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No More Fighting: The Relationship Book for Couples: 20 Minutes a Week to a Stronger Relationship
Build a stronger bond with your partner in only 20 minutes a week
Get the guidance you need to tackle the fundamental issues that act as the triggers for conflict in your relationship. This title has everything you could want from relationship books, featuring straightforward anecdotes and simple exercises designed to help you work through 52 of the most common challenges faced by couples.
This standout among relationship books for couples takes a sympathetic and understanding approach to navigating difficult relationship issues. Not only will you learn how to approach specific obstacles but you’ll also develop a communication toolbox that will help you maintain a happy and healthy relationship.
Go beyond other relationship books
52 Relationship challenges—From communication to sex, each weekly chapter focuses on an individual concern faced by many couples. 20-minute exercises—Make it easy to work on your relationship no matter how busy you both are with short and simple exercises that help improve communication. Real case studies—Better understand these challenges with the help of case studies that demonstrate how they can present, how you can identify blind spots, and more.
Whether it’s marriage or any other committed relationship, develop the tools you need to open up to each other and stop fights before they start.
Get the guidance you need to tackle the fundamental issues that act as the triggers for conflict in your relationship. This title has everything you could want from relationship books, featuring straightforward anecdotes and simple exercises designed to help you work through 52 of the most common challenges faced by couples.
This standout among relationship books for couples takes a sympathetic and understanding approach to navigating difficult relationship issues. Not only will you learn how to approach specific obstacles but you’ll also develop a communication toolbox that will help you maintain a happy and healthy relationship.
Go beyond other relationship books
52 Relationship challenges—From communication to sex, each weekly chapter focuses on an individual concern faced by many couples. 20-minute exercises—Make it easy to work on your relationship no matter how busy you both are with short and simple exercises that help improve communication. Real case studies—Better understand these challenges with the help of case studies that demonstrate how they can present, how you can identify blind spots, and more.
Whether it’s marriage or any other committed relationship, develop the tools you need to open up to each other and stop fights before they start.
291 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 20, 2018
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About the author
Alicia Muñoz
5 books10 followersAlicia Muñoz, LPC, is a certified couples therapist, and author of four relationship books, including Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nourish Love, Trust, and Connection With Your Partner (New Harbinger Publications, 2022). Over the past sixteen years, she has provided individual, group, and couples therapy in clinical settings, including Bellevue Hospital in New York, NY. Muñoz currently works as a Senior Writer at Psychotherapy Networker and as a couples therapist in private practice. She connects with her readers and followers through monthly blogs, newsletters, and podcasts as well as through Instagram at @aliciamunozcouples, and Facebook and Twitter at @aliciamunozlpc. Muñoz is a member of the Washington School of Psychiatry, the American Psychological Association, and the Mid-Atlantic Association of Imago and Relationship Therapists.
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January 19, 2019
Want to argue less with your partner? This book has tons of helpful suggestions
Ever since this book was published, I’ve been doing the once-a-week relationship challenges outlined in each chapter. They’re working. I’m less cranky. I’m owning more of my sh!t. I’m blame-shifting less. I’m listening more.
The exercises at the end of each chapter dive deep into relationship areas like intimacy issues, money problems, and life values.
Highly recommended.
Ever since this book was published, I’ve been doing the once-a-week relationship challenges outlined in each chapter. They’re working. I’m less cranky. I’m owning more of my sh!t. I’m blame-shifting less. I’m listening more.
The exercises at the end of each chapter dive deep into relationship areas like intimacy issues, money problems, and life values.
Highly recommended.
August 2, 2021
The title of this book is somewhat deceiving, but it is a useful book nonetheless.
I was raised Catholic, and my husband is agnostic, and together we are a non-denominational Christmas/Easter couple. Lol.
However, I wanted to do something similar to the Catholic marriage class that couples go through to get married in the Catholic church before we got married. This is what I found to take the place of that, which wasn't centered around church, and also not having pay for a couples counselor of some sort.
Now, of course, all couples fight, there's no magical wand to wave to make you and your partner suddenly never have any conflict in your life ever again. What's great about it though, is that it gives you great tools to understand how each of you communicates best and then use that to your advantage. Once you learn how to better communicate your feelings and needs, and how to actively listen to your partner, fights become discussions that can be productive and bring you closer together, instead of tearing you apart. The book brings up a lot of topics that can drive future conflicts, that you don't often think about talking about until after it already becomes a disagreement. By bringing up these sensitive topics (boundaries, fidelity, children, parenting, finances, etc.) with fun, or at least fun-adjacent exercises, before there is any frustration or in-the-moment anger, it can help you get to know each other and your needs long before there are ever any hurt feelings. Similar to the theory about love languages, this book can get you and your partner on the same page about various issues, and vastly strengthen your communication skills. I would recommend it to any serious couple, especially those who include one or more person that tends to bottle things up, or was raised in an environment that didn't encourage a lot of open and frank communication. It's hard to break old habits, of course, but so worth it in the long run.
I was raised Catholic, and my husband is agnostic, and together we are a non-denominational Christmas/Easter couple. Lol.
However, I wanted to do something similar to the Catholic marriage class that couples go through to get married in the Catholic church before we got married. This is what I found to take the place of that, which wasn't centered around church, and also not having pay for a couples counselor of some sort.
