In this important and engaging biblical teaching on sexuality, David White helps readers develop a Scripture-based perspective on human sexuality that goes beyond just wait until you're married. God, You, and Sex doesn't sidestep the sexual revolution that has finally come to bitter fruition in teen and young adult hookup culture. In the face of these messages and the pervasiveness of sexual temptation, White helps Christian men and women find compelling reasons to obey God with their sexuality.
This book addresses how the church has made sex more important than God ever intended. By establishing a positive theology of sex from Christian Scripture, White ultimately points to Jesus Christ as the Bridegroom and sheds light on broken sexuality, pornography, same-sex marriage, sex outside of marriage, and other relevant topics for young Christians.
There is more than one person in the Goodreads catalog with this name. This entry is for David ^ 9 White, seminary teacher.
David White, MDiv, is the men's ministry coordinator for Harvest USA. He disciples men, teaches seminary courses on ministering to the sexually broken, and speaks on sexual issues.
David White's "God, You, and Sex" surprised me. I expected a solid book, but I was impressed by how deep and wide White's book is. White covers a lot of ground in the book. He begins with our relationship with God and moves to God's gift of sex. He explains that the purpose of sex is to reflect the nature of love and to be sacrificial. He offers guardrails against abusing the gift. He considers single sexuality and the challenges of sexuality in a sexually confused world. He even considers parenting challenges and concludes by considering sex and eternal hope.
For the most part, White navigates a challenging topic very well. While frank and direct in tone, he is not inappropriate. I wish the book would have been a little more personal, but White is willing to share about his own struggles from time to time. And the book is certainly well-rooted in the Bible.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes, "As we consider what follows, I think it's helpful to see this surgery as a 'splitting asunder' of Adam, rather than the simple removal of a bone...God seems to work against his original creation of Adam, taking apart what he had previously made in order to make something new, something better. It creates a situation in which humanity is no longer complete without relational union."
"As you walk through the challenges and travails of life in a fallen world, God in in you, experiencing these things, too, with the closeness of a lover."
"The otherness of husband and wife, rooted in the proclamation that marriage is about Jesus and the church, is foundational to God's design."
"Marital sexuality at its best is a picture of paradise, a return to the sheer bliss of creation. This is profoundly true because sex was designed to point us to God and our union with Christ."
"We long to be one flesh with another because we were created for union with Jesus. That's the true power behind the profound mystery of our sexuality."
"Porn reduces the individual to sexual body parts."
"The primary reason to safeguard your sexuality is to preserve the sweetness and power of your union with Christ."
"The world says, 'Sex is all about me!' In stark contrast to God's design, it puts self at the center."
While there are a few minor quibbles I have with White's book, on the whole it is excellent and will be my go-to recommendation for the subject.
David White explores sex from a Biblical perspective, addressing it theologically, relationally, socially, and so on. This is not a how-to book, but an exploration of the deeper meaning of sex as God intended it, specifically as it relates to Christ and the church.
I do not consider myself that old, but as a never-married woman in my upper 30s who remains committed to abstinence before marriage, I do not have many peers. I was drawn to this book because I have been increasingly aware of my own sexual brokenness in recent years—single sexuality a very difficult thing, especially as hormones change and the biological clock starts ticking. I want to honor God in this, and while I have zero desire to change my beliefs, I have every desire for a marriage that includes intimacy in every form.
When I took a look at the Introduction through Amazon's Look Inside feature and saw that the author has a heart for singles, and is "most eager for you to read this and be encouraged by God's heart for you," I was all in. I can only address this book from my own perspective, but I found the author compassionate, sensitive, and vulnerable in sharing from his experience, both from his personal life as well as his career as a pastor and counselor.
I appreciated the care he took in presenting such an important issue from a Biblical worldview. Not everything will be what people want to hear, but he speaks with grace and love. While I am not sure I agreed with his every theological point when it comes to sex, overall this is a book I would not hesitate to recommend for someone interested in learning more about these issues, or even just how to speak about them to a world with such different sexual ethics. I found I got more out of the book the further into it I delved, with the last chapter being especially encouraging.
Thank you to Read With Audra and New Growth Press for my copy of the book. All opinions in this review are my own.
In the midst of widespread cultural confusion and sexual brokenness, this book is an excellent tool for any Christ follower seeking to develop and nurture a healthy view of sexuality. God, You, & Sex helps us establish a positive, biblical theology of sex by pointing to our most passionate and intimate lover, Jesus.
Personally, this has been the most enlightening Christian book on sex, let alone Christian book in general, I've read.
Something so hard about Christian non-fiction is its stale uniformity. Most, if not all, Christian non-fiction reads the same and one could strip the author's name away and believe all Christian non-fiction literature was written by the same hand. And while David White doesn't necessarily stray far from this unfortunate pattern, what sets him apart is his daring nature to take a look at the same concepts and doctrines that so many of us affirm yet aren't willing to try. And to be clear, David White doesn't try, he succeeds.
