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Igniting Intimacy: Sex Magic Rituals for Radical Living & Loving
A sex magic playbook for personal, relational, and planetary transformation
Master the art of sex magic and forge radical new relationships with yourself, your beloveds, our planet, and life itself. This groundbreaking book invites you to develop intimacies that are as creative as they are consensual, as playful as they are profound, and as transformative as they are ecstatic. It offers fresh and accessible inspiration on topics such as self-love, conscious communication, and sacred sex, as well as practices and rituals for erotic shapeshifting, ecosexuality, ecstatic breath work, and so much more.
Igniting Intimacy demonstrates that the only tools you really need to master the erotic, meet god, and make magic are the ability to breathe and a willing imagination. This is an essential manual for pleasure pioneers hoping to change themselves―and the world―one orgasm at a time.
Master the art of sex magic and forge radical new relationships with yourself, your beloveds, our planet, and life itself. This groundbreaking book invites you to develop intimacies that are as creative as they are consensual, as playful as they are profound, and as transformative as they are ecstatic. It offers fresh and accessible inspiration on topics such as self-love, conscious communication, and sacred sex, as well as practices and rituals for erotic shapeshifting, ecosexuality, ecstatic breath work, and so much more.
Igniting Intimacy demonstrates that the only tools you really need to master the erotic, meet god, and make magic are the ability to breathe and a willing imagination. This is an essential manual for pleasure pioneers hoping to change themselves―and the world―one orgasm at a time.
312 pages, Paperback
Published December 8, 2019
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August 11, 2022
Overall, I thought this was a great book. A lot of guides regarding rituals have too much explanation or even irrelevant writing, with not much practical steps you can take or suggestions for ritual. Igniting Intimacy is called a "Sex Playbook" for good reason, as Rowan Bombadil gives a lot of suggestions for the reader to spice up their sex life, love life, and therefore their regular life! Another thing I appreciated is that the author avoids heteronormativity (especially as they are non-binary), which is something I find way too much in magick-related books. I also like their overall views on life, honestly, and would be interested to read more from them. It's a book to keep around because if you're just reading this at home or at work you won't be able to use what you've learned right away.
October 12, 2020
This is a beautiful guide to living a spiritual life in an everyday context. It is practical, explicit and kind. It gives guidance on "how to " create rituals that enhance our experience of being supported in living a fuller more pleasurable life. The exercises for unlocking our blockages to connection with ourselves, our partners and the planet are clear and very simply laid out. I felt that all the exercises had been tired and tested by the author and as such were very doable. This is a book I will be returning to again and again for ever deepening guidance on living a more embodied life.
January 2, 2022
I can’t recommend this book highly enough. I had the fortune of reading it at a difficult point in my life, having just quit a job and my partner of almost six years deciding to end our marriage. You may ask – How and why is a book about Igniting Intimacy useful in such a situation? How and why is a book about sex magic rituals useful in such a situation?
It is useful, because it delivers its promise: Igniting Intimacy: Sex Magic Rituals for Radical Living & Loving. It is written to help the reader achieve radical living and loving. And the way the book is structured reflects that: It has three parts – Making Love with Self, Making Love with each other, and Making Love with all that is.
I haven’t delved deeply into the last part yet, but the first two parts have been very enlightening. Making Love with Self is, among other things, about making physical love with self – masturbation. But leading up to that, it contains plenty of advice on how to deepen your connection with and intimacy to yourself – working on one’s feeling of self-worth, caring for oneself, and loving oneself. In these chapters, the book offers many exercises that I found very helpful for coping with the difficult situation I was in when reading the book – for example, it explains to the reader how to build a self-care tool-kit, enabling them to self-care even in moments of little energy.
The second part is about Making Love with Each other. Again, it does contain exercises about how to make love more pleasurable for all participants. And again, it contains realms of input about what to do beforehand – how to create relationships that are based on honest, open communication, deep listening and turning towards each other – seeing conflict as something that can deepen a relationship, instead of something that is bad, and a sign of the relationship being mired with problems. I felt deep regret when reading those chapters, because many of these tools would have been very worthwhile for me if I had had knowledge of them earlier. I also fully intend to go into the future well prepared with a full toolbox.
