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Who's in Your Room: The Secret to Creating Your Best Life
Imagine your life as a simple room with four walls. Who are you letting in and who are you kicking out?
Can you imagine living a better life? Would you like to surround yourself with more supportive people? There’s hope! You see, the quality of your life depends on the people in your life.
THE SIMPLE AND POWERFUL IDEAS IN THIS BOOK CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER.
Who’s in Your Room? introduces you to the concept of your life being like a room—a room where anyone who enters affects your life . . . forever. Although this concept may sound frightening, this book gives you the tools and exercises you need to take control of your room and live the life you desire. This book brings in experts to describe how people leave you with memories that cannot be erased but can be managed. You manage them by determining what’s really important to you, and then you can determine how to spend your time and whom you should be spending it with. Stop living according to everyone else’s rules. Shape your life by taking control of your room. Live your life by your design!
Can you imagine living a better life? Would you like to surround yourself with more supportive people? There’s hope! You see, the quality of your life depends on the people in your life.
THE SIMPLE AND POWERFUL IDEAS IN THIS BOOK CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER.
Who’s in Your Room? introduces you to the concept of your life being like a room—a room where anyone who enters affects your life . . . forever. Although this concept may sound frightening, this book gives you the tools and exercises you need to take control of your room and live the life you desire. This book brings in experts to describe how people leave you with memories that cannot be erased but can be managed. You manage them by determining what’s really important to you, and then you can determine how to spend your time and whom you should be spending it with. Stop living according to everyone else’s rules. Shape your life by taking control of your room. Live your life by your design!
104 pages, Hardcover
Published November 8, 2018
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About the author
Ivan R. Misner
62 books31 followersDr. Ivan Misner is the Founder & Chairman of BNI, the world's largest business networking organization. BNI was founded in 1985. The organization has over 5,800 chapters throughout every populated continent of the world. Last year alone, BNI generated 6.5 million referrals resulting in $2.8 billion dollars worth of business for its members.
Dr. Misner's Ph.D. is from the University of Southern California. He is a New York Times Bestselling author who has written twelve books including his latest #1 bestseller, "Networking Like a Pro".
He is a monthly columnist for Entrepreneur.com and is the Senior Partner for the Referral Institute - a referral training company with trainers around the world. In addition, he has taught business management and social capital courses at several universities throughout the United States.
Called the "Father of Modern Networking" by CNN and the "Networking Guru" by Entrepreneur magazine, Dr. Misner is considered one of the world's leading experts on business networking and has been a keynote speaker for major corporations and associations throughout the world. He has been featured in the L.A. Times, Wall Street Journal, and New York Times, as well as numerous TV and radio shows including CNN, CNBC, and the BBC in London.
Dr. Misner is on the Board of Trustees for the University of La Verne. He is also the Founder of the BNI-Misner Foundation and was recently named "Humanitarian of the Year" by a Southern California newspaper. He is married and lives with his wife Elisabeth and their three children in Claremont, CA. In his spare time!!! he is also an amateur magician and a black belt in karate.
Dr. Misner's Ph.D. is from the University of Southern California. He is a New York Times Bestselling author who has written twelve books including his latest #1 bestseller, "Networking Like a Pro".
He is a monthly columnist for Entrepreneur.com and is the Senior Partner for the Referral Institute - a referral training company with trainers around the world. In addition, he has taught business management and social capital courses at several universities throughout the United States.
Called the "Father of Modern Networking" by CNN and the "Networking Guru" by Entrepreneur magazine, Dr. Misner is considered one of the world's leading experts on business networking and has been a keynote speaker for major corporations and associations throughout the world. He has been featured in the L.A. Times, Wall Street Journal, and New York Times, as well as numerous TV and radio shows including CNN, CNBC, and the BBC in London.
Dr. Misner is on the Board of Trustees for the University of La Verne. He is also the Founder of the BNI-Misner Foundation and was recently named "Humanitarian of the Year" by a Southern California newspaper. He is married and lives with his wife Elisabeth and their three children in Claremont, CA. In his spare time!!! he is also an amateur magician and a black belt in karate.
