什么值得一读的书，却发现一本朋友回国时留下的散文集在角落里静静立了三年，而我不知道它的存在。读下来非常的惊喜，这是我第一次读龙应台的书，文学功底之深厚，纬度之宽，角度之高，让我佩服不已，这是特殊历史环境下成长起来，对古今中外文学养份的孜孜以求与汲取，在不同文化地区里窜梭而积累下来的见地与情怀。是家国的，是人性的，是母女的，是母子的，是父女的。加深了我对生死与父母的终有一日之别的思考，更多一点对历史孤儿的感同身受，我想每位像我一样的旅行者，都能在《目送》找到自己的影子，探得一些前行的人生路。

[Rex · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this book when I am still a high school student, and was touched greatly by the interations between the author and her son at that time. But now, as a 25 year old student, I find it hard for me to digest what is written in this book.

[Aurora Ong · Rating 4 out of 5]

當我閱畢這本書後，我覺得非常感動。作者文筆細膩寫出對父母、兒子、朋友的深情，讓我好好反思。當我閱讀有關作者和兒子之間的感情，我有點感同身受，我想起自己上小學的時候會捨不得父母，會不停回頭，期望擁抱父母直至永遠。但漸漸長大就會開始不希望父母的跟隨，覺得父母與自己思想距離很遠，拖手也不願，更遑論一個擁抱，會感到渾身不自在。現在閱讀完這本書，明白父母愛子情意深切。我立即有點衝動，給父母來一個大擁抱，讓他們知道我有多愛他們。 這本書令我領悟到，對於過去，不再遺憾；面對未來，無須憂慮；而現在，要好好珍惜。

[Hannah · Rating 5 out of 5]

A really touching book about life and death of the loved ones, about the regret as a child, about the deep love between family members.

[Xiaoyun Li · Rating 5 out of 5]

读《目送》時，我正难得的回国休假在父母身边。那天，我和爸爸在医院候诊室等候看病，我忍不住朗诵了那篇《目送》给爸爸听。父母与子女，是上辈子欠下的情债吗？龙应台以母亲的角度，写自己看儿子一点儿一点儿长大。文笔敦实而感人，正如无尽如细水长流的母爱，无处不在。

[Yeung King Fung · Rating 5 out of 5]

A great book in the Chinese Language to let me learn my chinese writing. The book tells a lot of things that the mother thinks, it has a very high language value.

[Siu Tung · Rating 4 out of 5]

目送这本书记述了作者多次目送，例如目送他的儿子到美国当交换生。在作者儿子第一天上小学的时候，他对他的父母还有着满满的依恋。可儿子开始长大了，到机场要离开父母时，早已不是当初的小男孩。在这一刻，作者感受到了落寞，也觉得自己和儿子的感情渐渐疏远。而儿子更是认为母亲对自己的问候以及关心只会给他带来麻烦，心里也感觉不耐烦。我认为人不要等到自己失去亲人的时候才懂得珍惜。

[Wong Tsz Ling Jena · Rating 4 out of 5]

這本書主要是說作者對生活中自己身邊的人的感情，在〈目送〉這一章裏，作者以上目送一詞去表達那種看著而且不捨的感，作者以自己和兒子或父親的事情作為例子，帶出了自己的立場，意識到相遇意味著今生要不斷的目送並表達了自己對情緣的看法。

[Chaimiyouyan · Rating 4 out of 5]

又暖又寒的一章章文字。有的不是那么喜欢但有的真的凉风一样深入骨里。想知道慢慢老去的感觉和心境，是否能沉淀，到自己50，60，70。余生究竟应用什么样的态度面对，维持，优雅从容，过好一生的时间。

[kilig · Rating 4 out of 5]

像书里说的一样，我最喜欢的也是《相信》这篇，《普通人》和《雪白的布》这两篇也很喜欢。全本书语言都是温柔委婉的，但第三部分写父母亲缘，还是克制不住地难过。集子名叫目送，不仅是目送人，也是目送一个时代吧。

[Always2014 · Rating 4 out of 5]

真情实感的流露，人生百态

[Alex Williams · Rating 4 out of 5]

我很喜欢龙应台写书的风格。这本书让我想起了很多关于我亲戚和朋友的回忆。可能不够欣赏他们。让我想，以后当自己有了孩子会不会觉得孩子也不够欣赏我？

我也没读过文言文所以几个章很难看懂（虽说挺美）。

龙应台明明是一个非常有文化的人。值得看

[Citron Pineapple · Rating 1 out of 5]

Some articles from this book are just trying to be cute or girly

[汪先生 · Rating 4 out of 5]

2016-04-30 22:32:34
所谓父母子女一场，最重要的还是此时此刻，陪伴在一起的时光，而过去的不必追，将来的甚至不可求，多少深情被辜负，多少深情被埋藏。

[K.W. · Rating 3 out of 5]

其实应该是3.5的，为什么？
本人其实很喜欢龙应台老师的笔触，柔和，娓娓道来的语述。
但！我不同意龙应台老师的政治观念，她将她的政治观念带到了这本书的后面，所以这本书的后面剧情我是真的看不下去，前面讲述亲情事件的章节我是真的十分敬畏于此般的描写。毕竟此书，可是所有经过过中国义务教育的人们都曾耳闻的书啊…

[Catbaron · Rating 2 out of 5]

龙应台比较有趣的地方在于她对于自己和安德烈之间的冲突。之前读《亲爱的安德烈》的时候没有意识到，但看过这本目送之后发现这几乎成了她唯一打动我的地方。

[Zhu · Rating 5 out of 5]

豆瓣搬运：2014/看父亲几篇一直泪流不止在哭。很多事一瞬间想通，下一瞬间又模糊。这本书第一部分跟第三部分写亲情较多，读第一部分的时候下定决心说，不管怎样，以后要把爸妈接到身边住或是我回去他们身边生活。都到第三部分最后几篇泣不成声的想，我要抓紧这速度。