His honesty and compassion toward those who struggle with sexual sin, and appropriate frustration toward those unwilling to discuss sex (or even utter the word without embarrassment) is filled with such righteous zeal you can practically feel it dripping from the page, and by the time you finish this book you'll be convinced that not only your approach to sex has been misguided, but your parents, your fellow church members, and even your pastors have been sorely misunderstanding not only the great image that God presents to us in sex but how to even begin talking about it.
I've never been one entirely clouded or fearful of discussions on sex. Early in my life, this was from a sinful perspective, but now as a Christian this overt aspect of my personality has converted from a self-serving, perverse expression into a (Lord willing) God-honoring and truth-seeking one. Why? Because, the answer to a post-Christian, post-sexual revolution world isn't to shut up about sex, it's to talk about sex the right way.
I often revert to the very clear idea that God does not merely limit our life, he offers a better one, and while the church for literal decades has sought to limit discussion on sex as a means of fighting against alternative lifestyles, the true offering in Christ is a better picture of life, and as sex is a part of many peoples lives, it's safe to assume a better picture of sex. Rather than simply sharing the do's and don'ts of sex, David White takes up the mantle and actually says, "Sex is great, but it's not everything like the world says. Why? Because there's something better."
I also want to briefly commend David White's ability to truly convict me during his chapter on singleness. I am not single, but the way my heart sought to flee from the biblical truth he shared on singleness was sorely eye-opening. That alone is all I can say as even now I feel my heart of stone being chipped away and am so pleased that myself as a married man would feel such conviction over a chapter directed specifically (although not exclusive) to single men and women.
A detailed book considering God’s views on sexuality and what that means for believers living today. He explains why such a book is needed, noting four trends in the church: the rise and normalisation of pornography, the increased sexual activity amongst Christian dating couples, the confused Christian teaching about sex, and the shift in views on same-sex intimacy.
White acknowledges this book is for everyone, while noting it will be an easier read for those in satisfying marriages, but noting its relevance for those in hard marriages, who are single, who live with same sex attraction and survivors of sexual abuse. There is a wise, gentle and understanding tone here, and he shares his own story of sexual brokenness and redemption.
He gives a strong theological perspective to sex within marriage, noting it is a good gift of God that reflect his Trinitarian nature, his love for people and that he is a God of delight.
He then considers the damage of sexual sin, sex as service in a marriage and single sexuality, while considering specific sexual practices along the way. He addresses the challenges for parents in this area and also what it means to discuss biblical sexuality in the public sphere.
There are numerous books on sexual intimacy for married couples. The advantage of this is the biblical basis and detail of the theological considerations and perspectives. Many focus on how to have sex in marriage, this offering adds much more, giving a reason why to have a high view of sexual expression in marriage. From there, one can consider the challenges presented for people and couples with their own issues, as they face the challenges of an ever changing sexually expressive and permissive culture.
So, what is at heart of the marriage union? The single image of God separated into the two sexes is reunited in the physical union powerful enough to create life. "It is the union of two persons who originally were one, were then separated from each other, and now in the sexual encounter of marriage come together again". And it is because God has reunited what was once separated that Jesus commands us to honor marriage: "What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.
Sex is about God- I think that line is the thread of this text and because of that, it becomes about worship. We are made in the image of God, made for His glory and ultimately for our good. Even in Christian circles, sex is misunderstood and thus used as a weapon. We are sexual beings, however, any good thing can be used to destroy the very thing that it was created for. Each 13 chapters gives you deeper understanding of not only sex but about worship.
1) Sex and God 2) God as our Lover 3) The Profound Mystery of Sex 4) Sexual Pleasure reveals a God of Delight 5) Sex in Relationship 6) Sex is about Serving Each Other 7) Guarding the Gift 8) Single Sexuality 9)Sex in a Broken World 10) Sex against God's Design 11) Parenting Challenges and Opportunities 12) Biblical Sexuality in Public 13) Sex and Eternal Hope
Sex is a beautiful gift to us from the creator but it is a gift that has given the world so much misunderstanding. Sex is more than pleasure, there is a deeper level that brings life to the soul. Highly recommend for anyone who wants more for their marriage, more for their single life, and more for the Gospel of Christ.
A Special Thank You to New Growth Press and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.
I requested this book not knowing what to expect. I'd never read a Christian book on sex before - except for the chapter or two dealing with sex in all the marriage books I read-. The first chapter I read was chapter 11, "parenting challenges and opportunities" because I have two teenage boys and a preteen daughter. Conversations about sex, as David White says, are awkward, but they are necessary. I found that chapter to be very good, and although we may not agree on every point, we definitely agree that our teenagers need to understand why it's so important to protect their sexuality.
I like White's straightforward yet very kind and gentle tone. He is a man who has experienced pain, so he calls his readers to treat others with compassion; the way Jesus treated people. This book is about much more than sex, though. Chapter 12, Biblical sexuality in public, is a call to not be afraid to explain our understanding of sex as God created it, but also, to love people we disagree with and not to judge their sexual brokenness. We're all sinners. I appreciated that chapter! In the final chapter, after reminding the reader that sex is a temporary thing that is confined to our experience of life on this earth, he does a wonderful job in his writing about the new earth as something so much more real and more true. I will look out for a copy of this book to have on hand. I recommend it to pastors, youth pastors and parents alike.