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February 6, 2021
“The quality of your life depends on the people in your life. When you design your room, you transform your life.” That quote conclude this short yet powerful read. Two of my biggest takeaways were in developing a thorough understanding of association and the importance of making value-based decisions. This book described our life as a room with only one door. The unique thing about this door was the fact that it was “Enter Only.” So in understanding that, it elaborates on the control that people and memories have the potential to have on us in hopes of pursuing our best life. Crazy... but true. The other part I enjoyed was creating a standard of association based on your core values and the intended life direction. Everyone knows the importance of that, but the follow through? 🥴.
Anyway, this was a great “top of the year” read because in discovering your life’s purpose you also discover people, places, and things in your life that have the potential to prohibit you from fulfilling it.
Anyway, this was a great “top of the year” read because in discovering your life’s purpose you also discover people, places, and things in your life that have the potential to prohibit you from fulfilling it.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
July 10, 2021
Although I was excited to purchase this book, as recommended by the INFJ Facebook group, I'm disappointed with the content. There's nothing technically wrong with the book, but I've read many self-help books over the years, and this one doesn't seem particularly insightful or motivational. The premise is that who we choose to invite, keep, and manage in our lives influences our happiness. Fairly obvious. The dealbreaker questions are good, but I'm not sure why this book is a best seller.
November 23, 2018
Holds the secret
I couldn't put this book down! It truly holds the secret for creating you best life and gives you the tools to deal with one of the most important Primary foods- relationships.
I couldn't put this book down! It truly holds the secret for creating you best life and gives you the tools to deal with one of the most important Primary foods- relationships.
March 14, 2019
Be Honest with Yourself
Get a pen and notebook: this book will require a good amount of self-reflection as you perform five exercises to identify the good and bad influences in your life.
Get a pen and notebook: this book will require a good amount of self-reflection as you perform five exercises to identify the good and bad influences in your life.
January 24, 2024
As a reader, I found "Who's in Your Room" to be a truly enlightening and engaging book. It offers a fresh perspective on the profound impact that our personal and professional relationships have on our lives.
The concept of life being a room, where everyone we meet stays with us forever, is both intriguing and thought-provoking. This metaphor really made me think about the people I've allowed into my 'room' and how they've shaped my experiences. It's a powerful reminder to be selective with our associations, emphasizing the lasting impact of these choices.
What I appreciated most was the practical nature of the book. The authors, with their rich backgrounds in networking and personal development, don't just theorize. They provide tangible strategies for managing relationships and setting boundaries, which I found immediately applicable in both my personal and professional life.
"Who's in Your Room" is a captivating read that has left a lasting impression on me—enough of an impression that I've recommended it to our family and my colleagues again and again.
This book should be in everyone's collection!
The concept of life being a room, where everyone we meet stays with us forever, is both intriguing and thought-provoking. This metaphor really made me think about the people I've allowed into my 'room' and how they've shaped my experiences. It's a powerful reminder to be selective with our associations, emphasizing the lasting impact of these choices.
What I appreciated most was the practical nature of the book. The authors, with their rich backgrounds in networking and personal development, don't just theorize. They provide tangible strategies for managing relationships and setting boundaries, which I found immediately applicable in both my personal and professional life.
"Who's in Your Room" is a captivating read that has left a lasting impression on me—enough of an impression that I've recommended it to our family and my colleagues again and again.
This book should be in everyone's collection!
March 20, 2025
Who's in Your Room is a visualisation technique to better understand and organize our relationships. It comes with a set of rules and exercises that help to reflect how every person in our life affects us and how we can react in better ways.
The visualisation exercises are explained in step by step method making them easy enough to do while reading the book.
The authors have taken significant effort to back their theory with real life anecdotes.
I am left confused why this book has weeks long waitlist for this book. It is not more unique from other visualisation techniques that help with dealing with toxicity.
Should You Read The Book? Yes, if you feel lost in life, feel lonely in a room full of their people, and have traumatic experience lately.
The visualisation exercises are explained in step by step method making them easy enough to do while reading the book.
The authors have taken significant effort to back their theory with real life anecdotes.
I am left confused why this book has weeks long waitlist for this book. It is not more unique from other visualisation techniques that help with dealing with toxicity.
Should You Read The Book? Yes, if you feel lost in life, feel lonely in a room full of their people, and have traumatic experience lately.
June 16, 2019
Life Changing
“Wow” is the first word that comes to mind. I picked up the book and couldn’t put it down until I was done. There are many great (impactful) ideas and solutions within this book, which is why I’m also giving the book to my (adult) kids to read. I definitely recommend this book as a “must read.”