Now, of course, all couples fight, there's no magical wand to wave to make you and your partner suddenly never have any conflict in your life ever again. What's great about it though, is that it gives you great tools to understand how each of you communicates best and then use that to your advantage. Once you learn how to better communicate your feelings and needs, and how to actively listen to your partner, fights become discussions that can be productive and bring you closer together, instead of tearing you apart. The book brings up a lot of topics that can drive future conflicts, that you don't often think about talking about until after it already becomes a disagreement. By bringing up these sensitive topics (boundaries, fidelity, children, parenting, finances, etc.) with fun, or at least fun-adjacent exercises, before there is any frustration or in-the-moment anger, it can help you get to know each other and your needs long before there are ever any hurt feelings. Similar to the theory about love languages, this book can get you and your partner on the same page about various issues, and vastly strengthen your communication skills. I would recommend it to any serious couple, especially those who include one or more person that tends to bottle things up, or was raised in an environment that didn't encourage a lot of open and frank communication. It's hard to break old habits, of course, but so worth it in the long run.
February 4, 2024
Jó, jó, nagyon is jó. A szituációk valósak; ha nem is minddel, a problémák jelentős részével szinte mindenki találkozik az élete, kapcsolatai során.
Számomra mindig fontos volt érteni a miérteket, a mozgatórugókat. Ha a saját hátterünkkel tisztában vagyunk, könnyebb megtanulni egy, a korábbitól eltérő reakciót, hamarabb le tudnak bomlani az addigi hibás mintázatok. Ha viszont a másik fél miértjeit is sikerül megismerni, még könnyebb dolgunk van. A könyv segít benne, akkor is, ha egyedül olvasod.
A tanácsok hasznosak, de amilyen egyszerűnek tűnnek, annál nehezebb alkalmazni őket a való életben. Egyszeri olvasás után nagyon nehéz lenne megmondani, hogy tényleg működnek-e. Sok-sok gyakorlással biztosan.
Az egy csillag levonás a mintapárbeszédekért jár. Rettentően életszerűtlenek; akármennyire tudatos is az ember, így senki nem beszél.
Biztos, hogy ehhez a könyvhöz is vissza fogok nyúlni még néhányszor, ha egy kis segítségre van szükségem a konfliktuskezelésben.
Számomra mindig fontos volt érteni a miérteket, a mozgatórugókat. Ha a saját hátterünkkel tisztában vagyunk, könnyebb megtanulni egy, a korábbitól eltérő reakciót, hamarabb le tudnak bomlani az addigi hibás mintázatok. Ha viszont a másik fél miértjeit is sikerül megismerni, még könnyebb dolgunk van. A könyv segít benne, akkor is, ha egyedül olvasod.
A tanácsok hasznosak, de amilyen egyszerűnek tűnnek, annál nehezebb alkalmazni őket a való életben. Egyszeri olvasás után nagyon nehéz lenne megmondani, hogy tényleg működnek-e. Sok-sok gyakorlással biztosan.
Az egy csillag levonás a mintapárbeszédekért jár. Rettentően életszerűtlenek; akármennyire tudatos is az ember, így senki nem beszél.
Biztos, hogy ehhez a könyvhöz is vissza fogok nyúlni még néhányszor, ha egy kis segítségre van szükségem a konfliktuskezelésben.
December 15, 2024
This is an amazing resource for couples and personal growth! So structured, well thought, thorough, and kind. My girlfriend and I had all kinds of experiences going through it. We had so many loving experiences, were multiple times surprised by the depth of exercises that look “easy”/simple, and learned many tools to foster our relationship.
For transparency, I admit that some/several chapters can be hard and challenging. I would say that this is better for a relatively stable couple rather than a couple with problematic and constant fighting. I would also recommend to really stick to the “rules” - e.g. if it’s your time to listen then shut up and listen xD. But every chapter is worth it and if you can constructively work through the book I’m sure you will be thankful you did it!
For transparency, I admit that some/several chapters can be hard and challenging. I would say that this is better for a relatively stable couple rather than a couple with problematic and constant fighting. I would also recommend to really stick to the “rules” - e.g. if it’s your time to listen then shut up and listen xD. But every chapter is worth it and if you can constructively work through the book I’m sure you will be thankful you did it!
May 26, 2019
Guidance to conflict resolution without a fight
Very practical guidance on how to improve your self, your relationship, without negative confrontations or fighting. Something I wish I had read when I was a lot younger.
Very practical guidance on how to improve your self, your relationship, without negative confrontations or fighting. Something I wish I had read when I was a lot younger.
December 20, 2022
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Wonderfully written, good for almost any age. I, personally, read aloud and gained from the experience. I would more than likely read it again in the future.
Definitely recommend.
Wonderfully written, good for almost any age. I, personally, read aloud and gained from the experience. I would more than likely read it again in the future.
Definitely recommend.
February 9, 2023
Listened to this book: some good techniques, but would it kill her to put a little blame on the 'female' in the relationship instead of forcing the 'male' to change how they do things. + wanted more kids' impact on parents.
December 16, 2019
There are so many suggestions that are helpful, even if your partner is unavailable to do the exercises with you.
June 10, 2020
It’s good book for couples. Alicia provides couples therapy throughout this story book. It’s not enough good book .
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