With thanks to New Growth Press and Netgalley for the digital reviewer copy.
What I loved about the book is how Pastor White addresses each topic with great care and compassion and stresses on God's everlasting love and promises. There is so much information that is packed into this book. He addresses the church on how we should not embrace the world's point of view regarding gays and transgenders, pornography, but to focus on what the bible says about sex and marriage. Everything that he teaches reflects on God's perfect design and love for His people. He writes about his own experiences with the dangers of pornography, his intimacy with his wife and pornography in general, he addresses the LGBTQ+ and transgender people, each chapter with biblical references and with a deep profound understanding on God's Word regarding sexual sin.
I highly recommend this book to singles and married couples alike. I would also like to add it would be a beautiful gift to those individuals that are trapped in a sinful sexual relationship and that God can free them from their bondage of sexual sin.
This book is outstanding!! Everyone should read, David White loves God’s Word and shares from a biblical standpoint what God designed sex to be between to committed people for life.
He also speaks to what the world and sin have done to this gift from God..
I especially appreciate how David shared his own life experiences especially losing his first wife and having to become a single parent raising two daughters.
This book speaks to everyone about how God meant the gift of sex to be expressed and how the world has degraded His gift. This book will help married couples, those anticipating marriage, those who are divorced, those who have lost a spouse way too soon.
I especially appreciated the chapters for parenting and how to have conversations with your children so important that children hear from their parents on this topic and not the world very helpful. Love this book one of my favorite reads on this topic.
I think I need to stop trying to read these kinds of books. I have an expectation for them and they never meet it. I don’t even know what I am looking for, to be honest.
This book is full of great content and truth. I loved the truth that was spoken, words given directly from the Bible. Everything is scriptural. But for some reason I couldn’t stay focused and absorb what was written.
I liked when the author used his own life story to relate to the reader, I was definitely drawn in then.
Overall, a Biblically based book, full of truth the world needs to hear, but just didn’t capture my interest for whatever reason.
A copy of this book was given to me. All opinions are my own.
Started reading this book as part of my preparation to preach on the 7th Commandment. Finished it because I don't like leaving books unfinished. But I'm very, very glad that I read it. Not only did I find it to be an excellent treatment of sex and sexuality from a biblical perspective; it was also profoundly edifying, as the author's main point was not about sex, nor about marriage more broadly, but about the eternal, spiritual realities that this temporary institution was designed by God to illustrate.
I read this book in preparation for a talk I was asked to give on marital intimacy. This is probably the best book on marriage and God that I have ever read. I highly recommend. It caused me to love both God and my husband even more deeply. Much of it is theology, but there is a lot of practical ideas/principles it as well.
Don't skip the intro--it's really good. The whole book is really good. Just don't skip any of it. haha
This book is very helpful in showing the Biblical view of sex. There have been many views (especially among Christians) that dismiss or reject sex as a good gift from God. This book addresses common misunderstandings of sex and shows God's good design.
This is the best book on sex I've ever read. David did an excellent job articulating the joys and beauty of sex while also the boundaries of God's design for it, all while acknowledging the way sin has given every person a "broken sexuality." What really encouraged me about his approach was that it was incredibly gospel centered and focused on the ways that God redeems even our broken sexuality.
I've always grown up in the church thinking sex was inherently "wrong," while also being extremely angry at the way our culture simultaneously idolizes it and disrespects its sacredness. This book was healing for me to read because it reminded me that God knew Satan would distort sex into a god instead of a gift, but He also knew that Jesus coming to redeem the world included redeeming our distorted sexuality. God is good, the gospel is still powerful, and I am incredibly thankful for David's book on sex.
This originally appeared at The Irresponsible Reader as part of a quick takes post to catch up--emphasizing pithiness, not thoroughness. --- Okay, I've read Ephesians 5:32 and Solomon's Song—I know there's much to be learned about the relationship between Christ and the Church from human marriage (and vice versa), but...I still feel squeamish about aspects of that. Nothing against Mr. White, but he's not Solomon, and I couldn't really get behind much of what he said on that topic (not that he was wrong, necessarily, I just couldn't agree with him).
But beyond that—it was refreshing to read actual positive teaching about human sexuality from a Christian perspective and not just a list of "No"s, "Don't Do That"s, and so on. Yes, the positive teaching necessitates some of the "Nope"s, and I have no problem with that, but it just seems that all the conservative Protestant world can come up with are the anti-whatever books.
In the end, I quite liked most of this and got something out of it.
Fifteen years ago I interviewed fellow college students in order to write an article about their nude art. One of these students, who was also the most excited to be quoted in the college newspaper, proclaimed the nude art to be “beauty in its purest form.”
I read this book intentionally and thoughtfully. My favorite chapter was actually the last, and its conclusion was so wonderful that I thought, this, THIS, is beauty in its purest form.