Excellent reading (for academics and non-academics, alike) highlighting the social-constructivist perspectives on gender and sexuality. At times wordy, but the research is solid. The writers include discussion points and questions to encourage readers to explore the themes within their own social/cultural/regional/national spaces. The questions also serve as great workshop ideas for group dialogue. At the end of each chapter, a rundown of what points should be taken away serves as a helpful summary.
What I found most interesting (and it certainly reinforced much of my own views on gender, in particular) is how boys and girls are "gendered" from the moment they are born, and as they grow, they look for social cues and reinforcements through their interactions with others, and then begin to create an identity that "normalizes" them in the eyes of the dominant, heteronormative society.
Sex ed mainly focuses on heterosexual relationships and prevention, but never explores sexuality as a range of identities on a continuum. Sex ed also avoids discussions around desire and pleasure, as the authors ascertain.
So, when we find out that someone we know just had a baby, the first question on our minds is "boy or girl?" Once we are given the answer, we act accordingly by layering this child with all the material goods that identify "it" as either a "he" or a "she".
Lots of discussion pieces around the intersections of identity, and that identity is not merely one or two labels, but many, and that these identities can provoke both negative and positive responses from the external world. A bit disappointed that the authors didn't dive more into gender queer folks who go by "they" and "them" and "theirs", instead of the typical "he" or "she" that reduce our identities to a question of binary opposites with no in-between, but still lots of great learning and insight!
Anyways, bring your friends together, use some of the discussion questions from the book, and let the lively chatter begin.