This part also contains reflections on what to do if a relationship has reached its end, and helps to decide when it might be a good idea to end a relationship, for example if there is an imbalance between our worth as human beings and how we are treated, if we discover a fundamental difference in values, if we don’t have the resources to handle a time of conflict and struggle, or if it becomes clear our partner no longer cares for us. I found an exercise about seeing grief as a trusted friend and welcoming them to stay as long as they need very valuable.
The third part of the book is about Making Love with All that is. I focused on the first two parts of the book because they are the most relevant to my life right now. However, given the high quality of those two parts, I am inclined to try out some of the exercises from that part. For example, one idea is to rekindle ones’ connection to nature, by doing the daily practice of having a sit spot – a spot from which one can encounter nature for ten to thirty minutes a day, where one lets ones’ senses take in the nature around one.
Overall, I was very happy about having bought this book, and am looking forward to discovering what Rowan will write next.
It is useful, because it delivers its promise: Igniting Intimacy: Sex Magic Rituals for Radical Living & Loving. It is written to help the reader achieve radical living and loving. And the way the book is structured reflects that: It has three parts – Making Love with Self, Making Love with each other, and Making Love with all that is.
I haven’t delved deeply into the last part yet, but the first two parts have been very enlightening. Making Love with Self is, among other things, about making physical love with self – masturbation. But leading up to that, it contains plenty of advice on how to deepen your connection with and intimacy to yourself – working on one’s feeling of self-worth, caring for oneself, and loving oneself. In these chapters, the book offers many exercises that I found very helpful for coping with the difficult situation I was in when reading the book – for example, it explains to the reader how to build a self-care tool-kit, enabling them to self-care even in moments of little energy.
The second part is about Making Love with Each other. Again, it does contain exercises about how to make love more pleasurable for all participants. And again, it contains realms of input about what to do beforehand – how to create relationships that are based on honest, open communication, deep listening and turning towards each other – seeing conflict as something that can deepen a relationship, instead of something that is bad, and a sign of the relationship being mired with problems. I felt deep regret when reading those chapters, because many of these tools would have been very worthwhile for me if I had had knowledge of them earlier. I also fully intend to go into the future well prepared with a full toolbox.
This part also contains reflections on what to do if a relationship has reached its end, and helps to decide when it might be a good idea to end a relationship, for example if there is an imbalance between our worth as human beings and how we are treated, if we discover a fundamental difference in values, if we don’t have the resources to handle a time of conflict and struggle, or if it becomes clear our partner no longer cares for us. I found an exercise about seeing grief as a trusted friend and welcoming them to stay as long as they need very valuable.
The third part of the book is about Making Love with All that is. I focused on the first two parts of the book because they are the most relevant to my life right now. However, given the high quality of those two parts, I am inclined to try out some of the exercises from that part. For example, one idea is to rekindle ones’ connection to nature, by doing the daily practice of having a sit spot – a spot from which one can encounter nature for ten to thirty minutes a day, where one lets ones’ senses take in the nature around one.
Overall, I was very happy about having bought this book, and am looking forward to discovering what Rowan will write next.
November 10, 2020
I really loved this book. It offers practical suggestions of ways to connect more with the self, partners, the earth/nature, and spiritual beings (whatever that means for each of us). In particular I enjoyed the suggestions around having difficult conversations with loved one and I will take these suggestions into my personal life and also my work as a psychologist.
Though it has takes a spiritual focus one does not have to have any particual beliefs about spirituality or sign up to any specific ideas to take something from this book.
It is particularly useful for trans, non-binary and queer people. But it is written for everyone regardless of gender. It also takes an inclusive intersectional approach that is lacking in most books about sex, sexuality or spirituality.
Though it has takes a spiritual focus one does not have to have any particual beliefs about spirituality or sign up to any specific ideas to take something from this book.
It is particularly useful for trans, non-binary and queer people. But it is written for everyone regardless of gender. It also takes an inclusive intersectional approach that is lacking in most books about sex, sexuality or spirituality.
May 14, 2022
A beautiful call to pleasure, discovery and healing. What I took from this book were two things: the sense of permission to centre erotic ritual in my life and the practical understanding of what it essentially looks like, even though it can come in different forms. Rev Bombadil's voice is consistently both radical and reassuring at the same time. I appreciate the queer-celebratory language and inclusive perspective and drawings.
July 11, 2020
Great book, and I especially love the gender inclusivity.
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