“Wow” is the first word that comes to mind. I picked up the book and couldn’t put it down until I was done. There are many great (impactful) ideas and solutions within this book, which is why I’m also giving the book to my (adult) kids to read. I definitely recommend this book as a “must read.”
June 15, 2021
Un enfoque novedoso para mejorar la propia vida
El concepto de administrar activamente el tiempo que pasamos con la gente que más enriquece nuestras vidas me pareció bellamente claro y sencillo,tel método propuesto conlleva un adecuado grado de esfuerzo que estoy seguro proporciona los resultados indicados por los autores. Recomiendo ampliamente esta lectura.
El concepto de administrar activamente el tiempo que pasamos con la gente que más enriquece nuestras vidas me pareció bellamente claro y sencillo,tel método propuesto conlleva un adecuado grado de esfuerzo que estoy seguro proporciona los resultados indicados por los autores. Recomiendo ampliamente esta lectura.
November 11, 2021
This is good for deciding what business partners and relationships to start or stop. You can’t be effective if you say yes to everything.
I don’t completely agree that all previous relationships forever influence us for better or worse. I believe instead that everything that happens is for our good. In every scenario, you either win or learn.
I don’t completely agree that all previous relationships forever influence us for better or worse. I believe instead that everything that happens is for our good. In every scenario, you either win or learn.
February 13, 2019
Designing A Harmonious Life
A straightforward message to actively creat your ideal life by surrounding yourself with those people who will help promote the life values most important to you.
A straightforward message to actively creat your ideal life by surrounding yourself with those people who will help promote the life values most important to you.
August 8, 2019
“Who’s in your room?” illustrates who to manage nowadays with different kind of people around you. Which ones you should make closers and which one not?
You can’t find the solution for this question but you can receive some different points of view to choose about that.
You can’t find the solution for this question but you can receive some different points of view to choose about that.
February 26, 2023
A book where you reflect on the people who are in your life and look closely at your values and who you want to allow into your life. It got me thinking. And the book is also fun because of the assignments in it.
January 6, 2019
This concept is powerful and the book provides concrete steps to take to get control of the people and situations in your life to build your life around what you value most.
February 10, 2019
Little book with great value
Content was good. I didnt realize prior to reading the book who Ivan Misner was but it now makes sense that he was the author.
Content was good. I didnt realize prior to reading the book who Ivan Misner was but it now makes sense that he was the author.
May 13, 2020
Short and sweet. No fluff which is great but it gives a lot of homework assignments. This will definitely be reread several times.
November 25, 2021
Good
Helpful
Great for boundaries and in all of life.
Loved the listed out like they did, but still super simple.
Helpful
Great for boundaries and in all of life.
Loved the listed out like they did, but still super simple.
November 20, 2024
BNI or not, if you are in business or network for one, you need to read this book.
October 1, 2023
Seconda lettura di questo libro, da una copia in lingua originale. Ne emerge un libro denso di contenuti e spunti interessanti per la propria vita e crescita professionale. Gli autori si concentrano sul valore delle relazioni e su quanto queste possano influire in modo positivo o negativo sulla propria vita. Emerge quindi la necessità di definire dei confini e un 'guardiano' della propria stanza con il fine di scegliere coscienziosamente chi è autorizzato ad entrarci, sapendo che poi non esiste via d'uscita. Molti spunti anche per trattare i rapporti con chi è entrato e non è più all'altezza di starci. Utile, veloce da leggere e di grande ispirazione.
June 6, 2019
Short book with practical tips on managing relationships. Everyone you meet is in your room...makes you leery to meet others! Wished there was more on boundaries especially with work team. Easy read with useful information
April 2, 2019
Loved it!!!
A great way to learn about what is really important to you in life and how to only let like-minded people into your life!
Also a short and to the point!
A great way to learn about what is really important to you in life and how to only let like-minded people into your life!
Also a short and to the point!
September 21, 2019
Life-changing.
October 6, 2019
A ton of personal and professional wisdom packed in a short tome.
January 6, 2020
Valuable.
Want to read
December 13, 2018Suggested by Peter Leighton, Destiny Beck's friend, when asked about her favorite book read of the year.
February 18, 2019
It's a great book, and I highly recommend. Makes you think about the people that you invite into your lives, and makes you reconsider some of those decisions.
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